This is a semi-rhetorical question: What creates chemistry in a relationship? From a research viewpoint I know the answer since I'm a professor. A study done by Peretti and friends found the following 6 areas need to work together (much like baking a cake) to create chemistry. The ranking is also listed by order of importance by individuals in the study.
physical attractiveness
similarity
spontaneous communication
reciprocity
warm personality
longing
That's all well and good intellectually, but in reality I have been divorced 5 years and chemistry doesn't come easily to me (or not at all honestly). I can get some of these but not all the ducks line up.
Source: Peretti, Peter O.; Abplanalp, Richard R. Social Behavior and Personality: an international journal, Volume 32, Number 2, 2004 , pp. 147-154(8)
This is a semi-rhetorical question: What creates chemistry in a relationship? From a research viewpoint I know the answer since I'm a professor. A study done by Peretti and friends found the following 6 areas need to work together (much like baking a cake) to create chemistry. The ranking is also listed by order of importance by individuals in the study.
physical attractiveness
similarity
spontaneous communication
reciprocity
warm personality
longing
That's all well and good intellectually, but in reality I have been divorced 5 years and chemistry doesn't come easily to me (or not at all honestly). I can get some of these but not all the ducks line up.
Source: Peretti, Peter O.; Abplanalp, Richard R. Social Behavior and Personality: an international journal, Volume 32, Number 2, 2004 , pp. 147-154(8)
WINDRIDER.. I am sooo ROFLMAO right now!! HILARIOUS!!
So this "perfume"... 1) Do ya think you could send me some!!
And 2) .. Do you think they will arrest me at the smorgasboard if I start spraying all the men?
See.. That part where you said our "brains" keep us outta trouble...
Well, in all seriousness... There have been times when I have gone somewhere.. and MY BRAIN WAS OUT TO LUNCH!!
You know how they always have the chocolate by the check out? They do that for impulsive individuals like me!! Sad fact of my life... I have an impulsive nature and my brain leaves me often! :)
Skydiving was awesome!! I was 33 .. so it was long ago.. I also did the Petty experience in Daytona.. That was cool.... but not as cool as jumping out of that plane!
Now what were we talking about? OH! Our friend who gets us "high" and in trouble..
PHEREMONES! Ahhh.. Lovely perfume! LOLOL...
THANKS WINDY FOR WRITING LARGER!! ;)
WINDRIDER.. I am sooo ROFLMAO right now!! HILARIOUS!!
So this "perfume"... 1) Do ya think you could send me some!!
And 2) .. Do you think they will arrest me at the smorgasboard if I start spraying all the men?
See.. That part where you said our "brains" keep us outta trouble...
Well, in all seriousness... There have been times when I have gone somewhere.. and MY BRAIN WAS OUT TO LUNCH!!
You know how they always have the chocolate by the check out? They do that for impulsive individuals like me!! Sad fact of my life... I have an impulsive nature and my brain leaves me often! :)
Skydiving was awesome!! I was 33 .. so it was long ago.. I also did the Petty experience in Daytona.. That was cool.... but not as cool as jumping out of that plane!
Now what were we talking about? OH! Our friend who gets us "high" and in trouble..
V, Are you saying this because he looks a little like Spock? ~CnC
Quoting Voyager54:
...specify reciprocity and similarity...in what context?
You know, you resemble Leonard Nimoy...a lot !...You could use that to your advantage. Everybody loves Star Trek! You could do some of that Vulcan mind bending shyt and transform these women into perpetual playthings! .." I am Spock...HEEL!"...or something along those lines.
Quoting Voyager54:
...specify reciprocity and similarity...in what context?
You know, you resemble Leonard Nimoy...a lot !...You could use that to your advantage. Everybody loves Star Trek! You could do some of that Vulcan mind bending shyt and transform these women into perpetual playthings! .." I am Spock...HEEL!"...or something along those lines.
