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Posted on Sat, May 25, 2013 01:25

At a time when most teenagers are joyous and anxiously awaiting their upcoming graduation in a week or so; Columbia, South Carolina is mourning many losses. Tonight, the community weeps over the loss of an aspiring youth, the loss of a family intact, and the loss of what could have, but, will never be.

A young man, whom I won’t mention by name, was driving in the wee hours of the morning with two passengers. The 18 year old driver hit a legally parked car, afterwards hitting several trees; the final tree stopping the vehicle he was responsible for driving. All three young men were properly wearing seat belts, yet only two will ever live to speak of the crash.

The 18 year old young man was driving while intoxicated and now sits in a cold lonely jail cell, facing felony DUI charges. I can only surmise, when this young man returns from the “cloud of shock” he must float in, he will be begging it had been “his life” that was taken instead of his mourning the life of his 16 year old younger brother he was taught to protect. The boys shared the same high school, the same parents, and the same family life--- but now, will not share the many years, or roads, they had ahead of them, together. It is said, in most cases, a sibling is the longest formed relationship we will ever keep.

This will NOT hold true for this young man.

Regardless of age, intelligence, experience, intentions, or how much LOVE one has in their heart for others; please be reminded, sadly, once again…..

DRIVING IS NEVER A GOOD “MIX” FOR ALCOHOL…..  

There are many who will remain in mourning over the long and usually happy weekend. Many will remain heartbroken throughout graduation next week, all days throughout summer, and now, there is a family residing in Columbia that will never, ever, be the same.

There is also one young man who sits alone behind bars tonight, scared, hating himself and in tremendous anguish, over just how stupid he was. We may not all plague the same sins; but I guarantee, we’ve all “been stupid” at one time or another. This young man has just taken and will now pay the highest price. THE PRICE OF A LIFE HE CHERISHED…  for a LIFETIME of GUILT….

In essence, TWO BOYS DIED TODAY….

May this young man, who must grow up rapidly now, and his family, come to terms with the devastating reality, loss and devastation this young man must now face; and may they heal from the inside out. Responsibilities for his actions take presence now. I pray the young man’s parents find it in their hearts to stand by their son during this painful, senseless and PREVENTABLE tragedy; and may they all come out stronger and more tightly bound.  

Before people throw stones at this young man, whom I needn’t meet to understand his pain, may we remember ABOVE ALL ELSE; the anger, heartache, confusion or any undetermined flood of emotions anyone feels at such a senseless tragedy is NOTHING IN COMPARISON, to the pain he feels now and will feel for the remainder of his life.

May all affected, find healing within…..

Be safe out there everyone, and if you have teens, or perhaps a friend or you yourself, need a reminder? Take a moment and breathe in the heartache, allow it to resonate and perhaps redefine your thoughts, and then let it go.

HEALING BEGINS WHEN BROKEN WITHIN…..

And remember,,,,,,

DRIVING AND ALCOHOL…..........NEVER A GOOD “MIX"........



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Posted on Mon, May 27, 2013 08:04

Quoting billzeke:

A very good thought to share on what's mainly become a party weekend.

There is a company in Tucson that for a $15 fee and $1 a mile will have a guy ride a motorized scooter to your location; put the scooter in your trunk and drive you home; then leave. I always have their number with me if I think I might be in a situation where I might drink too much and then think of driving.

I bet there are companies this in a lot of cities. If not; for some of you more entrepreneurial types, here is a great business idea...

 

 

 

 



HELLO BILLZEKE-- 

 

Good to see you! Haven't seen you around in a while.

 

True on all your thoughts! In fact, I'm headed to buy a pink scooter! and matching helmet! LOL... 

 

Memorial Day weekend has become a big party for many; sadly, taking over the TRUE REFLECTION of what the day was meant for! Far too much commercialization... 

 

I have always heard of free cab rides for New Years, etc... Even some bars advertise THEY will drive a person home. Barring the physical harm / deaths that can occur, paying for a cab ride, or a "scooter guy" is much cheaper than a DUI... 

 

As a former bartender, I often worried over some customers driving and have taken keys away. One customer yelled at me and called the law on me when she came in wasted and I refused to serve her! I could not get the keys from her though. The police were laughing when they came out and she had taken off. And, as a customer on the other side of the bar as well, I have left a bar when I had no business driving. I consider myself extrmely fortunate to never have harmed anyone. 

 

I have not been able to wrap my head around the families pain. My concern at this level is for the young man. I cannot fathom the guilt he must feel. I am all too aware of how guilt can eat you alive and I'm afraid this type of guilt remains forever. I am not of the thinking, "He deserves to feel pain forever." I realise many people may feel this way, but I do not see the benefit in that. I've never been one to derive pleasure from another's pain, regardless how wrong or stupid a person's actions may reflect.

