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Posted on Jun 04, 2006 at 09:29 PM

When we are young there is no fear, nothing to lose... But after bad long term relationships or after long time alone ... more than ever we want to find "the one", but it looks so unreal, so impossible! Someone agree with me?

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Posted on Jun 07, 2006 at 12:11 PM

I find that as we get older, most people will not put up with bs and do not have the time for the drama, as in my case, I rather have friends that are good friends instead of all the baggage etc. So I think it could be a yes for some people and no for others. But the saying reach for the moon and you will get the stars and if your luck maybe the universe.

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Posted on Jun 07, 2006 at 11:45 AM

Greetings all, I guess I am somewhat odd in that i do not think of my own mortality and although I have had some relationships that did not go as well as they should have, I still treat every woman with the trust and honesty that I treated women when i was in my 20's...what si the purpose of seeking "the one" or your "soulmate" of significan other if you are worried about things you have no control over....yes...the days may be fewer than the ones that have past...but isn't life so beautiful (BIG GRIN)....just think of all those kids dying in strange lands....we owe it to all who have passed into tomorrow to LIVE and be happy. Blessings to all, Vasilis

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Posted on Jun 06, 2006 at 10:08 AM

Another factor is if you're single for a long time and have a certain criteria, it might get harder to find anyone who meets it in your own age range the older you get. The one that stands out for me in this regard would be someone who doesn't want to date anyone with kids. Easy enough to find when you're in your early 20's, increasing difficult in your late 20's or early to mid 30's, darn near impossible when you're pushing 40. Though if the guy's 40ish and does have children, either the kids might be close to being grown up if they aren't already, or he at least won't expect YOU to have any more for him, which could be either a good or a bad thing depending on whether you would have wanted to or not. Plus at my age, I've never been married, and though I know it's not necessarily true that marriage would be a guarantee of happiness, that's pretty much the end goal that I'm aiming for. In the meantime, a lot of men my own age have already "been there, done that, NEVER going there again!" so it's hard to even find anyone who's looking for the same thing.

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Posted on Jun 05, 2006 at 07:25 PM

Everyone, that has had previous failed relationships, is probabley a little "gun shy" and somewhat cynical about things in the future. It's understandable. Always remember, the absolute love of your life may grab you when you aren't looking for it. So....meeting people - without SERIOUS expectations - may lead you to SOMEONE YOU CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT. By the way, YOU have an incredibly interesting profil....:) Joe

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Posted on Jun 05, 2006 at 01:49 PM

Sadly 'myhalf'....I absolutely AGREE with you.....

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Posted on Jun 05, 2006 at 06:39 AM

I'd probably agree that if you're still single after a certain age (especially if you're never married, as opposed to divorced), you start getting cynical about your chances of ever finding anyone decent. It's even worse if the OTHER person was usually the one to leave, because it makes you question your entire self-worth. On a GOOD day, I think, "What's the point? He'll just leave me for a white woman with bigger breasts within a month or so anyway." On a really bad day, I'll say something more like, "I'd start dating again, but I LIKE being able to wear whatever I want, instead of having to base it on, 'So, are these sleeves/shorts long enough to cover up the bruises?'"

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