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Posted on Tue, Jan 29, 2013 15:34

I don't know how long ago it was, but it was a long while,,LOL, I started a Blog about women who say they Intimidate men,, it was fun and I think we all learned something,, I want to start that same type of constructive blog again here..

 

There seems to be a lot of confusion/misunderstanding of profiles, pictures, spirit, religion, non religion, sentences in profiles, terminology, intentions etc.. in Mens and Womens profiles and online experiences. I'm going to somewhat piggy back off Hope's Blog about "Nothing". I just want people to talk, maybe then we can understand things a little better. I also want to give everyone a heads up, if this Blog starts going the wrong way, like people bashing each other or in some way not in the spirit of good intentions,,I will say it up front,, right now,,I will delete the post. Seriously no name calling etc.. I want some constructive conversation. Maybe this way more people will post here and maybe, just maybe we can all learn something. I mean shoot for the most part I believe we are all here for the same reason,, to find LOVE and live happily ever after. yes, I know there are some scammer's on this site,,but I know for sure there are also some people who would love to find love.

 

 

 

Maybe we can share some experiences, if someone got scammed, enlighten us,,so no one else does,,no one will poke fun or anything,, lets learn,, if they do I will delete it. Lets try to clear up any mis-understanding of something you read in someones profile or whatever.

 

 

 

Maybe even ask us Bloggers to review your profile.

 

 

 

I'll start, here's a couple of things I don't understand.( I know there's more and I'm sure they will come out,, LOL)

 

 

 

Ok, I read this in a woman's profile. "I've had a dog for the last 10 years, he is the best companion, so I want to be clear, you will be second fiddle"...Now I don't speak for all men,, but for me,, there is no way I'm playing second fiddle to a dog.

 

 

 

Another one,,when I'm talking to a woman in person or on the phone, and she say's all the time, " I want to be honest with you",, so I'm to assume when she doesn't say that she's lieing ? I always always assume people are telling Their truth,, so why say that ?

 

 

 

Generous,, what does that really mean ? with your money,, with your heart, with what ?



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Posted on Wed, Feb 13, 2013 09:19

Quoting Diana3316:

Hey NGL~

You're right about the 20 reasons...everything from resentment to incompetence and insecurity.

 

My question to you.....is it still "cheating" if the wife knows about it and approves/doesn't care?

 

As far as my decisions go....I try to make decisions that are good for me.  Spending time on a married man that has nothing to offer, doesn't seem like an effective use of my time.


Hi Lady DI.....

 

CHEATING, by definition, is to deceive , use trickery, lie.... 

 

So no, IF a man, (or woman) HAS PERMISSION to "stray," they are NOT cheating... This would be not differ anyore than consenting adults who swing together. 

 

I've known both types of people. Never understood it, but watched how they operate. Just not my gig... 

 

Hope you are doing well! :) 

PS.. Radio Silence? Haven't heard that expression since working offshore! 



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Posted on Mon, Feb 11, 2013 07:50

Hey NGL~

You're right about the 20 reasons...everything from resentment to incompetence and insecurity.

 

My question to you.....is it still "cheating" if the wife knows about it and approves/doesn't care?

 

As far as my decisions go....I try to make decisions that are good for me.  Spending time on a married man that has nothing to offer, doesn't seem like an effective use of my time.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 08, 2013 12:15

Quoting Diana3316:

Hey guys.  Sorry I've been kind of radio silent lately.  I have some major remodeling going on.  I'm tearing apart 2 bathrooms....down to the plumbing.  I must be out of my mind!! lolol Tomorrow I hit the road again, but I just wanted to stop in for a sec.

 

NGL~  Interesting that you used the word "cheat/cheating" multiple times.  To cheat means to be dishonest.  Do you think the lie is the real sin against the relationship, rather than the act of having sex with another partner?  I had one guy tell me, "My wife says it's ok if I have an affair....just don't leave me."  Hmmmm.....don't know that I believe he was telling the truth, but what if?

 

The question remains....why is there an unsatisfactory sex life at home?  Lulu may have it.  People are just too tired....or maybe too bored with the same ol' same ol' to put in the effort.



Diana, oopps, I guess I mis-read the first part of your question, but in my world Married Men, (as you wrote) " I get flirted and sometimes directly propositioned by married men." this is cheating. Glad to hear you turned them down, but if you didn't they're cheating.

