So, im new to this way of meeting interesting men. Im searching profiles and see how "mature" men are interested in women with a start age of 18? Not saying that a young lady in her teens cant be responsible, or committed...... but do YOU think that that person, who is interested is just "out for a good time?" Thats just what I am thinking. I find myself skipping over interesting men, because of this......What do you think?
So, im new to this way of meeting interesting men. Im searching profiles and see how "mature" men are interested in women with a start age of 18? Not saying that a young lady in her teens cant be responsible, or committed...... but do YOU think that that person, who is interested is just "out for a good time?" Thats just what I am thinking. I find myself skipping over interesting men, because of this......What do you think?
First why would a 30 year old want to have an 18 year old. thing would be to hard to deal with you think but i dont know case i still wan to know what goes on in guys head?
First why would a 30 year old want to have an 18 year old. thing would be to hard to deal with you think but i dont know case i still wan to know what goes on in guys head?
Not sure what happened to TRINA? I don't think it necessarily means someone was a scammer if their profile is gone? But not certain..
As to your comments.. First off. THANK YOU for helping those who are defenseless.. EASYMAN is correct that we must EMPOWER the victims so they do not allow the cycle to continue.. However, it is usually a long, tiresome emotional struggle that lies ahead when one has been severely "preyed" upon.. I see how you have taken it BEYOND the teen and older man involved and peeling off the layers...
I do not wish to infer I feel "all men who are above XYZ age---- dating someone under ABC age is a pediphile, predator, or sick etc.." I do NOT see everyone or every issue in just black and white. I have seen many men just being "horny old men wishing to have their ego stroked." These type of men are usually insecure and grossly immature in nature and having a much younger woman in their lives makes them feel more powerful. I dated a man once worth over $10 Mill... His 19 year old daughter HATED that he never dated women his age!! (He was 48 and oldest he dated was 26 before me!) It embarrassed her and she felt women were always after his money... I was the only woman he had dated in his age range for years.. and he was 4 years older than me! Our "mentalitites" did not mesh... Additionally, I could not feel comfortable dating a man who dates women my children's age. I think if a woman feels she may be compared by a man to her own daughter.. HE AIN'T THE MAN FOR HER!!
Now in so far as what you are referring.. You speak of a true predator preying on children .. and THAT lies much deeper than just some middle-aged man wanting attention from an "almost adult.".. That, my dear, is a very serious issue on which you are correct. "Victims" often become "victimizers" repeating the process of what has happened to them. As well, (as in my case) .. I took the other route victims often take.. which is to not victimize others, but to victimize myself through self-destructive tendencies. I'm sure you have witnessed a lot of this type of behavior. That is what I took as your main point here.. Many of the young ladies who feel it is "normal" to date a man so much older, etc.. only think this way due to what they have endured.
Now I in no way am saying.. "Every girl that dates men older than their father has been abused." NO..not stating that. What I am stating is we must address the ones who have so they can lead lives of empowerment and emotionally healthy decision making! And for the ones not reading closely enough. We are not spekaing of 25 YO.. etc.. We are speaking about 18 year olds, 19.. KIDS who are not even old enough to drink legally!! THEY ARE TEENS!! (or barely legal)
KUDOS to YOU, INFINITY.. for working with others for their own personal betterment and empowerment....
Well INFINITY..
Not sure what happened to TRINA? I don't think it necessarily means someone was a scammer if their profile is gone? But not certain..
As to your comments.. First off. THANK YOU for helping those who are defenseless.. EASYMAN is correct that we must EMPOWER the victims so they do not allow the cycle to continue.. However, it is usually a long, tiresome emotional struggle that lies ahead when one has been severely "preyed" upon.. I see how you have taken it BEYOND the teen and older man involved and peeling off the layers...
I do not wish to infer I feel "all men who are above XYZ age---- dating someone under ABC age is a pediphile, predator, or sick etc.." I do NOT see everyone or every issue in just black and white. I have seen many men just being "horny old men wishing to have their ego stroked." These type of men are usually insecure and grossly immature in nature and having a much younger woman in their lives makes them feel more powerful. I dated a man once worth over $10 Mill... His 19 year old daughter HATED that he never dated women his age!! (He was 48 and oldest he dated was 26 before me!) It embarrassed her and she felt women were always after his money... I was the only woman he had dated in his age range for years.. and he was 4 years older than me! Our "mentalitites" did not mesh... Additionally, I could not feel comfortable dating a man who dates women my children's age. I think if a woman feels she may be compared by a man to her own daughter.. HE AIN'T THE MAN FOR HER!!
