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Posted on Sat, Apr 08, 2006 11:53

Hey thanks everyone for the comments, good advice and appreciate the time you took to add to my little blog :). I don't rely on MM solely for finding a partner, have tried several other sites too, but must admit, have not found what I am looking for. MM has become mostly entertainment and have made some very fun, new friends who I enjoy and yes it does help pass the time until I meet my guy. I have been single for the past 5 years by choice and very much enjoy my own company and friends and family, so it's not been a big priority finding a mate and I believe when it's right, it will just happen. I've spent much of that 5 years redefining what type of life I want, always had a tendency to put others' feelings first, but know now I have to be happy first before being able to welcome a new partner into my life, which I am. I am a stand by your man type of gal, providing it is a healthy, respectful, evolving relationship. I get along extremely well with men, always have, and treasure my long term friendships with them. I'm very accepting and accommodating with a partner, but do expect the same in return. Don't know if I agree with only the men contacting though, it is 2006 after all! I've seen many comments on this from women not to initiate, but many men have told me they like being contacted first so the onice is not only on them. I've tried both ways, and neither work all that well lol! As far as photos go, I don't have many and the ones posted are fairly casual, which is my preference, although I do occasionally enjoy getting dressed up. My clothing tastes tend to the tailored, classic side. I have seen many photos on here that I find don't leave much to the imagination, and that's okay, but just not my style. I am who I am, and would not change that for the world. Maybe I am too picky, but I don't feel I am, I just know what I want and am not prepared to settle for less, life is too short for settling. Just the fact that I'm stepping out of my box to try the dancing tells me I'm open to new experiences, and it sure is a blast! Next I'll try cooking classes I think! Good to try different venues and see what's out there both in experiences and people. Life is all about learning and growth, but you have to make the effort, so I am! I'm looking for a very special man, someone who recognizes my potential, values old fashioned morals and values and appreciates what I bring to the table. The problem with online is that most never take the time to get to know one another, which is really a shame I feel. I in turn want a man's man, someone who is very intelligent, knows how to communicate well, a fabulous sense of humour to keep up with me, a strong presence and someone I can respect and admire and is looking for a great life partner. Thanks so much for everyone's input again and good luck in the search!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Wed, May 14, 2008 00:39

I HAVE ALSO BEEN SINGLE BY CHOISE FOR YEARS NOW. AND I AM NOW FINDING IT HARDER TO TRUST ANYBODY THESE DAYS. THATS SAD . WHERE ARE ALL YOU GENIUNE PEOPLE OUT THEIR . I AM LOOKING FOR FRIENDS FIRST . TAKE VERY SLOW . GOOD LUCK EVERY ONE.

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Posted on Tue, Jan 30, 2007 21:10

Hey!!! Who's bumping? Is this an omen or something? LOL! After these past few days me thinks I have good reason to be disillusioned lol! Sure has been a wild ride!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Thu, Dec 28, 2006 09:36

Hi Barbara, your fav. Brit here, i know youve been dispirited by the quality of potential suitors, but you did find Bobby Vee LOL He loves you. Happy New Year Sweetheart


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Posted on Tue, Nov 21, 2006 08:29

Hi Geniek! Thanks for your post. Hey Sharp! Oh I'm hangin in there just fine, and ... am not so disillusioned as I was. I now view online dating as just one way to potentially meet a partner, if it's meant to be it will be. If not, then at least I've made some truly nice friends and have tons of entertainment.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Fri, Nov 17, 2006 06:18

Hi Guitargirl! Long time no hear! I'm doing great and so is my son, thanks for asking. Good for you that your social life has been kicked into high gear! Even better that it's in person, up close and personal :)! Don't be saying it won't last, why even put that out there?? Enjoy it and know there's a lot more to come your way, this is just a new beginning for you. It's also great that you don't have the time or inclination to be online, good for you. I'm around, so if you want to IM or email, I'd love to hear from you too.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Thu, Nov 16, 2006 09:55

Hi Ready, I know this can be disillusioning, but you have to hang in there. One day! You know I've been on this site coming up 2 yrs end of January. I've always said that I quit using it as a dating site almost 2 months after I joined. Like yourself, I use it for the entertainment value. In the process, I have met some wonderful new friends around the World...male & female. That's worth alot. But maybe I need to change my philosophy. Yesterday, a fellow I used to date said to me, "Fate is the path of least resistance." With respect to my finding someone, he told me not to leave it in the hands of fate, make it happen. Well he knows me, I'm a doer. I make things happen in my life and others. But I have put no effort into finding someone. I need to change that. Sometimes it's scary, because you have to make yourself vulnerable. As another dear male acquaintance from this site has told me (not on the blogs)... you have to go thru alot of trash before you find the person worthy of you. And one thing I do know...I'm a hell of a catch! In more ways than one. I think if we put the effort into finding someone, it will happen. It might not be online, but by joining a club, thru friends. OMG! I hate when friends do that to me! lol Hang in there honey, it will happen. Stay cheerful! How is the course going? I found an interesting course for myself to take next year...ESL...English as a 2nd language. Then I could travel & teach...it would give me the social connection I like to have.


