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Posted on Wed, Mar 05, 2014 17:23

I ran into an old friend, let's call him Chad, this weekend. We went to the cigar bar and he filled me in on the last 5 years of his life. He met a bombshell, call her Linda, and they embarked on a wild, passionate, but stormy relationship.

 

She was a former model, and she had a classic latina hourglass figure. He told me that men would stare as they walked along South Beach. Strangers would stop him and call him a "lucky guy". At one beach, someone started yelling at them from the 6th floor balcony, again calling him a lucky stiff!

 

It sounds great, but she wanted marriage and stability. I've known Chad all my life and he is model of conservative stability and careful with his expenses. The problem is that Linda expected a lot and brought strain to their relationship. Chad decided ultimately that he could not enter a marriage arrangement with her and let her go.

 

Chad went into a year long funk, but Linda went to one of those introduction services looking for some guy to support her lifestyle. She finallly met "Micky" ... an older guy, with multiple conditions, fat, out of shape. The total opposite of the rather handsome and fit Chad. Although not wealthy, he was financially secure, collecting a military pension, social security, and disability benefits.

 

Micky tried real hard to be indispensible, first buying Linda expensive gifts, then getting her the essentials such as a new computer or a water heater for her house. He was the typical "nice guy", trying to ingratiate himself in this way.

 

Nevertheless, there was no passion between Linda and Micky. Chad and Linda found excuses to be with each other: to set up the computer, to be a partner for a dance class, to be a workout buddy at the gym, etc. They couldn't keep their hands off each other and often ended up ...

 

I was surprised, as this seemed out of character. I aske him, "Chad, how can you keep your head screwed on straight in that situation?"

 

He told me he had come to that conclusion. So he recently joined an online dating service. However, it wasn't working for him, the women seemed unreasonable, always looking to "trade up" (that was his opinion, anyway). I think his head just wasn't into it because of his still smoldering crush on Linda.

 

After several drinks, he came to this conclusion. He had met with Linda the previous night, and in a moment of unguarded passion they discussed the possibility of marriage. Linda said she still wasn't sure about Mike. Can you blame her? Could an attractive lively woman be happy in that situation. They also discussed the possibility of a shared vacation to Europe.

 

Chad told me that he blurted out to Linda ... and he absolutely meant it at the time ...

"Let's go to Nice this summer and elope. Then we can take a motor trip through the French and Italian Riviera."

 

She looked curiously disappointed to him. She told him she wanted to get married first with close friend and family, and then go to Nice for the honeymoon.

 

The contrast between his really romantic idea and her ordinary, prosaic response brought him back to his senses. You can guess what he decided to do.

 

 

 



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Posted on Sun, Mar 30, 2014 10:45

Quoting 3345roc:

Hey Jen.... Can I get you a Long Island Ice Tea?



Ha!! That was funny!  Seriously I would have to drink a couple of pitchers and I think I would still be too coherent to get married..at least in Vegas.  Never say never though! I want the whole love thing, it is just the contract that scares me.

 

 

I have 2 friends that just got married (one yesterday, one on Feb.28th) and both couples met on Match. It's a good sign not to give up :)



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Posted on Sun, Mar 30, 2014 05:34

Quoting Jenkneee:

First of all, I HATE bullshit stories. Secondly, since your post is BS, why didn't you finish it with a bull**** answer?

 

I don't like anyone going behind someone's back, even if it isn't a physical affair, it is an emotional affair and it's wrong.  I do not think anything was wrong whatsoever with her reply about eloping in Nice.   Do you consider it an insult that she would like her family and friends to share in one of the happiest moments of your two lives together joining as one?  There is also nothing wrong with eloping as long as both people completely agree. I do not consider eloping any more romantic than having a tradional wedding.

 

 

Speaking of weddings, my friend Dana is marrying the guy she met on a popular dating site this week :) I am so happy for them and love to hear that yes indeed, people from online really can meet and fall in love. Their family and friends will happily be there to share in their joy, they wouldn't have it any other way.

