Growing into our true selves can take a lot of time and practice, especially if we've been suppressing it for most of our youth. Not to mention courage, since for some of us, our authentic selves may not be the accepted norm in our society. So how can you honour your own voice amidst the din of bigots and naysayers?
Well, first and most critically, value your self and your choices. This mind and body is yours and yours only. People may say or do things "for your own good", but ultimately, you're the one who's going to suffer the consequences or enjoy the happiness. Not them. So respect your own wishes. Don't waste time pondering right or wrong. There's only what feels right to you "at the time". When you honour your own choices, others will too.
Next, understand that opinions are more about the person giving them than they are about you. The remarks are being filtered through that particular individual's history, experience, conditioning, childhood, education, whatever. It's definitely biased, no matter how they try to appear impartial. Also, when people discourage or disapprove, they're probably coming from a place of insecurity, fear, doubt or envy. Something about you scares them, so they feel a need to strike it down. So remember, when someone gives you destructive criticism, ignore them. It's about them, not you.
People can also go too far sometimes, so remember to set boundaries for the particularly obnoxious ones. Decide which aspects of your life are off-limits and get them to respect those boundaries.
Remember, no one can stand up for yourself except yourself. Loved ones can defend you occasionally but they can't be around all the time. Be sure that when you need help the most, you are there for yourself. Trust yourself and stand up for what you believe in.
Other people can teach you many life lessons, and certainly you should listen if they have something valuable to say, but learn to tune out the naysayers who themselves are fearful for their own selfish
I always enjoy a quiet Friday evening with myself in a bookstore with a cup of coffee, today I read a book, and there are something I want myself to remember: 10 rules to be successful in your life and career
1. Duty : Do what you are supposed to do , wen you are supposed to do,
2.Impeccability: if its worth doing, its worth doing right
3.Passion: Be passionate about what you do, and do what you are passionate about.
4. Perseverance: Its not the size of the dog in the fight, its the size of the fight in a dog.
5. Planning: If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
6. Loyalty: Remain loyal, up, down, and across your organiztion.
7. Flexibility : In all asepcts of life, the person with the most varied responses wins.
8.Integrity : take the harder right over the easier wrong.
all these rules above are important in one's career and life. regarding Love. I think being loyal and having integrity are the most important thing for me. Im also looking for the man who treasure the persons who have such qualities.
all I wanna tell myself is " Have a nice weekend in a peaceful and pleasant summer"
Life is too short, we dont have time to fool around, the real satisfaction is not how many men/women you dated, but how much quality time you spend with the person you LOVE, how much faith you have on the person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life with. this might not make your pocket rich, but will definately make your heart rich!