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Posted on Wed, Jan 23, 2013 16:36

Quoting Conyersguy:

Since most answers were from women (but still accurate, in spite of that) :):)  I thought I'd add my two cents' worth.   

 

Jenknee is right, especially about newbies.   They don't have the ability to focus.  AND a huge percentage are just scammers.  Look for the ones who ARE real.

 

Silver is, just, well, Silver. 

 

And Dekan, Hope, Cruzin, and Frannie ALL have accuracy in their statements, from their own experiences.

 

Rmac is VERY right.  Until you KNOW them personally, and value their opinion, because youhave found it to have value, over time.....don't take it personally.   Whether thay say you are their 'Queen' or you're a scum-sucking dog; neither opinion matters until they matter.  Don't let THEIR day ruin YOUR day.  

And you never know what crossed THEIR path today....An old girlfriend or wife they regret letting go came by, so they are lonely, and reach out to you with sincerity.    That old mate who cheated on them said something vile to the kids about her, so she chewed my head off, and I don't even know her !!!   Maybe he DID think you were all that, but the lady at the checkout counter smiled yesterday evening and started THEIR path together.   

 

And remember this is only the 'real' people.   IMHO, no more than 15 % on here are real.   50% haven't logged on since Clinton was President.   Most of the active, live accounts really are scammers or players.   Tha only leaves a small percentage of real AND normal people. And 90% of THEM are just not compatible, for good reasons (smoking, alcohol differences, education and intellect differences, religious differences, lack of physical chemistry, not letting Max in bed with us):):) to even the silliest of reasons (I met a nice woman, who unfortunately looked STARTLINGLY like my ex-wife.....the new lady was a good woman, but I didn't want to be reminded of the ex every time I looked in her eyes) like accents, what car you drive, etc.

 

And remember the best part about the 'vanishers.'    They showed you this trait early, before you became emotionally invested.  And this is true of all flaws, and even the silly rainouts. It's hard sometimes, but don't regret learning of them; be glad you learned it when you did, instead of much later.

 

There really are some good and decent people out there......we just have to find ONE.  If it is important to you, keep a positive attitude, and keep looking.   That's what I do.

 

-CG-



I simply ADORE you my dear friend! You couldn't have been more succinct and precise!

 

I am glad to see you back on here.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Wed, Jan 23, 2013 16:28

Quoting Diana3316:

Diane~

Lololo......

 

After being married for 44 years, a man took a careful look at his wife one day and said, "44 years ago we had a cheap apartment, a cheap car, slept on a sofa bed and watched a 10-inch black and white TV, but I got to sleep with a hot 25 year old girl every night.

 

Now I have a $1,500,000 home, a $85,000 car, a nice big king bed and multiple plasma screen TVs, but I'm sleeping with a 65 year old woman.  It seems to me that you're not holding up your side of things."

 

The wife being a very reasonable woman said, "Go out and find a hot 25 year old girl....and I'll make sure you are once again living in a cheap apartment, driving a cheap car, sleeping on a sofa bed and watching a 10-inch black and white TV!"

 

:)))))



Lady Di3316!

 

BRILLIANT!!!!! LOLOLOL!!!!! 

 

Thanks for the laugh, girlfriend!!

 

Liv.



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Posted on Wed, Jan 23, 2013 16:19

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

HI JOMO... 

 

I found your thoughts on logistic hurdles extremely enlightening. I do believe there are times when we may speak to someone we were intially attracted to, but, soon into conversing we realise it won't work for whatever reason. Then, it is easier to simply not contact them as it isn't a pleasant conversation usually for either parties. 

 

I felt FORCED to explain to a man recently WHY I would not meet him out. I will be writing a blog to see what the men think regarding how I should have handled it. It was on a different dating site, but still online dating! The man was very insulting. This and other occurances have left me very confused as to how a woman should handle these things. I have many questions for my men friends! 

