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Posted on Sun, Jan 19, 2014 09:00

I began my blind date adventure two months ago. 
On a sunny day in November 2013, I suddenly felt the urge for a romantic relationship, after 8 years' distraction on study and hobbies. It's time back to love battle. So I searched "matchmaking sites", then somehow Australia. xxx.com popped on top of the list. I clicked and registered a username there.
 
It needs a profile. What shall I say to my dear Prince White? It was hard to make it due to 8 -year gap in romance. I tried to imagine He was there smiling at me. Closing my eyes, I felt his unique scent, his tender touch and warm hug. Deep down inside me the desire for true love was awaken. Such an irresistible impulse that I realized I'd rather die if I couldn't find Him as life would be boring. A happy marriage is vital to me. That was my profile, my dream relationship. I wrote it with my heart.
 
I looked through the site. One picture caught my eyes, a father and son in the swimming pool. His loving eyes were impressive. I thought he was softhearted to his family. His name is Marcca, age 51, CEO.
 
Two days later I got an email from Charlx, a long and nice introduction of himself, age 41, with a little daughter, the successful professional, PhD. He sounded sincere. We sent emails. He gave me Tel and asked me to close profile. I didn't but promised so once I knew him more. Then came the first weekend, I attended a public event all day. On the way home I somehow felt lonely especially when couples passing me by. I expected to get his warm email as a comfort, however, no email. I wrote him that even a few lines from him would delight me on weekend. He didn't respond in 2 days. Then I said it was over since you were too busy to work out the relationship. Several days later, he explained" wasn't feel fine". An excuse?  I didn't write back.
 
I was a bit down by this. At that point arrived the email from Marcca. I  said " now isn't the good timing. I need a break of 3 weeks or 1 month to put me together, to continue soulmate search." Next morning came his 2nd email:" It's the light at the end of the tunnel. ...I await your response." I knew he was sincere, however, I didn't answer him, just not in the mood. I can't bear to emotionally swift from a man to another overnight. I deleted my photos from the profile. To my surprise, 10 days later I was recovered from it. I back to the site, but Marcca's profile was gone. I decided to close profile on that Australia website.
 
One friend recommended me to visit this site, as it's more reliable. On the 1st day I logged in, I got the email from Chxx, age 46. Oh, My God. Marcca came too late, Charlx came too early. Chxx's arrival was good timing, neither too late nor too early. When I woke up on the New Year morning I got his greeting message. It was sweet. He hoped to meet up in his country. I agreed and prepared for visa, which requires his invitation letter and copies of passport and financial statement. He was reluctant to supply copies in case I was a scammer. It sounded insulting. Actually I can get visa on my own(via visit of other forms), however, I wanted to see his cooperation. I didn't see it. That's all.
 
 
Look back I can sense my romantic/tender side, my rational/self-protective side as well. For the former, I sincerely search true love/my future husband at all costs; for the latter, I'm a bit selective, he should be a gentleman, a nice person.
 
According to a research, there are at least 2000 good matches to you in the whole world. All you need is the good timing, to find Him at the right time. 


Life is a piece of dance. You need to find the right partner to make it beautiful.

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Posted on Wed, Mar 19, 2014 20:53

Quoting Gracelle:

Thank you, my dear friend.
Today I rethink your words, yes, you're right. I should be proud of my efforts, my struggling through the past few years. Now all I need is a Happy marriage of at least 30 years. It will be the dream ending of my life story, my great achievement ever made.


Welcome and do never forget that you are a self-made young woman; and anyone coming into your life has to deserve it. Nothing less lol. 



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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 20:11

Thank you, my dear friend.
Today I rethink your words, yes, you're right. I should be proud of my efforts, my struggling through the past few years. Now all I need is a Happy marriage of at least 30 years. It will be the dream ending of my life story, my great achievement ever made.


Life is a piece of dance. You need to find the right partner to make it beautiful.

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Posted on Tue, Jan 28, 2014 05:20

Thanks for your advice, my dear friend.

 

You're right, if he doesn't want to miss the chance of relationship, he'd better visit me.



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Posted on Mon, Jan 27, 2014 21:30

Quoting Gracelle:

Thanks for your comment, my friend.
 
To some extent millionaires are gold diggers. I dug my 1st basket of gold by doing projects for Japanese Foundation in my 20's. I'm a millionaire in my country. That's why I can afford to quit job 4 years ago and focus on hobbies like painting etc.
 
If I was a gold-digger of marriage, I'd choose man age 30-99 instead of 40-51. It means more choices of rich men, doesn't it? Usually the richest are over 50s,right?
By the way, I believe Age Is A Number and True Love Is Blind of Age. I just accidentally set 51, as the small age range is easy to choose from. 
 
My dream husband is a gentleman, middle-class(or above).  I made money by brain and cherish every penny I earned. I admire such a man who strives to his success. He's ambitious and courageous, a good match to my values. I shall be supportive to him, be devoted to him until the end of my life.
 
For me, courtesy is as important as money. We can work hard to make money, while courtesy  can only be achieved by self-respect.
 
 
P.S. I learned the word "blind-date" from a foreigner teacher.

 



In my own view you are NOT a gdigger, on the opposite: I like your paintings and do admire you've reached a great living at such a young age, it should be underlined.  Now, it comes the time you get maybe more information (especially how it works in the West) and more experiences in dating, but would say, in a safe setting: for instance, let the man come and visit you first, communicate by skype if possible, etc. 

