I kept responding to this and the comment does not show up?? I use no profanity am not rude etc... But this is how this site works sometimes.. LAST ATTEMPT!
SL~~
I was NOT making reference to your post to produce argument with you... I see you have blocked me from your posts etc. This is your choice.. I respect the fact you have this right..
However, pleae do not misquote me..
I held no ssue with your comment of YOUR FEELINGS to V.. I merely held issue with the following portion of your statement:
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Don't worry about the comments from those who have tried to fix your life, or offer advice, sadly some of them will never understand what it is to endure such loss. The say stuff like " You need to move on,... find a new love,...it's been a long 17 years " etc...
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I was offended by this portion, as anything I ever post... right, wrong or indifferent.. is always posted from MY HEART. And MANY of us have been blogging for some time and gotten to share some funny, awesome, silly, painful and insightful thoughts in getting to know one another.. Therefore.. It was not regarding your thoughts toward V's blog at all.. yet it was your mention regarding other people's comments. I dont feel anyone tried to "fix" V .. I think all commments were from the heart, mine inclusive.
I'm not here to argue or fuss with people... I am too busy living and enjoying life to get caught up in silly misunderstandings.. and honestly.. something as minor and unnotable as a couple of sentences is just not worth the time.
I hope you have a great day.. and Best Wishes your way~
I kept responding to this and the comment does not show up?? I use no profanity am not rude etc... But this is how this site works sometimes.. LAST ATTEMPT!
SL~~
I was NOT making reference to your post to produce argument with you... I see you have blocked me from your posts etc. This is your choice.. I respect the fact you have this right..
However, pleae do not misquote me..
I held no ssue with your comment of YOUR FEELINGS to V.. I merely held issue with the following portion of your statement:
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Don't worry about the comments from those who have tried to fix your life, or offer advice, sadly some of them will never understand what it is to endure such loss. The say stuff like " You need to move on,... find a new love,...it's been a long 17 years " etc...
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I was offended by this portion, as anything I ever post... right, wrong or indifferent.. is always posted from MY HEART. And MANY of us have been blogging for some time and gotten to share some funny, awesome, silly, painful and insightful thoughts in getting to know one another.. Therefore.. It was not regarding your thoughts toward V's blog at all.. yet it was your mention regarding other people's comments. I dont feel anyone tried to "fix" V .. I think all commments were from the heart, mine inclusive.
I'm not here to argue or fuss with people... I am too busy living and enjoying life to get caught up in silly misunderstandings.. and honestly.. something as minor and unnotable as a couple of sentences is just not worth the time.
I hope you have a great day.. and Best Wishes your way~
Miss" Hoping 4 love," . Firstly my heartfelt response to Voyagers blog entitled " Assesing Your Life" came from my heart and feelings, addressed to His Well Written Topic that I Have Great Respect for. I do Not believe it was your place to intervene, let alone find my response To Voyager, as you say "amusing". Furthur-more, how could you refer to me as a "newbie", for you have not the foggiest notion how long I have been around. You state that I should refrain from responding..." to people and a situation you know nothing about". ....Isn't That Exactly What You Have Done ?
May Your God be with You....
I've no clue where my comment went... but thank you for addressing what is now missing...
1) I held no issue nor did I respond to your "heartfelt" area of your response to Voyager... so the answer is simpy NO.. I did not respond to something I had no clue of... MY issue was when in addressing your heartfelt response, you knocked others responses of ones I know have spent months and months building and establishing a rapport with the author, myself included. Therefore I defended MY RESPONSES, as mine too were heartfelt, as I thought others were as well... YOUR opinion and YOUR heart are not the only way to feel... and I definitley disagree with your assessment.. People who constantly dredge up the past never find a future. RMAC gave the grandest advice, and he too .. is a WIDOW.
2) You ARE new here to the blogs .. at least this time, as I have been steady here almost a year... and you have not been a regular posting..
3) Oddly, you favorite me and wink a while back.... and now I am blocked from reading your blogs or profile... Yet you are audacious enough to complain when you can't read a paying members insight who has their blogs for only gold members to view??
BWAHAHAHAHA!!! Too funny~~
Have a great day.. Clearly our minds are not attuned to one anothers.. which I am certain is one reason I did not respond back to you...
SILVERLION...
Miss" Hoping 4 love," . Firstly my heartfelt response to Voyagers blog entitled " Assesing Your Life" came from my heart and feelings, addressed to His Well Written Topic that I Have Great Respect for. I do Not believe it was your place to intervene, let alone find my response To Voyager, as you say "amusing". Furthur-more, how could you refer to me as a "newbie", for you have not the foggiest notion how long I have been around. You state that I should refrain from responding..." to people and a situation you know nothing about". ....Isn't That Exactly What You Have Done ?
May Your God be with You....
I've no clue where my comment went... but thank you for addressing what is now missing...
