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Posted on Wed, Nov 20, 2013 17:43

So you've found someone you want to do this long distance relationship thing what's the next step? One of the challenges with this relationship is maintaining the connection and with it the trust required to sustain a relationship when the two participants don't get to see each other day in and day out. When two people are together for a sustained period of time, their activities normally fall into some sort of routine. This routine helps form the basis for connection and trust that is needed for deeper intimacy. So you and your partner need to establish a long distance routine as a starting point for maintaining a connection and building trust.

A potential obstacle to overcome with this is timezone differences. If the two of you are separated by more than 1 timezone, you may find this challenging. This is another time when distance is a factor in finding a significant other (see my previous entry). Timezone may not make a big difference if you're far enough away but that presents another set of problems.

So let's assume the two of you have reasonably similar work schedules that allow you both some overlapping free time on a fairly daily basis. You need to use that time to create shared experiences. This can be as simple as a phone call (better yet, Skype), playing a computer game online (it must support voice chat), watching a video or TV show together (while on Skype), reading to one to another... you get the idea. The important things to remember are #1 – you communicate while doing it and #2 – you stick to a schedule. Communicating keeps the connection you need to maintain and keeping to the schedule establishes the trust required.

If the two of you keep reasonably similar sleep schedules, I definitely encourage a regular routine of talking for a few minutes when you wake and when you go to bed. This is a great routine for creating connection and trust. Point of order: texting doesn't count as real communication, though it is good to use now and then through your day to let your partner know you're thinking about them. Use emails to communicate information that your partner may need to retain (such as travel itineraries, love poems, etc.). And remember, your partner should not find out about your interesting news via social media! That has a negative impact on sustaining intimacy and creating connection.

These practices can help you maintain a long distance for a long period of time but it should not be used without a long term plan in place to be together full time or with regular in-person visits.



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Posted on Sun, Dec 08, 2013 17:12

wow I love this tip is really very educativea, and helping!


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Posted on Tue, Dec 03, 2013 04:48

I agree, it´s quite difficult to keep a long distance relationship.

 I already "kissed" and even "married" two frogs, and couldn´t find my knight.

In Spain instead of "Soulmate" we do use the expression "half orange", but I think mine has been squeezed in a Fanta!!.

Keep on trying anyway.

 



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Posted on Tue, Nov 26, 2013 13:33

You have given some very good points to online dating. You must have been at this for sometime? I agree, it is quite challenging. As they say, you have to kiss many frogs, to find the "right" one! I still am search ing for my Knight in Shing Armor! Thanks for your insight./ Joyce



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Posted on Wed, Nov 20, 2013 19:09

You're very welcome!



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Posted on Wed, Nov 20, 2013 18:53

Thank you, very informative for me.

 



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