I am going to try to write this without introducing my frustrations with dating, be it online, cold approach, friend introductions, blind dates, chance meeting in a grocery store, ect...
Endlessly, it seems, I sit and browse through all the available women on this site, and others I have tried, and yet I do not see honest photos other than the occassional mirror cell phone pics that seem to get washed out. As a guy looking for a mate, not necessarily the perfect one, there are several things I look for as a personal preference. I am not saying that there are not plenty of beautiful women on this site or others and not that breasts do not excite me, however, the seemingly endless photos of cleaveage, large breasts, and painted photos turn me away from most profiles. I am a smaller breast man, myself. Now, by painted photos, I am refering to the ones that have a solid background with a fan blowing, or the obvious posed professional photography. I, probably not most guys, would appreciate a photo that reflects the personality that is written in your profile. I did find a few that represent the described personality, sadly for me, however, they usually did not fit with my goals or wants.
Ok, enough about pictures, allow me to describe the woman that I would enjoy in my life and why. I am looking for someone that can complement my personality and that would pull me out of my comfort zone at times. I prefer this person be slim...I do not mean she has to be a rail or skin and bones. My reasoning for this is that the body style described is what gets my motor running if you understand the metaphor, also, it shows that the person in question has some sort of self-control. I describe green eyes in my profile, again, that is what I like to look at...I would not mind blue, or gray, I simply do not want my children to have brown eyes. My eyes are hazel/brown depending on the light. They may end up with that color, I just want to give the best odds that they won't.
As far as personality, specificly, it does not really matter. If I had to chose, I would prefer not to have a woman that is a complete air head, so intelligence is a plus, someone that can look outside their box(world) and understand that the world revolves for everyone not just them, although, being with me would seem like you are the center of attention. As with most guys, your personality really is not a deal breaker, unless you are a complete psychopath. I suppose, only your ex's would know that, however, I have seen that some women act differently towards different guys depending upon the males personality. What one guy calls a psycho, another would call perfect. You may have had a personality confilct with them and for a guy it could be the definition of psycho. I have not really dated anyone that fits that definition.
I have had a woman that cheated on me in the past, so I am aware of the pain that comes with that. I sympathize with the lady's that have had that happen multiple times or once. I have no "game" they call it, I just put myself out there and see what happens. Most of the time nothing happens anyways. Those writers that use the words "honesty, devotion, loyalty" seem to not be reading my profile. Honesty starts with writing the truth in your profile, which I have, and ends when you tell your first lie to the person that gives you a chance. I would give this advice to all, If you want someone honest try sending a message to someone that actually has that in the profile. I know that it is now a keyword that most player guys are going to try to put in their profile to snag the unsuspecting one. Hopefully they do not see this blog and dilute their profiles with it.
Ok I guess it is now time to ask the women questions.
Can you say that you are "honestly" looking for the person described in your profile?
If you did not describe what you are looking for, why?
Why, if you are looking for someone, haven't you filled out your profile completely?
What methods of communication do you prefer when first talking to someone you might date?
Do we(guys) seriously have to approach and deliver a one liner to get you to return a hello or hi? A hi should be enough to start a conversation.
How can we(guys) better determine a woman's intentions as far as using a guy for their personal gains?
I run my life by the rule "do unto others as you would have done unto you". With exception, when done unto me, I usually remove them from my life. Remove sounds harsh, just do not associate with them.
I leave with this quote spoken to me quite a few years ago..."If you do what you have always done you will get what you have always gotten".
Life is never about popularity, simply put, it is nothing more than happiness.
Thank you for reading.