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Posted on Tue, Jan 21, 2014 16:42

 

As a takeoff on another blog, did a search on the internet for why women might cheat.  The top 3 reasons, the top 10 reasons, 15 reasons a women might cheat.  The titles go on and on. 

 

 

A few reasons

 

  1. To get out of a relationship.

  2. For revenge.

  3. For affirmation i.e. is she still desirable, etc.

  4. She is vulnerable for some reason or another and someone is there to take advantage of it.     

  5. Someone really good at seduction lined up on her and she really did not have a chance. 

 

 

 

 



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Posted on Sun, Feb 16, 2014 23:35

Quoting BeWell:

rMac,

 

Was number 6th reason for cheating due to senior lapse of memory and she forgot she was married? HA!

 

Hi to you dear rMac, and to all MMers. So sorry I've been gone for so long. Had several unexpected deaths of close friends occur, and a few short-lived relationships since I was last online here. I do feel badly that I just disappeared for a while. But the grieving is over and..... I'm back! ;-D..... BeWell


Or maybe forgot who she was married to?

 

Nice seeing you  here.  I am sorry about the deaths of your friends. 

 

 

RMac



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Posted on Sun, Feb 16, 2014 17:45

rMac,

 

Was number 6th reason for cheating due to senior lapse of memory and she forgot she was married? HA!

 

Hi to you dear rMac, and to all MMers. So sorry I've been gone for so long. Had several unexpected deaths of close friends occur, and a few short-lived relationships since I was last online here. I do feel badly that I just disappeared for a while. But the grieving is over and..... I'm back! ;-D..... BeWell



BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D

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Posted on Thu, Feb 06, 2014 08:13

Quoting rmac22:

Curious, 

 

 

 

Your comment, “Maybe my wrinkles are getting in the way of True Love.  Whadda ya' think? “  

 

I doubt it.  If it does there is no hope for us all.  : - )

 

Have a great day.

 

 

 

 

RMac


 



Unless, of course, if it's your brain that gets wrinkled.  There is no plastic surgery for that.



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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 21:54

Curious, 

 

 

 

Your comment, “Maybe my wrinkles are getting in the way of True Love.  Whadda ya' think? “  

 

I doubt it.  If it does there is no hope for us all.  : - )

 

Have a great day.

 

 

 

 

RMac


 



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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 18:20

Quoting Diana3316:

So aren't we glad in THIS country, we believe in the separation of church and government????  Tinkering with our most fundamental constitutional principle is antithetical to what our Founding Fathers believed!

 

Hmmmm....just half????  May I suggest that most people do not really "literally" believe in the Bible?  Instead they much prefer to cherry pick parts of it to believe in.



I think we have to cherry pick what to believe and what not to believe.

 

Being cryptic, let's go with the remark in the Bible which says [I've just Googled the passage, but can't find it] that says sea water cannot be converted to drinking water ever.  If memory serves me correctly, this was something Jesus said.

 

The Navy has been able to convert sea water into potable water for decades now.  So much for that Bible passage.  One would be a fool to think converting sea water to potable water is impossible.  Which, clearly, is a contradiction to Scripture.   

 

I believe the Bible has to be read and taken to heart as mostly metaphor.  If you read the entire Good Book, and attempt to take all of it literally, you will go out of your mind from the contradictions.  I know; I have read it from cover to cover several times over. 

 

Nevertheless, it is still THE GOOD BOOK!!!!!!!!!!  It just must be read and taken to heart with wisdom and discretion, and, I think, within historical context.  And mostly, listening to the words of Jesus and nothing much else.  I find that many of the Gospels contradict or override what Jesus said quite plainly.   

 

Takes a lot of heartfelt, soulful work to do that, but it can be done.

 

JMHO 

  



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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 17:59

Quoting rmac22:

Sorry that happened to you.  Learning to trust again would have to be hard. 

 

The percentage of women who forgive and reconcile is much higher than the percentage of men who forgive and reconcile.  I forget the exact percentages.    