1) I held no issue nor did I respond to your "heartfelt" area of your response to Voyager... so the answer is simpy NO.. I did not respond to something I had no clue of... MY issue was when in addressing your heartfelt response, you knocked others responses of ones I know have spent months and months building and establishing a rapport with the author, myself included. Therefore I defended MY RESPONSES, as mine too were heartfelt, as I thought others were as well... YOUR opinion and YOUR heart are not the only way to feel... and I definitley disagree with your assessment.. People who constantly dredge up the past never find a future. RMAC gave the grandest advice, and he too .. is a WIDOW.
2) You ARE new here to the blogs .. at least this time, as I have been steady here almost a year... and you have not been a regular posting..
3) Oddly, you favorite me and wink a while back.... and now I am blocked from reading your blogs or profile... Yet you are audacious enough to complain when you can't read a paying members insight who has their blogs for only gold members to view??
BWAHAHAHAHA!!! Too funny~~
Have a great day.. Clearly our minds are not attuned to one anothers.. which I am certain is one reason I did not respond back to you...
Not certain what happened to my comment, as I saw it before and do not now....and it does not show deleted or hidden?
But I will say it again...
SILVERLION... Not sure if you blocked me.. or if you are hidden right now or what.. Seriously doesn't matter... Can't read your blogs or profile...
HOWEVER.. I am NOT one for censorship.. (unless it is in terms of things such as child pornography, etc... CRIMINAL MATTER)
So I will rinse and repeat... LOL
Do you not find it a bit pre-judgmental to consider people's comments on this blog to be insensitive? and the possibility in your assumption regarding our comments is truly presumptuous on your part of what this group has been about the past months. I know several on here who actually DO appear to care about the blogger.. I hope you might consider that most ppl here blogging regularly are not mean or spiteful and have actually spent time getting to know one another via internet... JMHO
Not certain what happened to my comment, as I saw it before and do not now....and it does not show deleted or hidden?
But I will say it again...
SILVERLION... Not sure if you blocked me.. or if you are hidden right now or what.. Seriously doesn't matter... Can't read your blogs or profile...
HOWEVER.. I am NOT one for censorship.. (unless it is in terms of things such as child pornography, etc... CRIMINAL MATTER)
So I will rinse and repeat... LOL
Do you not find it a bit pre-judgmental to consider people's comments on this blog to be insensitive? and the possibility in your assumption regarding our comments is truly presumptuous on your part of what this group has been about the past months. I know several on here who actually DO appear to care about the blogger.. I hope you might consider that most ppl here blogging regularly are not mean or spiteful and have actually spent time getting to know one another via internet...
JMHO
That boat does look more like a rocketship for sure... (and possibly that speedy as well! LOL) Yes, boats can take an enormous hit to ones wallet!! I've only owned a little Sea Ray.. which at one time was a great product before Brusnwick bought them out.. but obviously I hold a true love and connection with the water! ;)
SILVERLION... I always find it "amusing" when newbies come in and start trying to asses other people and their intentions before spending time getting to know them and the "group." All the regulars here have a connection on some realm.. even ones who have no political commonalities have found similar interest in other areas. Additionally, every person who has posted on this blog has spent time getting to know the blog writer and have his best interest at heart.. Might you consider, for you to call others insensitive is merely a rush to judgment on people and a situation you know nothing about...???
Just a thought~~
HEY V...
That boat does look more like a rocketship for sure... (and possibly that speedy as well! LOL)
Yes, boats can take an enormous hit to ones wallet!! I've only owned a little Sea Ray.. which at one time was a great product before Brusnwick bought them out.. but obviously I hold a true love and connection with the water! ;)
SILVERLION... I always find it "amusing" when newbies come in and start trying to asses other people and their intentions before spending time getting to know them and the "group." All the regulars here have a connection on some realm.. even ones who have no political commonalities have found similar interest in other areas. Additionally, every person who has posted on this blog has spent time getting to know the blog writer and have his best interest at heart.. Might you consider, for you to call others insensitive is merely a rush to judgment on people and a situation you know nothing about...???
Mishko....this is your motha speaking! It doesn't look like a good decision to me. I am worried this babe may hurt you way WORSE than the shoe lady!! A body cast would be a real downer....and that's IF you are lucky! Think about it!
Hmmmm....I'll bet it doesn't even have a built-in bait bucket! *wink* :)))
Mishko....this is your motha speaking! It doesn't look like a good decision to me. I am worried this babe may hurt you way WORSE than the shoe lady!! A body cast would be a real downer....and that's IF you are lucky! Think about it!
Hmmmm....I'll bet it doesn't even have a built-in bait bucket! *wink* :)))
AWWWwww.. But Our Voracious Buddy VOYAGER... Tis xactly what we seek to convey...
"Tis not about the "quantity" of ones life... But tis bout the QUALITY...."
I feel the ones who "read" you best are trying to say (as RMAC stated so simply... )
"To LOVE is divine" ... In ANY realm...
YOU MICHAEL.. are NOT loving.. and "therefore in all your "meandering" and "floundering"... are NOT truly ...~~ Living~~..."
