For some reason this didn't show up in Hootz's Blog. Please read, rather long, but very powerful.
Things I have learned
that you cannot make someone
love you. All you can do is
be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them
that no matter how much I care,
some people just don't care back.
that it takes years to build up trust
and only seconds to destroy it.
that it's not what you have in your life
but who you have in your life that counts.
that you can get by on charm
for about fifteen minutes.
After that, you'd better know something.
that you shouldn't compare
yourself to the best others can do.
but to the best you can do.
that it's not what happens to people
that's important. It's what they
do about it.
that you can do something in an instant
that will give you heart ache for life.
that no matter how thin you slice it,
there are always two sides.
that it's taking me a long time to
become the person I want to be.
that it's a lot easier to react than
it is to think.
that you should always leave loved ones
with loving words. It may be
the last time you see them.
that you can keep going
long after you think you can't.
that we are responsible for what we do,
no matter how we feel.
that either you control your attitude
or it controls you.
that regardless of how hot and steamy a
relationship is at first, the passion
fades and there had better be
something else to take its place.
I've learned that heroes are the people
who do what has to be done when it
needs to be done, regardless
of the consequences.
that learning to forgive takes practice.
that there are people who love you dearly,
but just don't know how to show it.
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
that my best friend and I can do anything
or nothing and have the best time.
that sometimes the people you expect
to kick you when you're down
will be the ones to help you get back up.
that sometimes when I'm angry
I have the right to be angry but that
doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
that true friendship continues grow
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
that just because someone
doesn't love you
the way you want them to doesn't mean
they don't love you with all they have.
that maturity has more to do with
what types of experiences you've had
and what you've learned from them
and less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.
that you should never tell a child that
their dreams are unlikely or outlandish.
Few things are more humiliating, and
what a tragedy it would if they believed it.
that your family won't always
be there for you. It may seem funny,
but people you aren't related to
can take care of you and love you
and teach you to trust people again.
Families aren't biological.
that no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once
in a while and you must forgive
them for that.
I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to
learn to forgive yourself.
that no matter how bad your heart is broken,
the world doesn't stop for your grief.
that our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.
that sometimes when my friends fight,
I'm forced to choose sides
even when I don't want to.
that just because two people argue,
it doesn't mean they don't love each other
And just because they don't argue,
it doesn't mean they do.
that sometimes you have to put
the individual ahead of their actions.
that we don't have to change friends
if we understand that friends change.
that you shouldn't be so eager to find
out a secret. It could change your life forever.
that two people can look
at the exact same thing
and see something totally different.
that no matter how you try to protect
your children, they will eventually get hurt
and you will hurt in the process.
that there are many
ways of falling and staying in love.
that no matter the consequences,
those who are honest
with themselves get farther in life.
that no matter how many friends you have,
if you are their pillar you will feel lonely
and lost at the times you need them most.
that your life can be changed
in a matter of hours by people who
don't even know you.
that even when you think
you have no more to give,
when a friend cries out to you,
you will find strength to help.
that writing, as well as talking,
can ease emotional pains.
that the paradigm we live in
is not all that is offered to us.
that credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.
that the people you care most about in life
are taken from you too soon.
that although the word "love" can have
many different meanings,
it loses value when overly used.
that it's hard to determine
where to draw the line between being
nice and not hurting people's feelings
and standing up for what you believe.
Why would anyone want to join this site that consist of adult people calling another a lying SOB. The posting of yet another silly Blog that if true contains personal confidential information about another. For the life of me, I can't understand how someone would be this obsessed with another that they feel like God died and left them in charge of MM. What has happened to the integrity, the humane side of people here? Is it the achievement of obtaining money but lack of good sense and manners? Does it have to be broken down for the understanding that reactions only stimulates power for some? Most of everyone here are well educated human beings, right? I had a newcomer email me this morning and she yet has to blog because fear of all the dysfunctional behavior here. It was actually pleasant to speak to another who wants to be a part of this site, yet the behavior here is unquestionably rude, childish, and contains no regard to being a respectful adult. But lets give credit where it is due. There are some very well educated ladies here who I have placed comments in their Blogs, that I already respect because they refuse to be a part of the insanity here. Is it really worth the $19.95 a month one would have to pay when they could go to any and all sites and they are all alike? You tell me, because I'm certain there is still quality here that yet remains.