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Posted on Fri, Jul 26, 2013 10:30

1. The first and easy answer is choose not to be. No one can really offend or insult you unless you let them. Even if that is their desire the best way to handle is to be strong enough to ignore.

 

2. Often times people look for reasons to be offended. It's a weak position to put oneself in and only lends to drama and hurt feelings and back and forth childishness. Think about it; What is the upside?

 

3. Don't confuse disagreement with insults. They usually aren't meant to be, but in laying out an opinion can be perceived as such if the offendee is overly sensitive.

 

4. Don't be over sensitive unless you desire to be easily offended. In which case disregard the above and enjoy the drama so similar to 4th grade recess. See an example of 3. Cute, huh?

 

In summary those that intend to offend can be easily handled by ignoring them and easily empowered by any negative reaction. It is all in the hands of the offendee. Those who don't mean to offend will not take kindly to those who assume it was their goal.



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Posted on Tue, Jul 30, 2013 19:15

Quoting RealtorLulu:

How funny (or sad)! Speed has said what I say to my 11 year old grandson when he complains about his older sister picking on him. When a person, young or old, picks on another, they are looking for a reaction. If ignored, they move on to the next victim.

 

This whole thing seems extremely childish to me. I love all my friends on MM but will not take part in the name calling and bashing. There is a lot of life to be lived and I won't waste it this way.

 

I miss the fun blogs we were all enjoying a few months ago. Can't we all just get along?



Hi Lovely Lulu,

 

Thanks for not adding fuel to the existing inferno [which I undoubtedly became a part of at its later stage]!! It takes a lot to get me offended but I will speak my mind if it becomes necessary. It would be nice for us to have the fun blog we all used to enjoy a few months back; but for some reason, from time to time, we always have these bust-ups every now and again which always, surely subsides. I prefer the fun, humorous blogs any day....and I guess we can welcome ourselves back to the humour than the strife - like I said before, there is enough strife in the real world - let's be nice to each other. I think the coast is clear now, hopefully......

 

Liv.



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Posted on Tue, Jul 30, 2013 06:05

Speed, could you let us know to whom you are responding?  I can't figure out who said the stuff you are objecting to, and I'd really like to know. 

 

There are couple threads about these issues. It seems is quite common here as it is in the world. Look at the judgemental thread on the next page as an example. I think the sex is awesome is another one also on the next page.



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Posted on Mon, Jul 29, 2013 21:04

Quoting RealtorLulu:

How funny (or sad)! Speed has said what I say to my 11 year old grandson when he complains about his older sister picking on him. When a person, young or old, picks on another, they are looking for a reaction. If ignored, they move on to the next victim.

 

This whole thing seems extremely childish to me. I love all my friends on MM but will not take part in the name calling and bashing. There is a lot of life to be lived and I won't waste it this way.

 

I miss the fun blogs we were all enjoying a few months ago. Can't we all just get along?



Little LULU!! 

 

I cannot believe you have an 11 YO grandson... And then to read, he's YOUNGER than his sister?? 

How many grand-babies do you have? 

 

I told you to start LITTLE LULU'S LAUGHTER LANE and post a joke a day. 

 

Want to hear something cute?

 

I have never, ever, in my "whole entire life" known a "Lulu." (But I did read the comic....)

 

Well, there is a commercial that comes on often about buying a car... Drive Time? I'm not certain.. 

BUT--- in this commercial, the family is fighting over what car to get... The teenage girl wants one car, the younger brother isn't allowed to vote, CUZ HE SHAVED THE CAT LAST WEEK!! (They show the cat's handy work!) And then---

They show LITTLE LULU... 

 

She is so adorable, the curly hair like you have in one of your pics--- and she only wants 

"2 alligators who love each other!" 

 

Every time I see that commercial, I think of you!



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Posted on Mon, Jul 29, 2013 19:19

Quoting GoodGirlinDallas:

Well put.  It's so exhausting dealing with people who are constantly "looking" to be offended by every word.  People need to lighten up a bit.  =D   JMHO



Ditto, ditto, ditto.

I'm a little late with this, I know, but I've been absent for a while.

Definitely most of us are tired of dealing with people who are constantly "looking" to be offended by every word. 

Maybe they'll just go away.  You think?  [NOT!!! They love to be offended.  Maybe we should just all ignore them.  LOLOLOLOL]



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Posted on Mon, Jul 29, 2013 19:16

Quoting SpeedDallas:

I don't follow the whole, "I don't like your opinion on"my" blog so I'll delete it", bit. Isn't that the whole point of a blog to see how other's react to our views? Maybe not. Is it supposed to be a fan club? So many folks are staring, directing and producing in their own litle movies of life and are not interested in, and actually have disdain for any opposing views. That's when deletion or, as noted below, insults ensue as is easier than real debate or dare I suggest learning from others. I term it the Parishiltonization of society. THAT'S HOT. It may work for for her, or not for her, but few are born with 20 million in a trust, received at 21 or 18, and can get away with such behavior.