V, Are you saying this because he looks a little like Spock? ~CnC
CHEMISTRY... (for DATING purposes) is merely an ANIMALISTIC DESIRE... URGE.. LONGING.. Haven't any of you ever stood next to someone in a grocery line or met someone for the first time... and just felt.. "HOT AND BOTHERED!!" lol...
We are NOT meant to have chemistry with tons of the opposite sex... I agree with LIV and say.. IF you do.. BEWARE! That is more a "mental" facilitation you are granting yourself... It is FALSE chemistry... Akin to how a woman can "convince" herself she is pregnant and have all symptoms.. but SHE ISN'T PREGNANT! The brain is our most powerful organ!
CHEMISTRY is about pheremones, scents.. etc.. and has NOTHING to do with COMPATIBILITY! I know several men I am compatible with.. but guess what? NO SEXUAL CHEMISTRY!! I also have known real jerks I WAS animalistically attracted to... CHEMISTRY IS A DRUG!! AN ALL TIME HIGH that cannot be "FAKED!" Serious chemistry can even lead to obsessive behavior.. erratic as was stated by someone here previously... One will know the difference in a KISS....
I too, as BEWELL, do not hold much stock in "findings" from yo-yo psycologist... I prefer to LIVE IT and breathe it! I don't need to know what some statistic is all about.. I've LIVED REAL CHEMISTRY... and when you have it.. "IT" puts you higher than going skydiving!
EXPERIENCE IS OUR FINEST TEACHER.... ;)
ORLANDO... I agree with LIV.. You will be very loyal and loving when you find her...
WINDRIDER... Special request.. I enjoy reading your thoughts.. but find it difficult to read being so small.. esp when in dark on my balcony... Can you write a wee bit larger please.. EWwww.. My age is showing! LOL...
Hi Hoping 4Love,
Sorry about the font size. Is this any better?
Your comments had me rolling on the floor. I can't remember all the times I've just walked past a complete stranger and felt 'the urge' so strongly that I wanted to grab him, drop to the ground, and rut around in the dirt until dawn. Luckily, self control took over and held me back. Afterwards, I was always thankful nothing happened. Most of them turned out to be total jerks.You're right...it's nothing but animal lust triggered by pharomones...pure and simple.
Do you know you can buy the stuff like perfume now? A few years ago I went online and bought some...just to conduct my own "physiological study'...to see how much truth there was in what I was hearing and reading. A few days after it arrived, I trotted off to Fargo to conduct my 'study'. Stopped by a good smorgasbord restaurant (you don't really have all that much contact with people in other types of eateries) and proceeded to slowly go around every food table to see what was cooking that night. No one even noticed I existed. I popped into the ladies room, sprayed myself generously with the stuff, then proceeded back to the floor and made it a point to stand next to 5 or 6 of the men that had ignored me the first time. It was amazing...every one of them started up a conversation with me! One man, who I just walked past on my way to a table, actually got up and came over and invited himself to sit down. This stuff is amazing! Pheromones are what creates chemistry between two people. Your brain is what keeps you in control. Every living creature produces scents that attract the opposite sex...right down to mosquitoes and fleas. They (the scents) are what keeps a relationship charged...the other things mentioned (character and personality traits) are the glue that hold the relationship together.
Personally, I want the whole package. Like you, I've also "LIVED REAL CHEMISTRY", and there's no way in hell it can be faked. My X and I were still on our honeymoon 15 years after we got married. Things slowed down a bit after that, but the intensity never did.
That picture is awesome. Even if pheromones "puts you higher than going skydiving", it's still something I have on my "Bucket list"...along with riding in a dressage freestyle competition, although I'd need as much training as the horse. I learned to ride by jumping on bareback and making sure I didn't fall off. Don't laugh, it's worked with about every kind of critter I've ever thrown a leg over. ;-)
M
Quoting Hoping4Love2000:
~~AMEN FIREGLOW AND LIV!!~~
CHEMISTRY... (for DATING purposes) is merely an ANIMALISTIC DESIRE... URGE.. LONGING.. Haven't any of you ever stood next to someone in a grocery line or met someone for the first time... and just felt.. "HOT AND BOTHERED!!" lol...
