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Posted on Tue, Jan 07, 2014 07:49

Quoting 3345roc:

If they've been married for 20 years and she hasn't any reason not to trust him I don't see anything wrong.  If they've remained friends for the past 20 year his wife must have developed a friendship with her as well or, if they reconnected after a 20 year absence it's possible that it'll just fizzzle out.



@Iroc,, thats the thing, they have remained friends the whole time. The wife says she has no problem with it and she trusts him completely.

 

I have to say, it's made me think alot. Are they right or is it just a matter of thats what works for them ?



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Posted on Mon, Jan 06, 2014 20:10

I really have to wonder about the wandering trust. One must assume that former suiters for the female carry characteristics to the man a woman wants. Women want protection, and all the residuals. Beyond that, Bliss!



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Posted on Mon, Jan 06, 2014 19:42

If they've been married for 20 years and she hasn't any reason not to trust him I don't see anything wrong.  If they've remained friends for the past 20 year his wife must have developed a friendship with her as well or, if they reconnected after a 20 year absence it's possible that it'll just fizzzle out.



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Posted on Mon, Jan 06, 2014 16:39

Quoting NGL2011:

@ Hopelovey,,I didn't say I believe them..LOL However it does bring another question into play,,Is it possible to get everything you need from just one person ?


"Is it possible to get everything you need from just one person ?"

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Hmmmm.....I struggled with that question for a long time after my divorce.  I internalized it and kept examining myself over and over trying to figure out why I wasn't enough for him.  Especially viewing the women he cheated on me with!  But I guess even hamburger is good sometimes.  lolol

That was 27 years ago....so I view things much differently now.  Now I believe it's the 'lie' that's the sin against the marriage....not the sex outside of marriage.  But if you want to have sex outside of marriage it should be known and agreed upon by the other, with an equal opportunity. 

The rules of the game should be the same for both parties.  It's a bad foul if one thinks they are playing by one set of rules, while the other is playing by another set.  BUT, if you want to play by open rules....you have to be prepared that the other may be able to play just as hard....and perhaps even harder than you can.

Personally, I think if you are married....or in any committed relationship for that matter.....you should be 'all in'.  Totally focused and devoted to bringing your 'A' game each and every day to your partner!  For me, it isn't about some Judeo-Christian morality regulation.  It's about doing and giving my very best to the most important thing in my life!  That's how I want to choose to roll. 

 

To answer your question:  Yes, I think it is possible to get everything you need from just one person.  But life is a continuum and people grow…..and sometimes it’s apart. 



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Posted on Mon, Jan 06, 2014 14:59

Hope!!!

 

How are you???  I hope everything is well in your world and you are looking forward to a most excellent new year.  You have been missed.  You were the first person Fishy asked about when he came back ashore.  Hope you can stick around and lay some pearls on us.  *wink* :)



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Posted on Mon, Jan 06, 2014 12:06

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

OH SUGAR!!

 

Ray, Ray, Ray---

 

Not certain who is most naive honey---

 

YOU---

 

or the WIFE!!!

 

Bwahahaahahaha!! ;)

 

Nice to see you again!! 



@ Hopelovey,,I didn't say I believe them..LOL However it does bring another question into play,,Is it possible to get everything you need from just one person ?



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Posted on Sun, Jan 05, 2014 22:44

Hmmm, I'm not very keen on that ... It never is just that...

I know first hand that the men that wanted to keep in touch with me after we were together were mentioning me to their new partners as a way to vlear a track to stay in touch with me with their blessing. And that if I would set my mind to it or wanted to re-kindle something they would have jumped. Not my style to do, so in principle I refuse to stay friends and socialise after... 

 

I can believe once in a blue moon friendship  can shine and there is no other reason alone,  and maybe this friend of yours' husband is truly in the company of his soulmate with that lady friend. It is possible that they have an affinity that no-one else can replace, but general rule will say that you only keep in touch when you cannot let go.

 

i think your friend had no choice but sadly to accept and tell herself she gets a sweet deal, it is annoying though to also be thankful to that person in your own house, she  has for sure had to listen to her husband describe the virtues of that lady more than once... 

 

In my case I was always surprised when guys would Sometimes draw  a far more flattering portrait of  me than they drew while we were together!  . looking in a way to gain on my behalf their partners admiration. Sometimes it backfired bad, as it would have done if it were me in their shoes and someone was bringing an ex to dinner... 

 

I have tried and succceded to get my first and second husband to like eachother ( i even mediated a complicated business venture-loan between them (WOW) but there is still the occasional drunken rant coming from my second ex, even now that we are divorced  ourselves too in which he accuses me of loving the first ex... which proves he was never ever truly comfortable with that. 

 

It was funny though that during the second divorce the two of them bonded... Sort of against me.... :-))

 

 

Second ex flew over to first ex's country for his B-day party, they went to music festivals together, probably partied really hard together in my ex's clubs and etc...basically the first ex nurtured the second through divorce . 

 

Then later once  things cooled and I started to date another man and we were planning to sail around the Med with a big stop in Istanbul , my second ex had the crazyest idea that he and my first ex (that he was still in business with clearly without being coerced by an obligation to me so they must have really hit it off ) would fly over to Istanbul  and meet us and  all 4 of us would all share the boat and go  sailing together  HAHAHAHAHA 

 

i had to say no, as the thought of  me and my lover being murdered by  them 2 under the clear full moon whilst floating on the blue mediteranean waters, and our bodies dumped overboard sounded too much like an Agatha Christie set-up :-)) 

 

:-)



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Posted on Sun, Jan 05, 2014 22:38

OH SUGAR!!

 

Ray, Ray, Ray---

 

Not certain who is most naive honey---

 

YOU---

 

or the WIFE!!!

 

Bwahahaahahaha!! ;)

 

Nice to see you again!! 



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