Not to worry dear.. I don't love either.... (and I don't even have a dog to cuddle!! LOL)
I've been "Hop, Skippin and Jumpin too!" GUESS THAT'S WHY I KNOW A "LOBSTER" WHEN I SEE ONE!!! Now quit grabbin the crustations on my bottom of the sea!! I'm starving!! Bwahahaha!!~~ (Yep folks! Kinda like that "Takes one to know one deal goin down!" ;)
AWWWwww.. But Our Voracious Buddy VOYAGER...
Tis xactly what we seek to convey...
"Tis not about the "quantity" of ones life...
But tis bout the QUALITY...."
I feel the ones who "read" you best are trying to say (as RMAC stated so simply... )
"To LOVE is divine" ...
In ANY realm...
YOU MICHAEL.. are NOT loving.. and "therefore in all your "meandering" and "floundering"...
are NOT truly ...~~ Living~~..."
Not to worry dear..
I don't love either.... (and I don't even have a dog to cuddle!! LOL)
I've been "Hop, Skippin and Jumpin too!"
GUESS THAT'S WHY I KNOW A "LOBSTER" WHEN I SEE ONE!!!
Now quit grabbin the crustations on my bottom of the sea!! I'm starving!! Bwahahaha!!~~
(Yep folks! Kinda like that "Takes one to know one deal goin down!" ;)
I said it poorly. I didn't mean you were doing anything wrong, for you. It's harder on you smart folk. You should be lucky and simple, like me. :) I just refuse to believe it's all that complicated. Every breath that makes it's way to the bottom of our chest and back out again is a great one, a gift, a thrill !!!!!!!! Savor its taste going both ways!!!! It's a lot easier for us simple folk.:):):) :):) -CG-
Hey, V,
I said it poorly. I didn't mean you were doing anything wrong, for you. It's harder on you smart folk. You should be lucky and simple, like me. :) I just refuse to believe it's all that complicated. Every breath that makes it's way to the bottom of our chest and back out again is a great one, a gift, a thrill !!!!!!!! Savor its taste going both ways!!!!
It's a lot easier for us simple folk.:):):)
:):)
-CG-
RMAC got it right. I don't think I can add anything to what he said.
Perhaps that spirit walk could just be around the pond, if it makes you look at your real feelings. Are you using the loss to excuse not moving forward? Why DO you think you should punish yourself by not having another great love? Wouldn't you late love want you happy? All these questions (and lots more) you've already asked yourself, because we all know you are smart enought to have thought of them years ago.
And maybe you are looking, well, and just being too hard on yourself when the search keep extending. But at least you're enjoying other pursuits while the search ebbs and flows. As many have said (but I think it was Morgan Freeman's character, narrating, in Shawshank ?????????), "Get busy living, or get busy dying." ............Living is WAY better. :):)
RMAC got it right. I don't think I can add anything to what he said.
Perhaps that spirit walk could just be around the pond, if it makes you look at your real feelings. Are you using the loss to excuse not moving forward? Why DO you think you should punish yourself by not having another great love? Wouldn't you late love want you happy? All these questions (and lots more) you've already asked yourself, because we all know you are smart enought to have thought of them years ago.
And maybe you are looking, well, and just being too hard on yourself when the search keep extending. But at least you're enjoying other pursuits while the search ebbs and flows. As many have said (but I think it was Morgan Freeman's character, narrating, in Shawshank ?????????), "Get busy living, or get busy dying." ............Living is WAY better. :):)
OH Jeez.. Here she comes again.. with an opinion.. I swear at times my thoughts become a curse!!
~~RMAC~~ Darlin.. WHAT BEAUTIFUL THOUGHTS AND ADVICE!! (And you should know, sadly..... Right?)
***JUSTME*** AMEN! The LAST thing any woman that beautiful inside desires is for her lost love to squander in HER MEMORY!! "Beautiful Souls" such as "V's Lost Love" only want HAPPINESS for loved ones as they depart... And God forbid they really can look down upon us and see us miserable after how many eons of years??
(((NGL))) TOUCHE~~ IT'S A JOURNEY WORTH TAKING!!! ...... If it weren't.. None of us would be here!!
****Lovely Lady DI....***** As usual.. Some points I am in TOTAL agreement... VOYAGER.. You were sooo FORTUNATE to have experienced such a beautiful childhood crush blossom into something more.. And to unwrap it and experience it for all it's worth! I wonder how many leave this life without experiencing "LOVE" at all? So YES.... CHERISH IT FOREVER.. But as our scholar RMAC stated.. FIND A NEW LOVE.. It doesn't have to and needn't be of the same caliber.. Pistols are made in all different sizes.. Um.. I think? And.. LOVE, when opened, is a "Beautiful Gift!"
Our Lovely Lady DI... I am in disagreement with the whole.. "If you want to give your love to a car....or to your dogs....no one has to be satisfied with it....except you"
HOGWASH! And you know it!! LOL...(Mutual Admiration people.. This is NOT start of WWIII.. LOL) I believe what our Lovely Lady DI was trying to convey was... "Do what your heart tells you.."... cuz that's how she reads life... a truly beautiful heart and she wants you to do what YOU feel is right..".... BUT...
