I have been reading the Fifty Shades of Grey series of books, and I have to say that I have never read something like that before. For those who don't know about the books, is a series of erotic novels. It involves sadomasochism. After reading the books, I started to think, how far I would go for somebody I love. How much physical pain and humiliation would you be able to stand in the name of love? Would you let somebody that you love, hit you with a cane and leave bruises all over your body because it arouses them? Let's say that you meet somebody, really like the person, go out a couple of times, feel like it could work out. What would you do if when you became intimate, you find out that that person has a dark side? Wants to do things that you never imagine posible....Will you run and never come back?, or will you stay and try?
I have been reading the Fifty Shades of Grey series of books, and I have to say that I have never read something like that before.
For those who don't know about the books, is a series of erotic novels. It involves sadomasochism. After reading the books, I started to think, how far I would go for somebody I love.
How much physical pain and humiliation would you be able to stand in the name of love?
Would you let somebody that you love, hit you with a cane and leave bruises all over your body because it arouses them?
Let's say that you meet somebody, really like the person, go out a couple of times, feel like it could work out. What would you do if when you became intimate, you find out that that person has a dark side? Wants to do things that you never imagine posible....Will you run and never come back?, or will you stay and try?
Yes and i have! I agree with Diana that for the most part these are unacted fantasies that few act upon. I have been very surprised to be with men who talk alot about trying these things but falter when the time comes to actually do it. It is very difficult for some people who trust their partner completely and say give up careers not to fall into a mental control trap. Part of surviving the financial detriment of leaving such a relationship means to become more submissive and compliant.
Yes and i have!
I agree with Diana that for the most part these are unacted fantasies that few act upon.
I have been very surprised to be with men who talk alot about trying these things but falter when the time comes to actually do it.
It is very difficult for some people who trust their partner completely and say give up careers not to fall into a mental control trap. Part of surviving the financial detriment of leaving such a relationship means to become more submissive and compliant.
Hmmm….interesting.It seems to me that there are many, many books which have been written in the world.Some are well written, some are not; some offer knowledge, some are strictly for entertainment; some are pleasant, some are offensive.I think erotica falls in the entertainment category.It provides an opportunity for the reader to enter into a fantasy world that they are not likely to experience in real life.Similarly many readers enjoy sci-fi, Wild West stories, war novels, murder mysteries, vampire stories, romance novels, playboy magazine etc, etc.Although some may play around the edges with certain activities, I think few ever really venture into hard core sadomasochistic activities.I think in a lot of instances, the fantasy is better than the reality.Erotica is just another form of entertainment, which can give your mind something to think about.
But in some cases, there may also be a lesson to be learned about the consequences of a toxic relationship and how one can become mentally controlled by another.Perhaps in some cases, reading such a novel may teach a young woman what can happen to her and to AVOID a potentially dangerous situation. Knowledge is never a bad thing. It's usually ignorance that facilitates bad choices.
Hmmm….interesting.It seems to me that there are many, many books which have been written in the world.Some are well written, some are not; some offer knowledge, some are strictly for entertainment; some are pleasant, some are offensive.I think erotica falls in the entertainment category.It provides an opportunity for the reader to enter into a fantasy world that they are not likely to experience in real life.Similarly many readers enjoy sci-fi, Wild West stories, war novels, murder mysteries, vampire stories, romance novels, playboy magazine etc, etc.Although some may play around the edges with certain activities, I think few ever really venture into hard core sadomasochistic activities.I think in a lot of instances, the fantasy is better than the reality.Erotica is just another form of entertainment, which can give your mind something to think about.
But in some cases, there may also be a lesson to be learned about the consequences of a toxic relationship and how one can become mentally controlled by another.Perhaps in some cases, reading such a novel may teach a young woman what can happen to her and to AVOID a potentially dangerous situation. Knowledge is never a bad thing. It's usually ignorance that facilitates bad choices.
Thanks for all the comments! I know is a touchy subject, that is why I posted. I did not know what the book was about, until a read a couple of chapters.It really surprise me, but like I said, it just make you wonder, it does not mean, that I will just try something like that just to see if I can stand it. I think I would never put myself in a situation to feel humiliated or physical hurt. Also, I don't believe in categorizations, I have learnt long ago, that because somebody looks a certain way , dress, talk or go watch a Jackass movie, does not mean he/she should be categorized as a certain kind of person because some of his/her taste is different than what is acceptable. What makes a good , fun , likeble person is the whole content, not just one aspect of their personality.
What about out of your confort zone?, it also touches what a lot of women Im sure go through a lot of times. How far out of your confort zone would you let yourself go if the other person is really confortable with his/her sexually and your are not....
Thanks for all the comments!
I know is a touchy subject, that is why I posted.
I did not know what the book was about, until a read a couple of chapters.It really surprise me, but like I said, it just make you wonder, it does not mean, that I will just try something like that just to see if I can stand it. I think I would never put myself in a situation to feel humiliated or physical hurt.
Also, I don't believe in categorizations, I have learnt long ago, that because somebody looks a certain way , dress, talk or go watch a Jackass movie, does not mean he/she should be categorized as a certain kind of person because some of his/her taste is different than what is acceptable. What makes a good , fun , likeble person is the whole content, not just one aspect of their personality.
What about out of your confort zone?, it also touches what a lot of women Im sure go through a lot of times. How far out of your confort zone would you let yourself go if the other person is really confortable with his/her sexually and your are not....
