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Posted on Sun, Jun 23, 2013 08:44

Is it over for 40 plus year old women to remarry?  Maybe not over, but the research isn't bright.  Half of all marriages have already ended in divorce.  According to the National Center for Family & Marriage Research, the remarriage outlook is bleak--especially for women.  Using U.S. Census data, they reported the following:

1. Women by far will marry less than men after a divorce.
2. The less education a person has, the less likely chance of them remarrying.  Men, by approximately 2 to 1, are still more likely to remarry than women across educational categories.
3.  White women followed by Black women are the least likely to remarry.  Hispanic followed by Asian women have the best chances of remarrying.
4.  The older you get the worse it gets.  Women 46-64 have a 19 in 1000 chance of remarrying while women 65 and older only 2 in 1000.  Men are 62% and 143% more likely to remarry than women at these ages, respectively.

Source: National Center for Family & Marriage Research. (2012). Remarriage Rate in the U.S., FP-12-14.



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Posted on Wed, Jul 10, 2013 15:32

...Women 46-64 have a 19 in 1000 chance of remarrying...

...Men are 62% and 143% more likely to remarry than women in these ages...

 

Interesting difference. Women have chances to get remarried but men chooses. Is that on purpose or am I over analyzing?

 

And - could it be concluded frome these numbers that men remarry younger women that maybe haven't been married before?

 



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Posted on Mon, Jul 01, 2013 06:44

I'm with you Liv. At my age, I'm attracting very young men. Men my age are looking for younger women as we all know. Somehow I can't see myself getting involved with someone who could be my child.

 

I do believe in marriage and unconditional love. I am always prepared to give it my all. I just can't see myself going down that road again.

 

I guess "I'll Jump Off That Bridge When I Get To It."



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Posted on Sun, Jun 30, 2013 14:58

Quoting StunningYetShy76:


uoting StunningYetShy76:

I'm confused... what does their education have anything to do with remarrying? Maybe at the age of ... lol.... 40, (which I'm not too far off) women don't see the point of remarrying; Specially if they were married once before, and now divorced. Have we all forgotten the true concept behind marriage? Marriage was considered a cultural thing. In those days, men and women were not permitted by their families to live under the same roof, be intimately involved and nor have children before marriage. These days the true concept behind marriage has faded by couples becoming intimately involved, living under the same roof and possibly expect a child before marriage. Finally, a monogamous relationship is based on each persons independant values and morals in life. Marriage doesn't seem to promise a monogamous relationship these days, so why get married? I doubt education has anything to do with their decision. I believe if a couple found their soulmate, anything could be possible including their decision in remarrying.
 
Dakota Said:
"Have we all forgotten the true concept behind marriage?"
So what do you personally believe?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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 Dakota, I don't know what I believe in anymore. I know if I find my soulmate, I would never be selfish on opinions, and I believe my soulmate would show the same respect in return too.

 

 


Stunning, how can it be that you "don't know what to believe"? (Maybe you have California syndrome) :)  Having beliefs is what makes us who we are and how we live our life.  I've been on here for awhile, so most that have also been on here for awhile know my beliefs. 

 

I asked you, what you believed personally because many of the things that you wrote about in your comments are things I believe.  I still believe in marriage, falling in love forever, working hard, teaching my children morals and kindness, etc.  I still believe in old fashion values.  So that is what I meant when I asked you the question.  I'm not sure what I expected as your reply but I didn't expect "I don't know".  I hope you find your soul-mate and I hope he is not selfish in any way...selflessness, compromise, and understanding is the key.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 21:39

Quoting StunningYetShy76:

I'm confused... what does their education have anything to do with remarrying? 