We are NOT meant to have chemistry with tons of the opposite sex... I agree with LIV and say.. IF you do.. BEWARE! That is more a "mental" facilitation you are granting yourself... It is FALSE chemistry... Akin to how a woman can "convince" herself she is pregnant and have all symptoms.. but SHE ISN'T PREGNANT! The brain is our most powerful organ!
CHEMISTRY is about pheremones, scents.. etc.. and has NOTHING to do with COMPATIBILITY! I know several men I am compatible with.. but guess what? NO SEXUAL CHEMISTRY!! I also have known real jerks I WAS animalistically attracted to... CHEMISTRY IS A DRUG!! AN ALL TIME HIGH that cannot be "FAKED!" Serious chemistry can even lead to obsessive behavior.. erratic as was stated by someone here previously... One will know the difference in a KISS....
I too, as BEWELL, do not hold much stock in "findings" from yo-yo psycologist... I prefer to LIVE IT and breathe it! I don't need to know what some statistic is all about.. I've LIVED REAL CHEMISTRY... and when you have it.. "IT" puts you higher than going skydiving!
EXPERIENCE IS OUR FINEST TEACHER.... ;)
ORLANDO... I agree with LIV.. You will be very loyal and loving when you find her...
WINDRIDER... Special request.. I enjoy reading your thoughts.. but find it difficult to read being so small.. esp when in dark on my balcony... Can you write a wee bit larger please.. EWwww.. My age is showing! LOL...
Hi Hoping 4Love,
Sorry about the font size. Is this any better?
Your comments had me rolling on the floor. I can't remember all the times I've just walked past a complete stranger and felt 'the urge' so strongly that I wanted to grab him, drop to the ground, and rut around in the dirt until dawn. Luckily, self control took over and held me back. Afterwards, I was always thankful nothing happened. Most of them turned out to be total jerks.You're right...it's nothing but animal lust triggered by pharomones...pure and simple.
Do you know you can buy the stuff like perfume now? A few years ago I went online and bought some...just to conduct my own "physiological study'...to see how much truth there was in what I was hearing and reading. A few days after it arrived, I trotted off to Fargo to conduct my 'study'. Stopped by a good smorgasbord restaurant (you don't really have all that much contact with people in other types of eateries) and proceeded to slowly go around every food table to see what was cooking that night. No one even noticed I existed. I popped into the ladies room, sprayed myself generously with the stuff, then proceeded back to the floor and made it a point to stand next to 5 or 6 of the men that had ignored me the first time. It was amazing...every one of them started up a conversation with me! One man, who I just walked past on my way to a table, actually got up and came over and invited himself to sit down. This stuff is amazing! Pheromones are what creates chemistry between two people. Your brain is what keeps you in control. Every living creature produces scents that attract the opposite sex...right down to mosquitoes and fleas. They (the scents) are what keeps a relationship charged...the other things mentioned (character and personality traits) are the glue that hold the relationship together.
Personally, I want the whole package. Like you, I've also "LIVED REAL CHEMISTRY", and there's no way in hell it can be faked. My X and I were still on our honeymoon 15 years after we got married. Things slowed down a bit after that, but the intensity never did.
That picture is awesome. Even if pheromones "puts you higher than going skydiving", it's still something I have on my "Bucket list"...along with riding in a dressage freestyle competition, although I'd need as much training as the horse. I learned to ride by jumping on bareback and making sure I didn't fall off. Don't laugh, it's worked with about every kind of critter I've ever thrown a leg over. ;-)
CHEMISTRY... (for DATING purposes) is merely an ANIMALISTIC DESIRE... URGE.. LONGING.. Haven't any of you ever stood next to someone in a grocery line or met someone for the first time... and just felt.. "HOT AND BOTHERED!!" lol...
We are NOT meant to have chemistry with tons of the opposite sex... I agree with LIV and say.. IF you do.. BEWARE! That is more a "mental" facilitation you are granting yourself... It is FALSE chemistry... Akin to how a woman can "convince" herself she is pregnant and have all symptoms.. but SHE ISN'T PREGNANT! The brain is our most powerful organ!
