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Posted on Wed, Jun 26, 2013 09:36

Liv, your comment --

 

“ Tell you what, most professors are crazy, with the exception of our Orlando, of course! I dated one and sure enough he had huge emotional baggage that even polite, patient and insufferable me couldn't deal with. I ran straight for the hills, but I was so sorry I didn't want to hurt him, I didn't even know how to break up with him. But it had to be done for my sanity...phew! “

 

I was a professor once.  Only a little bit crazy.  I prefer to call it eccentric.  One of the things I miss now in the so called real world.  We are expected to be normal.  Worse yet, most everyone thinks they personally are normal, what’s up with that. 

 

At the university we were expected to be at least a little eccentric.  After all, one of the fundamental requirements, and most treasured freedoms.

 

The students would have been disappointed otherwise. 

 

 

RMac

 

 

 



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Posted on Tue, Jun 25, 2013 17:54

Quoting Dakota35:

Hello again Liv,

Thanks for all the nice compliments although I don't think I'm deserving.  But flattery will get you everywhere with me. LOL :)   With what you wrote, I better understand what you are now trying to convey.

 

I hang out (or are around) many different kinds of people.  It has been my experience that many that are in academia are somewhat dysfunctional in society.  I speak from a close relationship with such people.  I believe this is partly from being locked away in college for so long.  Some of these people realize that they don't fit while others are totally oblivious.  Then you have the other extreme, intellectually challenged people (nice way to say it).  Some realize they are not that smart (they are the smarter IC) and then there are the really bad off that are oblivious.  I have a friend (used loosely) that one day out of blue said;  "I just figured out why I'm not smart".  This caught my attention because this seemed to be one of those "Eureka" moments.  So I asked him, Why do you think you are "not smart"?  He replied, "when I was in elementary school I would eat the paint from the windows and windowsill".  He went on to say that he knew that the paint must have had lead in it.  Trying keep from laughing, I just replied...That could be it!  All the while, I was thinking...the paint could have contributed but it wasn't smart to eat the paint in the first place. :)  Paint is not in the food group. :-)

 

All I'm getting at, is that it comes down to compatibility.  If you mix someone that is from Academia with a high school drop out, in most cases it's not going to work.  I put a effort into trying to be balanced and trying to understand all people.  But that doesn't mean I'd be compatible with everyone.  Do I like strong intelligent women?  For me, that is a loaded question.  It comes down to personality.  If a woman is so proud that she thinks she is smarter than all others, including the man she is with...then I take issue.  I have a huge dislike for those that act as if they are superior, a HUGE dislike.  It is my belief that everyone has something to contribute.  I always listen, even to those that seem to have nothing to teach, because many times they have something unique to teach.  In many cases people's intelligence level may be limited, but what they can help is how they conduct themselves morally.  So, I am guilty of being bias toward morally good people.  With that said, some people were not taught as children the difference between right & wrong, good & evil.  But when given the information they should chose to be moral...I've given the info to some (when asked) and they chose the opposite.  None are perfect but we should try.

 

Liv, I realize I have veered off course with my reply.  I guess the short, easy way to say what I so long-windedly said above is;  We are all different and we all have our issues (everyone).  Some are more compatible with a larger group, while others a smaller group.  Society around the world is very diverse, and there is someone for everyone.  Usually these groups run in packs. (i.e. like people hang with like people)  So I would think that a intelligent, successful man would not take issue with dating a woman of the same.  It is when a man feels inferior that he has reservations about such a woman, which is his own flaw.  A man's brain is first ruled by attraction (more so at a young age), then secondarily he weighs other traits of a woman.   

 

Now, as for my nuclear physicist friend.  I'm not compatible with her, she is just a walking brain with glasses.  I'm one of those people that fit with everyone and at the same time fits with no one.  I've had women tell me that they have no idea what I'm even saying because I talk over their head...I don't realize I'm doing it.  While, other women have said that they though I was a liar, because "no one acts or thinks like you do". A friend told me "you could get women if you were not so stupid".  What he meant was that I had to act like a typical guy...I can't do that.  Actually, I could but I hate being fake.  So, I'll just put things in God's hand and if the past is a indication of the future, then I'm screwed. :)  Ever feel like your God's lab experiment?



