Hope and I were discussing this very problem yesterday morning. It's a topic that needs to be addressed, and I'm glad to see you've done just that.
What everyone needs to understand is that a blog is a place for each of us to share our beliefs, stories, dreams and political views. It's a place for discussions, not mud slinging. There's a world of difference between explaining why you believe a certain way and berating or calling someone names who doesn't share those beliefs. I've seen it happen here several times, and when it does, emotions tend to get out of control and fights start. A much better way of sharing your views, so no one will take it as a personal affront, might be to start out with. "In my opinion" or 'I feel" instead of throwing it out in a way that reads as though it's being aimed at one or two individuals. We can't (or shouldn't) be offended when we ask for opinions on a topic and the responses differ from what we believe, nor do we have the right to try to 'force' our thoughts, actions, or beliefs on others. We do have the ability to accept differences without having them make us angry. Just because we disagree with someone doesn't mean we have to tell them they're wrong in a manner that comes out inferring they're stupid. Just remember...our views probably sound just as off-the-wall to them. Read their thoughts about the subject and move on...you don't have to either agree or disagree...it's their opinion, not yours.
A good blogger, in a situation where comments are expected, has to be open minded enough to read other's thoughts on a subject and mull them over before either rejecting or accepting them as something they'd like to embrace. In too many instances here, I've seen someone blog on a topic and then come back angrily at a comment that appeared to be nothing more than an attempt at dark humor. People see things differently, so how about giving the blogger or responder the benefit of the doubt and just ask, in a nice way, to clarify the remark/post so no misunderstandings take place. Some are more articulate than others, and no one seems to get offended if someone has asked them to clarify something they put on a blog. It means the reader is interested in the topic and wants to make sure they understand exactly what was being said.
All of your suggestions are good. I apologize if I've said anything that I shouldn't have, but I do not apologize for making anyone angry. No one has the power to make another person angry...it's the decision each of us make whether or not we'll allow ourselves to get angry over words, events or trivial happenings in our lives.
Worldmind...
Hope and I were discussing this very problem yesterday morning. It's a topic that needs to be addressed, and I'm glad to see you've done just that.
What everyone needs to understand is that a blog is a place for each of us to share our beliefs, stories, dreams and political views. It's a place for discussions, not mud slinging. There's a world of difference between explaining why you believe a certain way and berating or calling someone names who doesn't share those beliefs. I've seen it happen here several times, and when it does, emotions tend to get out of control and fights start. A much better way of sharing your views, so no one will take it as a personal affront, might be to start out with. "In my opinion" or 'I feel" instead of throwing it out in a way that reads as though it's being aimed at one or two individuals. We can't (or shouldn't) be offended when we ask for opinions on a topic and the responses differ from what we believe, nor do we have the right to try to 'force' our thoughts, actions, or beliefs on others. We do have the ability to accept differences without having them make us angry. Just because we disagree with someone doesn't mean we have to tell them they're wrong in a manner that comes out inferring they're stupid. Just remember...our views probably sound just as off-the-wall to them. Read their thoughts about the subject and move on...you don't have to either agree or disagree...it's their opinion, not yours.
A good blogger, in a situation where comments are expected, has to be open minded enough to read other's thoughts on a subject and mull them over before either rejecting or accepting them as something they'd like to embrace. In too many instances here, I've seen someone blog on a topic and then come back angrily at a comment that appeared to be nothing more than an attempt at dark humor. People see things differently, so how about giving the blogger or responder the benefit of the doubt and just ask, in a nice way, to clarify the remark/post so no misunderstandings take place. Some are more articulate than others, and no one seems to get offended if someone has asked them to clarify something they put on a blog. It means the reader is interested in the topic and wants to make sure they understand exactly what was being said.
All of your suggestions are good. I apologize if I've said anything that I shouldn't have, but I do not apologize for making anyone angry. No one has the power to make another person angry...it's the decision each of us make whether or not we'll allow ourselves to get angry over words, events or trivial happenings in our lives.
Hello world mind.... I have been here off anD off the blogs for years. I remember well the wars that have occurred here from time to time, and although what you say makes sense, the conflict also makes for great reading. Remember, too much nicety is deadly boring. I have been involved in some deadly wars on here with members being banned and all the other things you mention. We all know that it's easy for some to be forthright whilst hiding behind a computer screen, and they feel free to say things and express extreme opinions, something they would never have the guts to do face to face. Conflicts.... Well ok, but slanderous personal assasinations we cant have. I say grow up people. if you have something to say then say it and have the courage of your convictions and keep it non personal. for the rest.....stop running to MM like babies when the water gets too hot for you. forums like this are hotbeds for controversy ... That's what makes them interesting......The alternative and i shudder as I write this is sugar coated niceties and banal blogs . This is the reason some of our finest bloggers and enquiring minds have left.
