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Posted on Mon, Mar 03, 2014 22:15

Quoting fishyme:

LMAO @ AMBERWILD or is it WildAmber. What! You turned down a gift that could keep on giving?

 

 

In truth I don't know what I'd a done it being hard enough finding a "full woman"[?] here let alone a 1 in a million hermaphrodite.

 

 

  There was a show sometime ago about a Dr. in the '60's [I think is was] that could look at the child and deside whice gender the child should be. So highly respected no one questioned him and it was easyier to use scissors than a needle and thread. "Raise them like a girl and they'll be a girl" he said. Turns out he was very sadly wrong, and ended up messing up lifes for these childern as they grew older. Like it wasn't going to be tough enough for them already!

 

 

  I guess it's easyier to say than it is to live it but, we have things that we Can change and we have things that we are Born that way.



Omg Fishy!  What a horrible story about the Dr.....or should I say the Mutilator.  Did he go to prison....or at least sued penniless?

 



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Posted on Mon, Mar 03, 2014 08:45

Hats off to you Flagent, you handled the situation well! I'm sure when you first started talking to her she was holding back her secret to meet you in person first. Just to see if you both had an attraction for each other. Also as dinner was moving along I'm sure she was thinking I have to tell him because I dont want to lie to him.

Nothing wrong with just remaining friends.

 

I think she's going to have a hard time finding a male mate to accept her physically. All u can do is wish her the best in finding her happiness.

 



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Posted on Sun, Mar 02, 2014 21:21

LMAO @ AMBERWILD or is it WildAmber. What! You turned down a gift that could keep on giving?

 

 

In truth I don't know what I'd a done it being hard enough finding a "full woman"[?] here let alone a 1 in a million hermaphrodite.

 

 

  There was a show sometime ago about a Dr. in the '60's [I think is was] that could look at the child and deside whice gender the child should be. So highly respected no one questioned him and it was easyier to use scissors than a needle and thread. "Raise them like a girl and they'll be a girl" he said. Turns out he was very sadly wrong, and ended up messing up lifes for these childern as they grew older. Like it wasn't going to be tough enough for them already!

 

 

  I guess it's easyier to say than it is to live it but, we have things that we Can change and we have things that we are Born that way.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 02, 2014 19:41

You've handled this unexpected situation very well. Hope you are both atleast cultivating a beautiful rewarding friendship. One way I try to evaluate situations is by trying to place myself in someone's shoes. Now, I'm not suggesting that you do anything you do not want to.

I read about this condition in grade school. I find it interesting that it happens to one in a milion people as stated earlier. So just like a lottery it could happen to anyone. Then, how would you want to be treated? A little something to consider.

All the Best



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Posted on Sat, Mar 01, 2014 07:36

WHAT! Please tell me you wrote this blog just for the sake of sharing one of MANY crazy dating stories you will have. My eyes are sparking mischief right now.

 

CHICKS WITH DICKS.... NO F*CKING WAY!!! 

 

I am cracking up over all of the altruistic comments above. "Not many would have handled that properly."

 

WHAT!? 

 

While I salute your compassion, kindness, and gentle nature, with every praise of, "You are a handsome man with much to offer," I think you are dick, the kind I would never date. EVER. 

 

You wrote: "We did discuss her situation. A Hermaphrodite is a female that can have kids and is all women but one part. The clitteris is from two to four inches long in a penis shape. I did ask her why don’t you get it removed and she replied that it would mess up her sex life and she was happy with herself. I did not get any further into that topic."

 

Then you asked for thoughts, opinions, after having stated that your mind has already been made up, "No dice." 

 

Does anyone pay attention around here, because it is seven am on a Saturday and I am dropping F-bombs like trailer trash Barbie. I read through this blog once, wishing I had a two-by four Tom and Jerry style..

 

YOU SPELLLED CLITORIS WRONG!!!!!!!!

 

Something to suck on.

The first rule of good business Mr. “I don’t have wrinkles and my dating profile says I am sixty-five years old.” Know your audience. I read through your blog once, on a whim because I usually have my head  too far up my own a$$ , but today, this day, your lucky day, I was paying attention.  I read through once, eye balling your profile picture, thinking, “Poindexter. What a slug.”

I TOTALLY relate to being newly single after a twenty year relationship. I’m two years in to being single after my own of seventeen, and it was an oddity to realize that I had only ever been with one man my entire adult life. I had no idea what I was doing, but I did know that the stories would be ripe, and they have been. 

Dating millionaires is the equivalent of finding out the chick you are into has a larger Phallus. I keep giving you all credit, you who have made it, and then I find this…

A man of great success, by career and by family, branded and stamped, questioning and swooning a woman in private and hurried soul searching messages to the dragging out of, “I have to tell you something…”

I have herpes.

That was a true story conversation I had to have with a dude who let me fall for him first. First he courted me, then he offered me blisters with no ring. “I can understand…” says he, “If you don’t want to date me now… I just needed you to know before this goes any further. “

 

HE HAS HERPES…….