Now in so far as what you are referring.. You speak of a true predator preying on children .. and THAT lies much deeper than just some middle-aged man wanting attention from an "almost adult.".. That, my dear, is a very serious issue on which you are correct. "Victims" often become "victimizers" repeating the process of what has happened to them. As well, (as in my case) .. I took the other route victims often take.. which is to not victimize others, but to victimize myself through self-destructive tendencies. I'm sure you have witnessed a lot of this type of behavior. That is what I took as your main point here.. Many of the young ladies who feel it is "normal" to date a man so much older, etc.. only think this way due to what they have endured.
Now I in no way am saying.. "Every girl that dates men older than their father has been abused." NO..not stating that. What I am stating is we must address the ones who have so they can lead lives of empowerment and emotionally healthy decision making! And for the ones not reading closely enough. We are not spekaing of 25 YO.. etc.. We are speaking about 18 year olds, 19.. KIDS who are not even old enough to drink legally!! THEY ARE TEENS!! (or barely legal)
KUDOS to YOU, INFINITY.. for working with others for their own personal betterment and empowerment....
Hey EASYMAN.. YOU were the one who needed reading comprehension.. LOL.. I said we are speaking about 18 year olds on the blogs.. YOU mentioned 40 and 50 year old's leaving the older man.. I stated I find this horrible behavior... and then mentioned that we are NOT speaking of 40 and 50 year old women here.. You got off topic, which is fine of course.., BUT.. I was directing you back to the topic of 18 year olds. READ S-L-O-W-L-Y.....
You wrote:
Where there is prey, there are predators... I didn't raise prey so I have no fear of predators.
*****
No offense, but I find you highly naive in regard to 21 year olds.. That has to be one of the most unenlightened statements regarding PREDATORS I have ever heard. For a PREDATOR... EVERYONE IS PREY... You are seriously naive on this particular topic.
I, IN NO WAY, take power away from anyone... But I do call it as it is.. esp if it regards something I have vast experience in.. I am aware enough to know when a man thinks someone who's brain is not even fully develped has the knowledge and experience in life to know when and what to do in all circumstances when dealing with PREDATORS... Well, I think you need some serious education here... You would be prime target for some, as you are unsuspecting... Predators do just that.. PREY... And they don't care who you are... You appear to be under the "illusion" 45 year old men hook up with 19 year olds because they "admire the girl's mind"...
News flash for ya...
If your 21 year old daughter brings home a 45 year old man .. He ain't interested in her "brain."
You are seriously naive here.. I've been that 17 year old, the 18 and 21 year old "girl.."
Therefore I LIVED IT.. I know all too well... (But of course.. at the TIME.. I thought they really liked my brain! Bwahahahahahaha!!! )
Hey EASYMAN.. YOU were the one who needed reading comprehension.. LOL.. I said we are speaking about 18 year olds on the blogs.. YOU mentioned 40 and 50 year old's leaving the older man.. I stated I find this horrible behavior... and then mentioned that we are NOT speaking of 40 and 50 year old women here.. You got off topic, which is fine of course.., BUT.. I was directing you back to the topic of 18 year olds. READ S-L-O-W-L-Y.....
You wrote:
Where there is prey, there are predators... I didn't raise prey so I have no fear of predators.
*****
No offense, but I find you highly naive in regard to 21 year olds.. That has to be one of the most unenlightened statements regarding PREDATORS I have ever heard. For a PREDATOR... EVERYONE IS PREY... You are seriously naive on this particular topic.
I, IN NO WAY, take power away from anyone... But I do call it as it is.. esp if it regards something I have vast experience in.. I am aware enough to know when a man thinks someone who's brain is not even fully develped has the knowledge and experience in life to know when and what to do in all circumstances when dealing with PREDATORS... Well, I think you need some serious education here... You would be prime target for some, as you are unsuspecting... Predators do just that.. PREY... And they don't care who you are... You appear to be under the "illusion" 45 year old men hook up with 19 year olds because they "admire the girl's mind"...
News flash for ya...
If your 21 year old daughter brings home a 45 year old man .. He ain't interested in her "brain."
You are seriously naive here.. I've been that 17 year old, the 18 and 21 year old "girl.."
Therefore I LIVED IT.. I know all too well... (But of course.. at the TIME.. I thought they really liked my brain! Bwahahahahahaha!!! )
That is horrible the women left when the man got sick!! :( However, we are speaking of 18 year olds.. not 40 or 50 year olds getting with someone 20 years their senior. (Although your examples show me that I do not wish to date someone "that" much older, as I am like you.. "Hey, we're done playing cards.. you ready to change diapers?" LOL...) If I have to do it... He needs to as well! HaHa!