 

For their own health, everyone needs to forgive, or at least let it go, even if they don’t reconcile..  Hate bitterness, and anger are poisons.  Poisons that can wreck your health if they are allowed to fester long enough. 

 

There are lots of books on this subject.  Books written by folks ranging from therapists to researchers into ancient primitive cultures.    

 

 

RMac

 

 



Hi, RMac.

 

Thanks for your comment.

 

I've learned to trust again for sure.  But at my age--I'll be 69 this month--the choices are pretty limited.  LOL  Got no anger, hate or bitterness holding me back.  Just available choices.  I'm far more picky these days than I was 20 or 30 years ago.  Which is actually a good thing.  I don't want stupid and I don't want drug/alchol-addicted.  Plus I don't want financially poor.  I'm poor enough on my own.  LOL

 

Maybe my wrinkles are getting in the way of True Love.  Whadda ya' think?

 

Hell, at this stage of life, I really don't care one way or the other.  If love comes along, it does.  If it doesn't, I'm just fine on my own.  I really do enjoy my own company.  And that counts for a heck of a lot.  Plus my wonderful dog helps immensly.  LOLOLOL.

 

Have a great day!!!!  I know I have had one.   



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Posted on Fri, Jan 31, 2014 15:55

Quoting Curious2078:

 

Well said indeed, rmac.  The cheated-upon half of the couple will never fully get over it.  Believe me, I know from first hand experience.  Even when all the pains have been more or less laid to rest and one is moving on, there still remain a few barbed threads sticking in one's heart that will forever remind you what it was like to be cheated on.  Hopefully those few barbed threads will keep you from ever hooking up again with a cheater.  Meaning that somewhere deep in our hearts and/or souls we know from the beginning when we're hooking up with a cheater.  Most of the time, however, we're just too damn naive the first time around to recognize it. 


Sorry that happened to you.  Learning to trust again would have to be hard. 

 

The percentage of women who forgive and reconcile is much higher than the percentage of men who forgive and reconcile.  I forget the exact percentages.    

 

For their own health, everyone needs to forgive, or at least let it go, even if they don’t reconcile..  Hate bitterness, and anger are poisons.  Poisons that can wreck your health if they are allowed to fester long enough. 

 

There are lots of books on this subject.  Books written by folks ranging from therapists to researchers into ancient primitive cultures.    

 

 

RMac

 

 



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Posted on Thu, Jan 30, 2014 22:12

Quoting 3345roc:

If we took the bible literally, especially the Old Testament, half of us on this site would be dead and the rest would be in prison.



So aren't we glad in THIS country, we believe in the separation of church and government????  Tinkering with our most fundamental constitutional principle is antithetical to what our Founding Fathers believed!

 

Hmmmm....just half????  May I suggest that most people do not really "literally" believe in the Bible?  Instead they much prefer to cherry pick parts of it to believe in.



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Posted on Thu, Jan 30, 2014 20:20

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If we took the bible literally, especially the Old Testament, half of us on this site would be dead and the rest would be in prison.



ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!



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Posted on Thu, Jan 30, 2014 20:19

Quoting rmac22:

 

Curious,

 

 

 

I agree, a decision to cheat to cure boredom would be pretty much reprehensible.  But then cheating is well cheating.  Cheating is all by itself pretty much reprehensible.  The fact that sometimes people slip up in a weak moment is a sad fact of life.  Unfortunately there is no fixing it after the fact.  It might be forgiven, but the person doing the forgiving will never get over it. 

 



 

Well said indeed, rmac.  The cheated-upon half of the couple will never fully get over it.  Believe me, I know from first hand experience.  Even when all the pains have been more or less laid to rest and one is moving on, there still remain a few barbed threads sticking in one's heart that will forever remind you what it was like to be cheated on.  Hopefully those few barbed threads will keep you from ever hooking up again with a cheater.  Meaning that somewhere deep in our hearts and/or souls we know from the beginning when we're hooking up with a cheater.  Most of the time, however, we're just too damn naive the first time around to recognize it. 