What I am saying is .... "Sometimes we are forced in life to cut away from our hearts... We essentially must drain the bile inside and get to the good stuff... and the "Good Stuff" isn't in an inanimate object that CAN'T LOVE US BACK!!! Like a car worth NOTHING at the end of the day!!" And even in as much as I LoVe Dogs... IT ISN'T THE SAME AND YOU KNOW IT MICHAEL!! Now I'm sorry... BUT...
QUIT "Hiding Behind" your elaborate "Vacations for ONE" (ONE IS THE LONELIEST NUMBER THAT YOU'LL EVER SEE).. regardless of how many fancy cars surround... how many parties and "beautiful young chicks entertain you, regardless of how many mansions you build on Beverly Hill!!... You will NEVER find what EVERY heart desires. and that is LOVE in all it's messed up realities... You continually seek women not right for you... (Typical SELF-DESTRUCTIVE mode.....) and quit LIVING with the PAST looming over your neighborhood! It becomes difficult to see sunshine through the rays of clouds!! You are making your beautiful deceased wife a memory no one can live up to.. INCLUDING YOURSELF!
You are trying to *replace "That HIGH.. "... with another.. And it simply WON'T WORK!!
Start selecting women who understand emotions, who have LIVED ENOUGH of LIFE in all it's ugliness so they can understand the BEAUTY in your heart...
You remind me of a LOBSTER.... feeding on the crustations in the deep...OH... there's WAYYY better food to be found... Yet you remain in "SURVIVAL MODE!" picking at the cores of the bottom...
YOU are better than that MICHAEL.... I've seen it, heard it and felt it... YOU.... just have to feel it too.. And then when you do.. There will be MORE than a hard shelled, bottom feeding creature in you..... Therein lies a beautiful, eloquent flavor people are DYING FOR.... But that bountiful flavor.. resides within .. YOU..
Not a memory...
I'm just sayin...
Prolific Princess... Over and Out.. *** DISCLAIMER.. NONE of the above words mentioned were meant to create pain or anger.. JMHO is all...
OH Jeez.. Here she comes again.. with an opinion..
I swear at times my thoughts become a curse!!
~~RMAC~~ Darlin.. WHAT BEAUTIFUL THOUGHTS AND ADVICE!! (And you should know, sadly..... Right?)
***JUSTME*** AMEN! The LAST thing any woman that beautiful inside desires is for her lost love to squander in HER MEMORY!! "Beautiful Souls" such as "V's Lost Love" only want HAPPINESS for loved ones as they depart... And God forbid they really can look down upon us and see us miserable after how many eons of years??
(((NGL))) TOUCHE~~ IT'S A JOURNEY WORTH TAKING!!! ...... If it weren't.. None of us would be here!!
****Lovely Lady DI....***** As usual.. Some points I am in TOTAL agreement... VOYAGER.. You were sooo FORTUNATE to have experienced such a beautiful childhood crush blossom into something more.. And to unwrap it and experience it for all it's worth! I wonder how many leave this life without experiencing "LOVE" at all? So YES.... CHERISH IT FOREVER.. But as our scholar RMAC stated.. FIND A NEW LOVE.. It doesn't have to and needn't be of the same caliber.. Pistols are made in all different sizes.. Um.. I think? And.. LOVE, when opened, is a "Beautiful Gift!"
Our Lovely Lady DI... I am in disagreement with the whole.. "If you want to give your love to a car....or to your dogs....no one has to be satisfied with it....except you"
HOGWASH! And you know it!! LOL...(Mutual Admiration people.. This is NOT start of WWIII.. LOL) I believe what our Lovely Lady DI was trying to convey was... "Do what your heart tells you.."... cuz that's how she reads life... a truly beautiful heart and she wants you to do what YOU feel is right..".... BUT...
What I am saying is .... "Sometimes we are forced in life to cut away from our hearts... We essentially must drain the bile inside and get to the good stuff... and the "Good Stuff" isn't in an inanimate object that CAN'T LOVE US BACK!!! Like a car worth NOTHING at the end of the day!!"
And even in as much as I LoVe Dogs... IT ISN'T THE SAME AND YOU KNOW IT MICHAEL!! Now I'm sorry... BUT...
QUIT "Hiding Behind" your elaborate "Vacations for ONE" (ONE IS THE LONELIEST NUMBER THAT YOU'LL EVER SEE).. regardless of how many fancy cars surround... how many parties and "beautiful young chicks entertain you, regardless of how many mansions you build on Beverly Hill!!... You will NEVER find what EVERY heart desires. and that is LOVE in all it's messed up realities... You continually seek women not right for you... (Typical SELF-DESTRUCTIVE mode.....) and quit LIVING with the PAST looming over your neighborhood! It becomes difficult to see sunshine through the rays of clouds!! You are making your beautiful deceased wife a memory no one can live up to.. INCLUDING YOURSELF!
