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Posted on Mon, Apr 28, 2014 16:34

 

Can a woman be happy?

 

I was married for 20 years. I spoiled my X wife. I worked hard and gave her everything a woman could ever want.  I gave her success, love, passion, romance, attention, stability and friendship. I could never make her happy and if she was happy, it would only last a short while. I am new to the dating world and I don’t want to make the same mistakes by choosing the wrong person to spend my life with. I have one question. Can a someone tell me the secrete of making a women happy?

 

 

 

 

 


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Let us all find the right person that completes us.

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Posted on Fri, Jul 25, 2014 22:40

If someone really loves you, your happiness means her happiness! Can you be happy?   

 

Sorry if I am repeating...I didn't read all comments here neither.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 17, 2014 18:00

1st, you can not make someone happy. A good relationship is supposed to enhance a person, if they are unhappy, there is nothing you can do about it.  I am sorry you had to go through that because you seem like a good man;-) Better luck next time! There are plenty of happy women out there looking for a guy like you.



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Posted on Sat, Jun 14, 2014 15:06

My response to Flagent 32246

Can a woman be happy, the answer is Yes!, Don't give them everything, allow them to accomplish things on their own. How did you give your wife success?  There is no real secret to making a woman happy. She wants to be with you or she doesn't. If she doesn't, let her go. If she does; keep the communication open, have a great sex life, have your own interest, be honest, respect the person and her thoughts and ideas, and love her. If she is a good woman, she will give you the same in return. Most women are naturally nurtures; its an inate characteristic; if she loves her mate, she will do all that is possible to nurture that relationship/marriage and make it work.



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Posted on Sat, Jun 14, 2014 15:03

My response to Flagent 32246

Can a woman be happy, the answer is Yes!, Don't give them everything, allow them to accomplish things on their own. How did you give your wife success?  There is no real secret to making a woman happy. She wants to be with you or she doesn't. If she doesn't, let her go. If she does; keep the communication open, have a great sex life, have your own interest, be honest, respect the person and her thoughts and ideas, and love her. If she is a good woman, she will give you the same in return. Most women are naturally nurtures; its an inate characteristic; if she loves her mate, she will do all that is possible to nurture that relationship/marriage and make it work.



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Posted on Wed, May 21, 2014 16:44

I think personalities have decided the person happy or not.  I feel that I am happy always and my sadness has never last for long time. When my loving greatgrandma past away, I cried and cried, and then I suddenly realized my greatgrandma may not like me sad because she loves me and she may wants me happy, so I adjusy my mood, bebhappy again.  One of my college classmates dropped from school since her father past away, and nobody could made her change mind; she was sad for a long time, and her tears burst out every time when she talked about her father, and it made every listener fall breif too. I am not trying to show how brave I am, I am just want to say that how a people's personality and his/her view of things can make a big different.

 

We can change ourselves, but it may be not so easy to change others. When a people take things for granted, or she is used to look at things on a negative way, you may never make her happy even you try extra hard. If she is not happy, you don't need feel that it is your fault; if she leave, you should be happy, cause it may be the best result for both of you.

 

If I was a man(I am glad I m not), I would follow my heart, find the girl I like, give her my faithful love, show her my loyal to our relationship. I do what I can to help her, to make her feel safe and confortable. If she is still not happy, I would ask her"what I can do help you feel better?" If she never change and still show a sad face, If I still love her, I will image her sad face a smile face(so that not affect my happy mood), to make myself happy.

 

 



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Posted on Sat, May 17, 2014 13:53

Well every woman is different. The best way is to listen to what she says. Talk about things. However, if she is a demanding brat then show her the door.

 

Sarah :-)



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Posted on Sat, May 17, 2014 12:17

Lol... Life! I've seen a whole lot. I was in the Marines and now I work in the securities industry. You can't go through life and not pick up tools to succeed. Anyone who knows me says I'm an old spirit. :-) A happy one though!



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Posted on Fri, May 16, 2014 18:47

3345roc I love your responses, there is truth and humour in them! 

 

Can you make a woman happy? Believe it or not this is a loaded question. I'll explain why momentarily. I want to focus on answering your question first. I see everyone has a broad idea of what essentially makes a woman happy. Being a woman, I think this territory is fair game...

 

No man can make a woman happy. When I think of happiness in women I see those that are and those that are not. A happy woman has to love herself and be happy with herself in order to appreciate a man's efforts. For instance, you tell your woman she is beautiful, if she doesn't feel beautiful she won't appreciate what you think or feel or the effort you are making to make her feel good. If she believes she is beautiful and you validate her belief system she is going to show you her appreciation

 

Now, getting to the loaded question: in my experience, I have found that men typically believe they are the reason for their partner's happiness. They view themselves as providers and protectors. Men like to win and when they make us happy well they win, we usually give in and they get that ego boost. The emotional currency being passed between the two parties is exactly that. How do you expect to make her happy if she is in emotional bankruptcy and is unable to accept your gift? She cabtbgive it back to you she can only take it and pay off creditors meaning she has an inability to take positive energy and convertbher own negative energy into positive energy. It's so bad that her negative energy has you questioning yourself, meaning you're feeling some sort of guilt as a result from the failed relationship. There's a woman who is going to give you positive energy and love you. She's increase your value and it will be a better relationship you just have to want and look for that. 



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Posted on Thu, May 15, 2014 03:21

Hi there ! Im sorry what happened to your marriage .. Actually ,in my own word there is no exact Formula

how to make a woman happy .. but did you ever talk to her or asked her how can you make her happy ..

A heart to heart talk is better than any pampering things ,by then you will know what she likes or dislikes as well as paying attention to what She thinks about your relationship .. There are so many reasons why women

would never be happy ,it differs from person to person . ok ... Why dont you put some Psychology in your future

relationship ? I wish you goodluck ..