A little reading comprehension might be in order... these women who bailed were not 18 year olds, they were 50 year olds.
And I've got a newsflash for you EASY.. If your daughter came home with a 42 year old man.. and even if she was a mature 22 year old.... It isn't what YOU did wrong in raising her... It's that the man who is 42 "preyed" upon your daughter.. At 22 she hasn't lived enough to be adept in this situation... and the man saw she lacked the wisdom to see he only wants her for sex..
Where there is prey, there are predators... I didn't raise prey so I have no fear of predators. Your comment takes away the 22 year olds power. My children are empowered to make their own choices. Maybe that's the difference and why you worry... I don't consider my daughters to be weak, feeble minded, incapable girls. They are intelligent, strong, determined and empowered young women.
That is horrible the women left when the man got sick!! :( However, we are speaking of 18 year olds.. not 40 or 50 year olds getting with someone 20 years their senior. (Although your examples show me that I do not wish to date someone "that" much older, as I am like you.. "Hey, we're done playing cards.. you ready to change diapers?" LOL...) If I have to do it... He needs to as well! HaHa!
A little reading comprehension might be in order... these women who bailed were not 18 year olds, they were 50 year olds.
And I've got a newsflash for you EASY.. If your daughter came home with a 42 year old man.. and even if she was a mature 22 year old.... It isn't what YOU did wrong in raising her... It's that the man who is 42 "preyed" upon your daughter.. At 22 she hasn't lived enough to be adept in this situation... and the man saw she lacked the wisdom to see he only wants her for sex..
Where there is prey, there are predators... I didn't raise prey so I have no fear of predators. Your comment takes away the 22 year olds power. My children are empowered to make their own choices. Maybe that's the difference and why you worry... I don't consider my daughters to be weak, feeble minded, incapable girls. They are intelligent, strong, determined and empowered young women.@hoping
**The Sagging old Princess rides in on her broom to chase ~~V-V-V-V-V~~ away! Bwahahahaha!!
TRINA.. Never in a million years would I have thought with my "wild child" ways..I would succumb to "old school parental thinking..."
But as my daughters started to develop.. and I started to get a little more "crows feet"... I started to recall all the "older men" in my day.. (now possibly wearing diapers..) who hit on me... and some who "won!" There are many a men who need to be seriuosly SLAPPED back to reality!
Good news for you? Many men just don't pay attention to the age... due to, as one stated.. not reviewing their profile... So not all men who have 18 really mean it.. and some may have 18-99 just to be funny...
READ WHAT THEY WRITE.. (OR DON'T WRITE..)
GO WITH YOUR GUT MOM! :)
**Duct tapes ~~VVVVV~~ to her broom smacking him and says.. STICK WITH THE MILFS DEAR! ;)
**The Sagging old Princess rides in on her broom to chase ~~V-V-V-V-V~~ away! Bwahahahaha!!
TRINA.. Never in a million years would I have thought with my "wild child" ways..I would succumb to "old school parental thinking..."
But as my daughters started to develop.. and I started to get a little more "crows feet"... I started to recall all the "older men" in my day.. (now possibly wearing diapers..) who hit on me... and some who "won!" There are many a men who need to be seriuosly SLAPPED back to reality!
Good news for you? Many men just don't pay attention to the age... due to, as one stated.. not reviewing their profile... So not all men who have 18 really mean it.. and some may have 18-99 just to be funny...
READ WHAT THEY WRITE.. (OR DON'T WRITE..)
GO WITH YOUR GUT MOM! :)
**Duct tapes ~~VVVVV~~ to her broom smacking him and says.. STICK WITH THE MILFS DEAR! ;)
That is horrible the women left when the man got sick!! :( However, we are speaking of 18 year olds.. not 40 or 50 year olds getting with someone 20 years their senior. (Although your examples show me that I do not wish to date someone "that" much older, as I am like you.. "Hey, we're done playing cards.. you ready to change diapers?" LOL...) If I have to do it... He needs to as well! HaHa!