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Posted on Thu, Jan 30, 2014 20:08

 

3345roc,

 

 

 

Don’t disagree.  Did not tale long to think of a passage that if applied today supported putting lots of people to death.  Not about adultery though.   

 



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Posted on Thu, Jan 30, 2014 15:18

If we took the bible literally, especially the Old Testament, half of us on this site would be dead and the rest would be in prison.


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Posted on Mon, Jan 27, 2014 21:05

Quoting rmac22:

Diana, 

 

I rather like your way of thinking.  : - )

 



Mmmmm....thanks doll.  I appreciate that!!  :))



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Posted on Mon, Jan 27, 2014 18:04

Diana, 

 

I rather like your way of thinking.  : - )

 



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Posted on Sun, Jan 26, 2014 09:16

Lololol.....that was funny RMac!  I would never hurt you....at least not in a bad way.  :)))  *wink*

 

"Jumping the curb" is just my way of reminding you that I think according to a little bit different twist than most around here.  And as we know, sometimes things get lost in translation when typed and I don't like to intentionally go around potentially offending people on their religious beliefs.  Remember that's what got Voyager banned. 

 

PS:  I am far from being an authority either.  But I've tried to understand what it says, read other books on it (mostly theories about Jesus and Mary Magdalene) and talk to other people about various subjects addressed in the Bible.  I lived with a Seventh Day Adventist for 14yrs, who could quote scripture like crazy.  We had many discussions on what was actually in the Bible.

 

What I find today, is that when questioned, few so called Christians have even read the Bible and don't know what it actually says.  It's like a software agreement.  Nobody reads it.  They just scroll down to the bottom and click "I agree".  All they want to hear is that they're not going to die....and then go on with their merry way!  That's why these non-denominational churches are flourishing.  They're making up the rules as they go, to make it more palatable for today's American society and ensure the business of religion continues to prosper.



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Posted on Sun, Jan 26, 2014 06:44

 

Diana,

 

 

 

I do not pretend to be any sort of authority on biblical law. 

 

 

 

Not sure what "totally jumping the curb" entails. 

 

 

 

Would such discussions be physically dangerous?

 



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Posted on Sat, Jan 25, 2014 18:30

RMac,

I could totally jump the curb on this one if we got into a discussion about biblical law and some of the wild rationalizations I've heard.  Never the less, Jesus did say that he did not come to destroy the law, but to fulfill it.  But given the fact that his own mother may have been of questionable repute, he lightened up a bit regarding the death penalty part.....allowing a man to divorce his wife if she committed adultry.  However, a wife was not allowed the same favor.

 

 

 



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Posted on Fri, Jan 24, 2014 16:49

 

Hi Diana,

 

 

 

I have wondered about the biblical rule also.  Was it only a women who could commit adultery?  I do not think so, but exactly which men would be guilty of adultery I do not know.  In a discussion with my pastor, on this subject, he stated that the wronged husband could throw the first stone at the man who had committed adultery.  No distinction whether the guilty man was single or married.  The discussion did not get to who throw the first stone at the wife.  I presume that was also the wronged husband. The society as a whole completed carrying out the sentence of stoning to the death in both cases.  

 

 

 

This is what I think I understand.  I am perfectly willing to be wrong. 

 



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Posted on Fri, Jan 24, 2014 09:17

Sure RMac.  It says it in the Bible that the penalty for adultry is death.  Although it doesn't specifically state the rule is just for women....I think it was.  Remember the story about Jesus and "He who is without sin, cast the first stone"?   Interestingly, it was only a woman they dragged up for judgement by Jesus.  Where was the man she was supposedly committing the adultry WITH?????  Last time I checked....it takes two for that sin!  lololol

 

Now Marabella may disagree with me on this point, which may be worthy of contemplating.  If the man is single and has made no vows, is he culpable (also at fault) if there is adultry?  I think in many cultures, he is viewed as not.  That's why women have to wear Burkhas in Muslim countries.  It's so single men will not be able to see another man's woman.....and try to take her.



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