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EmmaSteed
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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 07:15

I think that any older man who is looking for a brood mare in here aka.. young and beautiful woman for child bearing is doing the lady and his child a disservice, especially if he is divorced and has a family living elsewhere. If he left one family, he will surely leave another. Is it ego that drives his need to procreate? What kids wants an OLD DAD.. that is so embarrassing for them.. think again guys.. its so selfish..


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Posted on Tue, Jun 13, 2006 04:44

I have to agree with Emma here. We are not really questioning the fact that this man is a good husband, a good lover or a good father. The fact is that it is selfish to want to have a child when you are pushing 50. There is a reason why woman can't have children then, you aren't supposed to. Just because you CAN, doesnt' mean you should! My son has a friend whose dad is in his 70's. They all like his father BUT they always come home and talk about how embarrassing it is to have a father thats the same age as their grandfathers. I think that the one lady who had a lovely father but he passed away- my point exactly. Do you want to worry about your Dad dying before he can walk you down the isle? What about coming on the ice at the father son hockey games? THIs is totally about the CHILD and NOT about you the parent. Willprt.. the fact that you THINK every word here is untrue, just shows the fantasy world that you live in. Please save me from your "you old bag" speech. I saw the postings.. we are the same age.. hahahaha. .C


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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2006 21:58

OK here it goes. This is basic evolution/psychology. What kind of men are woman attracted to? What kind of woman are men attracted to? Woman, biologically speaking, are attracted to a man who can provide for her and their children. Think about it. Men are the hunters and providers and woman bear the children and take care of "domestic" responsibilities. Whether you like to admit it or not, this was the natural process of the human race up until the 1960's. It was in the woman's best interest for survival of herself and children if she chose a man who was well off enough to be able to provide all neccessities and extrvagances. Men like this, throughout history were either older or very powerful. Men are attracted to beautiful woman. Why? Because beauty conveys youth and youth coveys fertility and men, regardless of age never completely lose the ability to bear children. And, as nature has ingrained it in men, it is natural for him to want to spead his special concoction. And, because he still can, he seeks the most desirable, young woman who would be healthy enough to bear his children.


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Posted on Sat, Jun 10, 2006 18:47

I think it's totally unfair to children.


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Posted on Wed, May 31, 2006 23:03

I don't think the issue should be about the age of the dad, it's about his presence and commitment to his children. If it doesn't work out with the mother of his children, and he moves on to find another love and has more children, then the true test to his manliness and worth is the level of involvement with all of his children's lives.


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Posted on Tue, May 30, 2006 23:17

I think a man should have as many children as he can afford, if that is what he desires. I do not see Donald Trump slowing down. Just because a marriage ends in divorce does not mean he also divorced his kids. In my opinion it is not ego that drives the need to procreate, it is his new love. He desire a family with her, she deserves a family too. All the older males I have notice that desire to start a family with a woman of childbearing age, have no children. As far as the kids, being embarrassed is a far stretch as long as he or she is loved and taken care of that is all that matters.


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Posted on Sun, May 28, 2006 17:01

From experience!! I married someone 15 years older than me. It worked 10+ years. What happened? You all will get a kick out of this one. He found someone older! Yes, that's right, and she had two children still at home. I think age is just a number. From experience, men mature later than most women anyway. Sorry guys! No bashing from me. That's why God made us all different.


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Posted on Sun, May 28, 2006 11:33

Why are so many women afraid to show their photo when posting a blog .Is it maybe because they are insecure about themselvs and their ability to attract members of the opposite sex either young or virile and old . Last 8 women bloggers were insecure "no shows".


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Posted on Sun, May 28, 2006 11:21

Just because you won't buy their anymore, dosen't mean I ever did. No offense but do all women think that young women are naive and stupid? That is simple not true. Sure there are some younger women who allow men to control them, but there are also "old birds" that do the same. You might want to educate yourself before speaking on a subject you know nothing about. I'm tired of women putting other women down!!


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Posted on Sun, May 28, 2006 11:17

Just because a man is divorced with children dosen't mean he just left them. First of all, if you are unhappy in your marriage, you shouldn't stay in it. That's doing the children more harm. What if the man's wife leaves him? No one should judge anyone. It dosen't matter if the guy is 60, and has a 2 year old. If people feel like it's the right choice for them, let them. Oh, and for all you women out there that think women who are younger don't have a mind, I'm here to prove you wrong. You may want to think that older men can control ALL younger women, but it's not true. No one is going to control me. I don't care who he is.


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Posted on Sun, May 28, 2006 10:47

Well I have to agree in some ways. I think its not fair on the child if the dad is really old. Although guys in their 30's and early 40's are not old so thats ok. Soo hope I don't offend people here.


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Posted on Sat, May 27, 2006 04:36

so lets say you are now 43. You want to meet someone in here to have a baby. Lets say all that takes you 7 or 8 months to meet. Decide to get married. Another year or two to get preggers.. 45 / 46 congrats.. you are having a baby.. Your kid is 10.. you are at baseball ,hockey and the other dad's are 34, 36.. your dad is 55... yeah.. a wee bit of an embarrassment.. How do I know? I experienced it. You know what.. if you fall in love and you really want to have kids - god bless you.. but some people in here, said that they are here to find someone YOUNG because they WANT to have a child. Jealousy has NOTHING to do with it. If I wanted a child there are Many out there who need to be taken care of. I already have enough of my own.. i am talking about the egocentric NEED to want to reproduce more, and more.


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Posted on Fri, May 26, 2006 23:07

Did Emma Peel and John Steed get married? 8-)


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Posted on Fri, May 26, 2006 19:08

Now isn't that being a bit judgemental on men? Not all men who have been divorced with children shall divorce again. I can think of a few men i've known over the years (as friends or business associates) who have remarried and had a second family and stayed with them until the end. Even know of a few who married three times. Sometimes it's isn't the man who instigates the divorce. There could have been circumstances that we don't know of. Women can be abusive too. They cheat on husbands also. Perhaps some men simply wish to have a second chance. They might have realised that they screwed up the first time by not spending enough time with their children and simply want to try to do it right. If a man left the first family who is to say he shall leave the second? I am sure that there are many who might. But I don't personally think it is the norm in society. As for the old dad. Being a father doesn't have anything do to with age actually. It has to do with the person and their desires to help raise those children. Sometimes the older fathers make far better fathers. They are more matured and have a great knowledge to impart upon their children. They might want to spend more time with the children and perhaps even be retired or semi retired and can devote a great deal of time and attention on those children. Of the people i know who have had an older father i can't think of one who has ever regretted having an older man for a father. It's not selfish. It's merely a desire of the heart. Though mind you at 111 i don't think you need to worry about it. You're way too old to have more children. (couldn't resist given the age you've posted as yours)


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Posted on Fri, May 26, 2006 17:42

You are right! It is better that the children never be born... :o( What do you care anyway, you are 111...


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Posted on Fri, May 26, 2006 16:34

well emmasteed let ue set the record where is is supposed to be. firt off not all men left there wifes. there are a lot of wifes that leave there husbands. now as for an older guy wanting to start a new family there is nothing wrong with that. provided he can support them and love them. i am 44 and have 3 kids myself ages are 7,9,10. and i assure you of this...they are not emarressed of me or my age. now if it is so wrong that an older guy and a younger woman are with each other them please tell my why you see it so much. i will bet at least half the time the younger woman goes after the guy. did you ever think that the younger woman wants an older guy. older men are (for the most part) more settled down, more responsable. you may not like it and that is your choice. there is one saying you might want to think about here....live and let live.


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Posted on Fri, May 26, 2006 16:31

Define "older"


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