 

second part of your question, "why is there an unsatisfactory sex life at home?" in my opinion, as we all know there could be 20 reasons. everyone can use any one of them to justify.



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Posted on Wed, Feb 06, 2013 19:56

Hey guys.  Sorry I've been kind of radio silent lately.  I have some major remodeling going on.  I'm tearing apart 2 bathrooms....down to the plumbing.  I must be out of my mind!! lolol Tomorrow I hit the road again, but I just wanted to stop in for a sec.

 

 

 

NGL~  Interesting that you used the word "cheat/cheating" multiple times.  To cheat means to be dishonest.  Do you think the lie is the real sin against the relationship, rather than the act of having sex with another partner?  I had one guy tell me, "My wife says it's ok if I have an affair....just don't leave me."  Hmmmm.....don't know that I believe he was telling the truth, but what if?

 

 

 

The question remains....why is there an unsatisfactory sex life at home?  Lulu may have it.  People are just too tired....or maybe too bored with the same ol' same ol' to put in the effort.



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Posted on Tue, Feb 05, 2013 04:47

Quoting Diana3316:

Ok…..so what I would like to know, is why so many married men seem to be dissatisfied with their wives of many years?  Not every day, but often when I’m out and about, I get flirted and sometimes directly propositioned by married men.  Usually I am polite, and let them know I am not interested.....but occasionally I have engaged in conversation.  Typically, I learn that they are seeking satisfaction of some fantasy.  So why is that?

 

Is it because the ‘good girl’ they married, grew into a distant and cold woman…..or is it because the men  are so lazy and unimaginative in the bedroom the wife won’t have sex with them anymore?  While I understand there can be various social and even medical reasons for loss of libido…there seems to be a lot of people just going through the motions and not really fulfilled by their relationships.



Hi Diana,,First I would like to say, I have never cheated and never will and quite frankly I find it shows a lack of character. I know a lot of people go through a lot of different situations when they are in a relationship, some good times and some very difficult emotionally. Some people cheat regret it and grow from the experience.

 

Now that being said, I know several men who have cheated on their wives. There could be quite a debate on this subject, but one thing I know for sure (from men I have talked to about it) it comes down to EGO. Somehow they get pumped up from it. It makes them feel more manly. Some of the guys, I personally know their wives, they are lovely women. A couple of the guys, I've come right out and asked them, "how could you cheat on (insert wife's name here)" They all say, I'm not getting it at home, so I'm going to get it somewhere else,,period. So you put together the EGO and the lack of sex at home = cheating.

 

I also personally know 2 of my very good friends wives have cheated on them. These 2 men in particular are very good honest hardworking guys, they would never cheat on their wife,, but she did on them. The women both blamed their Husband for their cheating. They both blamed the men, for lack of attention, they felt alone and lack of romance. These 2 men work a lot, one of them works in a very large corporation, the other is self employeed. They have beautiful homes, cars, jewlery, kids, everything material you could want. They have homes on lakes, boats, all the toys. The women love having all this stuff, but don't understand it comes with a price tag to their relationships. ( I'm not blaming the women for the material stuff but they do enjoy it)

 

To me, bottom line, we can all justify cheating if we want for any number of reasons, but they aren't acceptable in  my view.

 



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Posted on Sun, Feb 03, 2013 06:02

Quoting Diana3316:

Ok…..so what I would like to know, is why so many married men seem to be dissatisfied with their wives of many years?  Not every day, but often when I’m out and about, I get flirted and sometimes directly propositioned by married men.  Usually I am polite, and let them know I am not interested.....but occasionally I have engaged in conversation.  Typically, I learn that they are seeking satisfaction of some fantasy.  So why is that?

 

Is it because the ‘good girl’ they married, grew into a distant and cold woman…..or is it because the men  are so lazy and unimaginative in the bedroom the wife won’t have sex with them anymore?  While I understand there can be various social and even medical reasons for loss of libido…there seems to be a lot of people just going through the motions and not really fulfilled by their relationships.


Diana,

 

 

 

I have had this discussion with several couples who have been married for many years and are very unhappy with their lives. These are people who fell madly and thoroughly in love and were extremely happy being married. They still love each other but life got in the way of their relationship.

 

 

 

What I have seen is that they, at least the ones I have spoken to, became parents and that's all they remained. As parents, we tend to put all our energy into caring for our children. We devote ourselves to their growth, education and well being and forget that there is another relationship that requires attention as well. The children grow to a point where they no longer need the parent's attention and that's when the parents realize that there is nothing left for them or at least, it seems that way. 

