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Posted on Fri, Jun 09, 2006 09:45

Love is not deserved ..((Love is.)) When we love another truly , He/ she does not have to "measure up. " We accept and love him as he is...This is the kind of love which Paul says bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things. When we know we are loved in this way..then and only then, can we dare throw our masks into the corner and reveal ourselves. Only in such an atmosphere of love and acceptance can real trust, intimacy and openness flourish and grow. My question is when we say we love do we truly love? Are we really open to true unselfish love..are our hearts truly open and willing to accept a possible lifetime mate at face value...are we willing to accept them for whom they truly are...with all their flaws , faults ,fears and baggage (I hate this word ) and we all carry baggage...if you have a history a past you have baggage...we all have been disappointed we all have been hurt..we all have fears... we all are damaged...are we truly open to opportunities to meeting our possible life partner ...and if they are standing right there in front of us..do they really have a heart beat of a chance....can we see past the physical or what we have established as being acceptable in not only our eyes but in societies eyes.....can we truly be open to a non perfect person ... for none of us are perfect...are we truly willing to accept them for whom they are not expecting change or entertaining the thought that we can change them....or are we simply trying to fill " Our Personal Wish List " Could it possibly be that our expectations wants needs desires are paramount..can anyone truly " measure up " Are we looking for that sometimes almost too elusive perfect "whole package."...Is this why there are so many souls out there wondering and asking why can't I meet anyone ...why is it so difficult to meet " the one...." Is this why there are so many misrepresentations of whom we actually are is this why we misrepresent ...our age our financial status ....our height we will even lie about if we smoke ..is this reason we do this ...that we only want to be accepted by others...Just where is the love that we are all longing for.....that true "unconditional " love everyone speaks of dreams of wants needs and desires....I ask myself why aren't there more stories of successful pairings... why are so many of us finding that we are still alone.....and some of us are even feeling that they are without hope....or are now losing hope and faith that they will ever find anyone......how sad....how tragic this is.. Perhaps all of us should reach deep down inside and ask why...could it possibly be that we just expect too much? something to think about.....

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Posted on Mon, Jan 22, 2007 08:28

Morning Angel..you are such a sweet heart...thank you so much for your sweet kindness.... I have with drawn from blogging for many reasons..but have managed to check in occasionally to see if the issues here have taken a turn for the positive..so many good people have dropped out...sad... Its good to see that you among several others have stayed true and strong... Happy New Year... and as always thank you for posting... Erica Anne@}-----


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Posted on Fri, Jan 19, 2007 21:25

Some needed to hear this Erica Anne. You always amaze me with your words of wisdom and insight.


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Posted on Mon, Nov 06, 2006 17:00

hi Birthday boy...how are you doing..do you feel any wiser..Dale that book sound very interesting and helpful...I am growing to understand why you are so wonderful... erica anne @)-------------


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Posted on Sat, Oct 28, 2006 03:07

Hi Erica, Just dropped by today, and came across this blog. All I can say is, " You are a remarkable lady, As you "do get it!" The problems come, when people believe yet they lose faith to take action to what they believe for FEAR ruling that battle within themselves. The realizations that you perceive and share are a true insight into many aspects of finding love with others. It is so easy to feel and know these things within ourselves but to buy it in our own lives without fear of failing often keeps one from walking in that faith. I guess many believe as you.. But we make it hard to sell it to ourselves with all those fears we have all surrounded ourselves with from past experiences. Which often drives our decisions in life. It won't be long and you will be able to write that book idea that I shared with you looking into your own life as well as others. As You get the jest of the title.......You see it does apply to others as well as myself, just in different yet the same ways.. Your friend, Jess p.s. I guess you get to keep that diary.....lol


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Posted on Sun, Aug 06, 2006 16:44

September..there is another saying.." If you can say how much you love..then it is not enough" mmmm I may have to check that quote..giggle... Thank ou for your wisdom... Erica Anne@}-----


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Posted on Wed, Jun 21, 2006 16:18

Shane, You seem to have something positive to interject in most of your blogs. I appreciate your positive note here. This site does have its pitfalls..but as we both have agreed it also has its angels...((smile)) There are a lot of good people here filled with good will. We can't let a few spoil it for the rest of us. So lets not! Erica Anne


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Posted on Mon, Jun 12, 2006 05:43

Victor..Thank you for your kind words...(blush). Yes, I love to sail ... that is where I was last weekend. Lake Como ? No ..I have never had the pleasure.... Isn't that were George Clooney has a place? It is in Italy..Right? I have heard it is beautiful...as you said Who knows what dreams may come true... thank you for posting... Erica Anne@)------------


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Posted on Sun, Jun 11, 2006 17:30

Angel... You are too funny...giggle...wink Erica Anne


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Posted on Sun, Jun 11, 2006 09:01

