Online dating - that's what other people do but not me! At least I thought so for years!? My kids and many couples I married told me different. I was always successful in whatever I did work wise but when it came to men.... different kettle of fish! Ironically I ended up in the wedding industry and love every moment of my work. Well, except for the odd bridezilla of course - but thankfully there is only about 1 or 2 per year and I can deal with that. Not everyone conforms well under stress and there are still people around who want to have a 'perfect wedding day' even though its totally boring if everything goes according to plan. What do you remember about it in a few years? That it was perfect? Big deal, - I'd rather have a good laugh about the pelicans that dropped an early present on the bridesmaid, the grandad who lost his teeth on the beach or the father of the bride who was so drunk by the time his daughter arrived (she was 1 1/2 hours late!) that they needed 'stabilizers' for him (the brother's of the bride) to help them all stagger down the aisle... ? I was amazed at how many people meet online through dating sites and at a weak moment decided its an experience I haven't made yet and that I should try. I tried a few sites but was put off by dads trying to find a suitable mother to raise their children. Sorry - I raised 2 of my own and I am not in it to become a substitute mum for anybody's kids and start all over again. I do like children but I am not THAT maternal. Grown up kids are fine, thank you very much! English is not my first language and not wanting to sound arrogant or snobbish, I was apalled at the bad spelling and crude stupid remarks of some of the people on other sites ?- ?so I decided maybe I should join a site that is a bit more up-market (yep, I'm still very naive at times!) where I can meet more educated people. I never joined to sit at my computer to wait for the shining knight in shining armor to whisk me away on its horse or race car or helicopter or whatever but its nice to meet new people, - ?especially when you live in a tourist resort where almost everybody knows everyone else and the only 'new faces' are tourists that come and go after a few days.? A total 'online dating virgin' it was a bit daunting finding myself on the 'human internet cattle market' (meant in a slightly sarcastic but affectionate way!) but hey, there's a first for everything I guess. At first I probably did many bloopers, most likely because I didn't want to waste time to read through the 'online dating manual', - come on, I am a big girl now and I can use a computer, surely it can't be that difficult! I learned very quickly though. My first few experiences were strange I have to admit and I almost wrote this whole thing off. A couple of guys added me as their 'favorite' (wow, somebody likes me!) and I chatted with one guy was really interested (he was my guinea pig to see how this whole thing works - sorry mate!) ?gave me his phone number to call him right away (I didn't call) and asked if I was going to be online the next day - only to shroud himself in silence when I said 'hello' to him the following day. Well matey, you don't know what you're missing and you will never find out my dear bathtub captain! Then there were a few others who emailed me or winked at me 'I'm interested in you' only to ignore my reply completely and made me feel stupid for replying in the first place. W anchors! Then I met this cute guy (hmm at least I thought so for a couple of days!) who told me was of Turkish origin and he was eager to give me his private email address right away. Didn't think anything of it - la di da di da, I am blonde after all - at least sometimes!) ?and we started chatting on skype. Why the heck is skype different than the chat on this site - at least for in the beginning it should have been ok ?- I don't know! Anyway, to cut a long story short, this guy sent me photos and bugged me for more photos of me. I didn't have ANY apart from 1000's at work so at the next wedding I asked my photographer to take a few shots of me. He did and dear 'Ben' received them. He declared his undying love for me (yeah right man - I wasn't born in a barn!) but I thought it was quite entertaining so I went along - baby! lol ?He told me he speaks Turkish and English but was born in the US. ?He wanted to talk to me on skype, ok, why not - Turkish accent my a***! He was freshly out of the jungle somewhere in Africa, probably still had the mud stuck on his plastic flip flops! His English was atrocious but very entertaining, he liked to wear topes (speed reducers in Mexico!) and loved pink tyres (ties), he was the only child of his parents (ahh you poor little mite!) had to lots of poper work (paper work) and always told me 'I love you more or I love you ditto' (More than what? - chocolate ice cream and what about the ditto bit, you even know what ditto means, honey?) Novelty was starting to wear off a bit after a few days but he made me laugh - a lot - so I thought I just play along for a bit longer. Nice break from a stressful day! I love languages so I asked him what does good night mean in Turkish - Tek meh was his reply (Tek meh where?) ?B******cks! So I prepared myself for the next chat. Had my wikipedia up and a free translation site and asked him where he studied - Amsterdam - 4 years! He didn't speak 1 word of Dutch so I decided to grill him on his Turkish a bit more. Hello was hola (ok!?! - thought it was merhaba!) and I love you was Mi do wa according to him. Yep, I used to have imaginary languages too as a little girl but I did grow out of that! After this chat episode it got a bit too dumb for me so I told him to go and do something nice to himself and hang out in a place where the sun doesn't shine! I blocked him and made his emails bounce back but unfortunately he's got my photos and no doubt "I" will be posted on another date site soon somewhere looking for 'Mr Right'. No harm done - to me at least and he actually did me a huge favor without knowing it by taking my mind away from other things - so 'Thank you 'Ben'! I actually did meet a really nice guy from this site, we have become friends so that's something very positive.How I rate online dating now??Well - certainly extremely entertaining, surprising, shocking,amazing (why has nobody come up with a 'dating IQ test' yet?) with the potential to meet some interesting people, make some great friends, ?and who knows - maybe even find 'a matching lid for the pot' one day! ??
