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Posted on Sun, May 07, 2006 16:51

I don't discriminate and I give everyone a fair chance. I'm more into someones personality and how they treat people rather than the color of their skin. Am I the only one on this site who feels this way? If I am....I'm in trouble :)

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Posted on Sun, Aug 12, 2012 18:55

Omg... I agree with Scarletibis24. I rarely recieve winks and (in my opinion) it seems to be a mixture of my mixed asian, caucasian background and ofcourse being over weight (but luckily no* where near obese.) I've been thin during my college years, and there were many who didn't find my background attractive then as well, and was told as such. Anyway, just wanted to give my opinions based on what I've experienced. : )



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Posted on Thu, Sep 14, 2006 16:48

Cateyes---Go the other way?? No way in hell!! LMAO Men might drive me nuts with their insensitivity and other nasty traits...but i would take it anyday over living with a me!! Im more likely to end up in jail for murder if i was with a woman!! LOL So...if no brothers...any Bruthas?? LOL Hes gotta have pals who wanna visit Australia!! LOL


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Posted on Wed, Sep 13, 2006 14:53

AsianAura, yes and no... as with any other race of men... some are like WOOOOWWW!!... and others... not so fantastic...


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Posted on Wed, Sep 13, 2006 04:55

AA -typically yes


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Posted on Tue, Sep 12, 2006 17:44

I have no problem dating "outside" my race, but I would say that there are certain races I am not physically attracted to (for the most part). I think if you are going to have a long term relationship with someone a different skin color than your chances are you are going to run into some form of racism. Either from your own family or friends or perfect strangers. So if you are into dating other races your skin better be thick!


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Posted on Tue, Sep 12, 2006 14:52

I have to know! Is it true what they say about black guys? LOL! I'm just curious....


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Posted on Mon, Sep 11, 2006 17:38

Cateyes...HAS HE GOT A BROTHER??!!! My son is half Tongan. I call him my precious little coconut. When i was pregnant i thought i was having a chocolate baby(since the Tongan gene is often the stronger gene). Mum said i was having a cappucino! Some said he would be caramel! He came out caramel...and now that we have lived in the tropical state for 5 months...hes my chocolate baby! (except his bum...its still caramel!!) Since i was about 16 i have been attracted to dark men (ive moved on from the islanders due to bad experiences). I dont know what it is?! They just make me drool! Having said that...i have had relationships with white guys aswell...and im completely open with race when it comes to men. In my opinion, men in general are just yummy...regardless of skin colour. And same goes for Women! If i was a lesbian i would totally do Halle Berry...but i would also have a piece of Faith Hill!! LOL But i wouldnt do that....coz i love my boobs...and i dont want anyone elses taking over!! LOL


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2006 23:55

And in response to IamwhatIam, I have to say it... If nobody ever dared to fly in the face of convention and society, nothing would ever change. How can we expect it to become an ideal world if we don't take strides to make it one? Just some food for thought...


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2006 22:45

I love dating men from different cultures. I have dated men of every color of the rainbow (well, maybe not little green men, I'm not that evolved yet!) In fact, the man I am currently seeing is Asian. I love the fact that we have so much to learn from each other- he's taken me to a Buddhist puja circle, I have exposed him to the joys of Matzoh ball soup. He has ordered unrecognizable entrees from a few very authentic Thai restaurants (don't tell me what was in it, I liked it!) and I have had to explain to him why I cross myself whenever an emergency vehicle goes by. (Dad is Jewish, Mom is Catholic. Therefore, I proclaim myself to be Jewthlic!) We work every day to understand, accept, and even come to love the differences between us. In my opinion, that is the key to any relationship, regardless of the ethnicity or nationality of the involved parties. The willingness to compromise and the desire to not only accept the worldview of the one you love, but embrace it. So, no, I don't think you are the only one on this site that feels this way. I am quite confident that there are tons of people around that truly are color-blind and are simply seeking a soul to cherish.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2006 22:35

When you think about it most don't realise that interratial is not a new topic. Many years ago it was considered interatial marriage if your partner was from another country. For example French and English. Almost Taboo. When people get down to it that really is the only difference between us. Where we (and our ancestors) are from. I truly think that there is so much mixture in the past 1000 years that no one people is truly pure. Unless it was kept in the family and well we know how much trouble THAT causes over time. We are all one people. Our bodies are all the same. We all need the same things to live and we all die. Everything else is simply what makes us unique. This world is a blended world. We simply need to start teaching the children this simple fact rather then in pointing out the differences. Perhaps we simply need to let children teach us. Children are ultra accepting until we teach them differently. I was taught not to see colour, abilities or disabilities. I was taught to see people and to treasure them. Rosa Parks didn't see herself as any different then anyone else. In the words of Rogers and Hammerstein: You've got to be taught to hate and fear, You've got to be taught from year to year, It's got to be drummed in your dear little ear, You've got to be carefully taught. You've got to be taught to be afraid Of people who's eyes are oddly made, And people's who's skin is a different shade, You've got to be carefully taught. You've got to be taught before it's to late, Before you are six or seven or eight, To hate all the people your relatives hate, You've got to be carefully taught. As I said, perhaps it's time we stopped that teaching and started learning. And love is love. The only thing that makes skin colours different is pigmentation which was God's gift for sun protection. Blended families make incredible children. And everyone is special. Leigh