 

 

 

It is not easy raising kids and keeping the flame burning in your relationship. It takes patience and time. Working all day and dealing with children afterwards doesn't allow us enough time to spend nurturing that love that got us together to start with.

 

 

 

That's my take on it and I believe the main reason for that kind of behavior.

 

 

 

Lulu



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Posted on Sat, Feb 02, 2013 18:03

Quoting RealtorLulu:


Ray and Hope;

 

I like this idea. I have posted half dozen comments here and there but feel a bit disgusted by the bickering among some of the participants. I agree with Hope, what a person says on a blog is their opinion and no one has to agree with it. It doesn't mean that they must start a fight. There are ways of expressing your side without becoming abusive.

When it comes to "winks" and being chosen as a "favorite", if you don't say anything to the person, it doesn't really mean much. Also, some of us are not paying members and cannot wink back with comments. If you wink and say something, then the person on the other end can reply. The same goes for emailing.

Ditto, for the Dog comes first. I love animals but when I have a special man in my life, that relationship comes first. It requires nurturing and putting an animal ahead of him is pure idiocy.

I also feel that there are phrases that become a part of us humans. There are some that will say "you know" every other word. It's annoying but we must understand that it is a habit, like smoking. You can't just stop.

Personally, I joined MM because I got tired of having much younger guys hitting on me. I also thought that I would meet men that had more intelligent things to say than "You're Hot." Now, I am here because of you guys. I really enjoy reading and sometimes adding my two cents to your blogs. It's like having good friends that I have never met. By the way, if you guys are ever planning to come to the Dallas area, please let me know. I'd love to show you around.

 

 

 

Lulu



Hello, Lulu.  Welcome to the blogs.  You're new to me at least.  And boy, have you caught on fast.

 

I just wanted to say I know so well what you mean about having younger guys hitting on you.  I'm going to be 68 near the end of this month and because I still don't look my age, the hits I get in real life--and on here as well--are almost always from guys 15 to 20 years younger than I am.  While it's definitely flattering for about 7 seconds--it's ultimately boring as hell when you don't want to go the Couger route.

 

I wish you the best on here--and in real life.  And I'm very glad you're enjoying the best of the blogs.  The other stuff, well--forget about it for the most part. 

 

I hope you find what you're looking for.



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Posted on Sat, Feb 02, 2013 13:36

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

Hey RAY,

 

Hope your work week is winding up and you are looking forward to a great weekend! :)

 

RAY, I have learned many things about men from this blogging site, but WHERE and HOW to initially meet a man was a biggie! Remember when I was adamant about, "I'm meeting a man at a nice restaurant, this is Millionaire Match, they should "expect" it.." 

 

BUT.... The more "fine dining" restaurants I went to with men I realised I held no interest in... Well, I have to say... I was hte one becoming disheartened. Date after date, wonderful wine and steaks and seafood and desserts... but something was missing and I had been on soooo many dates as this, I became a bit sad.. :( 

 

So, it was THEN, that little voice in my head was saying... Think about the guys ... If they are truly "sincere" in meeting a woman.. think about how they must feelif this happens to them all the tme.. and they are paying for it, AND God forbid, they realise the woman was just using them B/C during the course of conversating she announces she has a date with Billy on Friday and Bobby on Sunday!! 

 

Personally, I just think it's a shame MORE people don't speak up on the blogs, so confused blonde Princesses could learn even more! ;) 

 

Personally, I'm to the point where I want to smash my cart into some hottie at Walmart and say.. "TAKE ME.. I'M YOURS!!" heeheehee~~


Hope,, Patients my dear,, remember who's hands your in !  ;)



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Posted on Sat, Feb 02, 2013 13:35

Quoting BeWell:

Hi NGL211,

 

Love your topic. I had the "dog" experience like you mentioned with a guy recently, so it's not just women who are hung up on their dogs or cats. I've worked in the pet industry before and learned that some people get so attached to their animals that they treat them sometimes even better than their family and friends. I think the "dog" issue is a red flag, at least for me.

 

The honesty thing... I think it's cultural. What I think people really mean by this is, "I'm going to be direct with you, because what I'm about to say could make or break things between us and we need to get this sorted out before I get further emotionally involved with you."

