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Posted on Mon, Jan 20, 2014 11:38

How does one begin a blog like this? Perhaps with my experiences...all right, here goes. It has been my experience that many people are unwilling to  even respond to me based on the fact that I am a bigger woman. I have tried to let my personality shine through, but to no avail. So, men, I have a question. Are any of you willing to look at personality over appearance? To the women, what about you? Do you believe that men should hold personality to be the most important? Why?



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MissMonteCarlo
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Posted on Sun, Jan 26, 2014 01:06

I have to agree with some of the previous comments. If you are aiming for people to see your personality you need to show that in your profile so people can get an idea who you are. Or even post blogs so you get people reading about you and your interests etc.

 

I see that you are seeking English guys. This site is largely American based. That's why I just blog here rather than using it as a dating website.

 

I think in terms of people seeking attraction over personality. I guess we all seek attractive partners. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Attraction can come from your personality, the way you carry yourself, the way you treat others, your charisma etc. That in itself is very attractive.  Looks after all are only skin deep. Initially when people meet it is often very visual so that is why it is important to present yourself well. Then your personality shines through which confirms that initial attraction.  So perhaps by adding a few more photos making sure they are clear that will help you in your quest.

 

Perhaps not ruling out the vast majority of guys on this site by seeking english men will help also. Oh yes and I'd advise you to change your ID to avoid the creeps on here.

 

Good Luck!

 

Sarah :-)



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Posted on Fri, Jan 24, 2014 10:53

 

pokegirl,

 

 

 

Yeah, pokegirl really does not have the right ring to it.  It might be interesting to know why in the world you picked such an ID.  Private conversation though.  Likely not widespread interest, but who knows. 

 

 

 

Not sure you need to get off this site.  In your profile you did not specify LDS as a preference.  Your being LDS might scare away a few non LDS though.   There are LDS folks in this area as I am sure you know.  Some likely are members of MM for the same reasons any of the rest of us are.

 

 

 

Putting yourself out on some other sites too can’t hurt though.  .  

 

 

 

Coming on so strong about English men does not do a lot for we folks right here and close by.  I have the wee drop of English blood in me veins.  Does that count.  Probably not; by fractions it is why down the list. 

 

 

 

An “oh woe is me” blog is not likely to attract a whole lot of the right kind of interest.. 

 

 

 

As for personality, a good personality is what gets the second date.   What constitutes a good personality is analogous to beauty.  Beauty being in the eye of the beholder you know. 

 



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Posted on Wed, Jan 22, 2014 17:25

Quoting pokegirl:

How does one begin a blog like this? Perhaps with my experiences...all right, here goes. It has been my experience that many people are unwilling to  even respond to me based on the fact that I am a bigger woman. I have tried to let my personality shine through, but to no avail. So, men, I have a question. Are any of you willing to look at personality over appearance? To the women, what about you? Do you believe that men should hold personality to be the most important? Why?



"Pokegirl" is definitely a bad username.  And I agree with all the rest of advice given you on here.  I'm afraid some of it is probably pretty hurtful to you, but you're young; you can deal with it and make some changes. 

 

Best of luck to you.

 

Pat

 

P.S.:  Definitely get a better photo--a few of them, in fact.  Ones that actually show some of that personality you want to shine through. 



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Posted on Tue, Jan 21, 2014 21:21

There's a lid for every pot but I agree.. get off this site, there's no one here for you.

Just concentrate on yourself.  Be the best you can be and someone will find you.



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Hoping4Love2000
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Posted on Tue, Jan 21, 2014 20:59

Quoting Tammila:

Well girl for one thing change your online name from pokegirl. Its not so good for men to see that...lol. (have you ever watched Lonesome Dove?) probaly not your to young. And up your game a little. We know men are visual so use it to your advantage. Wear some makeup and get a better profile pic. In addiion a full body shot will help as well. Men DO NOT care abou your personaliy. 



TAMMILA is SPOT ON!!

 

And as a former advertising exec, I will go even further.. 

 

You claim you want your personality to shine through... WHAT PERSONALITY? Your profile states NOTHING on your section, and on the men's section you rule out 99.9% of men anywhere near your state and age bracket... by requesting an English man? Now who is being shallow now? 

 

Your NAME? OMG!!

The ONE BLURRY Photo? 

 

STEP YOUR GAME UP SUGAR! 

 

And of course MEN ARE VISUAL... SO ARE WOMEN! I'm certainly not going to date a man I can't envision kissing!!! 

 

I love that men are visual creatures! Makes me feel honoured they notice when a woman takes care of herself and doesn't allow herself to go by the wayside. 

 

I would also suggest a site more representative of your needs. Your are LDS and young. This is not the type site for you. Google LDS dating... Might have better luck... 

 

But follow the suggestions TAMMILA and I have made, regardless of what site you are on. If you want your personality to shine---- 

 

Turn the light on! ;~)

 

Best wishes to you sweetie! Let us know when you change your profile and we will let you know what we think. 

 

WELCOME to BLOGLAND!!!!



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Posted on Tue, Jan 21, 2014 15:52

I love this general comments about men.

But when men say that womans are golddiggers and only interested in the wallet,you start screaming...LOL.

The same story woman tells about love and sex...they can´t have sex whitout love...wondering how prostitutes work then?Wondering how all those woman that marry, to get papers to live in EU or USA do it...and i can tell you a lot more storys about that.

Do yo ladys don´t see to the appereance then?It is,and it will be the first contact,but i had also a lot of bad experiance whit that...and no,a woman dousnt have to look perfect,but i dont fall for overweight ladys or ladys that dousnt care there aperiance.Second,i want challenge,whitout to be pretending im inteligent,i still want a woman whit brains above a brainless barby doll.

Sorry for the grammatical faults,english is not my native language.



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Posted on Tue, Jan 21, 2014 07:08

Well girl for one thing change your online name from pokegirl. Its not so good for men to see that...lol. (have you ever watched Lonesome Dove?) probaly not your to young. And up your game a little. We know men are visual so use it to your advantage. Wear some makeup and get a better profile pic. In addiion a full body shot will help as well. Men DO NOT care abou your personaliy. 



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Posted on Mon, Jan 20, 2014 13:57

I'm sorry to type this but what we always hear is true, men are visual and shallow, there are some exceptions, I don't know any of them where I live in the state of California though. They also tend to search for perfection and females younger than them. Not only do they want perfection and younger females, they prefer that you have no opinions unless you are a copy of their own opinion but you are allowed to be "spiritual" as long as it follows their made-up version of what it means to be spiritual.

 

One more thing, you should be independent because you need to be able to take care of yourself, remember he only wants to visit you when there is no "drama" or any "baggage", that visit includes your bedroom, of course. If you're really lucky, you might be able to cook him breakfast! Lol.

Alrighty, now since I've typed what the truth is for many women, it doesn't mean you have to be a part of it. I think the best way to get to know someone you might become interested in having a relationship with is outside of a singles site but who am I to type that when I'm here and hoping beyond hope that I find the right guy too.  Whoever you are, just don't change for anyone. Someone will like you just the way you are. Good Luck!

 PS I looked at your profile AFTER I typed what is more of what I see online. Now that I know you are only 19 and live in Utah where you have a much better chance of finding someone who shares your faith,etc.,I'm pretty sure you will be just fine. Join some local meetup.com groups or attend some college games,etc. Be patient, it will happen.

 

 

 


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