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Posted on Sat, Nov 02, 2013 08:18

 

Just a rambling from a man's point of view.  Too often I hear how because of the last relationship a woman is going to take it slow and really examine every man she meets because of how her last relationship(s) ended.  She says they were such a whirlwind of emotions and look how it ended.  Growing love under the microscope..  looking for any hint of what might be a problem insures one thing..   you find a problem.  Please don't start looking for a relationship until you're ready to be completely open to a new relationship..   and ready to fall head over heels.  Just one man's opinion..

 

Leave it at the door

 

Leave it at the door

Drop it on the floor

Don’t want to hear it any more

I know he was a bore

But don’t bring it here anymore

 

You see, I’m someone new

I didn’t do that to you

That’s something you must get thru

If we’re to start anew

 

But how can you restart

When you hide your heart

The reasons you two are apart

Keeps us from our start

 

Make the past the past

I want a relationship that lasts

But fighting thru your past issues

Isn’t what I want when I kiss you



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Posted on Thu, Nov 07, 2013 02:45

Quoting Dakota35:

I travel lite, so I have no "baggage"...but those darn "issues" weigh a ton.



DAK - Even with too young kids, I travel light too!!! No pun intended, but I have been told by some that having children is an automatic 'no no' [baggage] for some men! LOL, go figure! Who cares? But I agree those darn 'issues' weigh a tonne, LOL!

 

Liv.



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Posted on Wed, Nov 06, 2013 09:07

Quoting Livnlov:

Completely agree with you. What SMax is describing is the extreme. I wouldn't even call that baggage - that is 'issues'. And more deep seated than you'll like to consider. However, do you not prefer a woman who has learnt her lesson and is better for it and therefore taking her time to not repeat her past mistakes, to one who never seems to learn and jumps from one failed relationship with the same profile of guys to the other? I have a problem with people who do not seem to learn from their mistakes. I think it is in the way you want to view it that you will consider it to either be savvy/circumspect, or growing love under the microscope as you put it. You can't grow anything under the microscope - we all know that. And if you have found women who did that - fault-finding, yes they will find fault which goes back to the issue of baggage - there's no perfect guy or girl out there - so I beg to differ that such fault-finding missions are not baggages, those are 'issues' only this person can resolve for herself. Until then, finding and nuturing love will be near impossible.

 

Liv.



I travel lite, so I have no "baggage"...but those darn "issues" weigh a ton.



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Posted on Tue, Nov 05, 2013 05:33

Quoting 90210dallas:

the only people who dont have baggage/failed relationships are still in elementary school.



Completely agree with you. What SMax is describing is the extreme. I wouldn't even call that baggage - that is 'issues'. And more deep seated than you'll like to consider. However, do you not prefer a woman who has learnt her lesson and is better for it and therefore taking her time to not repeat her past mistakes, to one who never seems to learn and jumps from one failed relationship with the same profile of guys to the other? I have a problem with people who do not seem to learn from their mistakes. I think it is in the way you want to view it that you will consider it to either be savvy/circumspect, or growing love under the microscope as you put it. You can't grow anything under the microscope - we all know that. And if you have found women who did that - fault-finding, yes they will find fault which goes back to the issue of baggage - there's no perfect guy or girl out there - so I beg to differ that such fault-finding missions are not baggages, those are 'issues' only this person can resolve for herself. Until then, finding and nuturing love will be near impossible.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Mon, Nov 04, 2013 09:11

the only people who dont have baggage/failed relationships are still in elementary school.



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Posted on Sun, Nov 03, 2013 20:07

It's a little ditty about how men and women suffer because the hurts from the last relationship are still fresh in their dates mind and they want to be soo careful with us not to make the same one again that they will try to find problems.  I just am asking for people to be completely past their last relationship to be open to a new one..  leave the baggage at the door when we go out.. or when we come in/.



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Posted on Sun, Nov 03, 2013 17:38

Smax, stop complaining...if you are even getting a date and having to listen to all that stuff...you are doing better than me.  :-) 

 

On a serious note, I really don't mind listening to a woman tell about her past relationship(s), as it helps me understand her and what she has been through.  And for her, it is part of the healing process.  I'm big on communication, so I would hope she would do the same.  Everything she shares with you, and you with her, brings you a little closer.



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Posted on Sun, Nov 03, 2013 16:59

Quoting rmac22:

smax -- we men don't have that problem, do we?  : - )

 

Diana -- I really like that picture, sans horns of course.

 

dreammadame -- I concur. 

 

 

RMac

 

 

 



Ohhhhh....RMac!!  Good to see you and thank you for the comment.  I may have scared a few little children, but they took the candy anyway.  lolol  We all had fun!



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Posted on Sun, Nov 03, 2013 11:00

 

For women and men, kowing what the hints are assures less heart ache if you are looking for a mature steady relationship. Most women already know what type of relationship they want to be in. Some women need some reassurance of who you are. That may be why the subject of an old relationship came up. She may look at you as a possible protector. She needs assurance not just through words but especially through actions. It's not that you may not be a great guy but there are alot of lying jerks out there who spoil it for the good guys. She has been hurt. Don't fault her for that. Once a woman realizes that you are not one of 'them' she will tend to relax and open up to you much more. Just a little female input from girlfriends:)

And yes, a relationship should never start until you are ready to be in a new one.



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Posted on Sun, Nov 03, 2013 10:29

smax -- we men don't have that problem, do we?  : - )

 

Diana -- I really like that picture, sans horns of course.

 

dreammadame -- I concur. 

 

 

RMac

 

 

 



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Posted on Sat, Nov 02, 2013 20:57

I think, it's wise.

 



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Posted on Sat, Nov 02, 2013 17:43

You are so clever Smax!!  I really enjoy that one.  :))



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