I would have to say I DO believe "EXPERIENCE IS OUR FINEST TEACHER".. However, I do NOT encourage ANY of my children to have "spring flings" for relationships, as I do NOT endorse promiscuity.. and dating means SEX!! My children have never seen me share a bed with a man if there was not a ring on my finger.... or serious comitment... YES! In 13 years of divorce! I was not one of those moms they awoke to a man in the house... Sex is emotional for a woman, esp a younger inexperienced one and no way will I ever sit idly by and allow some far older man to prey upon my daughters! I'd just have to say.. He better pray my ex or my son gets to him before I can!! LOL... My daughter (19) is very bright and her personality rocks... She is the bomb! BUT... ANYONE deluding themselves to thinking.. "That man who likes my TEEN daughter really sees how SMART she is... WOW!" ....is in need of a reality check! And I will be just the one to give it to him with a 5 inch stiletto up his #*#*#*!!!!
We are NOT talking about 30 year old WOMEN.. or even 25 year old "young ladies".. We are speaking of 18 year old CHILDREN... The brain is not fully developed until age 21... 18 year olds are shown not to have sound judgment, so we took their drinking rights away. 18 year olds still pay higher for car insurance etc.. WHY? B/C they are CHILDREN, regardless of maturity level. My SON when he turned 18 refused to date anyone under 18, even though he was in high school.. WHY? B/C they were MINORS.. and he was not... So if my son can avoid "girls" 6 months shy of being 18, when he just turned 18... I would think a 35 or 45 year old man should have the "class" to avoid 18 year old children as well! It's sick.. whether one has a daughter or not! Again... 18 year olds.. Not 25 or 30!! E-I-G-H-T-E-E-N.....
And I've got a newsflash for you EASY.. If your daughter came home with a 42 year old man.. and even if she was a mature 22 year old.... It isn't what YOU did wrong in raising her... It's that the man who is 42 "preyed" upon your daughter.. At 22 she hasn't lived enough to be adept in this situation... and the man saw she lacked the wisdom to see he only wants her for sex..
I will hope when my daughters are engaging in sexual behavior.. ANY AND EVERY TIME... it is with an age appropriate young man who really cares about her... At least then the playing fields are the same...
You people think I don't have awesome pictures of me and my gorgeous daughters (and trust me.. I am not being biased... They are both beautiful girls) I could put on my profile? HA! I'd love to show off my "babies!" . BUT.. I'm a smart mom.. and I know all too well.. evil men exist.. and they could try and use me.. just to get to young flesh! NOT ON MY WATCH BABY! :)))))
HI EASYMAN...
That is horrible the women left when the man got sick!! :( However, we are speaking of 18 year olds.. not 40 or 50 year olds getting with someone 20 years their senior. (Although your examples show me that I do not wish to date someone "that" much older, as I am like you.. "Hey, we're done playing cards.. you ready to change diapers?" LOL...) If I have to do it... He needs to as well! HaHa!
I would have to say I DO believe "EXPERIENCE IS OUR FINEST TEACHER".. However, I do NOT encourage ANY of my children to have "spring flings" for relationships, as I do NOT endorse promiscuity.. and dating means SEX!! My children have never seen me share a bed with a man if there was not a ring on my finger.... or serious comitment... YES! In 13 years of divorce! I was not one of those moms they awoke to a man in the house... Sex is emotional for a woman, esp a younger inexperienced one and no way will I ever sit idly by and allow some far older man to prey upon my daughters! I'd just have to say.. He better pray my ex or my son gets to him before I can!! LOL... My daughter (19) is very bright and her personality rocks... She is the bomb! BUT... ANYONE deluding themselves to thinking.. "That man who likes my TEEN daughter really sees how SMART she is... WOW!" ....is in need of a reality check! And I will be just the one to give it to him with a 5 inch stiletto up his #*#*#*!!!!
We are NOT talking about 30 year old WOMEN.. or even 25 year old "young ladies".. We are speaking of 18 year old CHILDREN... The brain is not fully developed until age 21... 18 year olds are shown not to have sound judgment, so we took their drinking rights away. 18 year olds still pay higher for car insurance etc.. WHY? B/C they are CHILDREN, regardless of maturity level. My SON when he turned 18 refused to date anyone under 18, even though he was in high school.. WHY? B/C they were MINORS.. and he was not... So if my son can avoid "girls" 6 months shy of being 18, when he just turned 18... I would think a 35 or 45 year old man should have the "class" to avoid 18 year old children as well! It's sick.. whether one has a daughter or not! Again... 18 year olds.. Not 25 or 30!! E-I-G-H-T-E-E-N.....
And I've got a newsflash for you EASY.. If your daughter came home with a 42 year old man.. and even if she was a mature 22 year old.... It isn't what YOU did wrong in raising her... It's that the man who is 42 "preyed" upon your daughter.. At 22 she hasn't lived enough to be adept in this situation... and the man saw she lacked the wisdom to see he only wants her for sex..
