As a little girl I had a very restricted view of 'marriage', slightly warped even, not sure what triggered it but here is what I believed: ¿ I was convinced that for a woman to find a husband, he has to be 1 year older than her. Don't ask, I thought even though this was pretty restricting, at least if gives one 365 days on average and with a bit of luck 1 extra one for good measure every 4 years. I started to scan the boys in the class above me, but never spotted anything that would have come even slightly close to what I imagined my future husband to be. Older brothers of my friends turned out to be a pain in the butt so I wasn't too optimistic for my future. Probably because I thought that a husband ought to be the man in charge, a leader, strong,... but also all the things that I would have liked him to be, - unfortunately these only seemed to be embodied in the form of actors in movies like "Gone with the wind" on TV and not the boys I was looking at. Huh, fat chance of finding anything suitable in my village! My hopes of standing any chance at all seem to be thoroughly crashed when ¿- for some other inexplicable reason - I thought I figured out that both partners MUST be of the same religion on top of the 1 year age gap. I guess the whole thing was triggered when my uncle (protestant) married my aunt (catholic) and it created a minor uproar in my village as it was outrageous and triggered many discussions amongst the adults. Oh my God - even more restrictions, - do they have places where you put down your age and religion and try and pick one that matches the requirements? How come all the grown ups I knew were married? Are there exceptions to the rule and how do you go about it? Questions, questions, my little brain was on overdrive.... Not being able to find the answers, I resigned myself to a single life from a very early age until the day I enlightened - all of a sudden I thought I found a way! If it was so difficult to find someone close by, well then I just have to broaden my horizon and look further afield.¿ My parents worked for the English Forces at the time and the word 'Tommy' (nickname for the English just in case someone doesn't know) completely fascinated me for some reason. Guess it sounded more exotic than Heinz or Karl or Fritz! My dad picked me up from kindergarten one day and we watched a procession of some kind (no idea, some kind of fairground thing). I was totally in awe of the uniformed band members marching along and in that moment I made up my mind - I tugged at his sleeve to get his attention to tell him with conviction "Dad, I know what I will do when I grow up - I am going to marry a Tommy!" He laughed....but...... The funny thing is I actually did! He wasn't a year older and he wasn't of the same faith either but I guess they had figured out by then that they (whoever they were) had to slacken the rules otherwise the world would be full of single people who would by now be frantically looking for suitable partners. I can just picture it "Excuse me, you look very nice! Where you by any chance born in 1961 and are you by any chance protestant?" "No? Well sorry about that" "Oh, excuse me what year where you born?....." Maybe I wasn't the only one who believed it hard to find the right partner even as a little girl and others with similar thoughts to me had the ingenious idea to come up with dating sites!¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿
As a little girl I had a very restricted view of 'marriage', slightly warped even, not sure what triggered it but here is what I believed: ¿ I was convinced that for a woman to find a husband, he has to be 1 year older than her. Don't ask, I thought even though this was pretty restricting, at least if gives one 365 days on average and with a bit of luck 1 extra one for good measure every 4 years. I started to scan the boys in the class above me, but never spotted anything that would have come even slightly close to what I imagined my future husband to be. Older brothers of my friends turned out to be a pain in the butt so I wasn't too optimistic for my future. Probably because I thought that a husband ought to be the man in charge, a leader, strong,... but also all the things that I would have liked him to be, - unfortunately these only seemed to be embodied in the form of actors in movies like "Gone with the wind" on TV and not the boys I was looking at. Huh, fat chance of finding anything suitable in my village! My hopes of standing any chance at all seem to be thoroughly crashed when ¿- for some other inexplicable reason - I thought I figured out that both partners MUST be of the same religion on top of the 1 year age gap. I guess the whole thing was triggered when my uncle (protestant) married my aunt (catholic) and it created a minor uproar in my village as it was outrageous and triggered many discussions amongst the adults. Oh my God - even more restrictions, - do they have places where you put down your age and religion and try and pick one that matches the requirements? How come all the grown ups I knew were married? Are there exceptions to the rule and how do you go about it? Questions, questions, my little brain was on overdrive.... Not being able to find the answers, I resigned myself to a single life from a very early age until the day I enlightened - all of a sudden I thought I found a way! If it was so difficult to find someone close by, well then I just have to broaden my horizon and look further afield.