 

I did wish to say I am not in agreement with your #4... JOMO, we all run across "jerks" on both sides of the fence, but to say most people are crazy so we are single is not true.. It is funny, and it might be factual in my case, but it simply is not true! ;) 

 

 



Hope,

 

You know you are wonderful and I adore you! That man being insulting because of your kind consideration not to do the vanishing act, was a HUGE blessing in disguise! He hasn't met you yet.....hmmm imagine what he would be like if he had actually met you, dated you or worse still you were in a relationship with him and you wanted to end it...I shudder! Thank God it happened when it did.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Wed, Jan 23, 2013 16:12

Quoting jomo1983:

Hi Di,

 

 

 

 

 

Well I doubt I can answer your question satsifactorily. My guess is that they lacked the native intelligence to see just exactly what they had on their hands in talking to you. However, since I have both experienced this phenomenon and been guilty of it, I will now offer my reasons.

 

 

 

 

 

I will preface my reasons/excuses/rationalizations by saying I really doubt most people want to know the real reasons why someone decides not to continue pursuing another. Usually, it isnt fun to hear.

 

 

 

 

 

1. A relationship wasnt ever really practical due to logistical hurdles like distance, kids, etc. Once the conversation turned from banter to actual relationship talk, this became inescapable.

 

 

 

 

 

2. You talked about your ex so much I began to wonder if I should give Nancy Grace your number.

 

 

 

 

 

3. Honestly, another conversation seems more promising right now and I feel slimy pursuing more than one at a time.

 

 

 

 

 

4. There are good reasons why most people are single at our age. You might want to look up "batshit crazy" when you have a moment.



Jomo,

 

I agree with most of your above points as being plausible explanations for this sort of rude carry on by men who chat up ladies and then do the vanishing act, but I take exception with your point N0. 2.

 

If you don't like them to speak of their ex (and I am mindful here that we might need to qualify 'so much'), then you never ask them how their day or week went because it might just entail talking about the ex!

 

An easy way out of that situation, Jomo, is to seek and date only VIRGINS - they don't have any ex to whinge about, LOL! Well, we once had a wonderful 'VIRGEN' (I think that was how she spelt the word), but we were all so interested in her wellbeing that she got scared off the site, LOL -  the old timers here will remember her. She would make a great match for those ex-phobic guys - that way, you won't have to fight the temptation to give Nancy Grace her number, LOL!

 

On a serious note, dates that vanish for whatever reason are not really worth anyone's time or energy - these are spineless, thoughtless and callous individuals who have no qualms with toying with people's emotions. Best not to invest one's emotions on anyone early on in a chit-chat. Just go with the flow, enjoy the jokes and see how it goes. My motto is "Date like a man!" Nothing invested apart from a few minutes and nothing lost when they go up in smoke, LOL!

 

Relationships are never a bed of roses! They are hard work.

 

Liv.

 



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Posted on Wed, Jan 23, 2013 15:47

Quoting diane000:

You are so right, Liv. I haven't laughed so hard as I have at some of the goings on here. Maybe the perspectives age and experience give us actually do make high school more fun, the 2nd time around. 

Thanks,

Diane

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Wanna go to the mall later? My mom will give us a ride...



Hi Diane,

 

Aren't you so funny? You are a cool lady, Diane! Yeah, I will like to go shopping with ya later. Speaking of shopping malls, this site is one big shopping mall with loads of window shopping going on, but very few actual transactions being done. LOL. It is an amusing place, believe me, Diane.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Mon, Jan 21, 2013 19:49

Quoting diane000:

"I'm willing to be wrong." ?!? Dakota, I speak for a large part of the human race when I thank you. More people,  willing to be wrong, would mean a great deal less adversity. In your willingness to be wrong, you evoke a philosophy that is so right.

Respectfully,

Diane



Thanks you diane000.  I try to be fair to all, it just doesn't seem all are fair.



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Posted on Mon, Jan 21, 2013 05:37

You're so right, Sparkle. I am learning my way. Thank you for caring.

