I'm new to this site. I joined this week... and made the commitment to be a full member ('cause I'm an in-for-a-penny, in-for-a-pound kinda girl). II've met some wonderful men through internet dating... but haven't met a keeper. My girlfriend just recently met a marvelous, quality gentleman through MM... so here I am, following in her footsteps.
So why don't I feel that I belong? Bear with me...
My upbringing was solid middle class. I grew up in beautiful Northern NJ to 2 working parents, 1 car and a split-level house on a 1/4 of an acre. Solid - nothing fancy - but my folks raised me to work HARD, save my money, only buy quality items and to believe in myself. I got a good degree (which my folks paid for - I'll be forever grateful for that) and began my working career. I was doing well - making 2x my age, zero debt and rocketing up when I met (and later married) my now ex-husband.
He was someone a lot like me - he scrimped and saved - came from a mill town in Rhode Island - got an excellent education and up the ladder he/we went. The money came and we saved it. And saved it. We lived below our means - never flashy - but for a nice house in a good school district...
I digress - you don't care to hear my live story: sorry!
So flash forward to today: I'm divorced now over 4 years. No drama with my ex. Own my own home, cars and stuff. I am a stay at home mom. I really am the girl next door... except that I don't need Prince Charming to come and "save" me.
Dating is difficult. Men either see me as a meal ticket: Ding! Next... Or they are very uncomfortable with me having more stuff/whatever than they do and the relationship dissolves quickly. Or they have as much money/stuff/whatever as I do (or more) but they have egos the size of Montana and entitlement issues to match. (My apologies to the denizens of lovely Montana...)
I'm here looking for my equal. A man whose motives I won't doubt. But all I seem to see here are men looking for a sugar momma... workaholic guys looking for arm candy ... or guys with the ego/keep-up-with-the-Joneses attitude. I've been there, done that (my ex was the last two) and I don't want that any more.
I realize that you don't have to be a millionare to be here... it is just a hook, really. But how do I find a good man... a man who leads a balanced life... who has his own money and doesn't covet mine...
Do I belong here? Should I stay?
I'm new to this site. I joined this week... and made the commitment to be a full member ('cause I'm an in-for-a-penny, in-for-a-pound kinda girl). II've met some wonderful men through internet dating... but haven't met a keeper. My girlfriend just recently met a marvelous, quality gentleman through MM... so here I am, following in her footsteps.
So why don't I feel that I belong? Bear with me...
My upbringing was solid middle class. I grew up in beautiful Northern NJ to 2 working parents, 1 car and a split-level house on a 1/4 of an acre. Solid - nothing fancy - but my folks raised me to work HARD, save my money, only buy quality items and to believe in myself. I got a good degree (which my folks paid for - I'll be forever grateful for that) and began my working career. I was doing well - making 2x my age, zero debt and rocketing up when I met (and later married) my now ex-husband.
He was someone a lot like me - he scrimped and saved - came from a mill town in Rhode Island - got an excellent education and up the ladder he/we went. The money came and we saved it. And saved it. We lived below our means - never flashy - but for a nice house in a good school district...
I digress - you don't care to hear my live story: sorry!
So flash forward to today: I'm divorced now over 4 years. No drama with my ex. Own my own home, cars and stuff. I am a stay at home mom. I really am the girl next door... except that I don't need Prince Charming to come and "save" me.
Dating is difficult. Men either see me as a meal ticket: Ding! Next... Or they are very uncomfortable with me having more stuff/whatever than they do and the relationship dissolves quickly. Or they have as much money/stuff/whatever as I do (or more) but they have egos the size of Montana and entitlement issues to match. (My apologies to the denizens of lovely Montana...)
I'm here looking for my equal. A man whose motives I won't doubt. But all I seem to see here are men looking for a sugar momma... workaholic guys looking for arm candy ... or guys with the ego/keep-up-with-the-Joneses attitude. I've been there, done that (my ex was the last two) and I don't want that any more.
I realize that you don't have to be a millionare to be here... it is just a hook, really. But how do I find a good man... a man who leads a balanced life... who has his own money and doesn't covet mine...
I agree with Curious. I signed up on a couple of sites recently to see what it was about since I haven't really been in the dating scene for a REALLY long time. I've already closed accounts on a few and the other two I'm on is because I'm paid through a certain date. I viewed person after person and it could be that I'm ridiculously picky, but I'm not seeing much of interest and the ones that I sent interest to, of course have no interest in me. So I figure, this online "stuff" is fine for random conversation, but it definitely isn't where I plan to find "the one". If something is meant to happen, I suppose it will happen regardless of the platform.
I agree with Curious. I signed up on a couple of sites recently to see what it was about since I haven't really been in the dating scene for a REALLY long time. I've already closed accounts on a few and the other two I'm on is because I'm paid through a certain date. I viewed person after person and it could be that I'm ridiculously picky, but I'm not seeing much of interest and the ones that I sent interest to, of course have no interest in me. So I figure, this online "stuff" is fine for random conversation, but it definitely isn't where I plan to find "the one". If something is meant to happen, I suppose it will happen regardless of the platform.
ExtraTallBlondie, Happy you are here, and I hope you stay. As I say on my page, to win the lottery you must buy a ticket. Don't give up 5 minutes before the miracle happens ;-D.............. BeWell
ExtraTallBlondie,
Happy you are here, and I hope you stay. As I say on my page, to win the lottery you must buy a ticket. Don't give up 5 minutes before the miracle happens ;-D.............. BeWell
BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D
What stuff we have or not shouldn't be the attraction we seek. More like the offerings we hope to share with someone imperfectly special as we are. Be patient and have fun, the reason we are here is to experience lessons we have yet to learn Don
What stuff we have or not shouldn't be the attraction we seek. More like the offerings we hope to share with someone imperfectly special as we are. Be patient and have fun, the reason we are here is to experience lessons we have yet to learn
Don
The answer to your question, my friend is, ultimately, up to you. Most of us here on the blogs have found nothing [as in nobody] worth latching on to, regardless of how many months or years we've been here.
But....most of us here on the blogs have been here for a long while and find the communication on the blogs worth sticking around for.
I sincerely hope you have more luck here than most of us here on the blogs have had. And I hope you stick around the blogs! You sound like a lady who would have a good deal to contribute to our "mess of words."
The very best to you on MM.
Pat
The answer to your question, my friend is, ultimately, up to you. Most of us here on the blogs have found nothing [as in nobody] worth latching on to, regardless of how many months or years we've been here.
But....most of us here on the blogs have been here for a long while and find the communication on the blogs worth sticking around for.
I sincerely hope you have more luck here than most of us here on the blogs have had. And I hope you stick around the blogs! You sound like a lady who would have a good deal to contribute to our "mess of words."
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