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Orlando__
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Posted on Sat, Jun 01, 2013 09:30

An online survey of 5,481 individuals conducted by MarketTools Inc.  Here's what they found:

Top 6 Things Men Judge Women On
1. Teeth
2. Grammar
3. Hair
4. Clothes
5. Having/not having tattoos

Top 6 Things Women Judge Men On
1. Teeth
2. Grammar
3. Clothes
4. Hair
5. Nails/Hands
6. Having/not having tattoos

Top 5 "Must-Haves" for Men
1. Is someone I can trust and confide in
2. Treats me with respect
3. Is physically attractive to me
4. Has sense of humor/makes me laugh
5. Is comfortable with her own sexuality

Top 5 "Must-Haves" for Woman
1. Treats me with respect
2. Is someone I can trust and confide in
3. Has sense of humor/ makes me laugh
4. Shares the same values as I do
5. Is comfortable communicating his wants, needs, and desires

Among other finds they found out
--38% would cancel a date if they found something bad on the internet about their date
--42% would not date a virgin
--65% would date those owing more than $5000 in credit card debt
--54% would not date someone with a large student loan debt
--49% are fine getting into a committed relationship if the other person lives with their parents

Source: USA Today. (2/4/13). What singles want. Health and Wellness Section of USA Today.



**My top strength is"learning." So, my blogs are learning-focused. ~Orlando

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Posted on Fri, Jun 07, 2013 20:08

something grabs me about your comments.a little insite into men is helpful.i am new to dating again.and online match so wish me luck  greeneyes



well im thinking dont worry jen you wont be alone for rest of life.everyone feeling discouraged today.the one for you.and the one for me is just yet to find we are there (+one)

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Posted on Thu, Jun 06, 2013 11:32

Quoting Mtnsunny:

It's great to see your spunky comments again and smiling face.  I hope all is well with you Jenknee.  Couldn't help but smile, you always have had a way with words, couldn't agree more.



Hello Mtnsunny!

 

          You're too sweet, thank-you :)  And of course, I love it when someone agrees with me!  I'm hanging in there, it's Summer already!  Where is my Summer Romance? The one that turns into a Fall, Winter & Spring one too.

 

     ​        ​        ​    Hope everything is good on the Homefront!



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Posted on Wed, Jun 05, 2013 20:45

Quoting jomo1983:

umm, okay, I was making a joke. Scammers obviously wouldnt respond to an online survey. I was connecting Jen's observation about the Neanderthals that email her with the pervasiveness of the internet dating site scammer, as if she would not notice that they are scamming her and focus on the poor grammar.

 

when jokes require explanations I'm pretty sure that means the joke failed.



LMAO JOMO!!! Too cute!! 

 

JEN- Glad to see you back girl.. 

 

Hope all is well... 

 

 



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Posted on Wed, Jun 05, 2013 16:46

Here is something funny but also could be true.

 

 


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Posted on Wed, Jun 05, 2013 15:39

umm, okay, I was making a joke. Scammers obviously wouldnt respond to an online survey. I was connecting Jen's observation about the Neanderthals that email her with the pervasiveness of the internet dating site scammer, as if she would not notice that they are scamming her and focus on the poor grammar.

 

when jokes require explanations I'm pretty sure that means the joke failed.



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Posted on Wed, Jun 05, 2013 12:48

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

Hey JEN- 

 

Great point you made me think about.

 

JOMO, you metioned scammers, but this "study" was supposed to be on REAL dating... 

 

 

 

Scammers could care less if a person has false teeth, must wear a wig or takes a shower. All they seek is finding an emotionally unstable sucker just vulnerable enough to scheme against! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

SAD   :(



Hi Hoping, thanks for the email the other day, sorry I didn't get back to you. Hope all is well!  Thanks for the feedback here. Someone's vulnerability is the number 1 thing scammers look for, in my opinion.

 

Do you know that the UK doesn't accept most cellphone companie's phonecalls from the U.S. (maybe other countries as well) because they have so many scammers there that they are trying to block phonecalls? You have to buy a calling card in order to communicate.