 

Great question! Education has nothing to do with remarrying.  It isn't cause and effect.  Rather, it is just a category.  Those women with less education remarried less... not because of their education but because that category statistically had fewer marriages than those in the higher education category.  Maybe that's a good thing.  Given that 2nd and 3rd marriages fail at 65% and 75%, respectively.  Maybe they are the smart ones.  Food for thought.  No judgment intended. Wink.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 21:38

Quoting StunningYetShy76:

I'm confused... what does their education have anything to do with remarrying? Maybe at the age of ... lol.... 40, (which I'm not too far off) women don't see the point of remarrying; Specially if they were married once before, and now divorced. Have we all forgotten the true concept behind marriage? Marriage was considered a cultural thing. In those days, men and women were not permitted by their families to live under the same roof, be intimately involved and nor have children before marriage. These days the true concept behind marriage has faded by couples becoming intimately involved, living under the same roof and possibly expect a child before marriage. Finally, a monogamous relationship is based on each persons independant values and morals in life. Marriage doesn't seem to promise a monogamous relationship these days, so why get married? I doubt education has anything to do with their decision. I believe if a couple found their soulmate, anything could be possible including their decision in remarrying.



"Have we all forgotten the true concept behind marriage?"

So what do you personally believe?



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 21:21

Quoting openlovingheart:

Statistics are easily manipulated and skewed by what the researchers look for.  

Remember the story back in the 80's that women over the age of 40? who were still single had a better chance of being killed by a terrorist or being struck by lightning.  Until there was another study years later disproving that thesis.


So believe what you want, we are charge of our choices and therefore our destiny.  


You are right.  The study about women over 40 having a better chance of a terrorist attack than getting married was debunked.  Still, stats are still stats.... until proven wrong.

I'm not making any judgment.  I'm only presenting the research.  I'm afraid any disagreement with the stats should be addressed to the National Center for Family & Marriage Research which, by the way, is run by the federal government. 



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 20:59

Statistics are easily manipulated and skewed by what the researchers look for.  For example, the overwhelming majority of ex-spouses are still women.  Financial considerations of losing alimony constrain many women from remarrying, although their male ex-spouses have plenty of money to remarry, which says something about the way property division is handled in this country, but also may play a large factor in women choosing to be in lasting relationships, or living together without the legally marrying. 

 

Remember the story back in the 80's that women over the age of 40? who were still single had a better chance of being killed by a terrorist or being struck by lightning.  Until there was another study years later disproving that thesis.

 

Statistics come and statistics go.  I am seeking a long term relationship and already expect to remarry the day after my ex dies or the alimony ends. If I do remarry, having gone through the legal process of divorce, I would not marry unless the prenup was so clear that we could get legally divorced in a day, should we ever be faced with that situation.


So believe what you want, we are charge of our choices and therefore our destiny.  



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Posted on Sun, Jun 23, 2013 22:00

Quoting NGL2011:

@ Liv,,, not to worry,,My ex wife blows the heck out of these statistics, she has been remarried 3 times in her 40's  LOL sad but true.

 

 



She must not have answered the Census.  Otherwise, the stats would be higher.  Ha ha.



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Posted on Sun, Jun 23, 2013 18:08

The earliest human society was maternal, woman never married, but in charge of household. The whole marriage thing was demonded by men. Men wants to ensure  women having their children and also pass along property to theor children not the basters:-)). So men begged women to give up thire freedom go mono. Men at that time promised to provide living support and treat woman nice. Over the  ten thousands years it seems Men forgot about the promise but only remember the demandings.     In next ten thousand years marriage may disappear, replace by a relationship contract. No more messy divorce. smile!



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Posted on Sun, Jun 23, 2013 16:54

@ Liv,,, not to worry,,My ex wife blows the heck out of these statistics, she has been remarried 3 times in her 40's  LOL sad but true.

 

 



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Posted on Sun, Jun 23, 2013 10:23

Quoting Livnlov:

I guess we can all just go on home and rest; and stop trying, LOL! Very bleak indeed, LOL.

 

Liv.



Don't give up.  These are averages.  Women like yourself--smart,  pretty,  personality,  etc. --regularly beat the odds. 



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Posted on Sun, Jun 23, 2013 09:04

I guess we can all just go on home and rest; and stop trying, LOL! Very bleak indeed, LOL.

 

Liv.



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