All points well-taken DAK. Yeah, you veer off topic a little, but you make valid points. It is important to hang out with people from different walks of life and with differing levels of intelligence/life experience/expertise in different stuff. That is what creates balance. And there is good in everyone. The introverted college Professors that don't tend to mix with the outside world are the ones that tend to be a little out of touch and balance. They are probably like that because they are professors or they are professors because they are naturally like that - inner-focused rather than outerworldly-focused. I stand to be corrected. I'm sorry your Nuclear Physicists is just a walking brain and a pair of glasses.

 

You paint-eating friend is hilarious! Eureka moment indeed. I'm sure it a pretty smart person to eact paint! LOL! You see, not so smart people are way more fun than the smart ones!

 

DAK - To be honest with you, any lady or anyone who feels or has the need to trumpet about their smartness is probably not that smart. You know that thing about old money and the nouveau riche? It's pretty much the same. A truly intelligent person shines true effortlessly. And looking down on people is never an attractive trait! A total turn off for me.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 25, 2013 17:42

Quoting lostinthe70s:

Hi Liv,

 

I happen to love Nuclear Physics. I dated a Nuclear Physicist from this site.

 

I would have liked to have continued dating him, but he had emotional problems that I couldn't deal with, but he was a super guy!

 

It was very stimulating and I learned so much. I lived in Hiroshima for almost 2 years. The Atom bomb and Manhatten project are very interesting subjects to me.

 

Keep on.. keepin on sister!

 

 


Hi Lost,

 

You do love Nuclear Physics? I am intrigued. That was my favourite aspect of Physics at Uni. I majored in Biochemistry with special interest in Genetics, Metabolism and Enzymology and then I minored in Atomic/Nuclear Physics. I miss it!

 

The Manhattan Project is quite interesting in so many ways - one of the aspect was the intricacies of transporting these highly sensitive materials as they were produced at different labs and locations under top secrecy. One of the difficulties they had to overcome was to separate Uranium 235 from Uranium 238 as these isotope were identical in weight, mass, and structure. So they employed Uranium enrichment via electromagnetic, thermal and gaseous procedures. They also looked into transmuting Plutonium into Uranium but from my rather weak recall, I don't think that was a huge success particularly with the gun-type fission weapon - I think it was impractical to use.

 

I have a friend who is a bomb expert and he is quite normal for a guy in that line of work, but what interests me the most is the fusion of nuclear physics with medical science/research - positive, practical application to life. I'm very interested in going back into research into vaccines and possible mutation of the genetic core of some deadly parasite that claim up to 660,000 lives per annum and an annual infection rate topping 220 million. If we can reduce or stop this morbidity rate, I would be extremely delighted.

 

Ah ....Hiroshima! How was that like for you? Those congenital birth defects are just a tad hard to deal with. How is it there now? Are there still current birth defects?

 

Tell you what, most professors are crazy, with the exception of our Orlando, of course! I dated one and sure enough he had huge emotional baggage that even polite, patient and insufferable me couldn't deal with. I ran straight for the hills, but I was so sorry I didn't want to hurt him, I didn't even know how to break up with him. But it had to be done for my sanity...phew!

 

Liv.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 25, 2013 17:19

Quoting Dakota35:

Dang, those nuclear physicist are running around everywhere. :-)



LOLOL!!!!! You are certifiable!

 

Liv.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 25, 2013 03:06

Quoting lostinthe70s:

Hi Liv,

 

I happen to love Nuclear Physics. I dated a Nuclear Physicist from this site.

 

I would have liked to have continued dating him, but he had emotional problems that I couldn't deal with, but he was a super guy!

 

It was very stimulating and I learned so much. I lived in Hiroshima for almost 2 years. The Atom bomb and Manhatten project are very interesting subjects to me.

 

Keep on.. keepin on sister!

 

 



Dang, those nuclear physicist are running around everywhere. :-)



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 22:24

Hi Liv,

 

I happen to love Nuclear Physics. I dated a Nuclear Physicist from this site.

 

I would have liked to have continued dating him, but he had emotional problems that I couldn't deal with, but he was a super guy!

 

It was very stimulating and I learned so much. I lived in Hiroshima for almost 2 years. The Atom bomb and Manhatten project are very interesting subjects to me.

