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Posted on Thu, Feb 20, 2014 12:35

I read a few replies, and I wouldn't judge a person based on what chemistry was involved between you. 

I guess what I'm trying to say is... Don't judge her because she felt an attraction to you.



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Posted on Thu, Feb 20, 2014 11:22

Quoting Dakota35:

Sounds like you found a quality woman.  You should marry her, but just don't let her drink with your buddies.

 

 



Who knows, she may not be able to be drinking around his female friends either!!  Times have changed.



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Posted on Wed, Feb 19, 2014 19:58

Yes, as someone else typed already, you did the right thing. I would have to be concerned that she does this on most of her first dates. Were you really different than anyone else? No offense to you but it's something to think about.



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Posted on Wed, Feb 19, 2014 14:29

i agree.good job



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Posted on Wed, Feb 19, 2014 10:08

Sounds like you found a quality woman.  You should marry her, but just don't let her drink with your buddies.

 

 



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Posted on Wed, Feb 19, 2014 07:12

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

 

 

 

RMac



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Posted on Tue, Feb 18, 2014 21:21

Having sex is easy, but waiting to find the right person with mutual interest and a deep level of connection is far more difficult, appreciated and respected in my humble opinion. 



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Posted on Tue, Feb 18, 2014 14:58

Call me old fashion, but a first date is usually a time to get to know someone with the physical left out of the scenario.

If your date drinks to much, red flag.  Wants to have sex on the first date, another red flag.  If the date gets upset because you turn them down, third strike your out.

It's all about chemistry.... I enjoy your company, laughter together, the easy conversation.  A foundation to build from for a second, third and continual dates.

If it's all about sex, great if that's all you want...I'm certainly not your kind of woman and most who truly want a lasting relationship with amazing intimacy, will agree.  IMO

 



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Posted on Tue, Feb 18, 2014 09:02

I definately think you did the right thing.   If you really like her and respect her then its worth a sober head to move to the next step.  As for her being "mad" at you, she could've assumed that you were not attracted to her and you were politely attempting to tell her you were not interested...as long as you explain that you are attracted to her and you would rather wait, things should be fine.  Good Luck!



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Posted on Tue, Feb 18, 2014 05:53

@Flag, you wrote,". She had a few drinks and wanted to have sex with me that night. I told her we should wait. She was very angry and upset."    of course she was, she felt you rejected her ! no one likes that feeling.

 

I'm not saying you did the wrong thing. You did what you felt was right, so it was the right thing to do.



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Posted on Mon, Feb 17, 2014 19:47

Quoting flagent32246:

I have recently went on a first date that we had great chemistry and we were very attracted to each other. She had a few drinks and wanted to have sex with me that night. I told her we should wait. She was very angry and upset. What should I have done?



I'd be careful.  Unless you think you're so sexy and so special she couldn't restrain herself and she never did that before with anyone else.



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Posted on Mon, Feb 17, 2014 19:46

She was mad?  RUN FOREST RUN! I'm just kidding.... Well, no I'm not.  The biggest mistake we make is "running through" stop lights.  The fact that you were trying to respect her and she got angry over your "gentlemenship"  (is that a word?) She's up to no good!



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Posted on Mon, Feb 17, 2014 19:20

You handled this the right way! Especially with the alcohol involved.  If she is the lady you seek, she will appreciate that you held off. 



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Posted on Mon, Feb 17, 2014 18:18

I agree. Thanks for the advice.

 

 



Let us all find the right person that completes us.

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Posted on Mon, Feb 17, 2014 17:32

You did the right thing. Dont worry. 



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Posted on Mon, Feb 17, 2014 15:12

I agree, thats what I told her. Thanks



Let us all find the right person that completes us.

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Posted on Mon, Feb 17, 2014 15:02

You should wait. Whats the rush? When the time is right it will happen.



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