  

My understanding of "generous" means to have a giving nature. That means to me generous with your time, ideas, money, and energy, creativity, etc.

 

Here's my question, open to everyone..... Why do people put old pictures in their profile albums? A lot of men do this, and some women too. We really don't care about what you looked like in high school, when you used to have hair, or how good you looked a few years ago before your divorce and nervous breakdown. Why do people think old pictures are a good idea?.... ;-D.......... BeWell

 



bewell,, Thats my Brother and his wife,, they treat their dog better than they treated their kids,, it's really weird.. LOL   Your meaning for "generous" is what I was hopeing it meant,, but I think you maybe be the rare case,, well you and Hope... LOL

 

Old pictures,, I have no idea..In my profile the picture of me in the bright green shirt,,(which Tink/Deb hates.. LOL) is an old one but the rest are recent. My only excuse is,,I don't have a lot of pictures, but the one with the light green and white sweater are recent,, best I can do.



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Posted on Sat, Feb 02, 2013 13:29

Quoting RealtorLulu:

It helps to have other's views on this "process."  It is hard to understand why someone seems to be 100% into you then suddenly disappear without an explanation. It seems a bit cowardly. Ok, so maybe they know that the other person has an ugly temper and might cause a scene. Still, even a text message might be better than total silence.

 

On the first date idea; I agree that a simple cup of coffee or glass of wine in a quiet place would probably be more conducive to conversation than an extravagant meal at an expensive restaurant. Some women won't want to feel like they owe the man because of what he spent on a date. I had a first (and last) date with a guy who invited me to lunch at a Mexican place and ordered one meal for the two of us to share.

What about the guy who shows up in torn shorts and a tee covered in paint and grease? I love first impressions!!



Realtor,, First Impressions,, Believe it or not,,I really don't think people both men and women understand the concept. I know there are 2 sides to this discussion. Some will say, hey I don't want to give anyone a false impression of who I'm, so I go to meet people dressed as I would everyday. Then there are those who try to give their very best at the first meeting regardless. I tend to lean towards, I will dress appropiate to where we are meeting (it also depends if I coming right from work), so if we are meeting at Starbuck's for coffee, I don't really feel I need to wear a white shirt and sport coat,,I might where nice jeans, pressed shirt and my casual but nice shoes. What I worry about most is women not being relaxed and just talking. I don't like fake personalities.

 

I'll give you the highlights of what I mean. I was out with this woman on our second date. The waitress brought me my Guiness in a plastic glass,,she explained that they were so busy the dish washer couldn't keep up,, I said no problem,, she said I promise your next one will be ina nice Guiness Glass,, again no problem I appreciate it and understand,, her (waitress) and I laughed about it,, as she started to walk away, the woman I was with started yelling at her about the glass,,,I interuppted her, sent the waitress on her way,,I told the women,, hey I'm a big boy and take care of myself...So Red Flags are popping up,, the next time we went out she did the same thing at a different place. Last date. I'm so glad she didn't hide who she really is.. LOL



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Posted on Sat, Feb 02, 2013 07:31

Ok…..so what I would like to know, is why so many married men seem to be dissatisfied with their wives of many years?  Not every day, but often when I’m out and about, I get flirted and sometimes directly propositioned by married men.  Usually I am polite, and let them know I am not interested.....but occasionally I have engaged in conversation.  Typically, I learn that they are seeking satisfaction of some fantasy.  So why is that?

 

Is it because the ‘good girl’ they married, grew into a distant and cold woman…..or is it because the men  are so lazy and unimaginative in the bedroom the wife won’t have sex with them anymore?  While I understand there can be various social and even medical reasons for loss of libido…there seems to be a lot of people just going through the motions and not really fulfilled by their relationships.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 01, 2013 22:47

Quoting NGL2011:

I don't know how long ago it was, but it was a long while,,LOL, I started a Blog about women who say they Intimidate men,, it was fun and I think we all learned something,, I want to start that same type of constructive blog again here..

 

There seems to be a lot of confusion/misunderstanding of profiles, pictures, spirit, religion, non religion, sentences in profiles, terminology, intentions etc.. in Mens and Womens profiles and online experiences. I'm going to somewhat piggy back off Hope's Blog about "Nothing". I just want people to talk, maybe then we can understand things a little better. I also want to give everyone a heads up, if this Blog starts going the wrong way, like people bashing each other or in some way not in the spirit of good intentions,,I will say it up front,, right now,,I will delete the post. Seriously no name calling etc.. I want some constructive conversation. Maybe this way more people will post here and maybe, just maybe we can all learn something. I mean shoot for the most part I believe we are all here for the same reason,, to find LOVE and live happily ever after. yes, I know there are some scammer's on this site,,but I know for sure there are also some people who would love to find love.