 

 



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Posted on Wed, Jun 05, 2013 08:04

Hey JEN- 

 

Great point you made me think about.

 

JOMO, you metioned scammers, but this "study" was supposed to be on REAL dating... 

 

 

 

Scammers could care less if a person has false teeth, must wear a wig or takes a shower. All they seek is finding an emotionally unstable sucker just vulnerable enough to scheme against! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

SAD   :(



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Posted on Tue, Jun 04, 2013 21:06

Quoting jomo1983:

Jenknee...scammers from third world countries cannot form complete sentences and they may constitute a majority of the men online, but there is no way they are judging you based on your body.



Of course scammers don't judge your body..they're scammers,hello!  They judge you on your inability to judge and realize what they are,etc.,etc. They are not always from third world countries, some are intelligent and doing quite well, the most successful are the ones who have good grammar and communication skills.

 

There are plenty of men out there cannot, or are not willing, to form complete sentences. Some are just one step up from grunting,lol.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 04, 2013 21:03

HEY JENKNEEE--- 

 

Long time girl!! Hope all is well... 

 

Sorry ORLANDO, but those figures are bogus! 

 

JOMO- Men look for what attracts them and after being online dating off and on for over 13 years now, I have had more men NOT pay attention to my profile than have.. 

 

Otherwise, when I have TALL and NOT UNDER 38 or 39.. 

 

Why do the kids still hit on me, and men who are 5'6" write? 

 

WHY? B/C they like the pictures! 

 

I recall when I first started dating online, I got emails from men complaining I had no full length shots! I had my GF come over and take photos of me in various dress. What did the guys tell me to the reasoning? Women are always a lot heavier than they appear in their photos. 

 

Even heavier men rarely want a heavy woman. 

 

PHYSICAL counts highest... Even for many of us women! ;)



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Posted on Tue, Jun 04, 2013 16:20

Jenknee...scammers from third world countries cannot form complete sentences and they may constitute a majority of the men online, but there is no way they are judging you based on your body.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 03, 2013 21:50

Only approx 5000 were surveyed and were these people a crosscut of humans from where? Hello, men judge women on their bodies!! Lol, it wasn't even in the top 5. Most men online cannot form complete sentences or spell yet they judge women on their grammar? What an absolute joke of a survey.



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Posted on Sat, Jun 01, 2013 22:04

42% would not date a virgin...hhmmm...thats extremely ugly. Wonder how true that one is...



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Orlando__
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Posted on Sat, Jun 01, 2013 19:08

Quoting bepositive:

Oh hell, Orlando, just open your own dating site and be done with it.....hahahaha.  You def. have all the statistics.  You crack me up. 



What's a professor to do but educate. It's in my blood.



**My top strength is"learning." So, my blogs are learning-focused. ~Orlando

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Posted on Sat, Jun 01, 2013 19:01

I still say physical attraction is number one...and people don't say so because they don't want to seem superficial.  That doesn't mean everyone is seeking a model, it just means there must me some physical attraction first.  After attraction then a judgement is made upon other qualities, positive and negative.  So even with strong attraction enough negatives will "kill the deal" while mild attraction with enough positives will "make the deal".

 

Orlando, I have a question for you.  When you first came to MM did you immediately submit financial info to get a blue diamond, or were you a member for awhile before deciding to do so?  I ask, because I would like to know if there was a difference in reply rate (before and after)?  Also, if there was a difference (increase), were you paranoid that some of the replies were only because of the (blue diamond) verification?  So what is the correct decision, to blue diamond or not to blue diamond?  Does a blue diamond attract more gold-diggers or do women just admire success and they find it attractive.  I assume both, but how do you distquish?  And if no blue diamond, do women assume a man is lying about his finances...my bet is yes.  But at the same time if contacted without a blue diamond does a man feel safer, as in the reason for being contacted?

 

As a disclaimer, I realize that there are both successful men and women on this site.  I just wrote my question from a man's view since I was asking it to Orlando.  So don't think I was being chauvinistic.

 



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Posted on Sat, Jun 01, 2013 11:28

Oh hell, Orlando, just open your own dating site and be done with it.....hahahaha.  You def. have all the statistics.  You crack me up. 



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