Hello world mind.... I have been here off anD off the blogs for years. I remember well the wars that have occurred here from time to time, and although what you say makes sense, the conflict also makes for great reading. Remember, too much nicety is deadly boring. I have been involved in some deadly wars on here with members being banned and all the other things you mention. We all know that it's easy for some to be forthright whilst hiding behind a computer screen, and they feel free to say things and express extreme opinions, something they would never have the guts to do face to face. Conflicts.... Well ok, but slanderous personal assasinations we cant have.
I say grow up people. if you have something to say then say it and have the courage of your convictions and keep it non personal. for the rest.....stop running to MM like babies when the water gets too hot for you. forums like this are hotbeds for controversy ... That's what makes them interesting......The alternative and i shudder as I write this is sugar coated niceties and banal blogs . This is the reason some of our finest bloggers and enquiring minds have left.
Looking bug eyed...that's me on the right or left if you are the other duckling. :) I have enjoyed many posts and blogs on this site, it is what brings a little humor or ahhhh to my life when all the kids are out for the night and I refuse to fill my mind with TV nonsense. I'm happy to say I have met some wonderful people on MM even though I am not a paying member. Not so lucky in Love, but blessed to know I am not alone in the world of lost loves. Though I have read many hurtful comments, slinging mud, I also have had the privilege of reading kind, talented and interesting blogs from many. Hopefully I have added a few of those. We live in trying times..loving one another is crucial for survival but also to be able to unite in peace, to experience plain..joy from being kind to those around us. Yes, were all not cut from the same rug, we may not always see eye to eye, but as Worldmind brings to the surface...accept differences, embrace the positive and love when even were not loved. Kindness can bridge chasms. Forgiveness, knowing that were not perfect ourselves. I know that when I'm not happy with someone, I have to take a deep breath and realize I have not walked a mile in that persons shoes. Raising four children by myself has taught me to be more tolerant and humble. Even wisdom comes from my kids from time to time. I have admittedly learned valuable lessons from each one of them in the process of my being the "Mom". I have a favorite "Ducks Unlimited" Painting that has a mother goose with all her goslings under her and around her, though at times they drive her to fly the coop, they also are amazing in their own right. Just like all of you. In the future I may be hiding my profile, but will still drop in, read, share and hopefully, will still see Worldmind post her amazing pictures, thoughts and talent. My Love.
Looking bug eyed...that's me on the right or left if you are the other duckling. :) I have enjoyed many posts and blogs on this site, it is what brings a little humor or ahhhh to my life when all the kids are out for the night and I refuse to fill my mind with TV nonsense.
I'm happy to say I have met some wonderful people on MM even though I am not a paying member. Not so lucky in Love, but blessed to know I am not alone in the world of lost loves. Though I have read many hurtful comments, slinging mud, I also have had the privilege of reading kind, talented and interesting blogs from many. Hopefully I have added a few of those.
We live in trying times..loving one another is crucial for survival but also to be able to unite in peace, to experience plain..joy from being kind to those around us. Yes, were all not cut from the same rug, we may not always see eye to eye, but as Worldmind brings to the surface...accept differences, embrace the positive and love when even were not loved. Kindness can bridge chasms. Forgiveness, knowing that were not perfect ourselves. I know that when I'm not happy with someone, I have to take a deep breath and realize I have not walked a mile in that persons shoes.
Raising four children by myself has taught me to be more tolerant and humble. Even wisdom comes from my kids from time to time. I have admittedly learned valuable lessons from each one of them in the process of my being the "Mom". I have a favorite "Ducks Unlimited" Painting that has a mother goose with all her goslings under her and around her, though at times they drive her to fly the coop, they also are amazing in their own right. Just like all of you.
In the future I may be hiding my profile, but will still drop in, read, share and hopefully, will still see Worldmind post her amazing pictures, thoughts and talent.
My Love.
I am new to all this blog, but I will say Worldmind that I liked your post and it was very well written. I also can tell you that i have had chatters from differnt parts of the world be upset with Sportsman who hunt and fish. In many rural areas of this country it is a way of life and it is important for all of us to try and understand without passing judgement on others. Some of the most interesting and intellegent people I have ever met were guys and woman working as chashiers or doing construction. All of us have a right to have our say, some can do it without being insulting or volgar. Just a few thoughts bouncing around in head as I read your comments.
I am new to all this blog, but I will say Worldmind that I liked your post and it was very well written. I also can tell you that i have had chatters from differnt parts of the world be upset with Sportsman who hunt and fish. In many rural areas of this country it is a way of life and it is important for all of us to try and understand without passing judgement on others. Some of the most interesting and intellegent people I have ever met were guys and woman working as chashiers or doing construction. All of us have a right to have our say, some can do it without being insulting or volgar.
Just a few thoughts bouncing around in head as I read your comments.
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