Best,

DI



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Posted on Sun, Jan 20, 2013 20:00

It seems that when they suddenly stop, there could be a number of things:  1) They found someone else to amuse their time or 2) they already have a significant other who might have discovered their game.  On the internet, it is too easy to "blow in and blow away". 

 



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Posted on Sun, Jan 20, 2013 08:22

Quoting Dakota35:

SL,  I know you and I haven't always seen eye to eye, but I didn't get where CG insulted you...he just said you were you.  I've always valued CG's opinion as he seems to be a very intelligent man.  SL if you two want to duke it out, that's cool, just invite me...I'm into that. :)  I'll need a couple of days to get all the bets placed, so please give me advance notice.  Seriously, CG didn't say anything bad about you...you're getting bent out of shape for nothing.  Am I missing something???  I'm willing to be wrong.

 

 



"I'm willing to be wrong." ?!? Dakota, I speak for a large part of the human race when I thank you. More people,  willing to be wrong, would mean a great deal less adversity. In your willingness to be wrong, you evoke a philosophy that is so right.

Respectfully,

Diane



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Posted on Sat, Jan 19, 2013 12:49

Quoting Conyersguy:

Since most answers were from women (but still accurate, in spite of that) :):)  I thought I'd add my two cents' worth.   

 

Jenknee is right, especially about newbies.   They don't have the ability to focus.  AND a huge percentage are just scammers.  Look for the ones who ARE real.

 

Silver is, just, well, Silver. 

 

And Dekan, Hope, Cruzin, and Frannie ALL have accuracy in their statements, from their own experiences.

 

Rmac is VERY right.  Until you KNOW them personally, and value their opinion, because youhave found it to have value, over time.....don't take it personally.   Whether thay say you are their 'Queen' or you're a scum-sucking dog; neither opinion matters until they matter.  Don't let THEIR day ruin YOUR day.  

And you never know what crossed THEIR path today....An old girlfriend or wife they regret letting go came by, so they are lonely, and reach out to you with sincerity.    That old mate who cheated on them said something vile to the kids about her, so she chewed my head off, and I don't even know her !!!   Maybe he DID think you were all that, but the lady at the checkout counter smiled yesterday evening and started THEIR path together.   

 

And remember this is only the 'real' people.   IMHO, no more than 15 % on here are real.   50% haven't logged on since Clinton was President.   Most of the active, live accounts really are scammers or players.   Tha only leaves a small percentage of real AND normal people. And 90% of THEM are just not compatible, for good reasons (smoking, alcohol differences, education and intellect differences, religious differences, lack of physical chemistry, not letting Max in bed with us):):) to even the silliest of reasons (I met a nice woman, who unfortunately looked STARTLINGLY like my ex-wife.....the new lady was a good woman, but I didn't want to be reminded of the ex every time I looked in her eyes) like accents, what car you drive, etc.

 

And remember the best part about the 'vanishers.'    They showed you this trait early, before you became emotionally invested.  And this is true of all flaws, and even the silly rainouts. It's hard sometimes, but don't regret learning of them; be glad you learned it when you did, instead of much later.

 

There really are some good and decent people out there......we just have to find ONE.  If it is important to you, keep a positive attitude, and keep looking.   That's what I do.

 

-CG-



Awww CG...but the one who affectionately refers to me as "Scumsucking female dog", only needs $50k to finish medical school (in that country neither Google nor I have ever heard of) and to pay for that surgery his aunt so desparately needs...Are you trying to rattle my faith in my man?

Actually, you are absolutely right. I am just new and overly sensitive. I am so accustomed to being one of the boys, I am startled any guy wouldn't want me as their new best friend. Forgive me for boasting-I am a great wing person. But I realize that my life experience is different and my actions might be misperceived. I need to own my part of any misunderstanding and get on with it. 

Thank you so much for your advice.

Diane



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Posted on Sat, Jan 19, 2013 12:14

Quoting Mtnsunny:

Hi Diane000..

This is hear say, but I was told that as much as 60% of the men on here are married.  They are bored at home or at the office, in a loveless marriage and looking for any communication.  Most stop abruptly because they either moved on to a more interesting catch or have to shut down because momma got to close.