 

 

***P.S. For the massive amount of males who are now fantasizing about marrying me. It would be sooo easy if I ever could get that drunk.  My parents are gone and I have virtually no one that I would have to have at my wedding. I do refuse to get married in Vegas though and I never get that drunk.  A permanent fiance will do just fine.



Hey Jen.... Can I get you a Long Island Ice Tea?



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Posted on Thu, Mar 27, 2014 14:27

Quoting LuckyStiff2001:

I ran into an old friend, let's call him Chad, this weekend. We went to the cigar bar and he filled me in on the last 5 years of his life. He met a bombshell, call her Linda, and they embarked on a wild, passionate, but stormy relationship.

 

She was a former model, and she had a classic latina hourglass figure. He told me that men would stare as they walked along South Beach. Strangers would stop him and call him a "lucky guy". At one beach, someone started yelling at them from the 6th floor balcony, again calling him a lucky stiff!

 

It sounds great, but she wanted marriage and stability. I've known Chad all my life and he is model of conservative stability and careful with his expenses. The problem is that Linda expected a lot and brought strain to their relationship. Chad decided ultimately that he could not enter a marriage arrangement with her and let her go.

 

Chad went into a year long funk, but Linda went to one of those introduction services looking for some guy to support her lifestyle. She finallly met "Micky" ... an older guy, with multiple conditions, fat, out of shape. The total opposite of the rather handsome and fit Chad. Although not wealthy, he was financially secure, collecting a military pension, social security, and disability benefits.

 

Micky tried real hard to be indispensible, first buying Linda expensive gifts, then getting her the essentials such as a new computer or a water heater for her house. He was the typical "nice guy", trying to ingratiate himself in this way.

 

Nevertheless, there was no passion between Linda and Micky. Chad and Linda found excuses to be with each other: to set up the computer, to be a partner for a dance class, to be a workout buddy at the gym, etc. They couldn't keep their hands off each other and often ended up ...

 

I was surprised, as this seemed out of character. I aske him, "Chad, how can you keep your head screwed on straight in that situation?"

 

He told me he had come to that conclusion. So he recently joined an online dating service. However, it wasn't working for him, the women seemed unreasonable, always looking to "trade up" (that was his opinion, anyway). I think his head just wasn't into it because of his still smoldering crush on Linda.

 

After several drinks, he came to this conclusion. He had met with Linda the previous night, and in a moment of unguarded passion they discussed the possibility of marriage. Linda said she still wasn't sure about Mike. Can you blame her? Could an attractive lively woman be happy in that situation. They also discussed the possibility of a shared vacation to Europe.

 

Chad told me that he blurted out to Linda ... and he absolutely meant it at the time ...

"Let's go to Nice this summer and elope. Then we can take a motor trip through the French and Italian Riviera."

 

She looked curiously disappointed to him. She told him she wanted to get married first with close friend and family, and then go to Nice for the honeymoon.

 

The contrast between his really romantic idea and her ordinary, prosaic response brought him back to his senses. You can guess what he decided to do.

 

 

 



First of all, I HATE bullshit stories. Secondly, since your post is BS, why didn't you finish it with a bull**** answer?

 

I don't like anyone going behind someone's back, even if it isn't a physical affair, it is an emotional affair and it's wrong.  I do not think anything was wrong whatsoever with her reply about eloping in Nice.   Do you consider it an insult that she would like her family and friends to share in one of the happiest moments of your two lives together joining as one?  There is also nothing wrong with eloping as long as both people completely agree. I do not consider eloping any more romantic than having a tradional wedding.

 

 

Speaking of weddings, my friend Dana is marrying the guy she met on a popular dating site this week :) I am so happy for them and love to hear that yes indeed, people from online really can meet and fall in love. Their family and friends will happily be there to share in their joy, they wouldn't have it any other way.