Speed, could you let us know to whom you are responding?  I can't figure out who said the stuff you are objecting to, and I'd really like to know. 

 

And, BTW, welcome to the Blogs.  You may have been here for a while--but I've been absent, so tonight is the first time I've seen you.  You add a "good voice" for sure.

 

Pat



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Posted on Mon, Jul 29, 2013 12:14

How funny (or sad)! Speed has said what I say to my 11 year old grandson when he complains about his older sister picking on him. When a person, young or old, picks on another, they are looking for a reaction. If ignored, they move on to the next victim.

 

This whole thing seems extremely childish to me. I love all my friends on MM but will not take part in the name calling and bashing. There is a lot of life to be lived and I won't waste it this way.

 

I miss the fun blogs we were all enjoying a few months ago. Can't we all just get along?



Lulu in Dallas

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Posted on Sun, Jul 28, 2013 13:54

Quoting SpeedDallas:

I don't follow the whole, "I don't like your opinion on"my" blog so I'll delete it", bit. Isn't that the whole point of a blog to see how other's react to our views? Maybe not. Is it supposed to be a fan club? So many folks are staring, directing and producing in their own litle movies of life and are not interested in, and actually have disdain for any opposing views. That's when deletion or, as noted below, insults ensue as is easier than real debate or dare I suggest learning from others. I term it the Parishiltonization of society. THAT'S HOT. It may work for for her, or not for her, but few are born with 20 million in a trust, received at 21 or 18, and can get away with such behavior.


Speed - You hit the nail on the head once again. I do not endorse censorship, to me it shows the individual's strength of character or lack of it thereof. Seriously when you script, star, direct and produce (I like the way you put it) the little movies of your life and make everyone else a spectator that can not have an input or an opposing view, I think that movie will be very boring. But it is one's right to do as they please, however boring or small-minded it is. When it happens and we are the victim of the censorship or blocking, I think the way we handle it is even more important. Just ignore it. I wouldn't give anyone who blocks me the satisfaction that I am offended or that he/she is getting to me, because frankly, I wouldn't care less!

 

Personally, it takes a lot to offend me - in fact I have such thick skin that people close to me often wonder how I can be so calm and unmoved in situations that get most people breaking out and drenched in sweat - but when I look back on my life experiences, it is pretty clear to me where and how I got my thick skin but that is a completely different story for another day.

 

The key though, is to not offend others - at least not deliberately. I honestly have an issue with people who seek out others and abuse them for reasons best known to them! Although the spectrum of what we each consider offensive may vary widely, there is a general fine line we all recognise as offensive individually and collectively and once that line has been crossed, I have serious issues with it and I will always speak out against it wherever I see it, whether it be directed at me or especially even more if it is directed at someone else less able to defend themselves - simply because it is just not right. 

 

Liv.



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Posted on Sun, Jul 28, 2013 04:24

I don't follow the whole, "I don't like your opinion on"my" blog so I'll delete it", bit. Isn't that the whole point of a blog to see how other's react to our views? Maybe not. Is it supposed to be a fan club? So many folks are staring, directing and producing in their own litle movies of life and are not interested in, and actually have disdain for any opposing views. That's when deletion or, as noted below, insults ensue as is easier than real debate or dare I suggest learning from others. I term it the Parishiltonization of society. THAT'S HOT. It may work for for her, or not for her, but few are born with 20 million in a trust, received at 21 or 18, and can get away with such behavior.



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Posted on Fri, Jul 26, 2013 14:12

SO TRUE SPEED! 

 

Oddly, I had posted a blog earlier that should be showing soon, called.. 

 

I'M OFFENDED!!

I must admit, you said it wayyyyy nicer than I did....

Hope I am not censored!! That would be very offensive! ;)

 

In all seriousness, some people are very sensitive, and others "set themselves up" for no necessary reason other than showing their lack of social ineptitude and immaturity... 

 

You said it very well... 

 

Thank you~~ 



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Posted on Fri, Jul 26, 2013 14:03

Well said Speed..........I am not offended by anything you said...lol



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Posted on Fri, Jul 26, 2013 12:01

Very nicely said.  In contract negotiations I sit quietly, ussually dissmissed as the "legs in a skirt in the room" as I read those engaging in strategy.  When insults are used typically the logic ran it's course and it's a distraction from the loss of counter arguements that preceeded the comments.  Being that I read Body Language it's commical to see the signals of vulnerability crackle like the sound of lighting before insults strike.  It's had to get upset when you see it as a system of reactions and most of us have a limited repertoire of coping responses and most have offensive behavior as a major defensive response.  Knowing it's mechanical can take the sting out of interaction.  Ooouch!



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