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Posted on Fri, Feb 07, 2014 03:16

1. Why, given both brain chemistry and societal norms, are men and women confused by the regular occurrence of misunderstanding and miscommunication between genders?

 

We, men and women, aren't even reading the same book, much less on the same page. 

 

Neither gender has a robust referent for life lived from the other's perspective. 

 

There's not much of a mystery here, but I'd love to hear your thoughts. 

 

 



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Posted on Mon, Feb 24, 2014 19:02

For the most part, this photo sums it up. Men are simple, women are complex. I prefer a man who knows the right buttons to play with :)

 

 

 


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Posted on Mon, Feb 24, 2014 15:25

Quoting 3345roc:

John Gray seems to have disappeared from everyone's radar screen.  He divorced his wife who also was a self help author.

 

I think he should write a follow up... "Women are fron Venus Men are Full of Sh*t"



Lololol....that's sounds like a perfect sequel!

 

 

Liv.



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Posted on Thu, Feb 13, 2014 13:50

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus! I think that pretty much sums it up. But for every relationship to have a chance to succeed, there has to be not just communication, but effective communication and both parties have to be willing to engage otherwise we are just wasting our time.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Wed, Feb 12, 2014 12:07

I asked my friend the other day:

 

Me:

"What does it means when you asked a person what is the one thing he/she 'would change about himself/herself if he/she could or will and that person's reponse is 'nothing, i'm happy.'?"

 

Friend: 'Is the person a male or female and are you the one asking the qustion?'

 

Me: "what differences does that make?"

 

Friend: 'It makes every different. The answer changes based on person to person. If a male is asking a female or a female asking a male... if he/she is responding to a friend or a stranger or--"

 

Me: "Wait wait... why would the answer change? if it be one truth... then it in itself is the answer regardless of people asking or relationship? take out the factor of willingness of being honest, if a person is honest... then the answer remains the same right?"

 

Friend: "No. it's never about the answer... it's about what you want the other person to believe in your answers, human psychology. It's all about what you need from the other person and how you can get it by what you answer. Every answers has intentions behind it..."

 

Me: "But don't look at like that... i mean i give the same answer... i don't intend anything. i simply answer the qustion."

 

Friend: "Right because you might not have any motives... but other people might especially between the opposite genders."

 

Me: "... Isn't it tiring to think that everyone have motives to approach you? Isn't it more fun to give people the benefit of the doubt and just accept them as they are?"

 

Friend: smirking at me.

 

Me: "I'm going to think that everyone is honest until proven otherwise. I'm going to take them at face value... until their actions contradict... so let me see how happy this person is shall we?"



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Posted on Tue, Feb 11, 2014 17:39

I think that to a great extent, Vince, the technology base in our world today DOES affect the way families/couples interact.  How often do people turn off technology and have face-to-face conversations with one another without letting the outside world interlope? Too many families no longer sit around their tables and discuss their day.  So many people sit out at restaurants with cell phones out, texting instead of conversing with the ones who sit across from them.  If a cell phone rings, how often does it go unanswered?  But the person who has given their time to be physically present is neglected. It absolutely has made a difference.

 

Honest conversation goes a long way to building relationship.  I also believe, as a Christian, that people need to have a similar belief system, and be able to share that with one-another.  When we neglect to take a person's spirituality into account, we neglect a very important part of their nature, and I believe it is probably one of the biggest mistakes we make in our relationships.



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Posted on Tue, Feb 11, 2014 09:26

Everyone encounters different things in life at different times and gathers their own wisdom from their lessons.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 07, 2014 08:50

The only way to bridge the gap, or sadly in some cases, the chasm, is through communication.  But it's a slow going process because we communicate differently, as well. 

 

And both parties, all parties, must be willing to not only listen, but process and apply shared thoughts, feelings, etc. instead of just hearing the other while waiting for a pause to jump in and explain a different point of view. 

 

It's a bit of a sticky mess. 

 

Few want to or are able to get over themselves and their need to be heard in favor of learning from another.  

 

So we circle. 

And circle. 

And circle. 

 

Certain that the other doesn't get it. Equally certain that oneself does. 



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