 

 

***P.S. For the massive amount of males who are now fantasizing about marrying me. It would be sooo easy if I ever could get that drunk.  My parents are gone and I have virtually no one that I would have to have at my wedding. I do refuse to get married in Vegas though and I never get that drunk.  A permanent fiance will do just fine.



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Posted on Tue, Mar 11, 2014 23:21

Quoting LuckyStiff2001:

The story is a fabrication. It is interesting, however, that you consider a woman to be a man's property ... if he pays for her, he owns her. Is that what "capitalism" means?

 

The root of the problem is that the man has nothing to offer but his bank account. "Linda" is in a bind, so she accepts it. Do you mean that her end of the bargain is to give up love and passion for that security? Human beings aren't designed that way.

 



Fabricated or not, what the interesting story tells me is that: family/friends are more important than the partner, supposed to be the only one....



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Posted on Sun, Mar 09, 2014 11:54

Thanks, Diana, for that reply. I guess I just did not understand and now I do.



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Posted on Sun, Mar 09, 2014 10:01

Quoting LuckyStiff2001:

@ Diana 3316

 

They are an older couple and have already had a dream wedding.

How many weddings does a girl dream of? I always assumed "one".

 

For a guy, planning for weddings is a horror ... why would he want to do it again? The same band, the same food, the same garter belt thing, the same bouquet throwing ...

 

A marriage license in Nice sounds romantic to me, if there are any takers here ... I'm pretty spontaneous. She just wants to show off her catch to her friends, like a sports fisher stuffs the marlin he caught last year.

 


Lucky,

Well....I'm an "older" woman...divorced for over 20 years....and if I ever say 'I do' again...I would want it to be a very special event and it would have nothing to do with comparing the love of my life with a fish.

 

Since I don't know Linda, it is impossible for me to know her heart.  I only know mine.  Although a cathedral wedding would not be likely, a celebration surrounded by family and friends....creating memories....seems desirable to me even at this advanced age.  *wink*  :)))  Additionally, the formality of committing openly in front of my family/friends would mentally solidify in my mind that I was 'all in', until death do us part.

 

PS:  I am sure you can find a woman that it wouldn't matter to...just as long as she gets the fish.



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Posted on Sat, Mar 08, 2014 18:01

@ Diana 3316

 

They are an older couple and have already had a dream wedding.

How many weddings does a girl dream of? I always assumed "one".

 

For a guy, planning for weddings is a horror ... why would he want to do it again? The same band, the same food, the same garter belt thing, the same bouquet throwing ...

 

A marriage license in Nice sounds romantic to me, if there are any takers here ... I'm pretty spontaneous. She just wants to show off her catch to her friends, like a sports fisher stuffs the marlin he caught last year.

 



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Posted on Fri, Mar 07, 2014 16:05

Well someone could have me right now for a few Just hard times and you would think all the men that stop me in a day would help out a Nice Hot Italian Ill even work for it, give me a job, Great cook personable funny you name it I can do it ,any Takers ;-). HELP lol



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Posted on Thu, Mar 06, 2014 22:13

Lucky-

Hmmm….well it sounds to me like Chad was totally out to lunch and disconnected from what a beautiful and passionate Latina woman would want for the most important day of her life….her wedding.  Of course she was disappointed with the suggestion to elope!  Latino people are very social, family oriented and culturally connected.  So much so, that if he did marry her…..they would spend every Sunday after church at her mother’s house, with all her sisters/nieces/nephews eating lunch and happily chatting in Spanish well into the evening.  He does speak Spanish doesn’t he?  He made her an offer that went against every fiber of her heritage.

 

I’m not sure how anyone could think that idea would sound romantic to her…..or that her response was prosaic.  He was asking her to give up a dream she had probably held since she was a little girl.

 

PS:  Are you a fantasy writer?



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Posted on Thu, Mar 06, 2014 14:46

Quoting LuckyStiff2001:

The story is a fabrication. It is interesting, however, that you consider a woman to be a man's property ... if he pays for her, he owns her. Is that what "capitalism" means?