I had one such encounter...amazing man (supposedly) out of California, we got along famously and were going to meet...then bamm, he was gone.  I did do a back ground check on his company and it was legit but I'm guessing he was married.  Sad to say, we give our hearts in trust, a little piece of it gets stolen every time we are hurt, but I am a true believer that real love exists, it's a matter of time.  You will know it when you meet and the same for the rest of us.  Then all those little pieces stolen, are whole again.

Hang in there, were all here with you..it's coffee hour(or happy hour) all the time around here to let your hair down.

Mtnsunny

 



Hey Mtnsunny!

I am a widow and was in a very flawed but very loving relationship for 20 years so I am a true believer in deep and abiding love. And I didn't give those guys my heart, so no harm but perhaps an ettiquette foul. I wouldn't know the rules on that...and being a southern woman, I hate not knowing the rules...if only to break them with a bit of grace...

I am so sorry that man did that to you. I can only say that living well and looking good are truly the best revenge. You seem like such a nice person and you are obviously gorgeous. On top of that, you are not in the wrong here. Every morning, you wake up and get to be you, a sensetive, compassionate, beautiful woman. And everything morning he wakes up and has to be him...a lowlife, lying skunk...just sayin'...

Hugs,

Diane



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Posted on Sat, Jan 19, 2013 11:46

Quoting Windrider735:

Hi Lady Di...   Just write 'em off as a mystery...sometimes searching too hard for answers is like catching a skunk and lifting it's tail to see where it keeps it's ammunition! You know it couldn't possibly be you, so it has to be some sort of short circuit in them. Their loss...your gain, not having it happen further into the dialog.

Hello Windrider,

Actually, you made me realize why such silliness bothered me, in the first place. It IS partially me...which is ok...it is said that one of the things we need for happiness is "something to do". I will try to be satisfied with the joy my road to perfection will provide...I have a lot to do for a very long time...Also, I am having to learn that basic etiquette seems different onlne...all part of the learning process...

Thanks,

Diane



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Posted on Sat, Jan 19, 2013 11:36

Quoting Livnlov:

Di,

 

I completely agree with you, but still find myself LOL! Just ignore the boys; sieve the boys from the men, but above all focus on what is important - YOU!

 

Enjoy the banters and treat them on their face value and as nothing more. If they are genuine, time will tell; if they go poof, all well and good, you can sit back and have a laugh.

 

Liv.



You are so right, Liv. I haven't laughed so hard as I have at some of the goings on here. Maybe the perspectives age and experience give us actually do make high school more fun, the 2nd time around. 

Thanks,

Diane

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Posted on Fri, Jan 18, 2013 23:23

Quoting silverlion:

~~ C G ~~

 

Thank you so much for confirming what an anal retentive redneck you truly are and proving my point regarding  rhetoric.

 

I believe The Author asked for opinions of fellow bloggers regarding Her Topic and Not your Prejudiced and  Biased opinion of fellow members on this site .  Now that You have seen fit to attack Me for no reason other than Pure Jealousy it seems , I hereby Request that You step out of Your Hidden Box, Show Your Face and Be A Man once and for all. We can Duke it out in your own space, not in this kind ladys blog.

 

As for Your Snide Comment regarding Max in Bed....We hereby Challenge You To Having Rover just One Night in the same bed with you.  Just One Night ....could You Handle That Big Boy ?. Rover is ready and waiting !. Ha Ha !..

 

I O H O .  With all Due Respect to The Author and M / M  Blogs , still the best .

 

~~ S L ~~  &  Rover ~~


SL,  I know you and I haven't always seen eye to eye, but I didn't get where CG insulted you...he just said you were you.  I've always valued CG's opinion as he seems to be a very intelligent man.  SL if you two want to duke it out, that's cool, just invite me...I'm into that. :)  I'll need a couple of days to get all the bets placed, so please give me advance notice.  Seriously, CG didn't say anything bad about you...you're getting bent out of shape for nothing.  Am I missing something???  I'm willing to be wrong.