Online dating - that's what other people do but not me! At least I thought so for years!? My kids and many couples I married told me different. I was always successful in whatever I did work wise but when it came to men.... different kettle of fish! Ironically I ended up in the wedding industry and love every moment of my work. Well, except for the odd bridezilla of course - but thankfully there is only about 1 or 2 per year and I can deal with that. Not everyone conforms well under stress and there are still people around who want to have a 'perfect wedding day' even though its totally boring if everything goes according to plan. What do you remember about it in a few years? That it was perfect? Big deal, - I'd rather have a good laugh about the pelicans that dropped an early present on the bridesmaid, the grandad who lost his teeth on the beach or the father of the bride who was so drunk by the time his daughter arrived (she was 1 1/2 hours late!) that they needed 'stabilizers' for him (the brother's of the bride) to help them all stagger down the aisle... ? I was amazed at how many people meet online through dating sites and at a weak moment decided its an experience I haven't made yet and that I should try. I tried a few sites but was put off by dads trying to find a suitable mother to raise their children. Sorry - I raised 2 of my own and I am not in it to become a substitute mum for anybody's kids and start all over again. I do like children but I am not THAT maternal. Grown up kids are fine, thank you very much! English is not my first language and not wanting to sound arrogant or snobbish, I was apalled at the bad spelling and crude stupid remarks of some of the people on other sites ?- ?so I decided maybe I should join a site that is a bit more up-market (yep, I'm still very naive at times!) where I can meet more educated people. I never joined to sit at my computer to wait for the shining knight in shining armor to whisk me away on its horse or race car or helicopter or whatever but its nice to meet new people, - ?especially when you live in a tourist resort where almost everybody knows everyone else and the only 'new faces' are tourists that come and go after a few days.? A total 'online dating virgin' it was a bit daunting finding myself on the 'human internet cattle market' (meant in a slightly sarcastic but affectionate way!) but hey, there's a first for everything I guess. At first I probably did many bloopers, most likely because I didn't want to waste time to read through the 'online dating manual', - come on, I am a big girl now and I can use a computer, surely it can't be that difficult! I learned very quickly though. My first few experiences were strange I have to admit and I almost wrote this whole thing off. A couple of guys added me as their 'favorite' (wow, somebody likes me!) and I chatted with one guy was really interested (he was my guinea pig to see how this whole thing works - sorry mate!) ?gave me his phone number to call him right away (I didn't call) and asked if I was going to be online the next day - only to shroud himself in silence when I said 'hello' to him the following day. Well matey, you don't know what you're missing and you will never find out my dear bathtub captain! Then there were a few others who emailed me or winked at me 'I'm interested in you' only to ignore my reply completely and made me feel stupid for replying in the first place. W anchors! Then I met this cute guy (hmm at least I thought so for a couple of days!) who told me was of Turkish origin and he was eager to give me his private email address right away. Didn't think anything of it - la di da di da, I am blonde after all - at least sometimes!) ?and we started chatting on skype. Why the heck is skype different than the chat on this site - at least for in the beginning it should have been ok ?