You are trying to *replace "That HIGH.. "... with another.. And it simply WON'T WORK!!
Start selecting women who understand emotions, who have LIVED ENOUGH of LIFE in all it's ugliness so they can understand the BEAUTY in your heart...
You remind me of a LOBSTER.... feeding on the crustations in the deep...OH... there's WAYYY better food to be found... Yet you remain in "SURVIVAL MODE!" picking at the cores of the bottom...
YOU are better than that MICHAEL.... I've seen it, heard it and felt it... YOU.... just have to feel it too.. And then when you do.. There will be MORE than a hard shelled, bottom feeding creature in you..... Therein lies a beautiful, eloquent flavor people are DYING FOR.... But that bountiful flavor.. resides within .. YOU..
Not a memory...
I'm just sayin...
Prolific Princess...
Over and Out..
*** DISCLAIMER.. NONE of the above words mentioned were meant to create pain or anger.. JMHO is all...
~R~...Actually I think my new love is...a 2007 Eliminator Coupe 36 with 1400 HP...does 143MPH. Love speed. Love being exhilarated. Get a bigger charge out of fondling throttle controls than breasts! So...I will have to travel to Lake Powell and pay a visit to my potential future "love". Yes, you're right, I can and will love again and it'll only cost me $295K instead of $672K...that's what I call bargain shopping for true love!, lol.
LOLOL....you ARE a crazy thing V. :))
But in all seriousness....your late wife must have been a wonderful woman! You were lucky to have experienced a great love in your life....many have not....and many never will. It is likely she never caused you a moment of unhappiness and would be saddened if she knew that she was now. Live, Laugh and Love!!! .....even if it is with a Coupe36! And if it pleases you.....carve her name into the dashboard. Who cares?? Do whatever you want to. If you want to give your love to a car....or to your dogs....no one has to be satisfied with it....except you! As you know, no one is promised tomorrow....but it is your choice how you choose to spend today. As I have said before, perhaps you can find something to 'do', that makes a contribution to society by helping other less fortunate souls. Do it in her name. Give it some thought while you're cruising the back roads. ~Warm wishes
Quoting Voyager54:
~R~...Actually I think my new love is...a 2007 Eliminator Coupe 36 with 1400 HP...does 143MPH. Love speed. Love being exhilarated. Get a bigger charge out of fondling throttle controls than breasts! So...I will have to travel to Lake Powell and pay a visit to my potential future "love". Yes, you're right, I can and will love again and it'll only cost me $295K instead of $672K...that's what I call bargain shopping for true love!, lol.
LOLOL....you ARE a crazy thing V. :))
But in all seriousness....your late wife must have been a wonderful woman! You were lucky to have experienced a great love in your life....many have not....and many never will. It is likely she never caused you a moment of unhappiness and would be saddened if she knew that she was now. Live, Laugh and Love!!! .....even if it is with a Coupe36! And if it pleases you.....carve her name into the dashboard. Who cares?? Do whatever you want to. If you want to give your love to a car....or to your dogs....no one has to be satisfied with it....except you! As you know, no one is promised tomorrow....but it is your choice how you choose to spend today. As I have said before, perhaps you can find something to 'do', that makes a contribution to society by helping other less fortunate souls. Do it in her name. Give it some thought while you're cruising the back roads. ~Warm wishes
You do not need to worry about forgetting her? You never will. You do not need to worry that you will lose your feelings of love for her. You never will. You can't. You can't even lose the intensity. So quit worrying about all of that.
It is not possible to replace her. You won't. You can't. You should not even try.
What you can do is find another love. You can be loved again. You can be happy again. It is not a betrayal of your first love. It is entirely possible to love more than one woman. In this case it is perfectly legal and not even cheating.
Who cares if your next love does not soar to the heights of your first love. Love is love. It is worth the bother. Relax. Enjoy it.
rmac
Voyager:
You do not need to worry about forgetting her? You never will. You do not need to worry that you will lose your feelings of love for her. You never will. You can't. You can't even lose the intensity. So quit worrying about all of that.
It is not possible to replace her. You won't. You can't. You should not even try.
What you can do is find another love. You can be loved again. You can be happy again. It is not a betrayal of your first love. It is entirely possible to love more than one woman. In this case it is perfectly legal and not even cheating.
Who cares if your next love does not soar to the heights of your first love. Love is love. It is worth the bother. Relax. Enjoy it.
ROTTEN GUTS!! LOLOL... Yes, I too think our cyber buddy needs to find WHATEVER it is that will force him to "LET GO" of the past... But, as with my friend DAKOTA.. It MUST be a DECISION... and only he can make it.. 17 years is a long time not to move on with your life and it is unhealthy emotionally.
