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Posted on Sun, May 12, 2013 12:36

Hello,

Is it just me, or is it because of the femininist movement, that men would rather be the gatherers and not the hunters when it comes to dating? Of course women are shy too, and you are not going to get the person of your dreams just by sitting around in you house all day. Which reminds me of another question. I've tried to meet people out side of online dating in the forms of volunteering and hobbies. Only to find out that there are more women than men. The only men that do those sorts of things are marrued and have their eives drag them to sovial events.

Online dating is not the only way to meet people.  There's still the old fashion in person contacts, which is the tried and true method dince the beginning of time.

Plus, not all women like meeting men in bars. I know that there are also men that do mot like the var scene as well.

I thought of writing this because I haven't been getting much response online. And if I do, most men just want to text me and not meet with me in person.  I have moved to a new city last September and I still haven't met anyone (Men ir women) who is willing to show me the hottest places in town (Like a coffee shop).

Of course, I can take the initiative and search for men myself. But wouldn't that make me look too needy?

 

 



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Posted on Mon, Jun 10, 2013 19:44

Aw Hope – you are a sweetie.

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Sun, Jun 09, 2013 07:38

RMAC---

 

:( 

 

Though I understand how a woman might feel "in competition with a passed wife," this makes me sad... 

 

I would hope one day you find a woman who accepts that you were not divorced and never fell out of love, and you are bright enough, lovable enough and loyal enough to love another... 

 

How do I know this? 

 

Cause I've read your heart the past 2 years... 

 

May you find another woman secure enough in WHO SHE IS.. to be secure enough with your past...

 

I would have no issue with a man who wore his passed wife's ring in his other finger.. as long as he didn't make me feel he was still haunted by her.. 

 

Divorced and widowed are like comparing carnivore and herbivore.. 

 

Not even on the same menu.. Shame some women fail to see this... :( 

 

BEST WISHES TO YOU DARLIN!! 



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Posted on Sun, Jun 09, 2013 07:00

Quoting Diana3316:

Szeman~

I highly recommend going out alone.  If the guy is shy, you are definitely more approachable alone...especially if you flash that dazzling smile freely.  Coffee shops are super.  Sit yourself down with a book and a coffee and see who wanders in---not a romance book; something a guy might be willing to talk about if he asks you what you are reading.  Electronic stores are also great places to meet a guy.  Do you have a Mac store in your town?  You can ask advice about buying a computer.  

 

I met this adorable man in the wild bird store a few weeks ago.  Mmm...mmmm....unfortunately married.  Never the less, Saturday mornings are the time when men are out and about running errands.

 

Leave the gf for another time.  She'll just inhibit your chances.

 

PS:  Never wear any rings!  Men can't tell the difference between right and left.  All they can see is a ring.  *wink*  :))



I can tell right from left.  What I cannot tell is if she is from a country that wears wedding rings on the other side.  I only learned about that when my wife died and I wore my wedding band on the right side in memory.  When I started dating it bothered my dates.  They did not want a wedding band on me for any reason.  Some women went nuts trying to figure out where I was from.  They never asked the direct question. 

 

I took it off after about three years. 

 

 

RMac

 



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Hoping4Love2000
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Posted on Tue, Jun 04, 2013 21:37

Quoting Diana3316:

Szeman~

I highly recommend going out alone.  If the guy is shy, you are definitely more approachable alone...especially if you flash that dazzling smile freely.  Coffee shops are super.  Sit yourself down with a book and a coffee and see who wanders in---not a romance book; something a guy might be willing to talk about if he asks you what you are reading.  Electronic stores are also great places to meet a guy.  Do you have a Mac store in your town?  You can ask advice about buying a computer.  

 

I met this adorable man in the wild bird store a few weeks ago.  Mmm...mmmm....unfortunately married.  Never the less, Saturday mornings are the time when men are out and about running errands.

 

Leave the gf for another time.  She'll just inhibit your chances.

 

PS:  Never wear any rings!  Men can't tell the difference between right and left.  All they can see is a ring.  *wink*  :))



EXCELLENT ADVICE LADY DI!!! 



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Posted on Mon, Jun 03, 2013 20:25

Szeman~

I highly recommend going out alone.  If the guy is shy, you are definitely more approachable alone...especially if you flash that dazzling smile freely.  Coffee shops are super.  Sit yourself down with a book and a coffee and see who wanders in---not a romance book; something a guy might be willing to talk about if he asks you what you are reading.  Electronic stores are also great places to meet a guy.  Do you have a Mac store in your town?  You can ask advice about buying a computer.  

 

I met this adorable man in the wild bird store a few weeks ago.  Mmm...mmmm....unfortunately married.  Never the less, Saturday mornings are the time when men are out and about running errands.

 

Leave the gf for another time.  She'll just inhibit your chances.

 

PS:  Never wear any rings!  Men can't tell the difference between right and left.  All they can see is a ring.  *wink*  :))



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Posted on Mon, Jun 03, 2013 09:58

Why not take the initiative?  Women do it all the time, in real life, when they want someone to notice them, talk to them, ask them out for an initial date.  Sometimes it can be pretty blatant.  Sometimes they will go so far as to abruptly cut off some other male and walk over and start a conversation directly with the one they are after to notice them.

 

Indications of interest are not the same as asking for a date.  Close maybe, but not the same.  Men can be pretty oblivious.  Sometimes they only figure it out after the fact.  “You know, I think that pretty lady was hitting on me?  Wish I had caught on then.”

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Wed, May 22, 2013 09:31

HI SZEMAN--

 

I've been meaning to WELCOME you to the blogs... 

 

I understand your dilemma entirely! It is difficult to know how to act due to the changes in society. 

 

I personally am not one to approach a man romantically. But many women do and are successful!

 

My advice?

 

Do what makes YOU comfortable. If it feels right, go for it. If it makes you uneasy, don't. 

 

I'm not comfortable approaching men, but I also prefer men who are more aggressive, so it does not suit MY NEEDS. 

 

But, if it suits yours, GO FOR IT! There appear to be many men who enjoy a woman approaching them. 

 

BEST WISHES! And WELCOME again to the blogs!! 



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Posted on Wed, May 22, 2013 03:29

Quoting rmac22:

 

Quoting szeman: 

 

 

 

“Of course, I can take the initiative and search for men myself. But wouldn't that make me look too needy? “

 

 

 

Nope, on the internet you pretty much have to.  Searching, finding, and indicating interest is fine.  Beyond that?

 



LOL  I am needy that's why I search. :-)



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Posted on Fri, May 17, 2013 08:23

 

Quoting szeman: 

 

 

 

“Of course, I can take the initiative and search for men myself. But wouldn't that make me look too needy? “

 

 

 

Nope, on the internet you pretty much have to.  Searching, finding, and indicating interest is fine.  Beyond that?

 



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