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Posted on Tue, Aug 06, 2013 14:26

DATING CRITERION

 

If you are lucky, you continue to always get older, but to never get old.  Still, as you go along your dating criterion has to adjust if you expect to find dates. 

 

A lady friend of mine says hers has gotten to, “Breath and Britches.”  Not sure that would be a compliment.  

 

A gentleman friend suggests, “Warm and Breathing.”  About the same speed as above, I think. 

 

Me, I am always 22.   : - )   

 

 

 

RMac22

 



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Posted on Fri, Oct 18, 2013 19:43

Quoting Jenkneee:

Most of us mature women are not asking too much in what we want in men but you would think I am asking for the moon!  There are certain views and a Christian belief that we need to share, beyond that I would actually like to be attracted to something about him.


I find myself declining way more than ever considering a date because heathens and apathy abounds in southern California. No offense to any apathetic heathens who may be reading this. lol A sense of humor is also a must!

 



Well, not being familiar with Southern, CA, I can only sympathize.  The distance between me and the ladies that show an interest is somewhat daunting.  Would that I could find my special lady fifteen minutes down the road.   

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Thu, Oct 17, 2013 22:04

Most of us mature women are not asking too much in what we want in men but you would think I am asking for the moon!  There are certain views and a Christian belief that we need to share, beyond that I would actually like to be attracted to something about him.


I find myself declining way more than ever considering a date because heathens and apathy abounds in southern California. No offense to any apathetic heathens who may be reading this. lol A sense of humor is also a must!

 



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Posted on Sun, Aug 25, 2013 19:33

Paulette – I am pleased that you like my blog.  I like your criterion.   You left out handsome on the inside.  Also pleased that you only require “somewhat sane.”  That leaves a bit of hope. 

 

Thanks for your comments.

 

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Sun, Aug 25, 2013 11:41

  Dear Mac22, I ran across the blog section today and decided to read a few and yours captured my eye.  It's wonderful to grow old, if you remember to stay young while you're doing it. Dating Criteria hmmm interesting, I guess we all have some form of criteria I think dating is like duck duck goose; you gotta be ready to run.  My kids are constantly trying to match mom up and they have picked some winners I tell ya.  I have finally made my list of wanna. 1.  Has to have a sense of humor 2.  Has to be intelligent (intelligent men are creative) 3.  A good listener 4.  A brilliant conversationalist 5.  Honest 6.  Romantic 7.  Just fun to be with 8.  Gentle 9.  Somewhat sane 10.  And last but not least Understanding Now I am a great distance from you so I know we may never meet; but I do like your blog and I may follow it.  I hope you find your someone special and I love sharing your thoughts and day.  


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Posted on Mon, Aug 12, 2013 18:14

BE-WELL:  You have me LMAO!



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Posted on Mon, Aug 12, 2013 07:09

Thanks RMac. I supposed I wouldn't turn down a smart and got-his-act-together RR if I felt a connection with him. I'm just not counting on it anymore and opening myself up to even better opportunities now.

 

By the way...... I forgot to include another quality he must have.... a healthy mind too!

BeWell...........;-D



BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D

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Posted on Sun, Aug 11, 2013 12:08

Hi BeWell – Glad you like the topic.  If you notice, my criterion has stayed the same.  My interpretation of it has adjusted as necessary however.

 

 

22 was a great age. Even better than when I was 12.  When I was 12 I knew I knew everything I needed to know.  It was going to be easy from then on.  Then, “from then on” hit.  I sometimes miss that kid. 

 

 

I don’t think it so bad that you dated only “Robert Redfords.”   

 

 

Me, I only dated very smart very pretty girls.  Mostly got away with that.  Better than now. : - )    My friends would say, “Wait tell you see ‘RMac’s’ date.”  The smart girls were the only ones that would put up with me.  College was a wonderful place. 

 

 

I too liked Diana’s response. 

 

 

Find some new RRs.  They might be smarter.

 

 

Thanks for your comment.

 

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Sat, Aug 10, 2013 23:56

RMac..... Great topic! And I too still feel 22, and a part of me wishes the criterion could be the same, only with the wisdom I have now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Diana.... That was a great way to respond to RMac's topic. I laughed the hardest at your 60s section, especially "Doesn't scare small children."

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here's mine:

 

 

 

20s: I wouldn't give any guy a chance unless he looked like Robert Redford, and then resistance was futile.

 

 

 

30s: Off the dating scene.... marriage, pregnancy, motherhood, divorce. Fantasized about Robert Redford.

 

 

 

40s: Too busy to notice men in a serious-romantic sense. Total focus on career and building my marketing business. What was I thinking????

 

 

 

50-55: Started thinking about thinking about love and having a partner again.

 

 

 

55-59 (Current age): Started to freak out thinking it may be too late. Started dating again, including a few of my Robert Redfords I knew in my 20s. They only broke my heart again.

 

 

 

60s and beyond: No more Robert Redfords! ;-DDDDD 

 

 

 

My future love interests and future partner needs to be first and foremost physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially healthy..... and have high enough self-esteem to not freak out because I used to date Robert Redfords. :-D

 

 

 

That's one of the reasons why I chose the Millionaire Match name of "BeWell"? :-D

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Fri, Aug 09, 2013 21:38

Ahhhh….Mtn.  Your picture made me remember one time when I took a vacation to Vancouver Island. 

 

I had a bunch of Hilton points that were going to expire by the end of the year.  I didn’t have a boyfriend at the time….so I thought what the heck.  I’ll just go someplace nice by myself and maybe I will meet some handsome stranger!

 

So I booked a week at a resort right on the northwest sea shore in October.   It was just gorgeous with the autumn leaves in full glory.  My condo was up on a hill and you could walk down through beautifully manicured grounds to the shore. 