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Posted on Wed, Nov 15, 2006 18:31

Hi sizzlinhot, As with anything, there are pros and cons. I like the fact that with online you do get the opportunity to get to know someone more in depth than you may in person. However, it takes getting past that initial glance of the photo, a cursory look at the profile and having some interest piqued before even thinking of possibly contacting. Many just keep on browsing as it's kind of like the kid in the candy store lol! I've also heard that things can go far more quickly online than in real life. Much more is shared than when meeting face to face. I've not experienced this myself, but know many have. I agree it's entirely up to one's self to determine the speed at which things progress. One of the drawbacks of online is initially you don't have the benefit of hearing the person's voice or seeing their body language which can cause misinterpretations, but if things aren't going well, it's much easier to terminate contact. I always keep in mind that there's a real live person on the other end, and give them the same respect as I would in person, I think this point is lost on many. Courtesy and manners never go out of style as far as I'm concerned. Your comment of "nothing ventured, nothing gained" is my motto! Online dating is just one other venue to potentially meet a partner and make new friends. You mentioned that there is no initial physical attraction to immediately judge by, this is true if there is no photo, but I don't usually communicate unless there is a photo. I think many look at little else than the photo lol!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Wed, Nov 15, 2006 04:59

Hi PaulineMaria! I did join initially to find a partner, but was also always open to welcoming new friends as well. The friends aspect has turned out to be far more successful than the partner, and that's okay too! The blogs can be quite interesting and informative depending on the topic and author.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Mon, Nov 13, 2006 06:11

Hi iwanttobehugged! I think many are on that same boat with us, too bad it's not a cruise ship! lol I agree with you that instant gratification has its downside, don't know why everyone is in such a rush these days. I wish you much luck in finding your special one too!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Sun, Nov 12, 2006 14:18

Hi Ready - hows it going?! Havent chatted in a while but hope we get to do so soon . . . Also, hope you and your son are both doing great. This blog is making more sense to me now. In the last few weeks, I dont know what 'switch' was turned on in my social life, but suddently it has become beyond wonderful. After 20 year hiatus from dating I am rediscovering the joy I once had of meeting new people, exploring new interests and philosophies, having fun flirtations, little crushes etc. Ironically, the male interest I have been recieving has nothing to do with the internet but honest to goodness flesh and blood folks I have been meeting while simply living my life and doing the various things I enjoy doing (going to parties, to athletic venues etc.). I'm sure it wont last, but while it does, I'm finding that the interent stuff has little appeal to me. A few months ago, I was using it as a way to learn how to 'meet' men again. Now I realize I dont need it for that (at least, not at the moment LOL) and frankly I think it might be a negative for me, if it takes me away from time where I could be out and actually meeting a real human being in a real place and learning how to put my heart on the line again. Whatever. I reserve the right to change my opinion on this subject an hour from now, or a year - we'll have to see how things go! Ciao baby!


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Posted on Sun, Nov 12, 2006 13:58

Hi AsianAmericanIdol! I hear you! I did initially have high hopes of meeting that most magnificent of men man, but learned quite quickly it ain't gonna happen lol! However, I must say it's been a real education and that's been made up of good and bad. I have also made a good number of friends who I've enjoyed immensely so it's been very rewarding in that regard. I am ever the optimist that my special someone is out there, maybe it's on MM, maybe not, but not being into the bar scene, this is an entertaining alternative nonetheless. I don't worry about meeting the "One" anymore, when it's time it will happen. In the meantime, I'll continue posting and enjoying others' opinions. Thank you for your post.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Sun, Nov 12, 2006 00:08

HI Ready, I find that internet dating hold both negative and postitive aspects. Positive: There is no initial physical attraction to immediately judge someone by. You have to choose whether to pay attention to someone online. Your feelings towards someone online are usually 80% based on reading each others typed out thoughts. Because you have no immediate physical contact you arent easily pursuaded to take things to the "next level" like you would be in person. Online dating gives you as much time as you see fit until actually meeting someone in person. You can take general information and at least check and see that this person lives in the state/country they tell you. You are in complete control of your 50% of the relationship. If you get a bad vibe, or think something is wrong you can simply block this persons access to you. You can close an instant message and never worry about being bothered again by this person. (except for the rare online stalker BS) Negative: Ive learned that some people's "real" lives off of the internet are non-existent. Certain people live out completely fabricated lives via the net. Good story tellers? Despertate for friendship/companionship? Or flat out liars? I say a little of all three. You get to know someone based on hours of conversations, and uploaded pictures only to find out that they are not the person in the picture, and nothing about the life they lead (or said they did) is true. Positive In person dating: Immediate yes or no to physical attraction. You dont waste your time or theirs if there isnt anything drawing you to them. Your conversations are not typed so less confusion or misunderstandings. In person interacting gives you immediate gratification and hopeful for future dates. Negatives for In person dating: You are more vulnerable to being followed home or sexually assaulted. You must be on your guard the entire time until you are certain the person isnt a real creep. You never know if your being setup for potential danger, harm, or being robbed. This person can be clever and manipulate you without you realizing it. Your consequences for something going wrong are much higher in person than online. Ive gone out on several dates from online dating services (2 diff services). One of my dates was a blind date to Mexico for 5 days. I had a blast! No love connection but we're still fantastic friends after 4 years. As the saying goes..... nothing ventured, nothing gained. Best of luck!