¿ My parents worked for the English Forces at the time and the word 'Tommy' (nickname for the English just in case someone doesn't know) completely fascinated me for some reason. Guess it sounded more exotic than Heinz or Karl or Fritz! My dad picked me up from kindergarten one day and we watched a procession of some kind (no idea, some kind of fairground thing). I was totally in awe of the uniformed band members marching along and in that moment I made up my mind - I tugged at his sleeve to get his attention to tell him with conviction "Dad, I know what I will do when I grow up - I am going to marry a Tommy!" He laughed....but...... The funny thing is I actually did! He wasn't a year older and he wasn't of the same faith either but I guess they had figured out by then that they (whoever they were) had to slacken the rules otherwise the world would be full of single people who would by now be frantically looking for suitable partners. I can just picture it "Excuse me, you look very nice! Where you by any chance born in 1961 and are you by any chance protestant?" "No? Well sorry about that" "Oh, excuse me what year where you born?....." Maybe I wasn't the only one who believed it hard to find the right partner even as a little girl and others with similar thoughts to me had the ingenious idea to come up with dating sites!¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿
Hi Curious, Sorry for not getting back to you sooner, but I have been very busy rounding up my SCAMMERS/TROLLS/PERVS &GOLD DIGGERS, who all mysteriously disappeared a week ago.¿ I am so glad to hear you found a pic of the guy who contacted you on another site---you probably never heard from him again, because he got removed from that site.¿ The scammers share their photos with other scammers, so it is not unusual to find the same photo being used by a different scumbag.¿ The photos they use are stolen from innocent people online---just a reason never to send anyone your photos until you are certain who they are. Obviously I do not have an in with the MM administrators---had that been the case, my SCAMMERS/TROLLS/PERVS&GOLD DIGGER blog would not have come up missing.¿ I don't even know who the powers that be are.¿ I just report my findings to them and once they notify me that the member has been removed I then post them on the blog.¿ I hope this has answered your questions and again, I apologize for the delay in responding to you.¿ Stay safe! Britt
Quoting: Originally posted by Curious2078 Interesting, Fifficus.? Amazing what weird notions we accumulate in our very young years.? I'm not sure if folks with the same kind of weird notions about finding a mate as you had as a child were the ones who came up with online dating sites.......and, frankly, that one single aspect of your story doesn't interest me at all.? What interests me so much is the charming tale itself?of how you outgrew such misconceptions [or were they really misconceptions....or just slightly twisted by naivete notions that at their bases were true???? .........[I'm not going to hit "enter" for a new paragraph because I'm trying to avoid those damn ?????? when I don't want them......? I'm probably rambling....it's been a long, strange day--ran out of decaf, had to consume real coffee...in the struggle to function with caffeine-induced muscle spasms/brain running far too fast, I lost most of the day... Good chance I should ban myself from this or any other blog until tomorrow....but I won't.? ? [couldn't help it; had to hit that "enter/return" button].? Then I hit upon Brittany's SCAMMERS/PERVS/TROLLS & GOLD DIGGERS blog.? I was stunned.? How in the heck did she come up with this list?? Is it legit?? And if it is, how-----well, how did she compile it?? Does she have an in with the MM administrators or what?? Amazing.? I replied, asking her how she did it, but she hasn't answered.?And the MOST amazing thing about it was that on her list I found a man who had contacted me on another site under an entirely different username with the same photos he had on this site.? If I?recall correctly, I wanted more anonymous email contact before going to the telephone,?and then he dropped me like a hot potato.? And now I can't find him on that other site.? He's disappeared!!!!? ? Well, kiddo, somehow your blog here on the possibilities of how online dating sites got "thunk up" in the first place and Brittany's list of "dirt bags" are swirling around in my head together and will eventually meld somehow into something approaching coherent thought.? If that thought seems like it might be interesting to anyone besides me and my dog, Maggie,?I'll start a blog on it.? Thanks for the inspiration. ? Squirrelly???