 

Keep on.. keepin on sister!

 

 



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 21:23

Quoting Livnlov:

DAK - You are sooo smart and so.....OK I was going to say sexy.....but decided to take a rain check on that, LOL!!!! I know, I know.....don't get mad it's your fault I can't call you Sexy, LOL! Post a photo....please.... nahhhh, I give up, he won't. It appears I'll have to bribe Hope to draw you for me....  :-))).

 

OK - On a serious note, I am not talking about independence that impacts negatively on being connected and committed to someone, I am talking about extreme intelligence that tend to get in the way. An intelligent person may not at all be independent! But the trouble most times with intelligence is that these people are sometimes out of step and out of tune with Mr. Average Joe. They may not want to intimidate Average Joe, but Average Joe either cannot keep up, understand her, or gets intimidated anyway and may become hateful....I have seen it and I wonder why that is. On the other hand, extremely intelligent men may find it easier as the women who they date that are not on the same intelligence level as them can take it without feeling intimidated. In fact, they feel proud that such an intelligent man is attracted to them and they support him. Why can't men be supportive of an extremely intelligent woman even if he doesn't understand Atomic or Nuclear Physics?

 

Now as for your Nuclear Phycisist friend, is she single? What the hell are you doing on MM then, DAK? Go get her!

 

"Sometimes the smart kids let me hand out with them. :)"......Ermmmm....are you just deliberately trying to wind me up or what???? Bwahahahahahaha - [Hope, permission to copy please]. You are one of the smartest people I have ever met....so beat the exaggerated humility, dear friend! Your post kept disappearing, lol! What happened?

 

Liv.



Hello again Liv,

Thanks for all the nice compliments although I don't think I'm deserving.  But flattery will get you everywhere with me. LOL :)   With what you wrote, I better understand what you are now trying to convey.

 

I hang out (or are around) many different kinds of people.  It has been my experience that many that are in academia are somewhat dysfunctional in society.  I speak from a close relationship with such people.  I believe this is partly from being locked away in college for so long.  Some of these people realize that they don't fit while others are totally oblivious.  Then you have the other extreme, intellectually challenged people (nice way to say it).  Some realize they are not that smart (they are the smarter IC) and then there are the really bad off that are oblivious.  I have a friend (used loosely) that one day out of blue said;  "I just figured out why I'm not smart".  This caught my attention because this seemed to be one of those "Eureka" moments.  So I asked him, Why do you think you are "not smart"?  He replied, "when I was in elementary school I would eat the paint from the windows and windowsill".  He went on to say that he knew that the paint must have had lead in it.  Trying keep from laughing, I just replied...That could be it!  All the while, I was thinking...the paint could have contributed but it wasn't smart to eat the paint in the first place. :)  Paint is not in the food group. :-)

 

All I'm getting at, is that it comes down to compatibility.  If you mix someone that is from Academia with a high school drop out, in most cases it's not going to work.  I put a effort into trying to be balanced and trying to understand all people.  But that doesn't mean I'd be compatible with everyone.  Do I like strong intelligent women?  For me, that is a loaded question.  It comes down to personality.  If a woman is so proud that she thinks she is smarter than all others, including the man she is with...then I take issue.  I have a huge dislike for those that act as if they are superior, a HUGE dislike.  It is my belief that everyone has something to contribute.  I always listen, even to those that seem to have nothing to teach, because many times they have something unique to teach.  In many cases people's intelligence level may be limited, but what they can help is how they conduct themselves morally.  So, I am guilty of being bias toward morally good people.  With that said, some people were not taught as children the difference between right & wrong, good & evil.  But when given the information they should chose to be moral...I've given the info to some (when asked) and they chose the opposite.  None are perfect but we should try.

 

Liv, I realize I have veered off course with my reply.  I guess the short, easy way to say what I so long-windedly said above is;  We are all different and we all have our issues (everyone).  Some are more compatible with a larger group, while others a smaller group.  Society around the world is very diverse, and there is someone for everyone.  Usually these groups run in packs. (i.e. like people hang with like people)  So I would think that a intelligent, successful man would not take issue with dating a woman of the same.  It is when a man feels inferior that he has reservations about such a woman, which is his own flaw.  A man's brain is first ruled by attraction (more so at a young age), then secondarily he weighs other traits of a woman.   

