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Posted on Thu, Feb 13, 2014 13:27

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So, what happened to him?

 


Lololol.....we are still very good friends Pat.  I talk to him pretty often...usually monthly, but he has a new gf now.  It's a long sad story.....and it involves money....MINE! 

 

It's funny how every man I've ever been with has a good paying job/career when I first meet him.  Then after about 2 or 3 yrs something happens and there's no more job.  I somehow have a very bad effect on men's careers.  It's like I jinx them....I don't know what it is.  It's happened 3 times.  It's no one's fault except my own, because I stay and stay not wanting the relationship to be based just on a job/money.  Eventually my love and respect fades.  I'm a very giving person and don't mind working...but I just don't want to pull the wagon alone. 

 

I haven't had a steady bf for about 5 yrs now and have a lot more money.  :)) *wink*



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Posted on Wed, Feb 12, 2014 19:29

Quoting Diana3316:

I would go anywhere....any time....for a man that I was crazy about!  If I had to drive, climb, fly.....well maybe not too much walking..... but any amount of distance and/or time if I wanted him!!!

 

 

That's how my 14 year relationship started....long distance.  There were exactly 90 days between the first time we met and the day he drove away to another state to work, from March-Dec....then back for 90 days and gone again Mar-Dec.  That went on for the first 3 years....and I was absolutely crazy about him!  No other man would do!

 



So, what happened to him?

 



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Posted on Tue, Feb 11, 2014 17:47

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I suppose there could be another meaning for "get there time". 



Haha....I wasn't thinking that....but very clever RMac!  :))



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Posted on Tue, Feb 11, 2014 08:07

I suppose there could be another meaning for "get there time". 



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Posted on Mon, Feb 10, 2014 18:42

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Ok....so a light bulb just came on for me.  When I say seduce, you think 'having sex', but I'm thinking about the guy that tucked my hair behind my ear.  To me, that was pretty much the sexiest thing that has ever happened to me ....errr....ok....it was in the top 5 sexiest.  lolol  But seriously....even though I almost swooned we did not have sex....but I sure started thinking about it!!   

 

Perhaps that's the problem.  A lot of men think seduction is foreplay.  Seduction comes before foreplay.  I think in the old days it was called "charming a woman".  Charm is more than just good manners. 

 

If a man fails to sufficiently 'charm' a woman....it's not going to work.  A woman's brain has to get turned on.....before her body ever will.  She's going to get mad if the man tries to go straight for the foreplay.

 

Seduction is the art of making a woman think it's her idea to have sex.


Really? Top 5 ...??? That definitely makes me go "hmmmm".

 

For me, seduction is what men and women do when they're dating.  It might or might not end in your initial intimate encounter.  If you have a bell ringing, fireworks exploding experience that might be the start of a wonderful relationship.  If it's a dud it could mark the end of the ride. 

 

Foreplay, for me, is what happens when you're in a relationship.  It's a prelude to "making love" to your best friend.  It isn't necessarily sexual.  It could be a phone call or a good morning kiss.  It could be breakfast in bed or simply doing daily chores together.  Both parties participate and both parties know where it' going to end up... it just builds the excitement and the anticipation of what's to come.

 

Maybe it's just semantics.



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Posted on Sun, Feb 09, 2014 20:35

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That seems odd to me.  I may be in the minority but as I've aged  I find it takes more time and a truly gifted partner to "prime the pump" so to speak.  If a blue pill is involved, the lag time allows for some interesting foreplay.  When I first saw those ads regarding the 4 hour phenomenon when you're supposed to call your doctor I thought "hell no, call your girlfriend".

 

As you age and the horizon becomes visible you realize how precious each remaining hour becomes. Two hours of foreplay,play and afterplay is time well spent. 


Ok....so a light bulb just came on for me.  When I say seduce, you think 'having sex', but I'm thinking about the guy that tucked my hair behind my ear.  To me, that was pretty much the sexiest thing that has ever happened to me ....errr....ok....it was in the top 5 sexiest.  lolol  But seriously....even though I almost swooned we did not have sex....but I sure started thinking about it!!   