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Interesting, Fifficus.? Amazing what weird notions we accumulate in our very young years.? I'm not sure if folks with the same kind of weird notions about finding a mate as you had as a child were the ones who came up with online dating sites.......and, frankly, that one single aspect of your story doesn't interest me at all.? What interests me so much is the charming tale itself?of how you outgrew such misconceptions [or were they really misconceptions....or just slightly twisted by naivete notions that at their bases were true???? .........[I'm not going to hit "enter" for a new paragraph because I'm trying to avoid those damn ?????? when I don't want them......? I'm probably rambling....it's been a long, strange day--ran out of decaf, had to consume real coffee...in the struggle to function with caffeine-induced muscle spasms/brain running far too fast, I lost most of the day... Good chance I should ban myself from this or any other blog until tomorrow....but I won't.? ? [couldn't help it; had to hit that "enter/return" button].? Then I hit upon Brittany's SCAMMERS/PERVS/TROLLS & GOLD DIGGERS blog.? I was stunned.? How in the heck did she come up with this list?? Is it legit?? And if it is, how-----well, how did she compile it?? Does she have an in with the MM administrators or what?? Amazing.? I replied, asking her how she did it, but she hasn't answered.?And the MOST amazing thing about it was that on her list I found a man who had contacted me on another site under an entirely different username with the same photos he had on this site.? If I?recall correctly, I wanted more anonymous email contact before going to the telephone,?and then he dropped me like a hot potato.? And now I can't find him on that other site.? He's disappeared!!!!? ? Well, kiddo, somehow your blog here on the possibilities of how online dating sites got "thunk up" in the first place and Brittany's list of "dirt bags" are swirling around in my head together and will eventually meld somehow into something approaching coherent thought.? If that thought seems like it might be interesting to anyone besides me and my dog, Maggie,?I'll start a blog on it.? Thanks for the inspiration. ? Squirrelly???
Hi Curious, Sorry for not getting back to you sooner, but I have been very busy rounding up my SCAMMERS/TROLLS/PERVS &GOLD DIGGERS, who all mysteriously disappeared a week ago.¿ I am so glad to hear you found a pic of the guy who contacted you on another site---you probably never heard from him again, because he got removed from that site.¿ The scammers share their photos with other scammers, so it is not unusual to find the same photo being used by a different scumbag.¿ The photos they use are stolen from innocent people online---just a reason never to send anyone your photos until you are certain who they are. Obviously I do not have an in with the MM administrators---had that been the case, my SCAMMERS/TROLLS/PERVS&GOLD DIGGER blog would not have come up missing.¿ I don't even know who the powers that be are.¿ I just report my findings to them and once they notify me that the member has been removed I then post them on the blog.¿ I hope this has answered your questions and again, I apologize for the delay in responding to you.¿ Stay safe! Britt
Hey, Curious, . I'm not sure fifficus said she ever outgrew her weird childhood ideas...She just said she married outside them. :):)¿ I married outside a lot of my¿ good AND bad conceptions.:):):) . And Brittany is for real.¿ She does us all a great service, fighting a never-ending supply of dirt bags.¿ She deserves all our thanks!!!!!!!
Hey, Curious, . I'm not sure fifficus said she ever outgrew her weird childhood ideas...She just said she married outside them. :):)¿ I married outside a lot of my¿ good AND bad conceptions.:):):) . And Brittany is for real.¿ She does us all a great service, fighting a never-ending supply of dirt bags.¿ She deserves all our thanks!!!!!!!
