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Posted on Sat, Jul 30, 2011 21:53

I’ve had several short term relationships in life which has left me to wonder. Are we all just gambling with each other’s hearts and when we lose, we simply move to a different playing table? I often think if we could just shake the dice a little differently, or use different chips; then perhaps we might all WIN at love?

 

 

 

After reviewing many "dating profiles" and engaging myself in conversation with others, I notice it isn’t only the women who seem to be disgruntled with dating. It also appears men are growing just as tired of the revolving door “love” seems to swing in everyone’s direction.

 

 

 

My question is…. If we gamble with other people’s hearts all the time, does this mean we are gambling with our own? At the end of the day do we even have much “heart” left in us, or have we been so used like the chips swept away at the table after a big loss, there is nothing left? Is the risk worth the price we pay?

 

 

 

Gambling, like many other hobbies becomes an addiction to many. Some people lose houses and families in the mist of their “fetish for thrill” never to return to their previous lives. I wonder, does this happen to some of us on a major quest for love? Are we capable of “losing all bets”....  forever, resolving our hearts never to receive the love we once desired so strongly? Perhaps our energy has been so consumed and absorbed during the process; there will one day be nothing left to give? Is this humanly possible? Is this what makes some people appear so damn unlovable and bitter? Were they at one point on such a fervor for love they have finally “lost” so many times, they remain in the mire like an addict who can’t make his way off the streets?

 

 

 

I just wonder.. If we are all so busy “gambling with other people's hearts”, at the end of the day, where does that leave our own?



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Posted on Sat, Aug 20, 2011 12:29

HI ALOVELYWOMAN... Yes, I suppose we can look at men like old sofas.. We can't put the new one in the living room until we carry the old one out! :) My longest "ONE NIGHT STAND" that lasted entirely too long lasted almost 11 years.. LOLOL... 3 children, 2 homes, 8 vehicles and about 15 animals later.. IT WAS TIME TO TOSS THAT OLD SOFA TO THE CURB!! :) J/K But yes.. it is all a lesson in love.. Perhaps one day, I will get it right?? Very nice to meet you. Have a wonderful weekend and thanks for posting! :)


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Posted on Sat, Aug 20, 2011 12:24

HI TRISH ATLANTA.... I enjoyed your insight! In fact several things you stated "hit home!" I have yet to learn how to only qo to certain parts of the post, so I am copying and pasting your response so I can "analyze" your thoughts and how they reflect mine... ****** we grow up and learn deception, build walls, and "games people play." as adults we all know what a broken heart feels like and is the "reward" worth the "risk"? ***** ***AMEN*** THIS IS TRUE FOR EVERYONE, BUT I BELIEVE WE ARE ALL ON DIFFERENT LEVELS AND OUR OWN PERSONAL LEVEL CHANGES DEPENDING ON HOW RECENT THE HURT, ETC... You betcha.... ***** :) **** enjoy the here and now ***true!*** because I know that's the beginning to love everlasting. **NOT SURE ABOUT THE LOVE EVERLASTING.. AS IT HASN'T LASTED FOR ME.. BUT.. THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE... HENCE MY NAME!! I am a hopeless romantic!! *** LOVE THIS WRITTEN BELOW YOU WROTE*** Each relationship is unique in its own right and truly try to sort through my baggage beforehand so I can present an accurate first impressions of myself ***SO VITAL... AND THAT IS ONE THING I AM ALWAYS GOOD AT.. I PRESENT MYSELF AS WHO I AM IN LIFE.. IT'S JUST.. I CAN BE A LOT TO HANDLE AT TIMES,... LOLOL.. I JUST PREFER TO GET THAT CAT OUT OF THE BAG STRAIGHT AWAY! :) Very nice to meet you! I am guessing you were always the gregarious of you and your sister and your parents held confidence you would make your way with your bold personality.. They possibly admired ts quality about you and secretly hoped your sis would grow out if her shyness! HAVE A WONDERFUL WEEKEND TO ALL... I am no longer a paying member so my posts won't show up right away! :( BUT I WANTED TO SAY HELLO AND THANKS TO ALL FOR POSTING...


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Posted on Fri, Aug 19, 2011 04:42

Ahh....the journey to find real love with a person worthy of a life long beautiful companionship with you...... You have to take the risk otherwise you won't find that special someone. My relationships have lasted years. I do however look at a dissolved relationship as being something that happened for a reason. Your special person may be just around the corner. An ex just makes room for someone who will be much better for you.


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Posted on Fri, Aug 12, 2011 09:42

DONTFITMOLD.. Love that quote! Yes, to LOVE is to truly live...  and it will bleed you to death as well! hahahaha

NGL2011... NOT TO WORRY... Despite the fact I usually ramble.. My thoughts are totally "incomplete" as well! (It's the little blonde brain in me!!) BUT WHY THINK ALL THE WOMEN COMPLAIN ABOUT MEN? I speak of ALL people.. period!