- I don't know! Anyway, to cut a long story short, this guy sent me photos and bugged me for more photos of me. I didn't have ANY apart from 1000's at work so at the next wedding I asked my photographer to take a few shots of me. He did and dear 'Ben' received them. He declared his undying love for me (yeah right man - I wasn't born in a barn!) but I thought it was quite entertaining so I went along - baby! lol ?He told me he speaks Turkish and English but was born in the US. ?He wanted to talk to me on skype, ok, why not - Turkish accent my a***! He was freshly out of the jungle somewhere in Africa, probably still had the mud stuck on his plastic flip flops! His English was atrocious but very entertaining, he liked to wear topes (speed reducers in Mexico!) and loved pink tyres (ties), he was the only child of his parents (ahh you poor little mite!) had to lots of poper work (paper work) and always told me 'I love you more or I love you ditto' (More than what? - chocolate ice cream and what about the ditto bit, you even know what ditto means, honey?) Novelty was starting to wear off a bit after a few days but he made me laugh - a lot - so I thought I just play along for a bit longer. Nice break from a stressful day! I love languages so I asked him what does good night mean in Turkish - Tek meh was his reply (Tek meh where?) ?B******cks! So I prepared myself for the next chat. Had my wikipedia up and a free translation site and asked him where he studied - Amsterdam - 4 years! He didn't speak 1 word of Dutch so I decided to grill him on his Turkish a bit more. Hello was hola (ok!?! - thought it was merhaba!) and I love you was Mi do wa according to him. Yep, I used to have imaginary languages too as a little girl but I did grow out of that! After this chat episode it got a bit too dumb for me so I told him to go and do something nice to himself and hang out in a place where the sun doesn't shine! I blocked him and made his emails bounce back but unfortunately he's got my photos and no doubt "I" will be posted on another date site soon somewhere looking for 'Mr Right'. No harm done - to me at least and he actually did me a huge favor without knowing it by taking my mind away from other things - so 'Thank you 'Ben'! I actually did meet a really nice guy from this site, we have become friends so that's something very positive.How I rate online dating now??Well - certainly extremely entertaining, surprising, shocking,amazing (why has nobody come up with a 'dating IQ test' yet?) with the potential to meet some interesting people, make some great friends, ?and who knows - maybe even find 'a matching lid for the pot' one day! ??
lol i have had simular experiences.... the lure away from the site thing, only to find that they want to get a little lewed and then there were the two that wanted phone sex !! i tol them that there were appropiate sites for that.
lol i have had simular experiences.... the lure away from the site thing, only to find that they want to get a little lewed and then there were the two that wanted phone sex !! i tol them that there were appropiate sites for that.
sweetie weve all been there and have all been internet virgins . Unfortunately internet dating does not come with a manual so you have to learn through bitter experience and still, STILL every now and again you get caught out. I laugh at it now, as its the best way to be and the real horror stories i write about to expose the perpetrators. There are though, lest we get too cynical some lovely people online.... we just have to weed em out!!
sweetie weve all been there and have all been internet virgins . Unfortunately internet dating does not come with a manual so you have to learn through bitter experience and still, STILL every now and again you get caught out. I laugh at it now, as its the best way to be and the real horror stories i write about to expose the perpetrators. There are though, lest we get too cynical some lovely people online.... we just have to weed em out!!