I will hope when my daughters are engaging in sexual behavior.. ANY AND EVERY TIME... it is with an age appropriate young man who really cares about her... At least then the playing fields are the same...
You people think I don't have awesome pictures of me and my gorgeous daughters (and trust me.. I am not being biased... They are both beautiful girls) I could put on my profile? HA! I'd love to show off my "babies!" . BUT.. I'm a smart mom.. and I know all too well.. evil men exist.. and they could try and use me.. just to get to young flesh! NOT ON MY WATCH BABY! :)))))
@hoping :) Thank you dear! Yes I do know what I want. You are right. and i do have A LOT more to think about thank age. It was a simple question, that I just wanted answered. Everyone has brought up very interesting points. Thank you for you input. Sometimes people do need a reality check. I too, as well have a daughter, and I was thinking the EXACT same thing as you do, Hoping. I was just looking at profiles, thought they were interesting, and saw interested in 18-?, and thought to myself.....awwwww hell naw. I was wondering if some men/women felt the same way. To all of you that don't have children, you will understad one day!!!
@hoping :) Thank you dear! Yes I do know what I want. You are right. and i do have A LOT more to think about thank age. It was a simple question, that I just wanted answered. Everyone has brought up very interesting points. Thank you for you input. Sometimes people do need a reality check. I too, as well have a daughter, and I was thinking the EXACT same thing as you do, Hoping. I was just looking at profiles, thought they were interesting, and saw interested in 18-?, and thought to myself.....awwwww hell naw. I was wondering if some men/women felt the same way. To all of you that don't have children, you will understad one day!!!
@Hoping - I sat my age range because I have watched 5 different couples that I personally know who have 20 year age differences. The oldest is 80/60, the next is 75/55 (older just deceased) and the other three when the older (all males) turned 70ish the women ran to divorce court... it seems it was fun for them right up to that point of sickness and health and the prospect of changing their husbands diapers! LOL
I would prefer to have someone fairly close to my age so that we can change each others diapers...
As for my children, I have 4 biological (same mother) and 3 adopted (after my divorce). My children have good judgment which they exercise on a frequent basis. If one of my children chose a mate older than themselves, I would, only when asked, offer my advice. If I'm not asked, I would never open my mouth but instead, offer my children unconditional love and support for their choices.
Of course the same is also true, my kids would not offer their opinon about my dates unless they were asked and regardless of how they felt, they would treat my date with the same kindness and respect they were shown.
As for how I'd feel about them bringing someone home who was substantially older, I suppose I guess it would depend on which daughter is was... they are all unique and have their own needs. If it were my oldest daughter, I'd be fine because she's an old soul. If it were my youngest daughter I'd wonder what she was missing in how I raised her.
The other thing that's important to understand is that these spring/fall relationships are not meant to last. Primarily it's an exchange... the older HE offers access (events, powerful people, activities) that younger men simply can't muster while the younger SHE offers youth, vitality, new views and experiences.
@Hoping - I sat my age range because I have watched 5 different couples that I personally know who have 20 year age differences. The oldest is 80/60, the next is 75/55 (older just deceased) and the other three when the older (all males) turned 70ish the women ran to divorce court... it seems it was fun for them right up to that point of sickness and health and the prospect of changing their husbands diapers! LOL
I would prefer to have someone fairly close to my age so that we can change each others diapers...
As for my children, I have 4 biological (same mother) and 3 adopted (after my divorce). My children have good judgment which they exercise on a frequent basis. If one of my children chose a mate older than themselves, I would, only when asked, offer my advice. If I'm not asked, I would never open my mouth but instead, offer my children unconditional love and support for their choices.
Of course the same is also true, my kids would not offer their opinon about my dates unless they were asked and regardless of how they felt, they would treat my date with the same kindness and respect they were shown.
As for how I'd feel about them bringing someone home who was substantially older, I suppose I guess it would depend on which daughter is was... they are all unique and have their own needs. If it were my oldest daughter, I'd be fine because she's an old soul. If it were my youngest daughter I'd wonder what she was missing in how I raised her.
The other thing that's important to understand is that these spring/fall relationships are not meant to last. Primarily it's an exchange... the older HE offers access (events, powerful people, activities) that younger men simply can't muster while the younger SHE offers youth, vitality, new views and experiences.
My little blonde brain just thinks in "COMMON SENSE" mode mostly... I think ppl try to convolute things which should be relatively SIMPLE!