Interesting, Fifficus.¿ Amazing what weird notions we accumulate in our very young years.¿ I'm not sure if folks with the same kind of weird notions about finding a mate as you had as a child were the ones who came up with online dating sites.......and, frankly, that one single aspect of your story doesn't interest me at all.¿ What interests me so much is the charming tale itself¿of how you outgrew such misconceptions [or were they really misconceptions....or just slightly twisted by naivete notions that at their bases were true???? .........[I'm not going to hit "enter" for a new paragraph because I'm trying to avoid those damn ?????? when I don't want them......¿ I'm probably rambling....it's been a long, strange day--ran out of decaf, had to consume real coffee...in the struggle to function with caffeine-induced muscle spasms/brain running far too fast, I lost most of the day... Good chance I should ban myself from this or any other blog until tomorrow....but I won't.¿ ¿ [couldn't help it; had to hit that "enter/return" button].¿ Then I hit upon Brittany's SCAMMERS/PERVS/TROLLS & GOLD DIGGERS blog.¿ I was stunned.¿ How in the heck did she come up with this list?¿ Is it legit?¿ And if it is, how-----well, how did she compile it?¿ Does she have an in with the MM administrators or what?¿ Amazing.¿ I replied, asking her how she did it, but she hasn't answered.¿And the MOST amazing thing about it was that on her list I found a man who had contacted me on another site under an entirely different username with the same photos he had on this site.¿ If I¿recall correctly, I wanted more anonymous email contact before going to the telephone,¿and then he dropped me like a hot potato.¿ And now I can't find him on that other site.¿ He's disappeared!!!!¿ ¿ Well, kiddo, somehow your blog here on the possibilities of how online dating sites got "thunk up" in the first place and Brittany's list of "dirt bags" are swirling around in my head together and will eventually meld somehow into something approaching coherent thought.¿ If that thought seems like it might be interesting to anyone besides me and my dog, Maggie,¿I'll start a blog on it.¿ Thanks for the inspiration. ¿ Squirrelly¿¿¿
Interesting, Fifficus.¿ Amazing what weird notions we accumulate in our very young years.¿ I'm not sure if folks with the same kind of weird notions about finding a mate as you had as a child were the ones who came up with online dating sites.......and, frankly, that one single aspect of your story doesn't interest me at all.¿ What interests me so much is the charming tale itself¿of how you outgrew such misconceptions [or were they really misconceptions....or just slightly twisted by naivete notions that at their bases were true???? .........[I'm not going to hit "enter" for a new paragraph because I'm trying to avoid those damn ?????? when I don't want them......¿ I'm probably rambling....it's been a long, strange day--ran out of decaf, had to consume real coffee...in the struggle to function with caffeine-induced muscle spasms/brain running far too fast, I lost most of the day... Good chance I should ban myself from this or any other blog until tomorrow....but I won't.¿ ¿ [couldn't help it; had to hit that "enter/return" button].¿ Then I hit upon Brittany's SCAMMERS/PERVS/TROLLS & GOLD DIGGERS blog.¿ I was stunned.¿ How in the heck did she come up with this list?¿ Is it legit?¿ And if it is, how-----well, how did she compile it?¿ Does she have an in with the MM administrators or what?¿ Amazing.¿ I replied, asking her how she did it, but she hasn't answered.¿And the MOST amazing thing about it was that on her list I found a man who had contacted me on another site under an entirely different username with the same photos he had on this site.¿ If I¿recall correctly, I wanted more anonymous email contact before going to the telephone,¿and then he dropped me like a hot potato.¿ And now I can't find him on that other site.¿ He's disappeared!!!!¿ ¿ Well, kiddo, somehow your blog here on the possibilities of how online dating sites got "thunk up" in the first place and Brittany's list of "dirt bags" are swirling around in my head together and will eventually meld somehow into something approaching coherent thought.¿ If that thought seems like it might be interesting to anyone besides me and my dog, Maggie,¿I'll start a blog on it.¿ Thanks for the inspiration. ¿ Squirrelly¿¿¿
LOL .....and to think you were preteen when the women of the world were burning their bras during "The Revolution".....Roll back your story 15-20 years and the story was the same.....our fathers "Yanks and Tommys"¿returning from world wide wars...mothers who worked the factories as "Rosey the Riveter"... and that was the begining of¿changes.....and still those images were¿expectations....
Good story ...we all have so much in common
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LOL .....and to think you were preteen when the women of the world were burning their bras during "The Revolution".....Roll back your story 15-20 years and the story was the same.....our fathers "Yanks and Tommys"¿returning from world wide wars...mothers who worked the factories as "Rosey the Riveter"... and that was the begining of¿changes.....and still those images were¿expectations....
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