I soooo understood DAKOTAS comment regarding the painting and filling the shoes.. The dead often become larger than life itself. Look at the beautiful and talented Whitney.. People had quit paying attention to her due to her rocky road in the past years and within hours of her death.. her albums are back on top selling on Amazon! I wonder how much of our holding onto memories with such ferocity is out of guilt we FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) we didn't show our love enough while they were alive? I don't know.. I hope i never have to endure that loss.. but for most of us.. loss of loved ones is inevitable..
HOTlanta?? Buddy it is FREEZING HERE!! It was 20* and the wind was blowing so hard I had flash backs of Chicago!! LOL I had to sit in my truck yesterday to smoke! with the heat on!! YIKES!! All I can say is.. This isn't sunny Florida.... :(
Good to see you still hangin out around here... :) STAY WARM!!
Laughing @ You FISHY!!
ROTTEN GUTS!! LOLOL... Yes, I too think our cyber buddy needs to find WHATEVER it is that will force him to "LET GO" of the past... But, as with my friend DAKOTA.. It MUST be a DECISION... and only he can make it.. 17 years is a long time not to move on with your life and it is unhealthy emotionally.
I soooo understood DAKOTAS comment regarding the painting and filling the shoes.. The dead often become larger than life itself. Look at the beautiful and talented Whitney.. People had quit paying attention to her due to her rocky road in the past years and within hours of her death.. her albums are back on top selling on Amazon! I wonder how much of our holding onto memories with such ferocity is out of guilt we FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) we didn't show our love enough while they were alive? I don't know.. I hope i never have to endure that loss.. but for most of us.. loss of loved ones is inevitable..
HOTlanta?? Buddy it is FREEZING HERE!! It was 20* and the wind was blowing so hard I had flash backs of Chicago!! LOL I had to sit in my truck yesterday to smoke! with the heat on!! YIKES!! All I can say is.. This isn't sunny Florida.... :(
Good to see you still hangin out around here... :)
STAY WARM!!
The last thing your loved one wants is for you to waste the rest of your life wishing that they were there Enjoying the rest of your life is what you should be doing, whether it has been a long time or a little, it is still an act that takes courage and bravery. and happy birthday x
The last thing your loved one wants is for you to waste the rest of your life wishing that they were there
Enjoying the rest of your life is what you should be doing,
whether it has been a long time or a little, it is still an act that takes courage and bravery.
and happy birthday x
Hi ya Hoping,hoping your back in hotlanta or wherever is warm and safe.
Rotten guts?Dang lady!Morphine is good for mortorcycle leg and bullet holes but there is something special about DOLODID.As you can attest,it is amazeing what they can do to the human body.I've been really lucky not to have needed any surgens.
I will say,belief in something is left to each person,for however they choose to believe.
Now then,on this "let it go" thing.Girls and boys handle things differently sometimes and I'm not so sure that us boys really let it go as we mull on it until we kick its ass.Whatever it might be.If its physcial then thats easy,we can get that in our hands.If its inside us thats toughter,it makes it to the core of our being if its been there long enough.When that happens it must be ripped out by the roots and thats not an easy thing to do.
You know from your pain and near death that numb spot,though only for a few moments,that changes you.Where survival and logic blend as one,a moment of harmoney.Remember when you saw yourself at that time?The start of who you are now,it was your decision,no anything else,no any belief.It was your soul,your spirit that you saw.
I'm not advacating live under dried grass huts for the rest of his life but a real good long walk out might be the best thing our cyber buddy could do to start feeling like a human.
Hi ya Hoping,hoping your back in hotlanta or wherever is warm and safe.
Rotten guts?Dang lady!Morphine is good for mortorcycle leg and bullet holes but there is something special about DOLODID.As you can attest,it is amazeing what they can do to the human body.I've been really lucky not to have needed any surgens.
I will say,belief in something is left to each person,for however they choose to believe.
Now then,on this "let it go" thing.Girls and boys handle things differently sometimes and I'm not so sure that us boys really let it go as we mull on it until we kick its ass.Whatever it might be.If its physcial then thats easy,we can get that in our hands.If its inside us thats toughter,it makes it to the core of our being if its been there long enough.When that happens it must be ripped out by the roots and thats not an easy thing to do.
You know from your pain and near death that numb spot,though only for a few moments,that changes you.Where survival and logic blend as one,a moment of harmoney.Remember when you saw yourself at that time?The start of who you are now,it was your decision,no anything else,no any belief.It was your soul,your spirit that you saw.
I'm not advacating live under dried grass huts for the rest of his life but a real good long walk out might be the best thing our cyber buddy could do to start feeling like a human.
@ V, Gosh it's nice to read that someone is actually reflecting on their life and their future. Keep up the good work, healing is'nt an easy journey for sure, but it's a journey worth taking. Reflect on whats really important and make adjustments accordingly. The one thing I know for sure, money and material stuff can't cure or shorten the journey your on. Always lead with your heart, be mindful of your surroundings. Life is crazy with all it's twistes and turns, but the lessons that are available,, priceless.
You'll be ok,,and it's worth it !