If you are young enough to have kids... Date ppl young enough to have children.. If you are an old fart and too old to father or mother children, then quit dating kids that could be your kids playmates! PRETTY EASY DEDUCTION! My MIN age is 38... But this would only be knowing he already had his fill of babies and was etsablished enough financially that should something serious develop.. I'm not left helping him pay child support! ;) And should he NOT have children... NO WAY! He has over 10 years to change his mind as my hair continues to grey.. (and other body parts start to shrivel up!! Bwahahaha!!)
RELIGION is IMPORTANT.. Not so much in the "fun stage".. But later can be serious business! CHILDREN are IMPORTANT... That's why one's should only select WHAT THEY SEEK.. and walk away from the CANDY ISLE!!! (cuz if you hold an item for longer than 5 seconds.. you're gonna sleep with him... Um.. I mean... You're gonna buy the candy bar.. YEA! That's what I mean! and too much chocolate makes a Princess chunky-monkey!) Heeheehee~~
HI WINDRIDER... and THANK YOU... :)
My little blonde brain just thinks in "COMMON SENSE" mode mostly... I think ppl try to convolute things which should be relatively SIMPLE!
If you are young enough to have kids... Date ppl young enough to have children.. If you are an old fart and too old to father or mother children, then quit dating kids that could be your kids playmates! PRETTY EASY DEDUCTION! My MIN age is 38... But this would only be knowing he already had his fill of babies and was etsablished enough financially that should something serious develop.. I'm not left helping him pay child support! ;) And should he NOT have children... NO WAY! He has over 10 years to change his mind as my hair continues to grey.. (and other body parts start to shrivel up!! Bwahahaha!!)
RELIGION is IMPORTANT.. Not so much in the "fun stage".. But later can be serious business! CHILDREN are IMPORTANT... That's why one's should only select WHAT THEY SEEK.. and walk away from the CANDY ISLE!!! (cuz if you hold an item for longer than 5 seconds.. you're gonna sleep with him... Um.. I mean... You're gonna buy the candy bar.. YEA! That's what I mean! and too much chocolate makes a Princess chunky-monkey!) Heeheehee~~
I will have to say back in my teen I would drive my parents crazy dating older men not like really old just older ..... Its just what I am attracted to and even to this day I still enjoy the company of a mature older guy then a young immature one my age. I just dont have time for it. xoxo
I will have to say back in my teen I would drive my parents crazy dating older men not like really old just older ..... Its just what I am attracted to and even to this day I still enjoy the company of a mature older guy then a young immature one my age. I just dont have time for it. xoxo
EASYMAN... I just reviewed your profile.. (Nice profile BTW...) But I have a couple of questions in reference to this blog...
1) I see you have a daughter and are an empty nester now.. (which tells me she is 18-23?)
2) I see you place 47 (older than me even) + in age for your match..
If you feel ANY age is appropriate, as age is NOT relative to "maturity." .. (and NOW AND AGAIN.. IT ISN'T! BUT THAT IS RARE.. AND I'VE WORKED EXTENSIVELY WITH ELDERLY!!... "MOST" ARE VERY WISE!!)
A) Why not place 18-99?
and
B) How would you feel if you daughter dated say, a 42 year old man?
My ex and I spoke in detail RE: our 19 YO daughter the other night as I reviewed his profile on another date site...
When I was 17, (lived on my own), I dated a 33 year old man... (He was a womanizer!!.. HELLO!!) If a 33 year old man were "after" my daughter and I caught wind of this... I'd **&&^#@$%^^!!!
My daughter, though she is very mature.. FOR HER AGE.... has NOT had enough LIFE EXPERIENCE for a man to want anything more than a beauty in the bedroom!! Her FATHER felt the same way... In fact, he succumbed to temptation and went out with a 26 year old beautiful young lady WHO ASKED HIM OUT.... and felt "awkward" as it was like "dating someone his SON might wish to date..." Esp.. when they ran into her friends.. and one of her friends ... was "our age!" LOL
Would you really be okay with your daughter.. who is barely an empty nester... coming home and introducing you to a man closer to your age than hers? If so, I want to hear... WHY?
Additionally, WHY would a man pose to date a woman period.. who has not had children and is still farrrrrr in category of child bearing years? (I did not see you mention being grand father yet?) How will a 42 year old man give your daughter children when he already has 3 he pays child support for? and again.. he IS 42?? and been divorced twice??
There is a time when WE, AS LEADING ADULTS, MUST step up and say.. it isn't RIGHT! I would never wreck a young man's life who has never had children by saying.. "Sure, let me rock your world MILF lover..
