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Posted on Tue, May 23, 2006 21:58

Chemistry is such a hard thing to find, and dating in your 40's is much more difficult than it was decades ago. I have a 5:90:5 theory... 5% of the people you meet will be "internet dating war stories", 90% will be people who might be good friends, and just maybe 5% might be someone that you find chemistry with and want to get serious about... I really just want to find one good woman that is "forever" but unfortunately have been collecting lots of empirical data... I know you are out there somewhere, I just wish I hadn't stumbled so many times on the way to find you! ROFLMAO...


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Posted on Sat, Dec 30, 2006 01:20

*sigh* Sounds about right, Robtest. It's that attraction thing that is so hard to get. I can be friends with most people- but even if you have great chemistry over the phone and IM conversations, that is still no guarantee that there will be fireworks when you meet in person. It's frustrating. You build up a relationship, the excitement is there, you think, "I could spend my life with this person!" Then you meet and... nothing. Hence my decision to stop looking for love online.


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Posted on Tue, May 30, 2006 20:09

Thanks and tell Raven WOOF . . . what do you think that stands for? : )


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Posted on Mon, May 29, 2006 19:20

Amaysingwon: Yes, I like the "how to catch a butterfly" principle too. You try and try and try and just can't catch one. Then you give up, sit down quietly, and one comes and lights on your shoulder. AsianAura: I guess it all depends on what you consider a "war story". I am talking some really weird stuff for my 5%. Like running out the door and driving quickly away, while the waitress was taking our order, Using a friends picture on their profile, Using a HS picture when they are 35 and currently being a drug addict, etc. If it just wasn't a good match for someone to date and nothing really odd happened, that falls in the 90%. whisperinocean: hey friend! Come here baby, I sensual nerd you! LOL... Not sure I want a mensa, hell that leaves them in the way smarter than 99.5th percentile and might be odder than me! AsianAmericanIdol: sorry to hear that. Sometimes men are quite stupid, I don't see what you women in them! :o) But maybe it would help if you actually met a few more. This is a numbers game, and with experience you do learn to weed them out from just a look at thier profile or a phone conversation. Just a suggestion though: Save going dancing for a second date!!! Meet for a simple coffee or drink somewhere. Talk for an hour or so, and call it a night... You should always meet in a well lighted, crowded spot like a Starbucks, and you will get in less trouble if you drive there and home again. Of course, if you do find a connection, you can always stay longer or even relocate to a more fun spot. guitargirl40: "I know you are out there somewhere, I just wish I hadn't stumbled so many times on the way to find you! ROFLMAO... " This is just kind of a personal joke. I have been divorced about a decade, and date serveral women since then. Unfortunately, it didn't work out for one reason or another? Hence the term stumbled... ROFLMAO is RollingOnTheFloorLaughingMyAssOff, much the same as LOL is LaughingOutLoud or LaughingOnLine. I guess if you had known that it would have been easier to recognize as a joke. :o) Little Raven thanks you for the compliment and she said you were pretty cute too and wanted to know if you would come play fetch???


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Posted on Mon, May 29, 2006 18:30

I agree with the others - you really do appear to be a winner and this will happen for you in good time I'm sure. Cold comfort until you actually find the warm body, I know, but I do believe things happen in their own time and own reason, blah, blah, blah. P.S. I'm sorry I'm very new to a lot of this internet stuff . . . what does ROFLMAO mean? I probably should get a manual to explain half the acronymns I'm seeing. PPS Your dog looks nice too!


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Posted on Mon, May 29, 2006 11:07

AsianAura wrote: "I would say 45:50:5 is more accurate. If only 5% of the people you meet are "internet dating war stories", and 90% will make good friends, then you are one very fortunate person." The ratio YOU mentioned sounds more like my experience as well. Actually in 2006, 100% (though granted, only drawing from a sample of two men) of the guys I met online turned out to be good examples of internet horror stories. The first one left me at a club in the middle of our first date so he could go home watch a basketball game on TV, but did come back to give me a ride home, and actually wanted and expected a second date after that. He thought wrong. The second one started stalking me at work and showing up at my apartment invited, when I agreed to have dinner with him ONE time, and NOTHING ELSE. I wonder if it's the whole Asian thing. I probably would have never agreed to meet the second guy if I'd checked his profile more carefully.


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Posted on Mon, May 29, 2006 10:40

I feel as though you do only meet about 5% whom you would consider being Friends with or for that matter, finding a connection...Like the last person mentioned, it does seem when you stop looking, you find the "one" or else you are in a relationship and all of a sudden, you have "tons of int rest" ....I try, as hard as it is, to just enjoy the moment...If it happens, then it is "right for me"


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Posted on Fri, May 26, 2006 04:22

Me! me! Sensual Nerd me. LOL Rob, you'll find her and it may just happen in a way you never expected. She'll off course feature on a MENSA test. :) You're a great guy, judging from your posts.


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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 18:00

5% of the people you meet will be "internet dating war stories", 90% will be people who might be good friends, and just maybe 5% might be someone that you find chemistry with and want to get serious about... I would say 45:50:5 is more accurate. If only 5% of the people you meet are "internet dating war stories", and 90% will make good friends, then you are one very fortunate person.


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