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Posted on Fri, Jun 02, 2006 14:55

Okay, two questions since I'm very recently divorced: One: Would you hold it against a potential relationship/date if their name was the same as your Ex? . . .I have unfortunately recently suffered this affliction Two: Has anyone RUN INTO their ex via the online dating thing? I'd really be curious about 'how small' the world can really be . . .


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Posted on Thu, Jun 08, 2006 11:41

I hope your friends ex is in a good place in all regards; i think a lot of folks on this site might want to visit a site like the above and see perhaps a bit of the 'reality' for so many that is so painful, tragic, etc. - might give all of us a bit of perspective on things that matter! Thx everyone else for some fun responses to my question .. . and btw, strange karmic coincidence but one of the responders HAS my ex's name : ) . . .hows that for humor!


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 02:48

I've never run into an ex-wife (of course they're rich now), but I have run into 2 ex-g/f's. Of course I ran into them on the same dating site where I met them originally. :-)


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Posted on Tue, Jun 06, 2006 20:21

Answer to first question..No iwouldnot hold it against her.Besides its jus ta name Question #2 no i have not seen her on line and if i did so be it. Nothing i can do about it she has her own life but i will always be her friend Mark


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Posted on Tue, Jun 06, 2006 08:11

Luckily my ex has a very unique name, but I wouldn't hold it against anyone that I dated if they had the same name. I actually was dating two guys with the same name, one from MI and one from OH - and that's how I differentiated between them - OH Todd and MI Todd. It was pretty funny. As far as the other question - I've seen a couple guys I dated previously back on the internet, but don't email anything to them and luckily they respect me enough to reciprocate. Why can't we all just get along? lol!!


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Posted on Tue, Jun 06, 2006 00:33

Well to question 1- a name is just a name. It does not represent the person's personality. If you put a bunch of sarah's in a room- we would be different. In regards to question 2- I don't think it would be very likely that you will run into your ex online, considering the millions of people who sign on. I'm sure you'll meet someone wonderful!


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Posted on Mon, Jun 05, 2006 11:45

Depends on what you consider to be an "ex." If it was just some guy I dated once or twice and it was never anything serious, I doubt I'd hold his name against anyone else in the future who had it. If it went on a little longer and ended mutually on friendly terms, I could probably still date someone with that name again. But if the guy was a complete jerk--physically and/or mentally abused me, cheated on me, dumped me for another woman, stole from me, etc., there'd probably be too much baggage associated with that first name to ever date anyone with it again. Ditto for anybody that LOOKS too much like he did as well.


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Posted on Mon, Jun 05, 2006 11:29

I seem to ALWAYS have this problem...It is really not a problem, persay, but I do always laugh when I meet a David or a Steve....Now If I met a Greg, I think Id become dreamy...no one named Greg could ever be bad


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Posted on Mon, Jun 05, 2006 11:18

Yes, I saw one of my sort of ex's on another site. I just sent him a wink and said "any luck?" Never heard back, but who cares. Dont worry about it.


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Posted on Sun, Jun 04, 2006 08:56

ps..cute story. I met one guy who ran into his ex on match. Now apparently his ex always had big hair 80's style. Well his daughter had straightened her mom's hair and she had put her pic up on Match. He was cruisin and almost hit the Wink button, when he finally recognized her.. Hey she was still good looking.. lol.


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Posted on Sun, Jun 04, 2006 08:54

Running into men whose name are the same as your ex.. is just the Law of Attraction at work. What you focus your energy and attention on expands..smile.. have you ever noticed how sometimes you will meet a Steve lets say, and then all of a sudden, EVERYONE in your life is a Steve? I had a boyfriend, a massage therapist, a brother , a client etc. you get the picture.. it happens to me all the time. Waves of the same name come into my life.. Why? because I am attracting them through the LAW of Attraction.. its a universal law.. to find out more about it watch the movie at triple w, the secret dot tv


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Posted on Sat, Jun 03, 2006 09:27

1: No, I wouldn't hold the name thing against them. It's just a name. Unless that person specifically reminded you of your ex in their personality or somehting, go for it. 2: Nope, and thank god for that, lol!


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Posted on Sat, Jun 03, 2006 09:19

Hey, CUTECUDDLYGAL, I want to tell you I enjoy your blogs, all of them, but was sad to read your latest about your friend. I attended/sang at a funeral on Wednesday along the same lines and though music and sermon was uplifting I still left very angry. I'll keep your friend's ex in my prayers. BTW, you may already know this, but there is a website for people with terminal illnesses where they essentially create a blog and the real power (if you believe in prayer) is how many more people can atively pray for them via the internet connection. Just a thought. Hey Robtest -Thx for the insights. You are dead on I think. I'm not sure how to peg my one year date but at a minimum I'm three months away. Anyway, I'm really just starting to be open to dating and this internet stuff is a fun way to get acclimated to male/female dating interactions after 20 years hiatus (and, who am I kidding, I never really dated before my ex). I cant imagine going to a bar so this is a real nice middle road. I also want to say thanks for being obviously a really smart and sincere person - and attractive. . . pls look me up if you are ever in Louisville (and thx be to God my ex's name was NOT Rob!). Folks like you along with several others are making me really happy getting out there simply meeting new people again in a conversational way. Of course, I've met some wierdos here but I'm beginning to think your 5/90/5 thing could have merit. Its fun to just have some uncomplicated fun again!


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Posted on Sat, Jun 03, 2006 07:08

Hey GG40! Sorry to hear about your recent divorce. It is a very tough time emotionally... It is probably not the best time to date until you "patch" yourself up a bit... Many people will say 1 year before you attempt to have a serious relationship. Of course, before I hit my first 1 year "anniversary", I thought that was untrue, but it probably was! LOL... Now that is not to say that you shouldn't date, but you should be realistic about the potentials for the outcome... Actually, interacting here on MM in the blogs and forums and exchanging ideas with other singles and divorced people might be a good part of the healing process. You can make many friends here. In my opinion, holding the fact that someone's name is the same as someone you previously had a relationship against them would indicate that you have not healed sufficiently... A little "Robism" for you: "Don't let the last one ruin the next one"! My EX remarried some years ago, but dating on the internet, you do run into your EX GFs from time to time that come back on after the breakup just like you did. ROFLMAO, hopefully they don't come back on the internet before you breakup, but that would be a good sign it is time for you to move on...


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