CHEMISTRY is about pheremones, scents.. etc.. and has NOTHING to do with COMPATIBILITY! I know several men I am compatible with.. but guess what? NO SEXUAL CHEMISTRY!! I also have known real jerks I WAS animalistically attracted to... CHEMISTRY IS A DRUG!! AN ALL TIME HIGH that cannot be "FAKED!" Serious chemistry can even lead to obsessive behavior.. erratic as was stated by someone here previously... One will know the difference in a KISS....
I too, as BEWELL, do not hold much stock in "findings" from yo-yo psycologist... I prefer to LIVE IT and breathe it! I don't need to know what some statistic is all about.. I've LIVED REAL CHEMISTRY... and when you have it.. "IT" puts you higher than going skydiving!
EXPERIENCE IS OUR FINEST TEACHER.... ;)
ORLANDO... I agree with LIV.. You will be very loyal and loving when you find her...
WINDRIDER... Special request.. I enjoy reading your thoughts.. but find it difficult to read being so small.. esp when in dark on my balcony... Can you write a wee bit larger please.. EWwww.. My age is showing! LOL...
~~AMEN FIREGLOW AND LIV!!~~
CHEMISTRY... (for DATING purposes) is merely an ANIMALISTIC DESIRE... URGE.. LONGING.. Haven't any of you ever stood next to someone in a grocery line or met someone for the first time... and just felt.. "HOT AND BOTHERED!!" lol...
We are NOT meant to have chemistry with tons of the opposite sex... I agree with LIV and say.. IF you do.. BEWARE! That is more a "mental" facilitation you are granting yourself... It is FALSE chemistry... Akin to how a woman can "convince" herself she is pregnant and have all symptoms.. but SHE ISN'T PREGNANT! The brain is our most powerful organ!
CHEMISTRY is about pheremones, scents.. etc.. and has NOTHING to do with COMPATIBILITY! I know several men I am compatible with.. but guess what? NO SEXUAL CHEMISTRY!! I also have known real jerks I WAS animalistically attracted to... CHEMISTRY IS A DRUG!! AN ALL TIME HIGH that cannot be "FAKED!" Serious chemistry can even lead to obsessive behavior.. erratic as was stated by someone here previously... One will know the difference in a KISS....
I too, as BEWELL, do not hold much stock in "findings" from yo-yo psycologist... I prefer to LIVE IT and breathe it! I don't need to know what some statistic is all about.. I've LIVED REAL CHEMISTRY... and when you have it.. "IT" puts you higher than going skydiving!
EXPERIENCE IS OUR FINEST TEACHER.... ;)
ORLANDO... I agree with LIV.. You will be very loyal and loving when you find her...
WINDRIDER... Special request.. I enjoy reading your thoughts.. but find it difficult to read being so small.. esp when in dark on my balcony... Can you write a wee bit larger please.. EWwww.. My age is showing! LOL...
Sexual attraction remains one of life's biggest mysteries. We might say we go for partners who are tall and thin, love to cook, or have a mania for exercise, but when push comes to shove, studies show, the people we actually end up with possess few of the traits we claim to want. Some researchers think scent could be the hidden cosmological constant in the sexual universe, the missing factor that explains who we end up with. It may even explain why we feel "chemistry"—or "sparks" or "electricity"—with one person and not with another
It is called Major Histocompatibility Complex [MHC]. MHC [which deals with body odour and subconscious sexual attraction], along with neurotransmitter Dopamine, and other pleasure hormones such as Oxytocin etc enhances attraction, Chemistry and bonding. These have been proven scientifically. MHC is the reason why subconsciously you may be sexually attracted to one person and not another given similar circumstances. It is subconscious so you won't even notice why you have fallen for that particular person. So you are absolutely right. Nature playing tricks with us!