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Posted on Sat, Nov 11, 2006 03:43

Ready4UNow, I'm not exactly counting on this site or any other for a serious relationship. Between the Nigerian scammers, the married or in-a-relationship people looking for something on the side, the long distance factor that would be involved with most of the people who write me, and the people who literally cannot interact properly with other humans IRL, but can still make themselves look good online, even bar hopping seems better by comparison sometimes.


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Posted on Thu, Jun 22, 2006 09:31

Hi LivelyClassyLady! Thanks for your post. Boy those are some pretty sad statistics aren't they? I'm at the age where I won't rush getting to know someone before deciding on having a long term relationship with them, it takes time to get to know someone and that's half the fun! If we haven't learned that much by now, we're destined to repeat previous mistakes. I do believe that special man is out there searching for me and when he finds me, he will recognize all that I have to offer. My late husband did pay me a marvelous compliment, he said I should get married again because I was very good at it. I truly know what being a partner is and hope to meet my equal that way. You too are a lovely lady and I wish you success in finding a great man too! Take care.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Thu, Jun 22, 2006 04:30

LOL! As if an omen, last night which was my last night as a paying member, wouldn't you just know it ... the site wasn't working! Every link I clicked on errored out and finally I closed the site and tried it again and this time the entire site was down. Go figure. Reinforced my decision that's for sure!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Wed, Jun 21, 2006 16:45

Well here it is June 21/06 and I'm still disillusioned lol! This site has so many technical issues and doesn't seem to be improving so for the first time since I joined, I'm letting my preferred membership expire and doubt that I'll renew it. I've sent off numerous emails about how the IM works so slowly if at all, now the IM, Forums, Blogs, Who's Viewed, etc. don't show who's a preferred member or even their age so I give up. I did have a thread on the Message Board entitled MM NEEDS TO FIX THIS SITE and had some good comments on what needs fixing, but MM decided to take it down and when I checked with their "Senior" Customer Service person, he said he'd look into why it was taken down and get back to me, but of course, never did. I have a problem with paying for something that doesn't work, and though $20.00 per month isn't a lot, it's the principle for me. I've also noticed such a decline in the membership along with numerous scammers, fakes, trolls, etc. that I feel it's time to take a break and do something more positive. I've made some wonderful friends on here and will stay in touch with them, but as far as finding someone, it's been an abysmal failure for me, guess I'm just not what they're looking for. I will leave a profile up for the time being and see what happens. I wish everyone the best of luck in their elusive search for that special someone.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Tue, Apr 25, 2006 17:57

Hey Everyone! My original blog with the same title has totally disappeared into MM cyberspace I guess? I've written to them, but to no avail. Many thanks MorningAngel for all your comments and no I don't think we've met, but you never know, it is a small world, especially as you live where I do. Hey kimmie, thanks for the wonderful suggestion for cooking classes & it's quite close by too. Ms. Cutiepie, no I'm not just sitting here talking to myself lol! You're funny! Take care.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Fri, Apr 21, 2006 16:45

Try Loblaws for that cooking class. :o) Lots of nice people. Kim


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Posted on Fri, Apr 21, 2006 09:39

What did happen to all the posts on this blog? I know i posted somewhere in those days as have others and they just disappeared. Hmm... First of all. There is nothing wrong with being the first to contact a person. Like you said this is 2006. It's pretty much the norm and actually rather acceptable. I've never had a gentleman complain about my having been the one to contact them first. As for neither working, well somedays we're popular and other days we aren't? I've seen both over the few years personally. Don't let it get to you though. Sometimes it isn't for lack of intrest out there it's merely chance perhaps. That one who might be interested simply wasn't online for a period of time and therefore hasn't contacted you. Like the old saying, never put your eggs in one basket, here too is the same. And i see that you aren't. Bravo. This site is merely one of the many tools to use in life. Great that you're stepping out of the box. I'm a firm believer in that. Go for the cooking classes. Hey if you get a chance to try one of the cooking holidays. Going to another country with a group and learning from a professional in that country is one awesome way to have fun. I happen to like the pictures you've posted on your profile. I have a few of those other sort of pictures kicking around but no way would i put them up on my profile. Let them see the real you and in time the rest comes out. Somehow i don't see the semi nude pictures of a few on here as overly classy. I personally don't mind being a sex object but it's best kept in private and not flashed around in my opinion. Just as a note. In the years that i've talked to men and researched a few of the articles i've done, i've found that most men love mystery and true sensuality. They like to explore and discover (for lack of a better term here hehehe) then have it flashed in their faces. At least most men of quality do. What we seek in men they tend to seek in us. Stay real and i hope that he finds you. (as an aside.. you look so familiar to me that every time i see your picture i wonder if we've met somewhere in town somehow LOL) All the best of luck here and in life Leigh


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