 

Perhaps that's the problem.  A lot of men think seduction is foreplay.  Seduction comes before foreplay.  I think in the old days it was called "charming a woman".  Charm is more than just good manners. 

 

If a man fails to sufficiently 'charm' a woman....it's not going to work.  A woman's brain has to get turned on.....before her body ever will.  She's going to get mad if the man tries to go straight for the foreplay.

 

Seduction is the art of making a woman think it's her idea to have sex.



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Posted on Sun, Feb 09, 2014 05:44

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Lolol….that’s why I prefer older men.  Not only do they seem more appreciative of uninhibited females, their atherosclerosis seems to preclude clear vision.  My biggest objection is that older guys don’t seem to want to waste time seducing a woman into becoming a girlfriend.  They want to get right to it, as if you’ve been married for 30 yrs.

 


That seems odd to me.  I may be in the minority but as I've aged  I find it takes more time and a truly gifted partner to "prime the pump" so to speak.  If a blue pill is involved, the lag time allows for some interesting foreplay.  When I first saw those ads regarding the 4 hour phenomenon when you're supposed to call your doctor I thought "hell no, call your girlfriend".

 

As you age and the horizon becomes visible you realize how precious each remaining hour becomes. Two hours of foreplay,play and afterplay is time well spent. 



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Posted on Sat, Feb 08, 2014 10:03

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What fun is that?  I don't get many requests these days but when I do I jump on it... let me rephrase, I slowly move my walker with the tennis balls on the legs.. there quite slowly.


Lolol….that’s why I prefer older men.  Not only do they seem more appreciative of uninhibited females, their atherosclerosis seems to preclude clear vision.  My biggest objection is that older guys don’t seem to want to waste time seducing a woman into becoming a girlfriend.  They want to get right to it, as if you’ve been married for 30 yrs.

 



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Posted on Fri, Feb 07, 2014 20:25

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I think most people should probably try to keep their clothes on for as long as possible.



What fun is that?  I don't get many requests these days but when I do I jump on it... let me rephrase, I slowly move my walker with the tennis balls on the legs.. there quite slowly.



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Posted on Thu, Feb 06, 2014 21:58

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Diana, I've been taking notes you know.  I think I have the tactics down.  Now have to practice carrying them off.

 

RMac



Lololo.....gooood!  I figured you'd get it.  *wink*



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Posted on Thu, Feb 06, 2014 20:43

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That's why I only date women who wear glasses.  I insist they remove them before I disrobe.... I look up to 20 years younger depending on their degree of myopia.


I think most people should probably try to keep their clothes on for as long as possible.



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Posted on Thu, Feb 06, 2014 07:04

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I was thinking more of the seeing each other at our worst.  Hopefully being naked isn’t at our worst.  Maybe save a lot of time though.

 

RMac

 



That's why I only date women who wear glasses.  I insist they remove them before I disrobe.... I look up to 20 years younger depending on their degree of myopia.



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Posted on Wed, Feb 05, 2014 17:59

Quoting Diana3316:

 

Yes, there were the initial 90 days, but it started out pretty slow.  I actually wasn’t that keen on him initially.  I’d already had one relationship with a horseman and definitely did not want another!!  I even told him that “he did not meet my criteria.”  That might have been kinda mean, but I wanted to make different choices this time around.  He said “ok” in his nice, easy going style, but he kept coming around asking me out and I kept saying no.  (I was running a horse training operation on my farm and he would stop by to see how the horses were doing)  I remember the first actual date we had.  My son was 4 ½ years old and he asked if I wanted to take my son to the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo.  Now I’m not much into rodeos…..but I thought it would be fun for my son….so I said ok. 

 

I remember, some folks from my home town saw us there together and I was really embarrassed to be seen with him.  This guy had a reputation for being a ladies man and I didn’t want rumors getting out that we were dating.  I wasn't near as sassy as I am now.  You can blame him for that!