 

 

 

Maybe we can share some experiences, if someone got scammed, enlighten us,,so no one else does,,no one will poke fun or anything,, lets learn,, if they do I will delete it. Lets try to clear up any mis-understanding of something you read in someones profile or whatever.

 

 

 

Maybe even ask us Bloggers to review your profile.

 

 

 

I'll start, here's a couple of things I don't understand.( I know there's more and I'm sure they will come out,, LOL)

 

 

 

Ok, I read this in a woman's profile. "I've had a dog for the last 10 years, he is the best companion, so I want to be clear, you will be second fiddle"...Now I don't speak for all men,, but for me,, there is no way I'm playing second fiddle to a dog.

 

 

 

Another one,,when I'm talking to a woman in person or on the phone, and she say's all the time, " I want to be honest with you",, so I'm to assume when she doesn't say that she's lieing ? I always always assume people are telling Their truth,, so why say that ?

 

 

 

Generous,, what does that really mean ? with your money,, with your heart, with what ?



Hi NGL211,

 

Love your topic. I had the "dog" experience like you mentioned with a guy recently, so it's not just women who are hung up on their dogs or cats. I've worked in the pet industry before and learned that some people get so attached to their animals that they treat them sometimes even better than their family and friends. I think the "dog" issue is a red flag, at least for me.

 

The honesty thing... I think it's cultural. What I think people really mean by this is, "I'm going to be direct with you, because what I'm about to say could make or break things between us and we need to get this sorted out before I get further emotionally involved with you."

  

My understanding of "generous" means to have a giving nature. That means to me generous with your time, ideas, money, and energy, creativity, etc.

 

Here's my question, open to everyone..... Why do people put old pictures in their profile albums? A lot of men do this, and some women too. We really don't care about what you looked like in high school, when you used to have hair, or how good you looked a few years ago before your divorce and nervous breakdown. Why do people think old pictures are a good idea?.... ;-D.......... BeWell

 



BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D

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Posted on Fri, Feb 01, 2013 14:19

Hey RAY,

 

Hope your work week is winding up and you are looking forward to a great weekend! :)

 

RAY, I have learned many things about men from this blogging site, but WHERE and HOW to initially meet a man was a biggie! Remember when I was adamant about, "I'm meeting a man at a nice restaurant, this is Millionaire Match, they should "expect" it.." 

 

BUT.... The more "fine dining" restaurants I went to with men I realised I held no interest in... Well, I have to say... I was hte one becoming disheartened. Date after date, wonderful wine and steaks and seafood and desserts... but something was missing and I had been on soooo many dates as this, I became a bit sad.. :( 

 

So, it was THEN, that little voice in my head was saying... Think about the guys ... If they are truly "sincere" in meeting a woman.. think about how they must feelif this happens to them all the tme.. and they are paying for it, AND God forbid, they realise the woman was just using them B/C during the course of conversating she announces she has a date with Billy on Friday and Bobby on Sunday!! 

 

Personally, I just think it's a shame MORE people don't speak up on the blogs, so confused blonde Princesses could learn even more! ;) 

 

Personally, I'm to the point where I want to smash my cart into some hottie at Walmart and say.. "TAKE ME.. I'M YOURS!!" heeheehee~~



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Posted on Fri, Feb 01, 2013 13:43

Quoting LalaP777:

LOL! I just joined this site and stumbled upon this post somehow. How crazy it is to joing a dating site and mutually attack the other sex? Hilarious, I just needed to post a fitting quote:

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes.  There’s too much fraternizing with the enemy"- Henry Kissinger


LalaP.. I was hopeing this Blog didn't come across the way you viewed it. The more you move around this site through the Forums and the Blogs you will find more and more topic's about Bashing each other. I'm quite frankly tired of reading them. Yes, there are some true Scammer's and Player's on this site but I think women & men start to believe that we all are, and some paint us all with a very broad brush stroke.

