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Posted on Thu, Jan 31, 2013 06:39

Am I wrong?

 

I was once told that I believe everything I hear. This came from my ex who was never wrong, of course. There is a reason he is an ex.

 

He was referring to my oldest son who had been in a motorcycle wreck and the story he told about how it happened just did not set in right with "ex".

 

Anyway, I am a common sense person and refuse to judge what people say just because it seems weird or unlikely. Strange things do happen and I have seen plenty.

 

I  believe when there is proof, otherwise, I will accept as long as it does not affect or hurt anyone. I accept my children as they are and for what they say. That does not mean that I believe everything they say. I am a mom. We know better. But, if I have a good relationship with someone, especially my kids, I will give them the benefit of the doubt until and unless proven differently. I don't believe, I choose to accept.



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Posted on Thu, Feb 07, 2013 07:55

LULU.... I'm with LIV...

 

I just had to look at your profile again... A 38 year old!!! I thought.. "Jeez.. she have a kid at 10?" LOL...

 

"You look MA-VEL-OUS!!! "

 

LULU... I like to think I am fairly adept at "reading people." I sense a very "strong core" in you coupled with a high level of common sense "fairness."  Your strength as an individual, yet not being over-bearing or feeling the need to always be "right" creates a "healthy balance"" in you. I've no doubt this was a remarkable asset in raising your children! Forget what the ex says... (There's always a reason they're an EX!) 

 

HI LIVVIE!!! So good to see you!! And you know what an incredible mom I know you are! ;)

 

BREW..... Hmmm... Contradiction? A MAN.. who is always RIGHT??? 

 

WELL THAT JUST CAN'T BE TRUE! We women know men are never "right" unless we tell them they are! Heehee~

 

 

 

HAVE A GREAT DAY EVERYONE!!! 

 




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Posted on Wed, Feb 06, 2013 13:20

Quoting brew444:

Lulu, you share my thoughts on listening to others but not always believing what is said 100%. I really like to believe what people tell me but always with a grain of salt....Some like to twist the truth a little bit but I have found that truth can be stranger then fiction...Why can't people be more honest? Even some of the women I have talked to on this website, hard to fathom that someone would lie on line...lol  Your ex sounds a lot like me, I seem to think that I am right most the time, ok all the time....


Hi Brew444;

 

 

I sure hope you're not like my ex.

 

 

 

I agree with what you said about some people on these sites. They join hoping to meet someone to spend their lives with but start the entire relationship with lies. That can only lead to heartbreak.

 

 

 

Well, I hope you find a good honest woman. Believe it or not, there are some out there!!



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Posted on Wed, Feb 06, 2013 11:55

Lulu, you share my thoughts on listening to others but not always believing what is said 100%. I really like to believe what people tell me but always with a grain of salt....Some like to twist the truth a little bit but I have found that truth can be stranger then fiction...Why can't people be more honest? Even some of the women I have talked to on this website, hard to fathom that someone would lie on line...lol  Your ex sounds a lot like me, I seem to think that I am right most the time, ok all the time....



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Posted on Mon, Feb 04, 2013 13:24

Quoting Livnlov:

Lulu,

 

I agree with you on accepting and believing until one is given reason not to. My 6 year old son, knows not to lie to me or anyone else. I will always find out the truth at the end of the day, so he doesn't bother with lies even if the truth will get him grounded.

 

Positive reinforcement and believing in our children goes a long way in building strong, self-assured, positive young men and women.

 

As for your son's age, no way do you look like you have a 38 year old! What a lucky lady you are - you look stunning!

 

Liv.



Hi Liv;

 

Thanks for the re-enforcement of what I believe. My children have always been the reason for most of what I do. Helping them build good character was my main goal with them. You must be a great mom. Even at the age of 6 children look for every possible way to get away with all kind of stuff. It takes a strong yet gentle hand to guide them in the right direction. Keep it up and make sure to build up his trust in you. It will make it easier to communicate when he gets into the teens.

 

As for that generous compliment, I thank you.



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Posted on Sun, Feb 03, 2013 18:34

Lulu,

 

I agree with you on accepting and believing until one is given reason not to. My 6 year old son, knows not to lie to me or anyone else. I will always find out the truth at the end of the day, so he doesn't bother with lies even if the truth will get him grounded.

 

Positive reinforcement and believing in our children goes a long way in building strong, self-assured, positive young men and women.

 

As for your son's age, no way do you look like you have a 38 year old! What a lucky lady you are - you look stunning!

 

Liv.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 01, 2013 13:28



Giving your children a chance to have an opinion and be individuals, I feel, is important to their growth and development. It's in how we as parents react to the things they say and do that makes a difference. My kids are very close to me and talk to me about everything. Sometimes more than I would want to hear. It allows me the opportunity to give unsolicited advice without seeming pushy or meddlesome. 

 

My oldest son is now 38 (wow, do I suddenly feel old) and he talks to me as if I were his best friend. He will get into conversations that he should've had with his father but never did. This is something that, I am proud to say, comes from being strong but fair with them and allowing them to be themselves.

 

Hope, I really appreciate your input and look forward to it.

 
 

 

 



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Posted on Fri, Feb 01, 2013 09:32

Hey there Lovely LULU...

 

Again, WELCOME TO THE BLOGS!!!

 

It's so great to see someone else posting their thoughts! 

 

You have a "heathy" attitude. There IS a definitive difference between BELIEF and ACCEPT. 

 

One can "accept" someone's beliefs differ from theirs. I do this daily with agnostic friends, my liberal friend's point of view most times, etc...

 

As parents, we must pick and choose our battles. It's a fact! You can't create an argument or show a child you don't "accept" or distrust what they say every time you might hold a suspicion they may not be telling "exactly" the truth. If it isn't a matter of health, law, etc... Then you "accept" what they say and move on. And my life is FILLED with things no one would believe!!

 

Only VERIFY if you want / need the proof and BE PREPARED! Should the "truth" differ from what you've been told, be prepared to follow through with consequences, or you have done yourself and the other a huge disservice in character development by not holding them accountable! (Not only for lying about it.. but whatever they are lying about was bad as well) 



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Posted on Thu, Jan 31, 2013 23:17

"Trust but Verify"...Ronald Reagan.



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