 

I walked the shore every morning looking for the morning treasures washed up by the sea.  After a while I started to notice something really annoying.  All these older Canadian couples were walking too.  They had matching wind breakers, hats, fanny packs…and they would be holding hands and looking in total harmony.  No joke!!!  ALL of them…with matching wind breakers!! In the evening, I would sit on my balcony and hear couples laughing and splashing in the hot tub.

 

Needless to say, by the end of the week I was ready to commit suicide!  I don’t think I have ever felt so profoundly lonely and sorry for myself.  I vowed NEVER to take another vacation alone….ever again!  Lolol

 

PS:  It wasn’t actually all that bad.  Although I didn’t meet a handsome stranger….I did meet some very wonderful ladies.  One lady had a loom and I bought a woolen vest she weaved, which is beautiful and the warmest I have.



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Posted on Fri, Aug 09, 2013 21:33

Hi Liv,  Glad you like the blog.  I have read that any criterion that is flexible enough so that one can find dates cannot have more than three nonnegotiable requirements.  Even these cannot be absolute, but must be tradeoff able.  That is, above some reasonable level which can be absolute more of one less of another is still acceptable.  
  
  

Trouble is there are also our unknown, unarticulated, taken for granted requirements that if violated would kill the deal.   Usually we don’t even know about these until someone violates them.  Too many of these also can preclude ever finding anyone.   
     

 

 

RMac

 

 



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Posted on Fri, Aug 09, 2013 07:41

Mtnsunny,

 

 

Yes, if my lady doesn’t make me feel loved, needed, respected, and cared for, I won’t think she likes me. 

 

 

Thanks for the comment.

 

 

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Thu, Aug 08, 2013 17:38

Quoting rmac22:

Hi Mtnsunny,

 

 

Nice to hear from you. 

 

 

Would that criterion work for you? 

 

 

Thanks for your comment.

 

 

 

 

RMac

 



RMac,

 

I believe if most were honest...we all want to feel loved and needed.   Even if my husband has to ask me which way is home.  :)  Home is where the heart is, I hope my heart finds another heart looking for a warm and safe place to land.  Warm smiles for a lifetime.  :)

 

Mtnsunny



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Posted on Thu, Aug 08, 2013 07:11

RMac - Love your blog! Very true. I have to start thinking of adjusting mine in the next year or two, lol.

 

Diana - Boy, your compilation is awesome and so true. The 'not too ugly' made me laugh so hard!! LOL!!! I've always been the sort who preferred good personality over handsome but would be so delighted to have both in one package if possible!

 

Mtn - That photo you posted says it all. I guess that's what most people are really looking for if they're honest. Any time I walk along my High Street and see elderly couples walking along the street, hand in hand, to me it is such a beautiful thing! Warm and never ending is great.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Wed, Aug 07, 2013 08:10

Hi Mtnsunny,

 

 

Nice to hear from you. 

 

 

Would that criterion work for you? 

 

 

Thanks for your comment.

 

 

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Wed, Aug 07, 2013 08:05

Hi Diana,

 

 

Thanks for the informative and impressive compilations of Dating Criterion for your various ages.

 

 

The criterion that seemed to apply to women (my observations):

 

 

High school – whatever athletes were in season, for example football players during that season and so on.

 

 

College freshman though mid junior year:   Not boring.  What was boring varied somewhat with individuals but generally included anyone seriously studying anything that might lead to a prosperous future.

 

 

Mid junior year through senior year:   Anyone getting decent grades in any field that might lead to a prosperous future.   

 

 

For me those ages:

 

 

I needed to think she was pretty.  I needed to appreciate her sense of humor.  I needed to think she was smart.  She needed to make me feel that she liked me. 

 

 

Beyond those ages to my early sixties I was out of the “market.”

 

 

Early sixties and beyond:  

 

 

I needed to think she was pretty.  I needed to appreciate her sense of humor.  I needed to think she was smart.  She needed to make me feel that she liked me. 

 

 

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Tue, Aug 06, 2013 20:33

What I Want In A Man!

 

In my 20s:
- Handsome
- Charming
- Financially successful
- A caring listener
- Witty
- In good shape
- Dresses with style

- Full of thoughtful surprises 

 

In my 30s:

- Nice looking

- Opens car doors, holds chairs
- Has enough money for a nice dinner
- Listens more than talks
- Laughs at my jokes
- Carries bags of groceries with ease
- Owns at least one tie
- Appreciates a good home-cooked meal
- Remembers birthdays and anniversaries
 

 

In my 40s:
- Not too ugly
- Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car
- Works  steady - splurges on dinner out occasionally
- Nods head  when I'm talking
- Usually remembers punch lines of  jokes
- Is in good enough shape to rearrange the  furniture
- Wears a shirt that covers his stomach
- Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
- Remembers to put the toilet seat down
- Shaves most weekends

 

In my 50s:

- Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed
- Doesn't belch or scratch in public

- Can drive a Caravan
- Can cook a BBQ
- Doesn't re-tell the same joke too many times
- Appreciates a good TV dinner
- Helps with the housework

 

In my 60s:
- Doesn't scare small children
- Remembers where I have put things

- Can still drive a car at night
- Only snores lightly when asleep
- Remembers why he's laughing
- Is in good enough  shape to stand up by himself
- Usually wears some clothes
- Doesn't notice my facial hair and wrinkles
- Remembers  where he left his teeth
- Stops trying to tell jokes

 

In my 70s:

- Breathing
- Doesn't miss the toilet.
 
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Remembers where we both live. 



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Posted on Tue, Aug 06, 2013 18:57

I agree RMac...your photo never gives any indication that your older then 22.  :)  How about "Warm and Never Ending".

 

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