Will..... You stated in your post to me...that what you wrote about love was a " fairy tale" definition....that in reality you don't really believe that you will experience this....on reading this I felt a tugging at my heart...I find this so sad...you are obviously not the only one who feels this way...I mean just here on this site one can read and sense the great frustration that we are all experiencing. I ask myself why this kind of love has to be a dream wished..a desire that is unrealized but only hoped for....I mean think about it...Its is true we are all sick puppies...we are all damaged...we are all suffering from past hurts and disappointments.....We all want unconditional love...we talk about it ..we dream about it and we long for it....this is how we love our children...this is why you are willing to sacrifice all and lay your life down for your son we are all willing to do this for our children... ......but with our mates or potential mates we may not feel so generous.......because with our mate or our potential mate or partners in life our love is conditional..... there are limits... We are damaged people..( wounded creatures ) .and we are full of fear..and fear is a destroyer...it kills love... the very young love openly and easily because they are not jaded...by dashed hopes...disappointments and broken hearts Their souls are innocent ones...allowing them to trust and believe....and the very old..hold the knowledge that our time is precious and limited here...that the grass is not all ways greener .. they have learned to look within the heart....they have learned to see past the physical they have learned .that letting go of fear..and putting yourself out there is the only way to love and to receive love...I believe loving another human being is as uncomplicated and as natural..as the sun rising every morning...but we as humans have made it complicated..by our self absorbed ways..we have let fear take hold .....We are here to love and be loved...this is the meaning to our existence....We need to learn to love with unselfish hearts...we need to love for the sake of loving and being loved...we have all gone through some painful and hurtful situations...we need to learn to put them behind us..our attitude is everything...we let self pity control our lives...we need to shake this off stay hopeful..be aggressive...and reach for the stars...for the love we desire...we have to be willing to give unconditionally to love unconditionally..to love without fear or expectation...I believe this is when love we desire want and long for will come to us. We have to believe when one door closes another door will open for us....Trust in God...he is in control...we need to have a vision of what we want ...we need to get up with hope in our hearts and a good healthy positive attitude...we need to not let the past dictate our future....hope is the anchor of our soul..the best is yet to come....so many have lost faith...we have become negative and without hope....we need to give this gift back to our selves...we need to get up every morning put a smile on our face and press forward...a positive attitude brings positive results...and an open loving heart will open the door for that love we desire to come into our lives....our dreams have to be greater than the memory of our past....we must not allow our past our hurts and our painful memories to push down our dreams.. we have to let go of these..it is the only way to a truly loving heart....we have to be willing to take a risk...so many people will not move forward in life ..because of past hurts and disappointment... We will sabotage the love that may stand before us..because of our fears and our past hurts.... I have been guilty of this...too many times....Our dreams have to be bigger than our past pain...we have to let go of what did not work out...what has hurt us... its over and done with...we need to move on...with love faith and hope in our hearts..expect good things and good things will happen...not just in love..but with all things for all things are possible......our happiest days are ahead of us...We must believe this....Its our choice......wink..... Thank you Will for sharing your open and honest post... God Bless Erica Anne Erica @)----------


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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2006 07:02

Hello angel girl.. I understand where you are coming from..I own my own home too..I enjoy a comfortable lifestyle..my last child will be out in the Fall...I have felt safe in my world...No one can hurt me..I feel I have everything...I am happy. I do not need to date or have a man to validate my existence. But I do want more and if we want more we simply must open the door to our hearts for this to happen...step out on the edge be willing to take a risk...this can be a very scary thing to do...even so it is necessary...change can be good...there is a big wide world out there..there is a lot of good people and there are great adventures...it is all about what we want what we are willing to risk ..Its about living not just existing...Its about love and being loved...It is all about how we perceive life. Be excited ..anticipate each new day and all the little surprises it may bring...it is not always going to be good..but there is always something to learn..and we can grow..become more from our adversities and disappointments...your young and your beautiful angelgirl..don't limit yourself..the world can be your oyster...wink..I know...I was just like you..I have taken the leap over and over again..I do not want to be an old woman sitting in my rocking chair one day..filled with nothing but regrets...and what ifs ....little story here..I was at Daddy's ranch one day..a beautiful place in New Mexico..we always set out under this huge Gazebo by the pool...one day Granny came through on the way back from Ruiodoso to her home in Lubbock...she always stopped at my Dad's place on the way..Granny is the matriarch of the family..full of life passion and always has a twinkle in her eye..she is a grand lady..beautiful..and an adventuress...anyway...it was after my grandfather passed...Granny and my Grandfather were together for years...he passed not too long ago..they had a beautiful loving relationship...Granny was always a beautiful woman filled with life..and passion..she too was adventuress..a risk taker...everyone thought after my grand father's death she would just wilt away to nothing..any way she comes floating in... in all her glory...sets down next to me...constantly chattering..giggle..I had not seen her for a while I asked her..Granny so what have you been doing with your self these days..with a wink and a twinkle in her eye she nudged me with her elbow and answered ." Baby..you know me...I never let the grass grow under my feet..." the contrast to this is my other grandmother...I have had a pretty interesting life...thank you God.. I have always been out there.......so to speak...never could quite color within the lines....my grandmother pulled me aside one day..told me a story it was a very sad one....long story short..her point was that she always admired me..because I lived life..she told me to never lose that passion because you do not want to end up an old woman filled with regrets ..and what ifs....So at a very young age..I have chosen to live my life. as I do now...And .change is a part of this life..their will be more good things to come and quite possibly some not so good ones as well.....the important thing is that I do not regret one moment..and will always look forward to the next chapter of my life...I choose to be like my granny.. " And there is no way under heaven.....that I am gonna let that grass grow under my feet..." wink.... Take care.. Erica Anne Erica @)----------


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