 

 

 

Most of the reason I started this Blog was to make it maybe more clear for all of us, what the other is thinking. I choose to believe lot of this is due to mis-understanding each other. ( I know one man made Millions with his book on this, but lets try it)  For example, I've read this 100 times at least,,"I want a real man" I wish someone could explain that to me.

 

 

 

I really hope you read Hope's reply about trying to understand men, she's learned something very important, and I Thank her for her Honesty and understanding..Thats what I wanted this to be about.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 01, 2013 13:11

It helps to have other's views on this "process."  It is hard to understand why someone seems to be 100% into you then suddenly disappear without an explanation. It seems a bit cowardly. Ok, so maybe they know that the other person has an ugly temper and might cause a scene. Still, even a text message might be better than total silence.

 

On the first date idea; I agree that a simple cup of coffee or glass of wine in a quiet place would probably be more conducive to conversation than an extravagant meal at an expensive restaurant. Some women won't want to feel like they owe the man because of what he spent on a date. I had a first (and last) date with a guy who invited me to lunch at a Mexican place and ordered one meal for the two of us to share.

What about the guy who shows up in torn shorts and a tee covered in paint and grease? I love first impressions!!



Lulu in Dallas

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Posted on Fri, Feb 01, 2013 09:51

Quoting LalaP777:

LOL! I just joined this site and stumbled upon this post somehow. How crazy it is to joing a dating site and mutually attack the other sex? Hilarious, I just needed to post a fitting quote:

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes.  There’s too much fraternizing with the enemy"- Henry Kissinger


LOL... WELCOME TO THE SITE AND THE BLOGS LALAP777

 

LOVE the Kissinger phrase!! So true.. We're definitely rolling around with the enemy! LOL

 

Actually, on a serious note.. We aren't "attacking" one another. Here we come to collect insight on how the opposite sex views things. I have gathered much insight to men through our discussions. I once thought a man should only meet me at a fine dining restaurant. Then I learned through listening to the men, they were tired of going on date after date, spending hours and hard earned money on a date where there was no connection on either side. They were disheartened. Then to couple that with the fact "some," not all, but some of those women they felt were just using them as a "meal ticket" and probably had their date cards filled out for weeks!! 

 

I must say, I could not have been further off from meeting a man at Starbucks for coffee and dessert.. needless to say, I see now how I was wrong. I didn't KNOW how they thought or what THEY were going through in the dating world. THATS the point behind most of the discussions here. Some DO attack or have a lot of negativity, but for the majority, we are collecting knowledge to assist us in the future. 

 

Again, WELCOME TO THE BLOGS!! :)) 

 

A lot of great people here!! 



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Posted on Thu, Jan 31, 2013 15:48

LOL! I just joined this site and stumbled upon this post somehow. How crazy it is to joing a dating site and mutually attack the other sex? Hilarious, I just needed to post a fitting quote:

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes.  There’s too much fraternizing with the enemy"- Henry Kissinger



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Posted on Thu, Jan 31, 2013 15:37

Quoting Curious2078:

Ray, tonight, it being fairly late, and me being fairly tired, the one thing I can think of to respond to in your blog is about the woman who said that her dog comes first.

Good grief.  I adore my dog.  She's the light of my life.  But no, she wouldn't come first, not ever, unless the man's demands were outrageous and could cause my dog harm or serious misery. 

All in all, I can't imagine any woman thinking or believing that, having found true love, she would make that man play second fiddle to her dog. 

I hope you just deleted her and moved on.  She sounds like she has a ton of unsurmountable baggage indeed.

 



Pat,, Yes, I just clicked the back button and moved on,, but really,, how could a woman write such a thing and expect any man to go,,OK I'm good with that !   LOL

 

LuLu,, I'm trying to be more understanding, but I guess in my field,,I watch for things like that,, I probably shouldn't,, but I do,,and I just always wonder what their reason for saying it is,, not a big deal but it is something I want to understand,, thanks for sharing.



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Posted on Wed, Jan 30, 2013 18:19

Ray, tonight, it being fairly late, and me being fairly tired, the one thing I can think of to respond to in your blog is about the woman who said that her dog comes first.

Good grief.  I adore my dog.  She's the light of my life.  But no, she wouldn't come first, not ever, unless the man's demands were outrageous and could cause my dog harm or serious misery. 

All in all, I can't imagine any woman thinking or believing that, having found true love, she would make that man play second fiddle to her dog. 

I hope you just deleted her and moved on.  She sounds like she has a ton of unsurmountable baggage indeed.

 



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