 

We watched the rodeo and then went walking around all the booths.  We got some hotdogs and I can’t really remember how it happened….but I went somewhere….maybe to the restroom or something….and when I came back….there was my son in a Davy Crocket raccoon hat with a small canteen in a leather pouch around his neck.  My son was just beaming with excitement as he exclaimed that my date had gotten this canteen for him….”and LOOK there’s water in here!!”  We had to keep refilling it because my son kept drinking the water.  My son was so happy….and my icy heart was melting.  *wink*

 

 



Diana, I've been taking notes you know.  I think I have the tactics down.  Now have to practice carrying them off.

 

RMac



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Posted on Tue, Feb 04, 2014 19:05

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Diana,


You had a 90 day warm up time.  Maybe that’s what I should do.  Persuade some lovely lady to move here for 90 days. 


I would be willing to drive 5 hours maybe nore to do the persuading.  : - )


 

RMac


 

 

 


 

Yes, there were the initial 90 days, but it started out pretty slow.  I actually wasn’t that keen on him initially.  I’d already had one relationship with a horseman and definitely did not want another!!  I even told him that “he did not meet my criteria.”  That might have been kinda mean, but I wanted to make different choices this time around.  He said “ok” in his nice, easy going style, but he kept coming around asking me out and I kept saying no.  (I was running a horse training operation on my farm and he would stop by to see how the horses were doing)  I remember the first actual date we had.  My son was 4 ½ years old and he asked if I wanted to take my son to the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo.  Now I’m not much into rodeos…..but I thought it would be fun for my son….so I said ok. 

 

I remember, some folks from my home town saw us there together and I was really embarrassed to be seen with him.  This guy had a reputation for being a ladies man and I didn’t want rumors getting out that we were dating.  I wasn't near as sassy as I am now.  You can blame him for that!

 

We watched the rodeo and then went walking around all the booths.  We got some hotdogs and I can’t really remember how it happened….but I went somewhere….maybe to the restroom or something….and when I came back….there was my son in a Davy Crocket raccoon hat with a small canteen in a leather pouch around his neck.  My son was just beaming with excitement as he exclaimed that my date had gotten this canteen for him….”and LOOK there’s water in here!!”  We had to keep refilling it because my son kept drinking the water.  My son was so happy….and my icy heart was melting.  *wink*

 

 



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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 21:43

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Naked tax prep.. that could work.  I think Diana came up with something too.  I believe it was Cloris Leachman who said the best marriages happen to people who live in different states.



I was thinking more of the seeing each other at our worst.  Hopefully being naked isn’t at our worst.  Maybe save a lot of time though.

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 17:12

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3345roc,

 

Helping a lady with her taxes? 

 

 

RMac



Naked tax prep.. that could work.  I think Diana came up with something too.  I believe it was Cloris Leachman who said the best marriages happen to people who live in different states.



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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 12:20

 

leonicyirgo

 

an hour on the open road is a lot different than an hour in city traffic. 

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 12:07

 

Diana,


You had a 90 day warm up time.  Maybe that’s what I should do.  Persuade some lovely lady to move here for 90 days. 


I would be willing to drive 5 hours maybe nore to do the persuading.  : - )


 

RMac


 

 

 



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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 11:51

 

3345roc, 

 

I agree on the 30 to 40 minutes travel time.  Maybe even up to an hour.  Also agree you need lots of ordinary time, non-quality time, not just special events. 

 

I figured helping a lady doing her taxes would be stressing enough on both to sort out whether or not each could stand the other even under stress.  I did that once.  She still liked me afterwards.    

  

 

RMac



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Posted on Sat, Feb 01, 2014 14:17

So 60 to 80 miles out.

My former spouse ate taco's as a mainstay when I met her, so I decided to cook her a dinner at my house, and transport it there.  I was 3 hours late from the original time, and she was concerned. I did keep in touch with her inbetween. Now that is excessive, and not tolerated in this age, but the HOT chicken/beef,soft rolled enchilada's(sour cream,LV1 spiced mix) with cheese garnish,and spicy rice& beans; not to forget the chips & special LV1 green sauce, and Bean-o... helped to quench that Scotch-Irish Canadian, hot redheaded, leoness flame that had potential(2 Leos..fire signs..Hmmmmm). We made a nice time of Galveston afterwards.

I find an hour's driving relaxing. It frees the mind before the 3rd meeting....In a restaurant, or other. That food sure smelled great along the way!



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