Quoting justme2042:
Sexual attraction remains one of life's biggest mysteries. We might say we go for partners who are tall and thin, love to cook, or have a mania for exercise, but when push comes to shove, studies show, the people we actually end up with possess few of the traits we claim to want. Some researchers think scent could be the hidden cosmological constant in the sexual universe, the missing factor that explains who we end up with. It may even explain why we feel "chemistry"—or "sparks" or "electricity"—with one person and not with another
It is called Major Histocompatibility Complex [MHC]. MHC [which deals with body odour and subconscious sexual attraction], along with neurotransmitter Dopamine, and other pleasure hormones such as Oxytocin etc enhances attraction, Chemistry and bonding. These have been proven scientifically. MHC is the reason why subconsciously you may be sexually attracted to one person and not another given similar circumstances. It is subconscious so you won't even notice why you have fallen for that particular person. So you are absolutely right. Nature playing tricks with us!
Hi Orlando, First of all, I would love to steal your headline and "be rescued from this site"! I have found that even if that electric current feeling of chemistry is there, it does not tell all, at least not in the beginning. You have to give it time. I've felt chemistry on first dates, even had the feelings confirmed, but that doesn't mean you will ever hear from them again. Online meetings tend to be very fickle. One minute you get the rose, and the next thing you know, someone else gets their attention and you are back to square 1. Just move on and learn from the experience. If they don't have the attention span of a fish, you don't want or need them anyway! Right? :)
Quoting Dmarie1956:
Hi Orlando, First of all, I would love to steal your headline and "be rescued from this site"! I have found that even if that electric current feeling of chemistry is there, it does not tell all, at least not in the beginning. You have to give it time. I've felt chemistry on first dates, even had the feelings confirmed, but that doesn't mean you will ever hear from them again. Online meetings tend to be very fickle. One minute you get the rose, and the next thing you know, someone else gets their attention and you are back to square 1. Just move on and learn from the experience. If they don't have the attention span of a fish, you don't want or need them anyway! Right? :)
Hi Orlando, First of all, I would love to steal your headline and "be rescued from this site"! I have found that even if that electric current feeling of chemistry is there, it does not tell all, at least not in the beginning. You have to give it time. I've felt chemistry on first dates, even had the feelings confirmed, but that doesn't mean you will ever hear from them again. Online meetings tend to be very fickle. One minute you get the rose, and the next thing you know, someone else gets their attention and you are back to square 1. Just move on and learn from the experience. If they don't have the attention span of a fish, you don't want or need them anyway! Right? :)
Hi Orlando,
First of all, I would love to steal your headline and "be rescued from this site"!
I have found that even if that electric current feeling of chemistry is there, it does not tell all, at least not in the beginning. You have to give it time. I've felt chemistry on first dates, even had the feelings confirmed, but that doesn't mean you will ever hear from them again. Online meetings tend to be very fickle. One minute you get the rose, and the next thing you know, someone else gets their attention and you are back to square 1. Just move on and learn from the experience. If they don't have the attention span of a fish, you don't want or need them anyway! Right? :)
Sexual attraction remains one of life's biggest mysteries. We might say we go for partners who are tall and thin, love to cook, or have a mania for exercise, but when push comes to shove, studies show, the people we actually end up with possess few of the traits we claim to want. Some researchers think scent could be the hidden cosmological constant in the sexual universe, the missing factor that explains who we end up with. It may even explain why we feel "chemistry"—or "sparks" or "electricity"—with one person and not with another
Sexual attraction remains one of life's biggest mysteries.
We might say we go for partners who are tall and thin, love to cook, or have a mania for exercise, but when push comes to shove, studies show, the people we actually end up with possess few of the traits we claim to want.
Some researchers think scent could be the hidden cosmological constant in the sexual universe, the missing factor that explains who we end up with. It may even explain why we feel "chemistry"—or "sparks" or "electricity"—with one person and not with another
Glow~ That is the best description of chemistry I have heard! It IS like a high.....and it's the good stuff! :))
Quoting fireglow:
The elusive chemistry is akin to a drug. When we are under the influence, our behaviour becomes erratic and unpredictable--we are on a hormone high. This condition, while intoxicating, has no bearing on whether or not two people can establish and maintain a loving relationship.