Amen Pat! I refuse to read these books. Having come out of a long-term abusive relationship, I see absolutely no appeal, whatsoever. My situation was much less abusive than some, but no one...and I mean NO ONE should ever tolerate abuse--emotional or physical. It speaks volumes on the victims very low self-esteem. I find the fact that these books are getting, what seems to be, so much positive attention, very disturbing...
Quoting Curious2078:
How much physical pain and humiliation would I be able to stand in the name of love? On a scale of 1 to 10, about 1. Every close relationship is going to cause emotional pain, but humiliation? Justified? Very rarely. Would I let a man hit me with a cane and leave bruises all over my body because it arouses him? Absolutely not. On a practical level alone, it sure as heck wouldn't arouse me. What would I do with a man I was getting to know who revealed a dark side? Well, we all have a dark side. Whether or not I'd find it tolerable would depend on just how dark it was. There is no reason on this earth to ever put up with physical, emotional or psychological abuse "for love" because abuse is never an expression of love. It's always an expression of perverse anger/control issues. And any woman who thinks that her love is strong enough to "fix" a man who is abusive needs some serious head/heart work and education.
Quoting Curious2078:
How much physical pain and humiliation would I be able to stand in the name of love? On a scale of 1 to 10, about 1. Every close relationship is going to cause emotional pain, but humiliation? Justified? Very rarely. Would I let a man hit me with a cane and leave bruises all over my body because it arouses him? Absolutely not. On a practical level alone, it sure as heck wouldn't arouse me. What would I do with a man I was getting to know who revealed a dark side? Well, we all have a dark side. Whether or not I'd find it tolerable would depend on just how dark it was. There is no reason on this earth to ever put up with physical, emotional or psychological abuse "for love" because abuse is never an expression of love. It's always an expression of perverse anger/control issues. And any woman who thinks that her love is strong enough to "fix" a man who is abusive needs some serious head/heart work and education.
Amen Pat! I refuse to read these books. Having come out of a long-term abusive relationship, I see absolutely no appeal, whatsoever. My situation was much less abusive than some, but no one...and I mean NO ONE should ever tolerate abuse--emotional or physical. It speaks volumes on the victims very low self-esteem. I find the fact that these books are getting, what seems to be, so much positive attention, very disturbing...
How much physical pain and humiliation would I be able to stand in the name of love? On a scale of 1 to 10, about 1. Every close relationship is going to cause emotional pain, but humiliation? Justified? Very rarely. Would I let a man hit me with a cane and leave bruises all over my body because it arouses him? Absolutely not. On a practical level alone, it sure as heck wouldn't arouse me. What would I do with a man I was getting to know who revealed a dark side? Well, we all have a dark side. Whether or not I'd find it tolerable would depend on just how dark it was. There is no reason on this earth to ever put up with physical, emotional or psychological abuse "for love" because abuse is never an expression of love. It's always an expression of perverse anger/control issues. And any woman who thinks that her love is strong enough to "fix" a man who is abusive needs some serious head/heart work and education.
How much physical pain and humiliation would I be able to stand in the name of love? On a scale of 1 to 10, about 1. Every close relationship is going to cause emotional pain, but humiliation? Justified? Very rarely. Would I let a man hit me with a cane and leave bruises all over my body because it arouses him? Absolutely not. On a practical level alone, it sure as heck wouldn't arouse me. What would I do with a man I was getting to know who revealed a dark side? Well, we all have a dark side. Whether or not I'd find it tolerable would depend on just how dark it was. There is no reason on this earth to ever put up with physical, emotional or psychological abuse "for love" because abuse is never an expression of love. It's always an expression of perverse anger/control issues. And any woman who thinks that her love is strong enough to "fix" a man who is abusive needs some serious head/heart work and education.
Many people don't know, but before Ann Rice wrote 'Interview with a Vampire', she wrote an erotic novel under a different pen name. It was called 'The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty'. Sleeping Beauty was always my all time favorite fairytale, so of course I read it. I can't wait for the new Disney film, Maleficent, to come out with Angelina Jolie starring!!! I will definitely see it. :)))
I know....I didn't answer your question and kinda got off topic. Hmmm....I think I'm in a much different place now at this time in my life....than back when I was reading erotica. But then.....that's what youth is all about. Discovery and learning. My best to you. :)
Many people don't know, but before Ann Rice wrote 'Interview with a Vampire', she wrote an erotic novel under a different pen name. It was called 'The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty'. Sleeping Beauty was always my all time favorite fairytale, so of course I read it. I can't wait
for the new Disney film, Maleficent, to come out with Angelina Jolie starring!!! I will definitely see it. :)))
I know....I didn't answer your question and kinda got off topic. Hmmm....I think I'm in a much different place now at this time in my life....than back when I was reading erotica. But then.....that's what youth is all about. Discovery and learning.
My best to you. :)
There are some who are also aroused by being subjected to pain and humiliation. If you're not one of them ... run, run as fast as you can in the other direction.
There are some who are also aroused by being subjected to pain and humiliation. If you're not one of them ... run, run as fast as you can in the other direction.
I would run and never come back as these type of people kill you.
Love should work both ways. I would not do anything that I didn't want to do or felt uncomfortable with and if someone loved me they wouldn't pressurise me.
Sarah :-)
I would run and never come back as these type of people kill you.
Love should work both ways. I would not do anything that I didn't want to do or felt uncomfortable with and if someone loved me they wouldn't pressurise me.
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