I am new to this site. There seems to be a lot of passionate people on this website and I've really enjoyed reading the blogs and the ideas each of you have shared.
Everyone talks about chemistry and finding the "one". I was happily married for most of my adult life and now I find myself single. I guess I have not had the amount of heartache and disappointment some of you have. Perhaps I am naive. It just seems to me that first you need to know what you really want in a significant other and then determine if "YOU" are the kind of person with the personal qualities to attract this special someone in your life. If you find yourself lacking, then work to better yourself in the areas you need improvement in and you will attract a better mate.
I know single men and women that I consider to be very successful in most areas of their lives. They have worked hard to achieve success personally and professionally. To be considered in their league- you are going to have to have most of the qualities they possess. I have worked hard to get to know myself better and to develop qualities that are I think are worthwhile and that matter to me. When I see a profile that states they do not want any liars and cheaters etc and go on to fill their profile with all of the negative attributes they do not want - This tells me this has mostly been this person's experience in life. This kind of person would probably chew me up and spit me out!
It bothers me to see younger men and women talk about giving up on dating and giving up on relationships. This is just a journey and we meet all kinds of kindred souls along the way. Some we are fortunate to enjoy time with - some are teachers we can learn from and some we help in some little way. Enjoy the journey and find joy in your daily life. Don?t give up and don?t settle for less than you want on important issues. But do take the time to have fun! Nothing is forever and before you know it ? your life has passed and you don?t have a lot to show for it.
In my single life I have a give and take attitude with lots of people different from me. I like the variety and the challenge. Should we only want to be around people that are just like us? Relationships: Perhaps we get on and off too fast? This is a throw away society - On to the next one without taking the time to get to really know someone by peeling back the layers like layers of an onion. I have found some really great people that at first I didn't know if I was going to like them or not. Actually I spent 27 years of mostly happy years married to a woman that initially we didn't care for each other! Some of the women I've dated were not a "Match" but we had other things in common and we developed a good friendship and thru this circle of expanded friends, I met other interesting women they introduced me too.
Those of my acquaintances that are happily married always talk about how they married their best friends. Perhaps if we worked on ourselves a little more and gave those around us that want to get to know us better, a little more time to get to know them, when we peeled back the layers of the onion we would find a rose instead. Who knew! LOL