 

The root of the problem is that the man has nothing to offer but his bank account. "Linda" is in a bind, so she accepts it. Do you mean that her end of the bargain is to give up love and passion for that security? Human beings aren't designed that way.

 



Hey Stiff... who is this comment directed to?



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Posted on Thu, Mar 06, 2014 13:04

Quoting LuckyStiff2001:

I ran into an old friend, let's call him Chad, this weekend. We went to the cigar bar and he filled me in on the last 5 years of his life. He met a bombshell, call her Linda, and they embarked on a wild, passionate, but stormy relationship.

 

She was a former model, and she had a classic latina hourglass figure. He told me that men would stare as they walked along South Beach. Strangers would stop him and call him a "lucky guy". At one beach, someone started yelling at them from the 6th floor balcony, again calling him a lucky stiff!

 

It sounds great, but she wanted marriage and stability. I've known Chad all my life and he is model of conservative stability and careful with his expenses. The problem is that Linda expected a lot and brought strain to their relationship. Chad decided ultimately that he could not enter a marriage arrangement with her and let her go.

 

Chad went into a year long funk, but Linda went to one of those introduction services looking for some guy to support her lifestyle. She finallly met "Micky" ... an older guy, with multiple conditions, fat, out of shape. The total opposite of the rather handsome and fit Chad. Although not wealthy, he was financially secure, collecting a military pension, social security, and disability benefits.

 

Micky tried real hard to be indispensible, first buying Linda expensive gifts, then getting her the essentials such as a new computer or a water heater for her house. He was the typical "nice guy", trying to ingratiate himself in this way.

 

Nevertheless, there was no passion between Linda and Micky. Chad and Linda found excuses to be with each other: to set up the computer, to be a partner for a dance class, to be a workout buddy at the gym, etc. They couldn't keep their hands off each other and often ended up ...

 

I was surprised, as this seemed out of character. I aske him, "Chad, how can you keep your head screwed on straight in that situation?"

 

He told me he had come to that conclusion. So he recently joined an online dating service. However, it wasn't working for him, the women seemed unreasonable, always looking to "trade up" (that was his opinion, anyway). I think his head just wasn't into it because of his still smoldering crush on Linda.

 

After several drinks, he came to this conclusion. He had met with Linda the previous night, and in a moment of unguarded passion they discussed the possibility of marriage. Linda said she still wasn't sure about Mike. Can you blame her? Could an attractive lively woman be happy in that situation. They also discussed the possibility of a shared vacation to Europe.

 

Chad told me that he blurted out to Linda ... and he absolutely meant it at the time ...

"Let's go to Nice this summer and elope. Then we can take a motor trip through the French and Italian Riviera."

 

She looked curiously disappointed to him. She told him she wanted to get married first with close friend and family, and then go to Nice for the honeymoon.

 

The contrast between his really romantic idea and her ordinary, prosaic response brought him back to his senses. You can guess what he decided to do.

 

 

 



O.K.....He's stuck on plot, but I see few mirrors that change the parabolic matching, interest gathering, avenues to success. Good Luck...



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Posted on Thu, Mar 06, 2014 10:16

The story is a fabrication. It is interesting, however, that you consider a woman to be a man's property ... if he pays for her, he owns her. Is that what "capitalism" means?

 

The root of the problem is that the man has nothing to offer but his bank account. "Linda" is in a bind, so she accepts it. Do you mean that her end of the bargain is to give up love and passion for that security? Human beings aren't designed that way.

 



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Posted on Thu, Mar 06, 2014 08:02

Ditch her and go back to the dating site. 



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Posted on Thu, Mar 06, 2014 05:01

No, I don't know.  Can you make this into a multiple choice question?



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Posted on Thu, Mar 06, 2014 03:29

what did he decide to do? They sound like a very good match, they both like what's "free". It's a pity they both live in a capitalist society: if you drive another man's car without his agreement, you are called a thief, but you can sleep with a woman another man pays to keep her fed and warm, it's not even against the law! DO you think your friend is a very respectable person?



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