Curious2078: ¿ ¿ ¿ I totally agree with you but the longer I'm on here (I'm still an 'online dating virgin" on the ''human internet cattle market" as I call it - the term being meant endearingly!) I get the hunch, that there are indeed some really nice and honest people on this site, who can offer a stimulating and interesting conversation, some with a great sense of humor - a rare commodity these days and (Men folk please take note!) - highly valued by many women if I may take the liberty to speak on behalf of my 'fellow females'¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ I would say entertainment undoubtedly exists on this site and the great thing is, ¿- it seems to get better with every day! Since I decided to forget finding my 'undying love of my life'¿online¿(for those who don't know me, I'm being sarcastic and I am taking the mickey of myself now) and swap it for a slightly sarcastic and more along the lines of 'entertain me' approach, I am starting to have a whale of a time on here and may even consider extending my membership when it runs out - and that would be thanks to some of the nice people I talked to and not the administrators - no offence!¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ Conyersguy :)¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ Thanks for the welcome and thanks for the compliment! Not sure if it was meant in general or for me - so I decided to flatter myself tonight and put the shoe on my own foot rather than pass it around! ¿¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ As to willing visitors (lol) I guess you're right! There were a few trying to grab a free vacation or trying to get laid, if not with me at least there is a pretty high chance that there will be plenty of other willing females around who'd do pretty much anything after a few Tequilas ... ¿As a matter of fact the last one tried only a few minutes ago and wanted to get frisky after 2 mins of chatting - Right darling - you picked the wrong one! lol) ¿ ¿ ¿ I may have a big mouth sometimes, but I do have certain morals and I stick to them no matter what other people think. My grandad used to tell me "Girl, always remember one thing, you can lose anything you have in life in a flash but the 2 things nobody can ever take away from you is your self respect and your knowledge" He's 100 % right and I totally agree, bless him! ¿ ¿ ¿ Would I be scared if someone would come down and try it on? The answer is NO! I used to treat a rugby team in England and let me tell you, I made grown man cry (admittedly in pain) ¿ ¿ ¿ Joking aside, if someone is genuinely interested and wants to meet, he will book a hotel room and agree to meet up for a drink or a meal and take it from there. If it doesn't work out, nothing would be lost and he would still have a nice vacation - I guess its one of the perks I can offer by living in a tourist destination!¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ I know I can hold my own very well when it comes to verbal 'fighting' without having to yell or lower the language - should it ever get physical without my approval - we do have cocodrilos here and we're in low season! ¿ ¿ ¿ As to your experiences with the 20 something's I am sure you can handle them very well in a suave and maybe slightly teasing manner. ¿ ¿ ¿ I do have a confession to make, maybe anyone can help enlighten me (I am serious!): ¿ ¿ ¿ I did email a guy who put a list of all his assets on his profile rather than any information about himself as an actual person. He looked a nice, distinguished guy and it just puzzled me, it its all true what he is saying he would most likely have women camping outside his properties. I was (and still am by the way) genuinely intrigued as to why anyone would to this, so I asked him straight out why he was 'selling himself so cheap' (maybe a bit too aggressive?) Was it ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ a) because he needs an ego boost? (maybe belated midlife crisis?) ¿ ¿ ¿ b) a very clever marketing ploy to attract more clients? (he said he had a beauty clinic) ¿ ¿ ¿ c) to get laid? (a la 'take away style' so he didn't have to do the 'foreplay of having to meet ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿¿¿anyone at a bar or anyhwere else, he can just invite them to his 'assets' and take a nibble)¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ d) because he really thinks anyone would take him serious who is looking for 'that one person'? ¿ ¿ ¿ One or more of the above must have hit the nail on the head I guess, because he wasn't man enough to reply and put me out of my misery. I know it comes across as a bit harsh (well maybe a lot, I do admit that) but how else can one get an answer without having to ask these questions outright? ¿ ¿ ¿ I am still intrigued though, no kidding, but I guess I will never find out the real honest answer.¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿
Curious2078: ¿ ¿ ¿ I totally agree with you but the longer I'm on here (I'm still an 'online dating virgin" on the ''human internet cattle market" as I call it - the term being meant endearingly!) I get the hunch, that there are indeed some really nice and honest people on this site, who can offer a stimulating and interesting conversation, some with a great sense of humor - a rare commodity these days and (Men folk please take note!) - highly valued by many women if I may take the liberty to speak on behalf of my 'fellow females'¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ I would say entertainment undoubtedly exists on this site and the great thing is, ¿- it seems to get better with every day! Since I decided to forget finding my 'undying love of my life'¿online¿(for those who don't know me, I'm being sarcastic and I am taking the mickey of myself now) and swap it for a slightly sarcastic and more along the lines of 'entertain me' approach, I am starting to have a whale of a time on here and may even consider extending my membership when it runs out - and that would be thanks to some of the nice people I talked to and not the administrators - no offence!¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ Conyersguy :)¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ Thanks for the welcome and thanks for the compliment! Not sure if it was meant in general or for me - so I decided to flatter myself tonight and put the shoe on my own foot rather than pass it around! ¿¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ As to willing visitors (lol) I guess you're right! There were a few trying to grab a free vacation or trying to get laid, if not with me at least there is a pretty high chance that there will be plenty of other willing females around who'd do pretty much anything after a few Tequilas ... ¿As a matter of fact the last one tried only a few minutes ago and wanted to get frisky after 2 mins of chatting - Right darling - you picked the wrong one! lol) ¿ ¿ ¿ I may have a big mouth sometimes, but I do have certain morals and I stick to them no matter what other people think. My grandad used to tell me "Girl, always remember one thing, you can lose anything you have in life in a flash but the 2 things nobody can ever take away from you is your self respect and your knowledge" He's 100 % right and I totally agree, bless him! ¿ ¿ ¿ Would I be scared if someone would come down and try it on? The answer is NO! I used to treat a rugby team in England and let me tell you, I made grown man cry (admittedly in pain) ¿ ¿ ¿ Joking aside, if someone is genuinely interested and wants to meet, he will book a hotel room and agree to meet up for a drink or a meal and take it from there. If it doesn't work out, nothing would be lost and he would still have a nice vacation - I guess its one of the perks I can offer by living in a tourist destination!¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ I know I can hold my own very well when it comes to verbal 'fighting' without having to yell or lower the language - should it ever get physical without my approval - we do have cocodrilos here and we're in low season! ¿ ¿ ¿ As to your experiences with the 20 something's I am sure you can handle them very well in a suave and maybe slightly teasing manner. ¿ ¿ ¿ I do have a confession to make, maybe anyone can help enlighten me (I am serious!): ¿ ¿ ¿ I did email a guy who put a list of all his assets on his profile rather than any information about himself as an actual person. He looked a nice, distinguished guy and it just puzzled me, it its all true what he is saying he would most likely have women camping outside his properties. I was (and still am by the way) genuinely intrigued as to why anyone would to this, so I asked him straight out why he was 'selling himself so cheap' (maybe a bit too aggressive?) Was it ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ a) because he needs an ego boost? (maybe belated midlife crisis?) ¿ ¿ ¿ b) a very clever marketing ploy to attract more clients? (he said he had a beauty clinic) ¿ ¿ ¿ c) to get laid? (a la 'take away style' so he didn't have to do the 'foreplay of having to meet ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿¿¿anyone at a bar or anyhwere else, he can just invite them to his 'assets' and take a nibble)¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ d) because he really thinks anyone would take him serious who is looking for 'that one person'? ¿ ¿ ¿ One or more of the above must have hit the nail on the head I guess, because he wasn't man enough to reply and put me out of my misery. I know it comes across as a bit harsh (well maybe a lot, I do admit that) but how else can one get an answer without having to ask these questions outright? ¿ ¿ ¿ I am still intrigued though, no kidding, but I guess I will never find out the real honest answer.¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿
Just want to throw in my two cents on the matter of lousy grammar, rotten spelling and the obvious lack of intelligence--and abundance of overall ignorance--I've run into on other dating sites.¿ It's actually a pleasure to go into¿a forum/blog here and read the comments.¿ Not to mention how¿interesting and informative many of them are. Do keep up the "rants."¿ If I get nothing else out of joining this site, I'll get entertained. ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿
Just want to throw in my two cents on the matter of lousy grammar, rotten spelling and the obvious lack of intelligence--and abundance of overall ignorance--I've run into on other dating sites.¿ It's actually a pleasure to go into¿a forum/blog here and read the comments.¿ Not to mention how¿interesting and informative many of them are. Do keep up the "rants."¿ If I get nothing else out of joining this site, I'll get entertained. ¿ ¿ ¿ ¿
Let me add my welcome.:) We need more bright writers. . I was going to write you to see if you get as many "Why don't I come to Cancun (and nail you while I'm there)?" as I would suspect????¿¿ Well???? . And I confess......I have let a couple of 20-something "Hungarian" women continue telling me they love me for a feww days, just to see what and when the hook would show. :):)
Let me add my welcome.:) We need more bright writers. . I was going to write you to see if you get as many "Why don't I come to Cancun (and nail you while I'm there)?" as I would suspect????¿¿ Well???? . And I confess......I have let a couple of 20-something "Hungarian" women continue telling me they love me for a feww days, just to see what and when the hook would show. :):)
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