 

Now, as for my nuclear physicist friend.  I'm not compatible with her, she is just a walking brain with glasses.  I'm one of those people that fit with everyone and at the same time fits with no one.  I've had women tell me that they have no idea what I'm even saying because I talk over their head...I don't realize I'm doing it.  While, other women have said that they though I was a liar, because "no one acts or thinks like you do". A friend told me "you could get women if you were not so stupid".  What he meant was that I had to act like a typical guy...I can't do that.  Actually, I could but I hate being fake.  So, I'll just put things in God's hand and if the past is a indication of the future, then I'm screwed. :)  Ever feel like your God's lab experiment?



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 08:21

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I can't speak for anyone else, but I prefer indepenmdent and smart women over the alternative. Was the motivation to join this particular site. As someone mentioned we all like to be wanted by our partner, and yes I changed wanted for needed. At least that is what I prefer. Needed? No. Wanted Yes. It may be a subtle difference, or semantics, but that how I'd word it.  To me fiscal success for men and beauty for women are quite similar as they are door openers, or attractors. I think either has little to do with relationship sustainability. A wealth J-off or a boring beauty are not a lot of fun to be around.


Well Speed,

 

It's great to hear your point of view and great to know that there are men like you. I completely agree with you. The distinction between 'want' and 'need' is quite clear though subtle. No man or woman needs a clingy, needy partner - it's boring and exasperating. Placing a delicate balance between letting a man know he is very much wanted and maintaining a degree of my own independence is what does it for me. I do not want to suffocate the man nor he me. But then it's a delicate balance.

 

Speed, thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts!

 

Liv.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 07:41

I can't speak for anyone else, but I prefer indepenmdent and smart women over the alternative. Was the motivation to join this particular site. As someone mentioned we all like to be wanted by our partner, and yes I changed wanted for needed. At least that is what I prefer. Needed? No. Wanted Yes. It may be a subtle difference, or semantics, but that how I'd word it.  To me fiscal success for men and beauty for women are quite similar as they are door openers, or attractors. I think either has little to do with relationship sustainability. A wealth J-off or a boring beauty are not a lot of fun to be around.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 04:09

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Liv, Just as women are care givers, men want to be providers.  A man wants to feel needed and to be in control.  If a woman is totally self sufficient, then the guy feels as he's expendable in the relationship.  Everyone wants to feel needed.   Most guys are alpha and don't want a alpha female. 

 

 

I actually know a nuclear physicist.  She is so nerdy that she's kind of cute.  Sometimes the smart kids let me hang out with them. :) 



DAK - You are sooo smart and so.....OK I was going to say sexy.....but decided to take a rain check on that, LOL!!!! I know, I know.....don't get mad it's your fault I can't call you Sexy, LOL! Post a photo....please.... nahhhh, I give up, he won't. It appears I'll have to bribe Hope to draw you for me....  :-))).

 

OK - On a serious note, I am not talking about independence that impacts negatively on being connected and committed to someone, I am talking about extreme intelligence that tend to get in the way. An intelligent person may not at all be independent! But the trouble most times with intelligence is that these people are sometimes out of step and out of tune with Mr. Average Joe. They may not want to intimidate Average Joe, but Average Joe either cannot keep up, understand her, or gets intimidated anyway and may become hateful....I have seen it and I wonder why that is. On the other hand, extremely intelligent men may find it easier as the women who they date that are not on the same intelligence level as them can take it without feeling intimidated. In fact, they feel proud that such an intelligent man is attracted to them and they support him. Why can't men be supportive of an extremely intelligent woman even if he doesn't understand Atomic or Nuclear Physics?

 

Now as for your Nuclear Phycisist friend, is she single? What the hell are you doing on MM then, DAK? Go get her!

 

"Sometimes the smart kids let me hand out with them. :)"......Ermmmm....are you just deliberately trying to wind me up or what???? Bwahahahahahaha - [Hope, permission to copy please]. You are one of the smartest people I have ever met....so beat the exaggerated humility, dear friend! Your post kept disappearing, lol! What happened?

