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Posted on Mon, Apr 21, 2014 20:03

Today I'm back to the dating site.
I can't always be waiting for the late response of someone as he sounds pretty busy and we haven't meet in person yet.
 
My parents think he is a scammer. I don't want to jump to conclusion at the moment as he hasn't ask for 1 cent from me. If he did, I wouldn't give him as it's quite suspicious to discuss money at this phase of online dating( not meeting in person yet). Furthermore, as the CEO of a construction company(he claims), he doesn't need my financial assistance under any circumstances. It's just against logic.
 
By the way, I doubt the way professional scammers make a living. It's not profitable as other careers.
 
So, I'm wondering why he wasted his time to contact me? He won't get money from me. I'm not that kind of women who are willing to " buy" lover. I'm searching for true love and a happy marriage of 30 years. My small money is supposed to leave for my future kid( education, etc). I shall be a nice wife and loving mother, and I can support myself.
 
Honestly, I did enjoy reading those love letters in the past 2 months. I haven't got that feeling for 8 years, haha. It's healing, considering my first hurtful relationship. I might say thanks to him for this.
 
Anyway, I decide to move on now, even if he isn't a scammer but definitely not a good lover, haha.


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Posted on Mon, Aug 18, 2014 06:27

If you think someone on the internet is a scammer they almost certainly are. If you think they are not, they still may be.

Gracelle, can you give some insight on how you interact with men in your day to day life? I would be quite tongue tied around you but I need to get over that. I have a crush on a Chinese woman. She is friendly but demure. Not sure how to interpret that. Maybe with her smile and delicate wave she just means "have a nice day" but I am hearing "we should raise beautiful Eurasian babies."

For a long time I avoided women that look you if I needed to see someone for something, because I would assume that they would think that I am fantasizing about them romantically. Which I would be.  So I would seek out less attractive women if I had to interact with a woman, with the intent of minimizing any confusion. But my unscientific study leads me to think that most women will interpret any contact with a man as a romantic overature. Given that, I may as well interact with the beautiful ones.

Regarding scammers: work opportunities are terrible in Africa. If someone in Africa can scam a small amount of money they will be doing very well in comparison to his neighbor. They may or may not apologize when caught but they will go on to next person.

Scammers in the U.S. and Europe probably are not declaring the money that they scam. So they can qualify for social benefits as well. If anything we should be surprised that there are not more scammers. I expect that in the future there will be far more scammers not fewer.

 



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Posted on Tue, Jun 17, 2014 19:43

Quoting Gracelle:

Today I'm leaving Dubai. I got an email from that British guy who is with other woman now.

What a frustrating news!



It might be a blessing in disguise.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 17, 2014 02:39

Today I'm leaving Dubai. I got an email from that British guy who is with other woman now.

What a frustrating news!



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Posted on Tue, Jun 03, 2014 20:37

Quoting Gracelle:

Hi, roc. How are u?

 

I was meant to visit a British guy. Then due to my ID card delay, I made a trip to Dubai first.

It seems that he's sulky for this. Anyway, I'll keep my words.

 

Life is a bit tough. I always try to remain positive. Miss u guys!

 

The trip here is not for dating, just to explore a new culture. The weather is very hot!



Welcome back.  Sit for a while and cool off.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 03, 2014 08:33

Hi, roc. How are u?

 

I was meant to visit a British guy. Then due to my ID card delay, I made a trip to Dubai first.

It seems that he's sulky for this. Anyway, I'll keep my words.

 

Life is a bit tough. I always try to remain positive. Miss u guys!

 

The trip here is not for dating, just to explore a new culture. The weather is very hot!



Life is a piece of dance. You need to find the right partner to make it beautiful.

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Posted on Mon, Apr 28, 2014 20:02

Quoting Gracelle:

Hi, roc, you're such a lifesaver, always support me.

I shall invite you to attend my wedding someday, haha.



It would be my pleasure, my dear.



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Posted on Mon, Apr 28, 2014 06:25

Hi, roc, you're such a lifesaver, always support me.

I shall invite you to attend my wedding someday, haha.



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Posted on Mon, Apr 28, 2014 06:21

Thanks, Tammila, dolphins2003.

 

Scammers always use fake names and photos.



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Posted on Sat, Apr 26, 2014 05:17

I am totally blind and was married for 19 years and even had 2 children.  So just hang on if I can get someone you definately will.  Excuse the fact that I am now sepparated lol.



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Posted on Fri, Apr 25, 2014 17:40

Quoting Gracelle:

Thanks, 3345roc, for the support you gave me all the way in the past couple of months.



You're very welcome, my dear.  Just be yourself and don't worry so much about finding the right man and maybe the right man will find you.



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Posted on Fri, Apr 25, 2014 15:51

Is his name Steve ? If so cut the contact asap.



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Posted on Thu, Apr 24, 2014 18:58

Thanks, Flor2307.

 

I'm confident I'll find Him (my true love) eventually, no matter what it takes. Haha 



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Posted on Thu, Apr 24, 2014 07:48

I totally agree with your "golden rule" regarding the Internet 3345roc, it´s very easy to get scammed. And Gracelle, you seem like a really nice person, and I believe everyone deserves the best. I wish you find the perfect match for your heart. ;)



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Posted on Wed, Apr 23, 2014 22:50

Thanks, 3345roc, for the support you gave me all the way in the past couple of months.



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Posted on Wed, Apr 23, 2014 22:47

Thanks, Idontmind,

 

I'm confident I will find a nice guy and a happy marriage of 30 years.



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Posted on Wed, Apr 23, 2014 12:12

You seem nice. I hope you find a real man. Always trust your instincts. Goof luck to you.



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Posted on Tue, Apr 22, 2014 18:33

Thanks, 3345roc.

 

You're right. 

Actually on yahoo IM Robert ( from Wincore Construction) mentioned his son Eric would visit China soon to meet me and expect my financial assistance in emergency( then he would transfer money to me). I was alert and declined him.

 

 



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Posted on Tue, Apr 22, 2014 09:43

Welcome back Gracelle!  I don't know whether that gentleman was a scammer or not.. I suspect not.  What did surprise me, however, is that you hid your profile at the request of someone you never met.  

 

My "golden rule" regarding the internet is that no one is real until you meet them.  Whether or not you hide your profile is entirely up to you.  If someone asks you to do so before you meet or even before you've both decided that you want to be in an intimate, exclusive monogamous relationship it's out of line.  I've heard the same thing from other women and I tell them to run away as fast as they can.... the guy is insecure and controlling.

 

You're a treasure and should be treated as such.



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Posted on Tue, Apr 22, 2014 06:00

Thanks, AXNDII.

 

I'm quite OK, as I don't give 1 dime to him(he hasn't required it). I might smile at him someday if we meet by chance for those lovely emails, haha. I enjoyed them for such a healing effect.

 

The only thing puzzles me is that why he didn't change name? It risks of being disclosed. Doesn't he care?



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