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Posted on Tue, May 13, 2014 15:41

Sounds like you were married to a narcissist.



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Posted on Sun, May 11, 2014 01:17

Make her smile and laugh everyday and when you think of her, let her know.. 


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Posted on Fri, May 09, 2014 18:23

Quoting Dakota35:

Find a woman that is already happy.  Happiness comes from within.  You cannot make someone be happy.



Right on, right on, and right on.  Basic, honest, true advice.  No other words are necessary.

 



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Posted on Fri, May 09, 2014 18:18

Quoting 3345roc:

I prefer "nooks and crannies" to crevices.  Women have a plethora of erogenous zones but I don't think the armpit qualifies.... but I could be wrong.



Nope, armpits don't qualify.  Except, of course, when a woman reaches a certain age and her armpits no longer sweat or give off odor.  Maybe then?  But maybe not.  Armpits just aren't very enticing, are they?

 

 



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Posted on Tue, May 06, 2014 13:01

Quoting Jana101:

It's simple. Find someone that loves you more.  She'll lick and love every crevice of your body, listen and take care of you.  Sooner or later you'll become restless and need something more exciting, more challenging.  Just like your ex-wife did.  

 

Moral of the story: Everybody plays the fool sometimes.  


So true!  Sometimes you're the bug......and sometimes you're the windshield.  *wink*  :))



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Posted on Tue, May 06, 2014 06:41

I'm 38,I've never ben married only because no one will marry me.I believe a man should treat a woman just as he would want to be treated,commom sence.If you dont want something done to you, then dont do it to anyone else.I NEED to be the most important thing or person or whatever in the mans life.I've never ben important to anyone.I need to be needed and wanted and treated like I'm the most attractive person they've ever come across in their life,inside and outside.I need to be wanted more then they've ever wanted anything in their whole entire life.I need a man to love me,like me,want me,need me,have to have me or their life won't be complete.I want to be the only female they look at or think about.I need a man who can support himself and doesnt need me to take care of him financially.I want to take care of a man in every way possible,except with money.I believe if you're in a relationship its the womans job to keep up her looks,clean,cook,take care of kids and take care of your man sexually and in every other way he wants or needs except financially.I can do everything for a man except financially support him.In my life the ONLY reason any man has had anything to do with me was because they needed a free place to live,free rides,sex,money,someone to steal from,gifts,someone with a lisence,ect.I've NEVER ben wanted or loved by boyfriends or family.I've only recieved abuse and using.I'm almost ready to give up.I think this will be my last attempt at trying to find a relationship.It seems like I'll most likely be dying alone.It sucks...but I'm a realist.Thanks for reading guys.(I rate myself a 3 on a 1-10 scale,10 being the hottest.Do I think I'm better looking then I really am?I've never ben concieted....maybe I really am hidious fat and disgustingly ugly like everyone tells me.I just want someone to get to know me and like me.)I had to get this out,SORRY EVERYONE.


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Posted on Tue, May 06, 2014 00:05

The original poster typed; "I could never make her happy and if she was happy, it would only last a short while."

I had the sad and disturbing experiences of my ex being jealous of my happiness so he would try to bring me down. It's one thing for your partner to be generally not happy but when someone wants you to be miserable on purpose is worse in my opinion.

 

Another example that I am too familiar with is when the introvert is jealous of the extrovert.

 

We all know there are several reasons why relationships don't work. How many people have felt because we love someone that we can change or fix them somehow when we can't.  It is up to that person to change. If we realize we can no longer live with them, it is when a lot of divorces happen.  It took me a very long time to give up, I'm very stubborn and loyal.  At least I can say I gave it my all.

 

 


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Posted on Mon, May 05, 2014 13:51

Quoting 3345roc:

I prefer "nooks and crannies" to crevices.  Women have a plethora of erogenous zones but I don't think the armpit qualifies.... but I could be wrong.



Back of knee works for some.



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Posted on Sat, May 03, 2014 12:32

Happiness is a state of mind that is self generated. We like to think it is mostly a response to external events, but this just isnt the reality. People are either generally happy or generally unhappy and are only pushed temporarily in one direction or the other by events. That isnt to say there arent things that need attention to maintain a relationship, just an observation on human nature.



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Posted on Sat, May 03, 2014 07:48

There is no "plan" for making a woman happy.   Every woman is different and you can't put us all in a box and say "this is how to make a woman happy".  Generally, she either is happy or she isn't and being with you is either a good thing a bad thing based on how you treat her, her expectations of how you should treat her, or how she perceives how you treat her. You have to get to know her and what makes her tick, and accept her as she is.  Ask questions about how she feels or what she desires, otherwise it's a guessing game.   If she shuts down physically, you can guarantee that there is something going on emotionally.  Just learn to coexist on the bad days and give her some space, sort of similar to the "man cave" time.  If mood swings are extreme, there could be more involved than having a bad day occasionally.  Some people are just not happy and nothing you can do or say will change that without therapy and medication.  Every "bad" behavior is based on a need for love, attention, respect or honor...so get to know her, be genuine, and stay honest.  Money doesn't buy love. Honoring her with flowers or gifts when you have behaved badly helps, but you have to have the conversation that goes with it.  How hard is it to say "I'm sorry"?...I'm sorry you're having a bad day. I'm here if you need a shoulder. Tell me about what happened?  How did you feel? I'm sorry I offended or hurt you. Can you tell me what I did so I don't do it again because I care about you and want us to be happy together.  Just listen and don't try and fix it, unless you know you caused it. We are all ultimately responsible for our own happiness and no person, no amount of money, hugs, gifts, jewelry or flowers will be able to make an unhappy person happy--man or woman. 



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