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Diana3316
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Posted on Sat, Feb 01, 2014 12:00

I would go anywhere....any time....for a man that I was crazy about!  If I had to drive, climb, fly.....well maybe not too much walking..... but any amount of distance and/or time if I wanted him!!!

 

 

That's how my 14 year relationship started....long distance.  There were exactly 90 days between the first time we met and the day he drove away to another state to work, from March-Dec....then back for 90 days and gone again Mar-Dec.  That went on for the first 3 years....and I was absolutely crazy about him!  No other man would do!

 



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Posted on Sat, Feb 01, 2014 09:36

3345roc,

 

Helping a lady with her taxes? 

 

 

RMac



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Posted on Sat, Feb 01, 2014 07:28

30 to 40 minutes max... anything longer limits spontaneity. It does take a while to get to know one another.  Sumptuous dinners and evenings at the theater don't define a relationship... doing chores, food shopping, doing laundry and more of life's minutiae need to be shared.  While I don't think it's a good idea to create chaos, you can tell a great deal about a person when they're under a great deal of stress.

 

All too often we fall into bed very quickly only to find out, a few months later ,that we really don't like the person we're sleeping with... and that gets awkward.  I often say it should be illegal to claim love for someone unless you've known them for at least 6 months.  Love is never being bored with someone.



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Posted on Fri, Jan 31, 2014 21:32

Quoting Curious2078:

Pretty much depends on how much potential you think this "date" has.  If you think not much, forget it.   If you think there's something "there," go for it despite the travel difficulties.  if the date turns out to be a no-go, at the very least you've learned how to navigate through areas of your city you didn't know how to navigate through before.  Or so it seems.  LOL


Curious,  


Well, I wouldn't go in the first place if I did not think there was potential.  Having been pleasantly surprised a few times and well maybe just surprised a few times I try not to overly crank myself up in advance. 


If you drive four hours to get there, have dinner and pleasantly chat for a few hours and then drive four hours home you have put in a long night. 


So, there obviously are some boundaries, but what are they? 


Time together is what establishes a LTR.  Lots of time.  Some of it just having coffee or some such.  Meeting for breakfast on the spur of the moment.  Special time together, but the reason it is special is the person and not necessarily the event.  Some special events too. 


Routinely and regularly meeting.  How often, two or three times a week?  One hour driving time as an upper bound?

 


RMac

 

 



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Posted on Fri, Jan 31, 2014 17:38

Quoting rmac22:

 

 How much “get there” time is reasonable for starting a long term relationship (LTR)

 

 

 

To get around in a heavily populated area, miles are a useless term.  Time to get there, rush hour and non-rush hour, is how people here usually answer when you ask them how far away something is.  If they give you the miles, the usual follow up question is how long does it take you to get there. 

 

 

 

Rush hour is itself no longer an hour.  2 to 4 hours usually.  Staggered starting and quitting times is part of the reason.  More people drive on some days also.  Flexible starting and quitting times at some companies adds a certain randomness too.   

 

 

 

So, what is a reasonable amount of travel time to routinely and regularly travel to see a date?  Someone with whom you would like to establish a LTR?

 

 

 

How often do you need to see this person to establish a LTR?

 



Pretty much depends on how much potential you think this "date" has.  If you think not much, forget it.   If you think there's something "there," go for it despite the travel difficulties.  if the date turns out to be a no-go, at the very least you've learned how to navigate through areas of your city you didn't know how to navigate through before.  Or so it seems.  LOL



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