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Posted on Mon, Jan 20, 2014 11:27

Alright I know its the 21st century and yes its 2014!! lots of civilization hitting everywhere including the rural places, technology is flying everywhere and life Is fabulous.. While some people are enjoying beautiful relationships, some are still battling with heartbreaks and still wallowing in lonliness(which is not fun)..I've come to realise that most of us (especially women) are single because we sometimes might see a guy that we really like but we are too traditional or too shy to approach him or ask him out.. I watched one show on Tv and while the guy was acting non-challant &stupid about the relationship, he was asked why,&  he graciously leaned back &arrogantly crossed his leg and said "well I never approached Her for a relationship in the first place, she asked me out"..As a lady, felt so bad for that girl &so was the therapist on tv..

I personally have never asked a guy out(maybe I'll try one day lol), cos I believe if the guy finds me attractive enough for him, then He will go above &beyond to approach me(besides, I've always also believed that a relationship thrives better "if" the guy loves the girl a tiny little bit more than the girl does..maybe I'm wrong :) )..but then again I'm not against those girls who are daring enough to ask a guy out..cool!!!!! so what do you think? is it OK..for a lady to ask a guy out? and guys would you ever treat the relationship differently just because the girl was the one who asked you out and not the other way round???


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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 02:53

Nice thread presented here ideal_Diamond  Just from my humble perspective on an initial first date, potential solely dependant on the person, some of us are introverted/extroverted/shyness creeps in, society also has a balance and a foot in both camps,which paves the way forward for both gender's to prosper with success in relationships.

 

The key is, whatever emotional makeup we possess,  never fear rejection, because that can sometimes be the difference between success and our individual downfall when we  fear the outcome.

 

It is what it is,  if the chemistry is not there between one another when either one of you initiate that first move and take the plunge into unknown territory, then you just have to accept the sparks well not fly on this occasion and with each rejection, we face, that builds a more robust character for the next journey you encounter.

 

Be well and good health

 

 



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Posted on Thu, Jan 30, 2014 11:57

@ Pat,,Thanks,, not to worry about me,, I'm tough too !  LOL



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Posted on Mon, Jan 27, 2014 16:04

Quoting NGL2011:

 I'm going to agree with a couple of points Hoping made like "STOP complaining about "MEN NOT BEING REAL MEN," when you are ripping their gonads off right in front of them! " and "I'm soooooo sick of society CONFUSING MEN! and ""The last date I had, the lady got mad when I opened her door and said she could do it herself. I didn't know what the right thing to do was." I actually had that happen to me too !  LOL

 

Now I will somewhat disagree with her. In my opinion it is very flattering when a woman asks me out, so to me there is nothing wrong with it. However, thats where it should end. The man should take the lead after that if he's truly interested. You showed you're interested now let him do the work, to pursue you after that. Now if it turns into a relationship, theres nothing wrong with saying, Hey Joe, lets go out to dinner tonight..or something like that.

 

Signals,, I don't even pay attention to them any more. Thats just like the opening the door thingy,,some women give off signals, some don't, one means something to one woman, the same one means nothing,,I've seen it, tried it and both had differing results..LOL

 

So here I sit dazed and confused..LOL



Ah, NGL, don't be so dazed and confused.  LOL You are as good as it gets!

 

As for that woman who got mad at you when you opened the door for her--good she's gone for sure!!!

 

I would be delighted if you opened the door for me.  On the other hand, if your hands were full of packages and I opened the door for you, I would hope--I know--you'd be delighted with me.

 

I was about to say "Sorry, but," however I take that back.  I'm not sorry one tiny little bit to still love many of the good old fashioned courtesies that once defined a gentleman.

 

You keep on opening doors for women.  When one turns around and smiles at you and says thank you--go for her!!!  Hopefully, she's not already married.  LOLOL

 

 

 



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Posted on Sun, Jan 26, 2014 01:22

Well I've never asked a guy out in my life, mainly because I'm a chicken at such matters. The thought if he said no and how kind of embarrassing it would feel.

 

I also tend to think though that if a guy was really interested in me he would let me know. I tend to be attracted to more stronger characters in men. Men with confidence. Maybe it is because I'm a Leo.

 

However, if you are confident to do so and you have been given signals from the guy that suggests he does like you and he perhaps is not brave enough to ask you then go for it.

 

Sarah :-)

 



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Posted on Wed, Jan 22, 2014 07:41

I love your fiestyness and your comment on breast feeding three babies etc. is priceless. You go girl!  I did the same so I get it. Its a confusing world out there for women of my age group. I find most men enjoy a lady that being said, I have had men tell me on a date, and I quote the man " Do everything with class" and then later the same man tells me and I quote " I would like to stick it to you" lol... I put him on blast for this and didnt except an offer of a second date. So my point is even though I conducted myself as a lady he didnt treat me as one. And this man is a well repected high profile figure. So sad. Anyway I have asked a man out before with good results.



