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Posted on Thu, Jan 23, 2014 16:32

Ok, call me a cynic, call me realistic, call me a devil's advocate, call me whichever name you will.

 

but come on... i love seeing profiles that proclaim... i'm looking for love... that's all i ever wanted...

 

if love is all a person ever wanted... why are you here? on this site? do you know how many dating sites there are? what makes you think this site will give you the love that you want? 

 

the fact of the matter is... there are so many conditions to your desire to love... or desire for you to give love...

there is nothing wrong with conditions... and lists of them... but don't play the "I only want love game." That's just childish. 

 

we're adult... we can handle reality... and understand desires... and ambitions... and conditions... so really we're also not born yesterday... we can see right through you when you repeatedly say "all i want is love... i want true love..." 

 

aha aha aha i hear you so... how much does he have to make to give you true love? or how beautiful does she has to be for you to fall for true love? or how smart? or how sexy? or how mature? or how old does she/he has to be for this true love? and what religion does he/she has to be in for true love to happen? and how many kids... or lack of kids? so... how true is your true love?

 

i'll tell you what... go get a dog. it doesn't cost you that much and you don't have to make excuses like "i want true love to" for it to lick your face and whine for treats. 



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Posted on Tue, Feb 11, 2014 15:07

Personally, I don't know whether I will find love on here or not.  But in my line of work, as a school teacher, I neither make a fortune or expect anyone to pay my way in life. I have a difficult time meeting men from any kind of professional background outside of teaching unless they happen to be at church, and most of those men, (if not all of them) are married, so they are not in my radar.  My father was in an executive position in his line of work, and I was raised in a home where we held business dinners regularly and had executives from all over the world over to our home. I fit into that world, and as a professional, need that type of stimulation, myself.  So, in the hopes of finding new people to talk to, and maybe find someone who I click with romantically, too, here is where I have landed... 

 

I don't think you can expect to find love anywhere.  I think you CHOOSE to love--real love.  You will find people you are attracted to, and you will find some--according to many posts that I have read, quite a large sum--who are here to simply take advantage of you if you let them, who will lead you to believe that they are good people only to find out differently. There is also a large group of people on this site who are kind-hearted, genuinely friendly people in the same boat I am in--too busy working or out of the loop when it comes to meeting people. 



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Posted on Fri, Feb 07, 2014 07:51

I am looking for love.  I think its normal to seek someone who is successful, sincere, and seeking a real connection.  The mattter of finding that is a whole other thing though...



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Posted on Wed, Jan 29, 2014 19:57

Quoting Kristusha7:

I am looking for serious relationship and love on this site !!! because if a man pay for to be here , he really wants to find something special , I used to be on other free daiting sites - plenty of loosers and dorkes who looking forward to  have a free and quick sex with you , tahts all . Of course everybody have own expirience , but I am defenetely sure that if you pay - you really care.



Like I said to Kristusha.  That just ain't the case.  Please, please, please dont' be so definitely sure that if a man pays's he really cares.  It's just not the case.



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Posted on Wed, Jan 29, 2014 19:54

Quoting Kristusha7:

I am looking for serious relationship and love on this site !!! because if a man pay for to be here , he really wants to find something special , I used to be on other free daiting sites - plenty of loosers and dorkes who looking forward to  have a free and quick sex with you , tahts all . Of course everybody have own expirience , but I am defenetely sure that if you pay - you really care.



Sweetie, please, please, please don't be so sure of that cause it's just not true that if they're paying they are serious.  Many, many, many scammers on here can afford to pay full subscriptions--and many do so.  You have to be damn careful indeed to whom you respond.  And most especially to whom you give your private email.  Be very, very careful about that.  Do your research on the guy, spend money if you must to research him, and get the full scoop on any guy you're thinking about hooking up with. 

 

Otherwise, you'll probably be sorry in the end. 



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Posted on Mon, Jan 27, 2014 13:50

I am looking for serious relationship and love on this site !!! because if a man pay for to be here , he really wants to find something special , I used to be on other free daiting sites - plenty of loosers and dorkes who looking forward to  have a free and quick sex with you , tahts all . Of course everybody have own expirience , but I am defenetely sure that if you pay - you really care.