Instead, I tell them.. (and it happens frequently) "Thank you for the compliment. I am flattered! Keep taking great care of your body. Make good decisions.. and wear a raincoat young man!"
There.. I've expounded on what may / may not be TRINA's thoughts..
TRINA.. WELCOME TO THE BLOGS!
THIS is a topic posed frquently from time to time... And all I can say THROUGH MY EXPERIENCE IS..
Some men are dogs.. and some men are not "mature" enough at older age to think with anything other than their "little head" leaving "little regard" for a young woman's future... They are SELFISH.. by nature...
I reviewed your profile and THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE YOUNG LADY!! :)))))
You are young..... (ER) LOL.. sorry..., with 1 child and plenty young to have more if so desired! YOUR situation to me states..
1) DO I desire more children? or am I done? You have been many places.. due to military and LIFE EXPERIENCE, so you may know the answer.. or you may change your mind! (God knows.. wouldn't be first time any woman has changed her mind! LOL) IF you desire more children.. 28-38.. If not.. then find a man that is DONE with children.... and make darn sure you are as well!
CHILDREN AND RELIGION ARE THE TOP ISSUES FOR DATING.. NOT MONEY.. FOR ONES SEEKING A LIFE MATE WHO ARE "GENUINE!"
2) How old is TOO old.. for a man to be.... should I think I don't want more children NOW,..... but desire more in future should circumstances change? (Your clock has not started.. mine is .. "thrown across room.." like when Sophia from the Golden Girls lost her license!! ICK! LOL)
Think those thoughts over very closely dear... They are farrrr more important than why some old geezer places 18 on his "wish list!" ;)
And EASYMAN.. Please do not think I am picking on you! :) I just want to know from a males perspective who has a daughter.. HOW THEY FEEL when all laid out as I have detailed! I am open minded about this.. and I will listen... BUT... I find it difficult to believe ANY father wants his daughter seeing ANYONE.... (much less a FARRRRrrr.. older man who is just viewing her as a sex object!)
JMHO...
EASYMAN... I just reviewed your profile.. (Nice profile BTW...) But I have a couple of questions in reference to this blog...
1) I see you have a daughter and are an empty nester now.. (which tells me she is 18-23?)
2) I see you place 47 (older than me even) + in age for your match..
If you feel ANY age is appropriate, as age is NOT relative to "maturity." .. (and NOW AND AGAIN.. IT ISN'T! BUT THAT IS RARE.. AND I'VE WORKED EXTENSIVELY WITH ELDERLY!!... "MOST" ARE VERY WISE!!)
A) Why not place 18-99?
and
B) How would you feel if you daughter dated say, a 42 year old man?
My ex and I spoke in detail RE: our 19 YO daughter the other night as I reviewed his profile on another date site...
When I was 17, (lived on my own), I dated a 33 year old man... (He was a womanizer!!.. HELLO!!) If a 33 year old man were "after" my daughter and I caught wind of this... I'd **&&^#@$%^^!!!
My daughter, though she is very mature.. FOR HER AGE.... has NOT had enough LIFE EXPERIENCE for a man to want anything more than a beauty in the bedroom!! Her FATHER felt the same way... In fact, he succumbed to temptation and went out with a 26 year old beautiful young lady WHO ASKED HIM OUT.... and felt "awkward" as it was like "dating someone his SON might wish to date..." Esp.. when they ran into her friends.. and one of her friends ... was "our age!" LOL
Would you really be okay with your daughter.. who is barely an empty nester... coming home and introducing you to a man closer to your age than hers? If so, I want to hear... WHY?
Additionally, WHY would a man pose to date a woman period.. who has not had children and is still farrrrrr in category of child bearing years? (I did not see you mention being grand father yet?) How will a 42 year old man give your daughter children when he already has 3 he pays child support for? and again.. he IS 42?? and been divorced twice??
There is a time when WE, AS LEADING ADULTS, MUST step up and say.. it isn't RIGHT! I would never wreck a young man's life who has never had children by saying.. "Sure, let me rock your world MILF lover..
Instead, I tell them.. (and it happens frequently) "Thank you for the compliment. I am flattered! Keep taking great care of your body. Make good decisions.. and wear a raincoat young man!"
There.. I've expounded on what may / may not be TRINA's thoughts..
TRINA.. WELCOME TO THE BLOGS!
THIS is a topic posed frquently from time to time... And all I can say THROUGH MY EXPERIENCE IS..