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Posted on Wed, Jan 22, 2014 05:09

 I'm going to agree with a couple of points Hoping made like "STOP complaining about "MEN NOT BEING REAL MEN," when you are ripping their gonads off right in front of them! " and "I'm soooooo sick of society CONFUSING MEN! and ""The last date I had, the lady got mad when I opened her door and said she could do it herself. I didn't know what the right thing to do was." I actually had that happen to me too !  LOL

 

Now I will somewhat disagree with her. In my opinion it is very flattering when a woman asks me out, so to me there is nothing wrong with it. However, thats where it should end. The man should take the lead after that if he's truly interested. You showed you're interested now let him do the work, to pursue you after that. Now if it turns into a relationship, theres nothing wrong with saying, Hey Joe, lets go out to dinner tonight..or something like that.

 

Signals,, I don't even pay attention to them any more. Thats just like the opening the door thingy,,some women give off signals, some don't, one means something to one woman, the same one means nothing,,I've seen it, tried it and both had differing results..LOL

 

So here I sit dazed and confused..LOL



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Posted on Tue, Jan 21, 2014 21:01

Quoting rmac22:

 

Try it on five different guys.  Not all at once.  In sequence.  Report back your findings.  If you and one of them become an item, you don’t need to finish the experiment.  Report back anyhow. 

 

 

 

RMac

 



...  use a No. 2 pencil and post some pictures.  You'll find a camera under your chair.



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Posted on Tue, Jan 21, 2014 20:17

I'm not too shy to ask a man out... BUT I WON'T! 

 

I'm soooooo sick of society CONFUSING MEN!

 

Ladies, we are the ones responsible for men being so darn flustered and conflicted in how to act!

 

CASE IN POINT---- 

 

I was on a date a couple of years ago and the guy did not open my car door. I quesioned him on this. 

 

His response? 

"The last date I had, the lady got mad when I opened her door and said she could do it herself. I didn't know what the right thing to do was."

 

LADIES, LADIES, LADIES!!!!!

 

STOP complaining about "MEN NOT BEING REAL MEN," when you are ripping their gonads off right in front of them! 

 

If a man TRULY is interested in you--- HE WILL FIND THE GUMPTION SOMEHOW TO ASK YOU OUT! 

 

If he doesn't? 

 

HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.... AND YOU LOOK DESPERATE to ask a man out!!! 

 

And men who say it's okay? 

 

GO FIND YOUR GONADS AND START ACTING LIKE A MAN AND NOT SOME PANSY ARSE WOOS, WILL YA! 

 

In the same vein a man "may" get rejected, he can easily spot if a woman is into him... 

 

Did she touch you when you spoke?

Did she play with her hair or fidgit? 

Did she give you subtle hints, like mention things she likes to do like, let's say...

"I know a really great seafood restaurant that has the best scallops."

 

GUESS WHAT GUYS??? HINT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HINT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Now if she DOESN'T do those things, (OR OTHER THINGS)  

 

GIVE IT UP UNLESS YOU "WANT" TO BE REJECTED!! 

 

IDEAL-DIAMOND

 

 

MY VOTE IS AN EMPHATIC NO!! I'm sick of women not acting like classy ladies!! 

 

NOT A BRA BURNER HERE FOLKS! I need it after breastfeeding 3 babies for 13 months each! 

 

HI RMAC!! Laughing at your response! 

 

** Shakes head at JEN... LoL.. 

 

LOVE YOU GUYS!! ;~) 

 

 



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Posted on Tue, Jan 21, 2014 15:33

I realy don´t understand why that guy acting like that? For me,i´ll feel flattered when a woman ask me out,and it didt happend.For me the question is,if i wane refuse,how you do that the proper way,without embaresing the lady.Can we do that the same way woman do it with man?

 



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Posted on Tue, Jan 21, 2014 13:48

Quoting Jenkneee:

I think it's fine for a female to ask a guy out. I think men miss clues that a woman is giving to them and being subtle about it can't happen, boldness comes in handy if you're capable of it. Boldly go where few dare to..why not ask him out!

 

 

 

 

 

 


What are these clues you are talking about?  I have no idea obviously.. lol

 



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Posted on Mon, Jan 20, 2014 19:07

I think it's fine for a female to ask a guy out. I think men miss clues that a woman is giving to them and being subtle about it can't happen, boldness comes in handy if you're capable of it. Boldly go where few dare to..why not ask him out!

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Mon, Jan 20, 2014 17:57

Personally, I get extremely tired out from not knowing what to do and almost always being told "no" anyway.  So most of the time I don't do anything.



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Posted on Mon, Jan 20, 2014 16:26

 

Try it on five different guys.  Not all at once.  In sequence.  Report back your findings.  If you and one of them become an item, you don’t need to finish the experiment.  Report back anyhow. 

 

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Mon, Jan 20, 2014 15:32

It's okay to do so.  Some of us are so brain dead we really can't tell if someone's interested.  I'd try being a little flirty forst and see if he picks up on that.



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