 

So many things in life are difficult to digest; even when they don't happen to you... 

 

 

 

 



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Posted on Sun, May 26, 2013 08:24

A very good thought to share on what's mainly become a party weekend.

There is a company in Tucson that for a $15 fee and $1 a mile will have a guy ride a motorized scooter to your location; put the scooter in your trunk and drive you home; then leave. I always have their number with me if I think I might be in a situation where I might drink too much and then think of driving.

I bet there are companies this in a lot of cities. If not; for some of you more entrepreneurial types, here is a great business idea...

 

 

 

 



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Posted on Sun, May 26, 2013 06:06

Hi ALL~~~

 

Yes ORLANDO... It has become too common. :(

 

However, the "good news" is-- Drinking and Driving for teens is not as prevalant these days as it was 20 years ago. Teens do a much better job w/ "designated drivers." I was very happy to hear when my son told me a DD is the only way he, or any of his friends ever went out.

 

Many parents might disagree w/ my decision; but, when my son reached "draft age," I allowed him to drink at home and didn't rake him over the coals if he went out. As long as he was not driving or in a vehicle with someone who was driving inebriated in any fashion, I didn't care. Although I do not feel the law made a mistake lifting the legal age of drinking, my son was old enough to be drafted and carry a gun, had a full time job and went to high school and college at same time, and showed a high level of responsibility. 

 

Lady DI, my heart goes out for your friend. In HS, there was a guy who left a party round 5 am I think it was. He hit his best friends mother's vehicle who was returning home from work. She died. The hallways were never the same after that.

 

I looked to European driving out of curiosity.  Turns out it might not only be stiffer penalties that keep them more on the straight and narrow, but the hoops they must jump through in order to receive a license in the first place. In Germany, a driver must be 18, they are forced to drive ALL ROADS, including the autobahns and even at night; and classes are held with city driving. The written test is also said to be more difficult. I recall in Florida when I was renewing my license, there was an employee reading a test to a man who only spoke Spanish. I was LIVID! If a person can't read English, they have no business being on the roads.

 

Americans also have "bad habits." We truly are a spoiled society here! Where else do you see men shaving or women putting on their makeup? Chances are, "only in America!" And now, TEXTING is taking over. We finally "get it" and most teens DON'T drink and drive, BUT THEY TEXT! It is more common for teens to text and drive than drink and drive! TEXTING IS A HUGE NO-NO IN MY BOOK! 

 

SYS- It breaks my heart to see things as this. While I can be upset for the young man being so irresponsible, I can't help but consider how he must feel now living with the guilt. I am a loving mother, first and foremost, and we all screw up from time to time. I hope he and his family take this and turn it around and EDUCATE everyone on the perils of drinking and driving. It is our responsibility to society to help others learn from our mistakes. They have a long road to travel for healing. 

 

Thanks PAT- I was fumbling for words, as I had been crying and was very emotional over this news. When I was growing up, my dad drove with alcohol in the vehicle, was often inebriated, and we road in the back of the truck! I recall sitting on the side of the railing many times thinking I was "cool." We also road in vehicles with rifles hanging on the window. Alcohol and guns... Now that is always a good "MIX!"..... NOT!! 

 

The truly sad part of this tragedy is how preventable it is, as well as the fact remains, drinking and driving is not the #1 killer on roadways here. POOR HABITS contributes most, and texting is on the rise! 



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Posted on Sat, May 25, 2013 17:08

Well said, Hope.  Well said indeed.

 

Driving and drinking never mix.  How long it will take for that to become "bred in the bone" I don't know.  Many years ago, back in the 20's and 30's, it wasn't so bad.  Top speed limits rarely exceeded 35 mph.  Most roads were country roads where crashes meant driving off into the shoulder and stalling out.  But here and now, in the 21st century, a whole different story.  And even on roads still not exceeding 35 mph--well, we know what can and does happen.

 

My heart goes out to all involved. 



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Posted on Sat, May 25, 2013 08:24

Uggghhh.....sooo sad. 

 

A dear friend of mine lost her only daughter.  A drunk woman plowed into the girl in a head-on collision.  The daughter was 16.  The older woman was driving a big Buick.  It BROKE my friend's heart!!!

 

It's interesting.....in Europe, people don't regularly drink and drive.  Their punishment is much more severe.  If caught...they go to jail and never come out!!!  (Possible slight exaggeration).  Never the less, in my experience, they just don't do it!



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Posted on Sat, May 25, 2013 07:16

Sad story but all too common.  Thanks for sharing this. 



**My top strength is"learning." So, my blogs are learning-focused. ~Orlando

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