Quoting NGL2011:
@ V, Gosh it's nice to read that someone is actually reflecting on their life and their future. Keep up the good work, healing is'nt an easy journey for sure, but it's a journey worth taking. Reflect on whats really important and make adjustments accordingly. The one thing I know for sure, money and material stuff can't cure or shorten the journey your on. Always lead with your heart, be mindful of your surroundings. Life is crazy with all it's twistes and turns, but the lessons that are available,, priceless.
Now, this sounds like something Voyager could really go for. Cut all the psychobabble, all the talk--go on a Spirit Walk.
I wouldn't do it. Too damn cold, no hot running water. No soap. No shampoo. Sorry--I ain't going there. But I'll bet Voyager could do it--and get one hell of a lot of a spiritual fix out of it.
Great post, Fishy. Thanks so much for the inspiration. Even if I would never take you literally, I can, and will, take you metaphorically.
Quoting fishyme:
Damn dude,Is that sub artic winter getting to you?In truth I'd thought about this before but never saw that it was the right time,but now it's screaming at me so here goes.
Voyager,you NEED to go on a spirit walk.Do you know them?Most cultures have their own version but the results are the same,you either man up or die trying.
Supplies needed: the warm cloths on your back,a fire piston,a short thick strong sheath knife.
Get care takers for your funny looking moose and your dogs,tell people you'll be away for awhile [rescues are cheating],take a canoe trip DEEP DEEP DEEP into the Adirondacks then burn the canoe.
It's that simple baby.You and nature.You and only you will keep yourself alive,nature will do a real good job trying to kill you.When you truly get to the verge of death out there all by yourself,that's when you deside if your going to join your love who died so horribly in your arms or are you going to survive.
You will be alone with yourself looking into yourself.You will see your spirit,don't run from it.Look at it,come to understand it,embrace it for it is you.
I'm not talking about an overnight boyscout campout with hotdogs.You get nothing,you take nothing.Your skill and your skill alone is all you get to start out with.Shun away from people out there until you find yourself.The essence is to harmonize,humans screw that up.
Check into spirit walks this winter Voyager.Maybe plan one early spring when it still gets cold at night but the day can thaw you out without many of those fine black fies that I fed there with my blood,lol.
I'm not trying to kill you buddy but you need it.
Quoting fishyme:
Damn dude,Is that sub artic winter getting to you?In truth I'd thought about this before but never saw that it was the right time,but now it's screaming at me so here goes.
Voyager,you NEED to go on a spirit walk.Do you know them?Most cultures have their own version but the results are the same,you either man up or die trying.
Supplies needed: the warm cloths on your back,a fire piston,a short thick strong sheath knife.
Get care takers for your funny looking moose and your dogs,tell people you'll be away for awhile [rescues are cheating],take a canoe trip DEEP DEEP DEEP into the Adirondacks then burn the canoe.
It's that simple baby.You and nature.You and only you will keep yourself alive,nature will do a real good job trying to kill you.When you truly get to the verge of death out there all by yourself,that's when you deside if your going to join your love who died so horribly in your arms or are you going to survive.
You will be alone with yourself looking into yourself.You will see your spirit,don't run from it.Look at it,come to understand it,embrace it for it is you.
I'm not talking about an overnight boyscout campout with hotdogs.You get nothing,you take nothing.Your skill and your skill alone is all you get to start out with.Shun away from people out there until you find yourself.The essence is to harmonize,humans screw that up.
Check into spirit walks this winter Voyager.Maybe plan one early spring when it still gets cold at night but the day can thaw you out without many of those fine black fies that I fed there with my blood,lol.
I'm not trying to kill you buddy but you need it.
Now, this sounds like something Voyager could really go for. Cut all the psychobabble, all the talk--go on a Spirit Walk.
I wouldn't do it. Too damn cold, no hot running water. No soap. No shampoo. Sorry--I ain't going there. But I'll bet Voyager could do it--and get one hell of a lot of a spiritual fix out of it.
Great post, Fishy. Thanks so much for the inspiration. Even if I would never take you literally, I can, and will, take you metaphorically.
Pat, you are correct, he needs to let her go. But, I think I understand why he doesn't...I am speaking only from my personal experience and I may not be correct in Voyagers case.
By letting go, it feels like you stop loving her or love her less. You try to keep her memory fresh because somehow that equates to the deepest kind of love (one and only). Moving on is kind of like forgetting or placing less value on the beauty and speciality of the relationship. You try to remain loyal. Yes, I know this is insane but just my thoughts.
Secondly, you seem to be always looking for someone to fill the shoes of the person you've lost. Somehow those shoes became much larger after her death than when she was alive. It becomes a almost impossible task. Kind of like a artist that dies and his/her work becomes very valuable.
Yes this all sounds crazy and it is the wrong way to think, you know it, but you do it anyway.
In some ways you feel like you took the person you lost for granted, although it didn't feel that way when she was alive. Everything stirs memories...good and bad...and even the good become bad when you realize she will never be there again. And you continuously question, WHY? But it is what it is and we cannot fix the past.