 

Liv.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 03:51

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Hi Liv,    The  'think tank' sounds so interesting. i would go. Some man are threatened and some man love smart woman. I grow up in China, the libral culture endorsed woman to be smart, rich and  beautiful. A beautiful CEO would be the hottest one. Somehow here in USA is still 100 years behind. My ex-husband hates me being smart. He is a typical average guy.       Back to your thinl tank, nuclear physics seems an old topic,  how about personal flying car, BCI (brain computer interface)?    I was watching The old video about Steve Jobs, he was such a handsome brilliant man. It would be so cool if BCI could keep his brain alive and packed with the young handsome Jobs.       Best Regards!


Hi 1st2nd3rd,

 

Good to see you and thanks a lot for your contribution. If you are interested in debunking stuff, then you may very well fit the bill for the think tank debunker base, lol. Interesting to hear your point of view.

 

If you are interested, do send me an e-mail and let me know what your background and interests are and then I will send you the link to join. We cover a wide variety of topics so I'm sure you will find something you like and you can of course start a topic for discussion/debate/review/debunking. One of the last topics I looked was a Sci-Fi movie writer that needed practical input on Rotational Gravity in space stations and I surprised myself as to how much Physics (centrifugal and centripetal forces) that I could actually recall and assist him with. It was fun, and he made some progress towards his project....that kinda stuff. I am currently interested in genetically modified mosquitoes - but in the meantime I am starting to dust off an old project in modifying/improving a parasite/vector killing electrical device and I will be looking to China or South Korea at the rollout stage which is still a long way ahead - have you any interest in such? 

 

I look forward to seeing more of you.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 03:37

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Hi Guys,

I feel so little among such intellectuals as yourselves.

Bminesugardad



Hi BMine,

 

Welcome to the blogs!

 

Please do not have such feelings - in fact, you are NOT permitted to feel LITTLE here :-). We are all different and we bring something very special and unique to the table. So feel free to dive in and contribute. I can't wait.

 

Sind Sie Deutscher? (Are you German?). I have links with Germany and I do speak a few international languages but my German is actually quite appalling now - well, all my international languages are suffering from my years of living exclusively in English-speaking countries for the last decade or so. I'm on a mission to rectify that so maybe you can banter to me in German to challenge me - so you see.....I'm sure you've got more than that up your sleeve, my new friend.

 

Once again, welcome!

 

Liv.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 03:30

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I'm definitely not threatened by an intelligent or wealthy woman.  I have met numerous in both categories.  The highly independent woman, on the other hand, is a different story.  I have found some women so independent they gave me the sense they don't need or want me.  That leaves me feeling very unwanted. I tend to avoid those types of women.



Orlando, thanks for your post. I totally get that over-independence bit and it is so true. Though some men may like that, it may be so they have not need to fend for the babe, but good men will feel exactly as you did. On the far end of the pendulum are those women or men who are very needy and clingy -either way it's a deal breaker for me. A balance inbetween tends to work better. Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Sun, Jun 23, 2013 17:47

Hi Liv,    The  'think tank' sounds so interesting. i would go. Some man are threatened and some man love smart woman. I grow up in China, the libral culture endorsed woman to be smart, rich and  beautiful. A beautiful CEO would be the hottest one. Somehow here in USA is still 100 years behind. My ex-husband hates me being smart. He is a typical average guy.       Back to your thinl tank, nuclear physics seems an old topic,  how about personal flying car, BCI (brain computer interface)?    I was watching The old video about Steve Jobs, he was such a handsome brilliant man. It would be so cool if BCI could keep his brain alive and packed with the young handsome Jobs.       Best Regards!



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Posted on Sun, Jun 23, 2013 14:32

Liv, Just as women are care givers, men want to be providers.  A man wants to feel needed and to be in control.  If a woman is totally self sufficient, then the guy feels as he's expendable in the relationship.  Everyone wants to feel needed.   Most guys are alpha and don't want a alpha female. 

 

 

I actually know a nuclear physicist.  She is so nerdy that she's kind of cute.  Sometimes the smart kids let me hang out with them. :) 



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Posted on Sun, Jun 23, 2013 11:00

I'm definitely not threatened by an intelligent or wealthy woman.  I have met numerous in both categories.  The highly independent woman, on the other hand, is a different story.  I have found some women so independent they gave me the sense they don't need or want me.  That leaves me feeling very unwanted. I tend to avoid those types of women.



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