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Posted on Sun, Jan 26, 2014 10:59

 

For a man, I think that if you go at it seriously you can find dates on almost any site.  I have not gone at it seriously and still have found dates.  Finding dates is not the same as finding the love of your life, but for sure you won’t find her otherwise.  If she accosts you at a grocery store, you still will need to go on at least a few dates to know. 

 

 

 

Some sites very aggressively go at getting you out on dates.  Will those dates be the love of your life?  That’s a crap shoot regardless of how you find her. 

 



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Posted on Sat, Jan 25, 2014 21:25

There are people out there with minimal expectations that are looking for love or friendship. Take me for example, I'm not really looking for love right now due to personal reasons, if it does hit me in the face then I will gladly except it but you do not have to be a supermodel or have an excessive amount of money to get my attention. The only thing I look for is a woman with a good heart who is pleasing to my eye that gets my personality and does not want to change me. You can be average or a bbw and still get my love because what is inside matters most. If you are wondering, I have profiles on many different websites.



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Posted on Sat, Jan 25, 2014 20:22

Ah Orange you tell it srraight as always. In the present climate of 2014 we are adults. True love is a chimera a many headed beast that starts out unconditional but then the love that is professed for "the one" suddenly changes to conditional. The person that one falls for suddenly needs tweaked and changed, conditions are applied and I for one resent that. Take me as I am .. a flawed but stubbornly believer in be yourself. I have tried toadjust to the conditions pressed upon me in the past and rebelled. Like your take on it. Honest, straight but uncomfertable reading for those who refuse to lok in the mirror and accapt reality.

 

Ian :)



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Posted on Sat, Jan 25, 2014 16:16

"but what love isn't conditional?

and what love isn't time limited?

and what love doesn't change?

and what love doesn't waver?"

 

answer.....a mothers love for her child?

I take it this is a riddle and I win a prize? ;)



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Posted on Sat, Jan 25, 2014 03:52

Everyone except the most foolish have conditions for love. When the most important criteria has been met a normal person will lower the wall and let love begin. However, there are a few people who will never lower their wall, so avoid them.  There are also a few who will settle for anything but since they really have no criteria you will probably be replaced by the next person walking by.  Avoid them also..



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Posted on Fri, Jan 24, 2014 14:20

i'm not saying this to be bitter... i'm saying it to point out the reality of it. i'm not calling anyone a gold diggers or anyone shallow... 

 

i'm just saying we all have standards and there is nothing wrong with it. but don't be foolish enough to think that if you hide your standards then maybe you'll get what you want. no one is fool!

 

or don't pretend to not care and dont play the innocent game. 

 

just say what you want... be who you are... and be happy... and don't have unrealistic expectations.

 

the thing with expections... the more you have... the more likely you are bound for disappointment. 

 

and yes i meet a few people on here and they are all wonderful people... that's why i hate to hear the stories they tell me about their personal experiences and about people who claim "oh, all i want is true love."

 

yes... we all want true love... get in line!

but what love isn't conditional?

and what love isn't time limited?

and what love doesn't change?

and what love doesn't waver?



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Posted on Fri, Jan 24, 2014 10:13

I think that we can fool ourselves all day long thinking that true love is on these sites.  The possibility is rare.  True love stems from within.  

 

I do feel however, that one can meet and find great friends here.  

 

 



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Posted on Fri, Jan 24, 2014 06:26

Go to have a glass of wine, look at the sky and relax... 



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Posted on Thu, Jan 23, 2014 20:06

Wow, bitter a little bit??  Who screwed you?  Not all women out there are bad.  I have been in love twice in my life.  once just out of HIgh School and he got me pregnant and split.  I worked 3 jobs to take care of me and my daughter.  The second was a marraige and I gave him a beautiful home a beautiful son and he never had to worry for anything I took excelent care of him and the kids.  He had dinner served to him when he got home andUniforms ironed and ready for the morning.  Also Breakfast before work and a lunch packed and then I went to work. 

I was married to this man for 21 years and he cheated on me all but 2 years. I was devestated. I divorced him and have been struggleing but SURVIVING.

 

I think with me I like a man who is comfortable with himself and his furture, no worries expecially about finances.  And I think I deserve to be spoiled a little.  I give so much of myself to make my man happy.  just spoil me a little and make me feel special to you in little ways.

 

NOT A GOLD DIGGER!!!

I'm a really nice and giving and caring woman. try it sometime.



I need someone to take a chance on me.

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