Quoting fireglow:
The elusive chemistry is akin to a drug. When we are under the influence, our behaviour becomes erratic and unpredictable--we are on a hormone high. This condition, while intoxicating, has no bearing on whether or not two people can establish and maintain a loving relationship.
Glow~ That is the best description of chemistry I have heard! It IS like a high.....and it's the good stuff! :))
You're not the only person to whom chemistry doesn't click in easily, Orlando. I'm afraid it's been a lot longer for me than it has for you...not because there haven't been many opportunities, but because I could never have any kind of a physical relationship with someone I didn't have a strong emotional bond with, and chemistry is a purely physical reaction. I learned a long time ago that some things have to be accepted for what they are because there is no explanation that makes any sense whatsoever, and chemistry is one of those things. I've met men since my divorce that sent off pheromones strong enough to fire up a volcano, but the thought of having a physical encounter with them left me cold. Very confusing when that happens, but when I run into them again and the pheromones aren't exploding all over the place, I'm always thankful nothing transpired.
Personally, I take the findings of researchers doing studies on human emotions with a grain of salt. Too many variables involved in what makes people react the way they do emotionally to things in their lives, and the researchers couldn't judge that accurately without knowing each person's entire life story. Peretti and friends must have included Pheromones under the heading 'Longing'...if they even admitted their influence in "chemical attraction".
I don't think we're lacking in sexuality when we don't find chemistry with people for long periods of time ...it just takes something deeper to make it kick in for people like us. When it's right, it will happen. Until then, just enjoy the interesting new friends you make along the way that brighten your life like moonlight on ice crystals.
As for you, Voyager54...not being a 'Treckkie" fan...I'd have to describe you as a many faceted stone who is probably one kick-ass friend, grin. (Just my take from what I've read in your blogs and profile.)
You're not the only person to whom chemistry doesn't click in easily, Orlando. I'm afraid it's been a lot longer for me than it has for you...not because there haven't been many opportunities, but because I could never have any kind of a physical relationship with someone I didn't have a strong emotional bond with, and chemistry is a purely physical reaction. I learned a long time ago that some things have to be accepted for what they are because there is no explanation that makes any sense whatsoever, and chemistry is one of those things. I've met men since my divorce that sent off pheromones strong enough to fire up a volcano, but the thought of having a physical encounter with them left me cold. Very confusing when that happens, but when I run into them again and the pheromones aren't exploding all over the place, I'm always thankful nothing transpired.
Personally, I take the findings of researchers doing studies on human emotions with a grain of salt. Too many variables involved in what makes people react the way they do emotionally to things in their lives, and the researchers couldn't judge that accurately without knowing each person's entire life story. Peretti and friends must have included Pheromones under the heading 'Longing'...if they even admitted their influence in "chemical attraction".
I don't think we're lacking in sexuality when we don't find chemistry with people for long periods of time ...it just takes something deeper to make it kick in for people like us. When it's right, it will happen. Until then, just enjoy the interesting new friends you make along the way that brighten your life like moonlight on ice crystals.
As for you, Voyager54...not being a 'Treckkie" fan...I'd have to describe you as a many faceted stone who is probably one kick-ass friend, grin. (Just my take from what I've read in your blogs and profile.)
Hi Orlando I think Peretti and Abplanalp didn't study Jung much. If Jung were alive today I think we would find him immersed in learning about the field of quantum physics/mechanics for answers about relationship chemistry. IMO, Peretti and Abplanalp are not getting the bigger picture.
If Einstein was correct, and everything is energy, then everything is made up of energy patterns, including people. I believe chemistry is more about two people with certain compatible energies. Jung would have seen this too and remembered that astrology is about energy patterns as well, and I'm sure he would have linked it all together. Most professional astrologers today have already figured this out.