I know for a fact that for Chineses, it's difficult to travel, considering the paperwork required by other countries - I imagine in the West-. 



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Posted on Wed, Jan 22, 2014 04:21

Thanks for comment.

 

He isn't a scammer. It's natural to meet up when you get good impression online, as photos may be not so real.

I appreciate his New Year message and I still regard him as a friend.

 

His government requires I submit his copies of 1st page of passport and bank statement, if I'm a " visitor" to him. 

I provided my debit card(the one for daily life spending) records. Maybe he only uses credit card. So I can understand him.

The point is he didn't handle this tactfully, didnt try to find alternative solutions, while using some words less pleasant. Anyway, God plays his cards.

 

P.S. :If scam group exists, just hires some computer hackers to get plenty of bank account info etc, no need to play games online for 3 weeks or longer to get someone's info. It's time-consuming and inefficient.



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Posted on Tue, Jan 21, 2014 15:24

You said.... "I agreed and prepared for visa, which requires his invitation letter and copies of passport and financial statement."

Why would anyone need a copy of another person's VISA if you are traveling to see them.. I don't even have one anymore.

And I think it would be a cold day in hell if I sent my financial statement to anyone..

I also doubt if I would ever bother to meet anyone I have known only a few days of emailing. 

It all sounds like some kind of scam to me.....

 

 

 



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Posted on Mon, Jan 20, 2014 05:49

Thanks for your comment, my friend.
 
To some extent millionaires are gold diggers. I dug my 1st basket of gold by doing projects for Japanese Foundation in my 20's. I'm a millionaire in my country. That's why I can afford to quit job 4 years ago and focus on hobbies like painting etc.
 
If I was a gold-digger of marriage, I'd choose man age 30-99 instead of 40-51. It means more choices of rich men, doesn't it? Usually the richest are over 50s,right?
By the way, I believe Age Is A Number and True Love Is Blind of Age. I just accidentally set 51, as the small age range is easy to choose from. 
 
My dream husband is a gentleman, middle-class(or above).  I made money by brain and cherish every penny I earned. I admire such a man who strives to his success. He's ambitious and courageous, a good match to my values. I shall be supportive to him, be devoted to him until the end of my life.
 
For me, courtesy is as important as money. We can work hard to make money, while courtesy  can only be achieved by self-respect.
 
 
P.S. I learned the word "blind-date" from a foreigner teacher.

 



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Posted on Sun, Jan 19, 2014 23:12

Thank you, dear friend.
 
All three guys are nice. Marcca and I missed the chance to get to know each other. 
Charlx is the 1st one in 8 years, so I took him seriously. I wasn't needy. It's my style, setting goals and attaining them efficiently. I planned to find true love in 3 months, not wanna waste life any more. Now I know any task on earth but love can be efficiently fulfilled. God does play his cards. If we marriage-oriented from the very outset, sometimes may be too cautious to go further, focus on too much details other than enjoy romantic feelings. Love is a feeling.
 
As you said, I can understand Chxx's position. If he was diplomatic instead of "sort it out by yourself", we could meet up. He wasn't. Though I regard him as a friend, however, I can't contact him.  Another nice gentleman emails me recently. I'd like to give a try on his friendship or romance. I shall be sincere as usual and patient. The rest is left to God. I can do nothing but remain cheerful and young as much as possible before meeting my Prince White someday.
 


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Posted on Sun, Jan 19, 2014 17:40

OP, it seems that you need to read a romance/fantasy novel and then snap yourself back into reality when dealing with anyone online. Ideal Diamond did a pretty good job referring to your post.  I would never expect a stranger to provide so much of his personal information, that is just insane. I can't expect a man in my presence or online to even provide a common courtesy let alone would I ever have the notion to ask him for all that you did. I'm sorry to say but you sound like a total Goldigger. I guess it is to be expected on a site thet is sometimes called MillionaireMatch. I came on this site knowing it by a different name that implied it was classy.

By the way, if you have seen a photo of someone before you date, can you call it a blind date? In my world, a blind date is when you have never seen a photo of him nor have you ever met in person before. We also say that a blind date needs to occur before it can be called a blind date experience.

 

 


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Posted on Sun, Jan 19, 2014 13:50

here's my two cent!!

Last guy is not entirely wrong..he has to be smart enough to not release his personal details to you(a stranger he met online, he'll be stupid to do that IMO)..passports, bank statements etc are his life so its just precautionary measures that's why he had cold feet! you could have just got a visiting visa and go as a tourist even if its for 3days. I'm not a fan of extremely log distance relationships like outside the US but within any states in the US? I'm Good ..  after two or three visits from you and you both know and trust each other then he can release such sensitive informations for you not to someone he met online and hasn't met in person yet..

As for the rest? I have no idea what you said went wrong..lol- you just shut one out cos he did not reply your message or got back to you in two days? and did not listen to his explanations.. what if he was sick, had an accident or worse? you need patience and understanding especially when it comes to online/long distance relationship, its hard enough if its not a long distance.. you sounded needy..(You needed his warm email as a comfort)..you barely knew this guy so why hang your personal comfort on him? Then you felt hurt? Hmm..well calm down when you meet the next guy, take things slow and let the relationship develop gradually.. (That's what I would do)..goodluck :) 



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