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2006 20:22

I have dated interacially for years and have a biracial child. I am an equal opportunity dater with a preference to white men. To me...love is color blind. If you discriminate you may miss out on the love of you life. Love is not a color...it is a choice. I have found that you have to look at the state of a persons heart...that is where you will find the love. Peace.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2006 19:38

I agree with you 100% Ladyluv. I am one of the few people in my family who feel that as long as the person treats you well, it does not matter the color of their skin. I was married twice to white men, both were abusers so trust me, I am more broadminded now than I was 25 years ago. The problem lies with my family who would freak out if I began dating a man of color. I suppose that if he did turn out to be Mr. Right, I would not end it because of what my family might say. Happiness is too hard to find and my children know they could bring home someone of any color and I would support them provided that person was KIND, HONEST, DECENT, and treated my children with RESPECT. I just want them to be happy and would defend their choices 100%. We all want to love and be loved. I don't see why color should prevent that from happening.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2006 16:10

Hi, regarding interracial relationships; I have dated women of many nationalities including African American. The history with the three black women i dated is the following. Brooke who i met in the gym was 5'10" and just the most stunning woman. Her beauty and our passion for one another drove me wild for almost a year.While we were good friends and the sex was terrific she was married. A few years later i met Yolanda in the mall, i thought she was Brooke but turned out to be a single beauty who I dated for a few months until her ex husband got out of prison. Then there was lovely Diane who lit up my life for a week in Wash. DC. So there are men out there that love women of all cultures. You have a beautiful smile, i only wish we lived closer. Jeff


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Posted on Fri, Jun 09, 2006 18:22

I have dated several white men,an Asian /white man.all of which had atleast a Bachelors degree,they were hansome and very sucessful.I will tell you to date who ever you feel is going to treat you right.I grew up with parents that had Goverment job in which we moved all over the country and world therefore I know for a fact that Men of diffrent race do ask black women out. I have had about 20 winks and about 10 email from white men some of which I chat with via IM a couple times a week. SOme white men say they are intimidated by black women I find this silly,this is 2006 I want to say to the ladies go for it send him an email and if that does not work keep positive.There is someone for everyone. dating is not easy.


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Posted on Fri, Jun 09, 2006 10:05

Willport, I've probably posted at least once on each blog where this subject has come up. The African-American women will at least stick around and discuss it. The AA men tend to just drop a seeder post and run, never to be seen again on the blog entry that THEY started. I don't really care what anyone's preferences are. If they prefer to date within their own race, that's fine. If they're willing to date others as well, but not necessarily ALL others, that's their right as well. And like you said and I've ALWAYS said, someone being willing to date another race doesn't automatically make them "not racist." They could just be "experimenting" and not taking that person seriously as someone they could actually go the distance with. Or in my case, a white guy might see Asians as "honorary white people," but still refer to black people by the n-word, which is an immediate turn-off to me, unless he's quoting some comedian. Complaining about what someone is or isn't attracted to as far as race seems as pointless to me as asking a gay guy, "What have you got against women?" Probably nothing, they just don't want to sleep with any. It isn't something you can just turn on or off at will. Maybe the person has just never met one they had anything in common with. Without going into any specifics, I can easily imagine a combination of hobbies/interests or spiritual beliefs where it's hard enough finding anyone in your OWN race that shares it, much less expecting someone from another one to be able to relate to it. One interesting factor is that they asked people if they would ever date someone who was ______, and the majority said they would, but when asked why they hadn't tried, it was often because they were afraid they'd get turned down by that person if they asked first! That's probably why certain pairings like Hispanic men/Asian women or black women/Asian men are even rarer than others. They're convinced the other person wouldn't want them anyway, and all the while, the other person is actually open-minded about that prospect, but is thinking the same thing.


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Posted on Thu, Jun 08, 2006 07:01

There are plenty of beautiful men I have met of all races. Let's be honest, society is still society and family is still family. If you wanted to have a relationship with someone outside of your race or even religion, someone would be frowning on it and making your life miserable. Also, if you want to raise your children with a specific religion, it would be very difficult to do so in a mixed marriage. I have had issues about this with the men I have dated in the past. Love does not conquer all, sad to say. You are better off finding someone as similar to yourself in beliefs, race, religion and background as possible. In an ideal world, all this would not matter. In the real world, it does, contrary to anyone's opinion. I would rather make it easier on myself. Some people pursue a different road in their misguided idealism but soon learn to regret it.


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Posted on Thu, Jun 08, 2006 04:23

I agree with you on this subject. Being of mixed race does not define me. It just makes me more adaptable and more open. We all want to be loved, respected and treated well. Why should color even be an issue? When are we going to accept the inner being instead of grabbing at the outer? Believe me, you will end up being more productive and garner a far happier life. Change can be compelling.


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 07:55

At least, you aren't the only *black woamn who feels that way. I've only been on here... maybe two weeks, and I recieved one wink. A lot of the profiles do not include black women as a preference, some mention no preference at all. I'm not sure what to tell you but best of luck.


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 07:53

I pretty much HAVE to be open to interracial dating. According to Wikipedia, Asians are only 0.03% of my city's population. I'd be dateless for the rest of my life if I only "stuck to my own kind"!


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