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Posted on Wed, Jun 19, 2013 07:51

Ever wonder what creates chemistry--that magic moment when both of you feel the sparks of love and your heart goes pitter-patter?  Well, there is a research answer to that.

Peretti and Abplanalp did a study with 396 male and female college students using open-ended questionnaires from first dates that felt chemistry.  From that information six areas came to the forefront defining that elusive magic.

--physical attractiveness (did they find them attractive?)
--similarity (to themselves in race, religion, interests, etc.)
--spontaneous communication (communication flowed easily)
--reciprocity (give and take that develops trust and intimacy)
--warm personality (caring, sharing, helping, friendly)
--longing (not wanting the date to end)



Source: Peretti, P. O., & Abplanalp, R. R. (2004). Chemistry in the  college dating process: Structure and function. Social Behavior and Personality: an international journal, 32(2), 147-154.



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Posted on Sun, Jul 28, 2013 20:22

chemistry is rare and so very yummy!



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 08:38

are we all an ellussion?????



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 07:57

SL: You quoted your friend... "  The Elusive Chemistry is akin to a drug. When we are under the influence, our behaviour becomes erratic and unpredictable.  We Are On A Hormone High.  This condition while intoxicating, has No bearing on whether or Not Two People Can Mantain A Loving Relationship  ".

 

 I agree completely. Chemistry doesn't translate into long term relationships.  In fact SL, as a twist to your posting, I'd suggest your "solution" might even be Biblical.  Jesus said in Matthew 22:30 "For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven."  This suggests "marriage" is totally different then the mess we created on earth.  I may have to start calling you "Pastor SL" because of your wisdom.  Wink.



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Posted on Wed, Jun 19, 2013 23:29

Where are they selling this "Chemistry" cuz I would like to buy some please :) Enough for two!!



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