What came next was agony, the bottom drop out of impossible choice. One in four, I do believe are the statistics…? I am not Goggling this morning, as I am not concerned over the exact as much as I am trying to portray the common, with two types of herpes being that place. “Does he get blisters in his mouth or does he get them on his penis?” the doctor asked.

My own research as I agonized over whether or not I needed to let go of a soul I had come to enjoy immensely, a soul I felt I could love, over a sentence he could not undo. What about the person?

YOUR PERSON, Man who wants to know what I think about people who are selfish. That woman is selfish and she should find someone who wants to suck on a four inch d*ck. I personally like mine larger than that so I date men. Last time I checked most men prefer women who are not loose, but then you asked and my mouth  can be gaping by opinion. You asked another question on your profile.

“I am in a STEM field and now design and write Internet blogs. I have blogs related to spiritual, political, metaphysical, and historical topics. Most recently, I am in the process of branching out in a brand new direction, at least for me. A new business partner and I are putting together a wellness, health and beauty blog ... am open to suggestions.”

Good sir, I suggest you add me to your partnership.  I look forward to your review with warm regards.

 

Amber



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Posted on Fri, Feb 28, 2014 15:26

I used to date a woman who was the most feminine, girly-girl that I ever met. Beautiful with a perfect figure. Later I found out she had androgen insensitivity syndrome, which means she was genetically a male, but hormonally a woman. It would bother me if I thought about it too much, but love overcame all. Since I was past the point of wanting children, it really was not an issue.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 28, 2014 10:05

Wow Wee Liv!!  You look great!  Love you in emerald green!



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Posted on Fri, Feb 28, 2014 10:02

Quoting Dakota35:

  I'd have probably kept going out with her.  Just because you are 100% straight it doesn't make you gay to date a hermaphrodite. My biggest problem is if she had switched genders and could not identify with male or female.  But if she had always felt like a woman and just had a small extra part...and had all the woman parts.  Not really sure that would be a deal killer to me, if I found her attractive.  Some women have larger anyway, and for many men it's a turn on.  She couldn't help the way she was born. 



That's just about the most wonderful thing I've ever heard you say Dak!!!



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Posted on Fri, Feb 28, 2014 06:07

Michael,

 

Honestly, I thought you were being funny, but I see this was real. I do feel for her....poor thing. But as long as she is happy the way she is, who is to judge her? It's not her fault that she was born that way.

 

 

You handled it like a perfect gentleman that you obviously are! Thanks for that, but she should have told you when the topic of sex came up in your pre-date conversations. Anyhow, she is right that some people are born that way...I have seen some research materials on the topic in my days as a Biochemist whilst studying anatomy and hormones. The truth is everyone is a hermaphrodite in the earlier stages of intra-uterine fetal development until the foetus reaches a certain age. However, sometimes the parts that are meant to be smaller just fail to develop into their appropriate or more normal sizes. She is right that surgery will mess up her sex life. This is because of the amount of tissues and nerves involved, and that would have to be removed. She will most definitely lose sensation in that area if surgery is attempted now. Surgery is a better option in infanthood, as less tissues and nerves will be removed and nerve regeneration over time will likely restore all sensitive but ensuring that the developmental growth of the clitoris is monitored into puberty - this should have been considered by her parents at the time.

 

 

I just hope that there are people out there who are attracted to someone that is a little different from the majority of the population. Everybody deserves to love and be loved and to be born in a way that makes that more difficult is a real shame.

 

 

I can only imagine how much emotional trauma and hope dashed after hope - she must have experienced in her life...

 

 

Liv.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 28, 2014 03:21

We did discuss her situation. A Hermaphrodite is a female that can have kids and is all women but one part. The clitteris is from two to four inches long in a penis shape. I did ask her why don’t you get it removed and she replied that it would mess up her sex life and she was happy with herself. I did not get any further into that topic.


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Let us all find the right person that completes us.

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Posted on Thu, Feb 27, 2014 19:36

this is a big world and I believe that we should be kind and compassionate,  however,  her situation is not one to take on.   you did not mention if she has gone through some trans/sexual surgery?  to morth in one sex or the other?



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Posted on Thu, Feb 27, 2014 13:37

Very unfortunate as I watched a research on TV in-regards to this same topic. 

However, you both talked about sex, children etc.. Why wouldn't that subject be discussed on her part? 

Of course I'm not missjudging. I myself being a parent of two kids and previous divorce, people don't give me the opportunity either, let alone being born with both genders. My heart goes out to her. Curious though, isn't there a possible surgery alternative? 

 


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Posted on Thu, Feb 27, 2014 11:59

That is a right shame. Poor girl. It's a hard life for some people. I think she went about it the wrong way. She should have told you before going on a date as luckily for her you were kind to her. Other thoughtless, ignorant people may not have reacted that way. 

 

Sarah 



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Posted on Thu, Feb 27, 2014 07:39

You were a perfect gentleman. Not many would've handled that properly. I wish you success!!



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