I looked at your profile and see that you and I are both Capricorns. That tells me a little bit about you. You and I would probably have good chemistry to be business partners, associates or friends, but the chemistry would not be right for a love relationship--too much alike. Although the attraction might be there at first (if we were age appropriate) ;-D That's just a very over-simplified example. I'm not a professional astrologer, but have studied with several. I find it fascinating and very helpful information. Jung thought so too. ;-D
My heart goes out to you and I hear your frustration about not having found a suitable woman in the last 5 years you've been single. Hang in there. It will happen. Never give up hope, and keep yourself open and emotionally available. .............. BeWell
Hi Orlando
I think Peretti and Abplanalp didn't study Jung much. If Jung were alive today I think we would find him immersed in learning about the field of quantum physics/mechanics for answers about relationship chemistry. IMO, Peretti and Abplanalp are not getting the bigger picture.
If Einstein was correct, and everything is energy, then everything is made up of energy patterns, including people. I believe chemistry is more about two people with certain compatible energies. Jung would have seen this too and remembered that astrology is about energy patterns as well, and I'm sure he would have linked it all together. Most professional astrologers today have already figured this out.
I looked at your profile and see that you and I are both Capricorns. That tells me a little bit about you. You and I would probably have good chemistry to be business partners, associates or friends, but the chemistry would not be right for a love relationship--too much alike. Although the attraction might be there at first (if we were age appropriate) ;-D That's just a very over-simplified example. I'm not a professional astrologer, but have studied with several. I find it fascinating and very helpful information. Jung thought so too. ;-D
My heart goes out to you and I hear your frustration about not having found a suitable woman in the last 5 years you've been single. Hang in there. It will happen. Never give up hope, and keep yourself open and emotionally available. .............. BeWell
BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D
Orlando - Maybe Professors don't do Chemistry unless they are Professor of Chemistry? Lol!! I know you won't like me after this, lol! But you get the intended pun!
Orlando - The fact that Chemistry does not come easily to you is not such a bad thing because it means that:
1. You are not having Chemistry with many people all at once and
2. When it happens it happens. People like you are more likely to be faithful and loyal in relationships than the confused bunch that believe that they have Chemistry with anyone that smiles at them.
I did respond to a blog a while ago that dealt with this topic but from a different perspective that Chemisty is created by the individuals involved - the truth is Chemistry happens, you can't manufacture it. It is either there or it isn't. I also wrote in detail about the biochemical aspect of Chemistry with regards to the brain and the release of chemical neurotransmitter Dopamine in enhancing this feeling. Without Dopamine, it is impossible for Chemistry to happen!
Liv.
Orlando - Maybe Professors don't do Chemistry unless they are Professor of Chemistry? Lol!! I know you won't like me after this, lol! But you get the intended pun!
Orlando - The fact that Chemistry does not come easily to you is not such a bad thing because it means that:
1. You are not having Chemistry with many people all at once and
2. When it happens it happens. People like you are more likely to be faithful and loyal in relationships than the confused bunch that believe that they have Chemistry with anyone that smiles at them.
I did respond to a blog a while ago that dealt with this topic but from a different perspective that Chemisty is created by the individuals involved - the truth is Chemistry happens, you can't manufacture it. It is either there or it isn't. I also wrote in detail about the biochemical aspect of Chemistry with regards to the brain and the release of chemical neurotransmitter Dopamine in enhancing this feeling. Without Dopamine, it is impossible for Chemistry to happen!
The elusive chemistry is akin to a drug. When we are under the influence, our behaviour becomes erratic and unpredictable--we are on a hormone high. This condition, while intoxicating, has no bearing on whether or not two people can establish and maintain a loving relationship.
The elusive chemistry is akin to a drug. When we are under the influence, our behaviour becomes erratic and unpredictable--we are on a hormone high. This condition, while intoxicating, has no bearing on whether or not two people can establish and maintain a loving relationship.
I think there is one big thing that helps define chemistry and that is the COMFORT FACTOR. If I am comfortable with someone, not just in conversation but with the silences, there may be chemistry.
I think there is one big thing that helps define chemistry and that is the COMFORT FACTOR. If I am comfortable with someone, not just in conversation but with the silences, there may be chemistry.
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