So, in order to fix the problem what is needed is to fall in love once again. But never to forget, never forget. And you know that's what the one that you lost would want.
Yes, Pat is correct...but it's easier said than done.
It is much more difficult for us guys because we seek a solution to problems, and there is no solution to death. To explain this; Many times when a woman is upset a man will not simply listen and console, he will take action and try to fix whatever it is that upset her. When all she wants is her man to listen and give comfort. Men are problem solvers by nature.
JMHO
Dakota, what a smart answer indeed. And not because you're response dealt with my remarks--but because they dealt with remarks I FAILED TO MAKE for Voyager.
Most especially, I'm thinking of this remark of yours:
" Secondly, you seem to be always looking for someone to fill the shoes of the person you've lost. Somehow those shoes became much larger after her death than when she was alive. It becomes a almost impossible task. Kind of like a artist that dies and his/her work becomes very valuable.
Yes this all sounds crazy and it is the wrong way to think, you know it, but you do it anyway."
Great response, Dakota. It resonates well beyond Voyager's issues. Thanks so much.
Oh, and P.S.: You are so right about how men need to find solutions; woman just need to listen and comfort. This aspect of humanity is so often the basis of soooooooo many conflicts between the sexes. If only men could stop now and then to realize that we women don't want our men to solve our problems--and if only we women could now and then stop to realize that our men want us to help them solve their problems instead of just sympathizing with them. Probably won't happen any time soon, unless human nature magically changes--but it would be a dream come true for both sexes, would it not?
Sigh....guess it's meant to be the way it is.
Quoting Dakota35:
Pat, you are correct, he needs to let her go. But, I think I understand why he doesn't...I am speaking only from my personal experience and I may not be correct in Voyagers case.
By letting go, it feels like you stop loving her or love her less. You try to keep her memory fresh because somehow that equates to the deepest kind of love (one and only). Moving on is kind of like forgetting or placing less value on the beauty and speciality of the relationship. You try to remain loyal. Yes, I know this is insane but just my thoughts.
Secondly, you seem to be always looking for someone to fill the shoes of the person you've lost. Somehow those shoes became much larger after her death than when she was alive. It becomes a almost impossible task. Kind of like a artist that dies and his/her work becomes very valuable.
Yes this all sounds crazy and it is the wrong way to think, you know it, but you do it anyway.
In some ways you feel like you took the person you lost for granted, although it didn't feel that way when she was alive. Everything stirs memories...good and bad...and even the good become bad when you realize she will never be there again. And you continuously question, WHY? But it is what it is and we cannot fix the past.
So, in order to fix the problem what is needed is to fall in love once again. But never to forget, never forget. And you know that's what the one that you lost would want.
Yes, Pat is correct...but it's easier said than done.
It is much more difficult for us guys because we seek a solution to problems, and there is no solution to death. To explain this; Many times when a woman is upset a man will not simply listen and console, he will take action and try to fix whatever it is that upset her. When all she wants is her man to listen and give comfort. Men are problem solvers by nature.
JMHO
Dakota, what a smart answer indeed. And not because you're response dealt with my remarks--but because they dealt with remarks I FAILED TO MAKE for Voyager.
Most especially, I'm thinking of this remark of yours:
" Secondly, you seem to be always looking for someone to fill the shoes of the person you've lost. Somehow those shoes became much larger after her death than when she was alive. It becomes a almost impossible task. Kind of like a artist that dies and his/her work becomes very valuable.
Yes this all sounds crazy and it is the wrong way to think, you know it, but you do it anyway."
Great response, Dakota. It resonates well beyond Voyager's issues. Thanks so much.
Oh, and P.S.: You are so right about how men need to find solutions; woman just need to listen and comfort. This aspect of humanity is so often the basis of soooooooo many conflicts between the sexes. If only men could stop now and then to realize that we women don't want our men to solve our problems--and if only we women could now and then stop to realize that our men want us to help them solve their problems instead of just sympathizing with them. Probably won't happen any time soon, unless human nature magically changes--but it would be a dream come true for both sexes, would it not?
@ V, Gosh it's nice to read that someone is actually reflecting on their life and their future. Keep up the good work, healing is'nt an easy journey for sure, but it's a journey worth taking. Reflect on whats really important and make adjustments accordingly. The one thing I know for sure, money and material stuff can't cure or shorten the journey your on. Always lead with your heart, be mindful of your surroundings. Life is crazy with all it's twistes and turns, but the lessons that are available,, priceless.
You'll be ok,,and it's worth it !
@ V, Gosh it's nice to read that someone is actually reflecting on their life and their future. Keep up the good work, healing is'nt an easy journey for sure, but it's a journey worth taking. Reflect on whats really important and make adjustments accordingly. The one thing I know for sure, money and material stuff can't cure or shorten the journey your on. Always lead with your heart, be mindful of your surroundings. Life is crazy with all it's twistes and turns, but the lessons that are available,, priceless.
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