My own "LoVe Idiocy" has left me downright dizzy! Heeheehee~~

HAVE A GREAT TRIP.. and talk to us soon... Let US WOMEN know how we are wrong!! :)

Nice to meet you MOLD.. Bwahahaha.. Oops.. Da Princess is in an awnery mood today! ;))))



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Posted on Fri, Aug 12, 2011 09:20

very good topic and I reflect back to when I was a little girl during vacation to the beach. My sister always got to take someone but I never did saying that I always made friends easily and didn't need to take anyone. I remember wanting to find another girlfriend to walk with on the beach. I literally scouted the beach area until I found a girl lying on her towel. I came up to her and introduced myself and she; in turn introduced herself, then asked her if she wanted to go walking on the beach. It doesn't get any more innocent, pure, and truthful than that. a name was all that was required to engage and a common desire...walking on the beach. Many, many times that was all that it took to find a friend for this vacation. But we grow up and learn deception, build walls, and "games people play." as adults we all know what a broken heart feels like and is the "reward" worth the "risk"? You betcha....and when something catches my interest; I find out more and enjoy the here and now because I know that's the beginning to love everlasting. Each relationship is unique in its own right and truly try to sort through my baggage beforehand so I can present an accurate first impressions of myself, and ask that you do the same. Love may never come my way but should I run into that special someone....I'll be ready...lol just an observation


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Posted on Thu, Aug 11, 2011 20:08

Yes I would guess that the open heart is subject to to bleeding but within it is the nector of the living


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Posted on Thu, Aug 04, 2011 21:19

WELCOME FORMEANDYOU2010....

Yes, I too believe we must risk to love.. but man... sometimes the stakes seem mighty high! :)

Hello RMAC! I will remmeber that info fo rwhen I am not a paying member...

HOPE EVERYONE HAS A WONDERFUL DAY!! :)

 



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Posted on Thu, Aug 04, 2011 14:44

Hoping, a non paying member can still edit his responses, just not delete them. I used to be able to delete a response I made, that after the fact, I thought did not fit was unsuitable or some such. rmac


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Posted on Thu, Aug 04, 2011 12:29

rmac

I have to agree with you!  Without risk we cannot love again.

 



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Posted on Thu, Aug 04, 2011 10:06

HI GUYS! WOW! They changed format I guess.. How often do they do this?

I'm still trying to feel this site out and figure out how it works.. So a non-paid member can not change their comments.. YIKES!

I am not referring to this site or even online dating.. I am referring to "dating/love" in general.. Personally.. I do enjoy this site.. I just don't see a large amount of men that are going to knock down my door when I have been so intrepid with my blogs.... LOL but this is okay to me... When the time is right.. it will happen... Until then... guess I am back at the table holding my chips! :)



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Posted on Thu, Aug 04, 2011 04:41

Hi Hoping, Yes I deleted my own comments, just because it was incomplete and left to many topics of On-line dating or dating in general to open. I'll summarize, yes we gamble way to much. I also think our expectations of the person we're looking for are unrealistic. ( at least from the profiles I've read) see darn it,, left more incomplete thoughts ! LOL I have to leave on a business trip,, will blog about this more next week when I get back. I guess in general I do want to give my thoughts and opinions on all the blogs and post in the Forum from women complaining about men. Gosh it's going to be a long blog ! LOL


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Posted on Wed, Aug 03, 2011 12:53

Hi Hoping, I did not see NGLs comments. As a paid member I think he has the right to delete his own responses. Non-paid members used to have that right. At least I used to do that when, in hindsight, my responses did not fit; can't anymore. Anyhow that may be what happened. re becoming bitter or giving up -- personally think those to be bad choices. For a male paid member, I think MM can be made to work. Not sure for the ladies. There are other sites that do work though. rmac


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Posted on Wed, Aug 03, 2011 09:28

Hi RMAC... Yes.. we def gamble with our own.. but I just wonder if in the process it makes us too bitter when we lose at "craps" (HAHA) over and again??

 

I read how so many have turned from seeking love to just blogging.. Others say when you don't seek, it slaps you.. I hold no doubt there must be a happy medium... But it does seem to be draining on all of us at times.. The revolving door...

 

Not sure where NGL2011 comment went.. NGL11 WHERE R U!!! LOL....

 

but I read in wee hours of morning.. (hard to tell when something is posted on these threads..... makes me not want to blog new posts!)

 

But he said something about a "buffet".. Yes.. I suppose internet dating is like a smorgasboard! LOLOL... I was referring to ANY dating... One needn't be on net to open and close the door often... But he made valid points.. It does seem as if ones are searching for the BBD.. (Bigger Better Deal) so that may be why the door swings so often....I know I seem to have my share of "interested" men who suddenly are gone. The last man got back with his ex GF... but we were only at the friendship level .. Even though he wasn't my normal "physical" type.. I enjoyed conversing with him and was actually looking forward to seeing if there might be more there... But I know how difficult it can be to let go of love...

 

So.... I wished him well and now am sitting at another table...

 

waiting.... LOL

Does the amount of pressure eventually cave our cards? Hmmm....


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Posted on Tue, Aug 02, 2011 18:00

Of course we are gambling with our own. No risk, no gain. If we can not risk being hurt again -- we can not love and be loved again. rmac


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