Some men are dogs.. and some men are not "mature" enough at older age to think with anything other than their "little head" leaving "little regard" for a young woman's future... They are SELFISH.. by nature...
I reviewed your profile and THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE YOUNG LADY!! :)))))
You are young..... (ER) LOL.. sorry..., with 1 child and plenty young to have more if so desired! YOUR situation to me states..
1) DO I desire more children? or am I done? You have been many places.. due to military and LIFE EXPERIENCE, so you may know the answer.. or you may change your mind! (God knows.. wouldn't be first time any woman has changed her mind! LOL) IF you desire more children.. 28-38.. If not.. then find a man that is DONE with children.... and make darn sure you are as well!
CHILDREN AND RELIGION ARE THE TOP ISSUES FOR DATING.. NOT MONEY.. FOR ONES SEEKING A LIFE MATE WHO ARE "GENUINE!"
2) How old is TOO old.. for a man to be.... should I think I don't want more children NOW,..... but desire more in future should circumstances change? (Your clock has not started.. mine is .. "thrown across room.." like when Sophia from the Golden Girls lost her license!! ICK! LOL)
Think those thoughts over very closely dear... They are farrrr more important than why some old geezer places 18 on his "wish list!" ;)
And EASYMAN.. Please do not think I am picking on you! :) I just want to know from a males perspective who has a daughter.. HOW THEY FEEL when all laid out as I have detailed! I am open minded about this.. and I will listen... BUT... I find it difficult to believe ANY father wants his daughter seeing ANYONE.... (much less a FARRRRrrr.. older man who is just viewing her as a sex object!)
why would a man over the age of 30 want a girl of 18? At that age who wants to settle down? To me any man wanting a female at that age wants a girl to say "yes sir no sir" and that is really pathetic and that to me is no man!
why would a man over the age of 30 want a girl of 18? At that age who wants to settle down? To me any man wanting a female at that age wants a girl to say "yes sir no sir" and that is really pathetic and that to me is no man!
You make a good observation as I think the same thing as well. We all have our preferences for sure, however, I have to wonder about a way older man looking for an 18 year old.
You make a good observation as I think the same thing as well. We all have our preferences for sure, however, I have to wonder about a way older man looking for an 18 year old.
I have seen some 16 year old men and some 65 year old boys. Likewise I have seen some 15 year old women and some 65 year old girls. As much as we'd like to think it is, age is rarely an indication of maturity.
I also think True got it right... most men don't both changing what doesn't matter.
Lastly, I think one should never judge without an explantion. In a relationship that will get more fights started than just about anything and you're judging before you've even met... mind you, we all do it, we all have our reasons for doing it but just be aware that you're doing it and own what ever reason you have for doing it.
I have seen some 16 year old men and some 65 year old boys. Likewise I have seen some 15 year old women and some 65 year old girls. As much as we'd like to think it is, age is rarely an indication of maturity.
I also think True got it right... most men don't both changing what doesn't matter.
Lastly, I think one should never judge without an explantion. In a relationship that will get more fights started than just about anything and you're judging before you've even met... mind you, we all do it, we all have our reasons for doing it but just be aware that you're doing it and own what ever reason you have for doing it.
Hi Trina, Welcome to the blogs. Here is my take on your question. I have been on MM close to 3 mths now and that was one of my questions initially. I have come to the realization It's not for us to understand WHY but just accept the choices made and move on. There could be a wealth of reasons however why burn energy trying figure it out. Whatever the rationale, hopefully it holds validity. Don't limit yourself. Continue to browse. The profiles you read "may" speak volumes in the answers you seek. ** wink** :-) Good luck in your search!!
Hi Trina,
Welcome to the blogs. Here is my take on your question.
I have been on MM close to 3 mths now and that was one of my questions initially.
I have come to the realization It's not for us to understand WHY but just accept the choices made and move on.
There could be a wealth of reasons however why burn energy trying figure it out. Whatever the rationale, hopefully it holds validity.
Don't limit yourself. Continue to browse. The profiles you read "may" speak volumes in the answers you seek.
** wink** :-)
Good luck in your search!!
I think alot of us guys dont take the time to change it, i dont think it hurts to see more profiles, i think what people put in there profile better shows who they are, and what state of mind there in, rather than a age, but with that being said, i have mine set to 20-34. ^_^
I think alot of us guys dont take the time to change it, i dont think it hurts to see more profiles, i think what people put in there profile better shows who they are, and what state of mind there in, rather than a age, but with that being said, i have mine set to 20-34. ^_^
Build your Millionaire dating site / affiliate