 

 



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Posted on Fri, Jan 18, 2013 10:15

Hi Lady Di...   Just write 'em off as a mystery...sometimes searching too hard for answers is like catching a skunk and lifting it's tail to see where it keeps it's ammunition! You know it couldn't possibly be you, so it has to be some sort of short circuit in them. Their loss...your gain, not having it happen further into the dialog.


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Posted on Thu, Jan 17, 2013 12:30

Quoting diane000:

Excellent! I really want to know. This has been such an interesting experience. But to be honest, online dating is rather like being back in high school...which wasn't that much fun, the first time around and is now...just annoying...


Di,

 

I completely agree with you, but still find myself LOL! Just ignore the boys; sieve the boys from the men, but above all focus on what is important - YOU!

 

Enjoy the banters and treat them on their face value and as nothing more. If they are genuine, time will tell; if they go poof, all well and good, you can sit back and have a laugh.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Wed, Jan 16, 2013 12:40

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Hi Di,

 

 

Well I doubt I can answer your satsifactorily. My guess is that they lacked the native intelligence to see just exactly what they had on their hands in talking to you. However, since I have both experienced this phenomenon and been guilty of it, I will now offer my reasons.

 

 

I will preface my reasons/excuses/rationalizations by saying I really doubt most people want to know the real reasons why someone decides not to continue pursuing another. Usually, it isnt fun to hear.

 

 

1. A relationship wasnt ever really practical due to logistical hurdles like distance, kids, etc. Once the conversation turned from banter to actual relationship talk, this became inescapable.

 

 

2. You talked about your ex so much I began to wonder if I should give Nancy Grace your number.

 

 

3. Honestly, another conversation seems more promising right now and I feel slimy pursuing more than one at a time.

 

 

4. There are good reasons why most people are single at our age. You might want to look up "batshit crazy" when you a moment.


HI JOMO... 

 

I found your thoughts on logistic hurdles extremely enlightening. I do believe there are times when we may speak to someone we were intially attracted to, but, soon into conversing we realise it won't work for whatever reason. Then, it is easier to simply not contact them as it isn't a pleasant conversation usually for either parties. 

 

I felt FORCED to explain to a man recently WHY I would not meet him out. I will be writing a blog to see what the men think regarding how I should have handled it. It was on a different dating site, but still online dating! The man was very insulting. This and other occurances have left me very confused as to how a woman should handle these things. I have many questions for my men friends! 

 

I did wish to say I am not in agreement with your #4... JOMO, we all run across "jerks" on both sides of the fence, but to say most people are crazy so we are single is not true.. It is funny, and it might be factual in my case, but it simply is not true! ;) 

 

 



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Posted on Wed, Jan 16, 2013 11:50

Quoting jomo1983:

Hi Di,

 

 

Well I doubt I can answer your satsifactorily. My guess is that they lacked the native intelligence to see just exactly what they had on their hands in talking to you. However, since I have both experienced this phenomenon and been guilty of it, I will now offer my reasons.

 

 

I will preface my reasons/excuses/rationalizations by saying I really doubt most people want to know the real reasons why someone decides not to continue pursuing another. Usually, it isnt fun to hear.

 

 

1. A relationship wasnt ever really practical due to logistical hurdles like distance, kids, etc. Once the conversation turned from banter to actual relationship talk, this became inescapable.

 

 

2. You talked about your ex so much I began to wonder if I should give Nancy Grace your number.

 

 

3. Honestly, another conversation seems more promising right now and I feel slimy pursuing more than one at a time.

 

 

4. There are good reasons why most people are single at our age. You might want to look up "batshit crazy" when you a moment.



Excellent! I really want to know. This has been such an interesting experience. But to be honest, online dating is rather like being back in high school...which wasn't that much fun, the first time around and is now...just annoying...



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Posted on Wed, Jan 16, 2013 09:56

Hi Di,

 

 

 

 

 

Well I doubt I can answer your question satsifactorily. My guess is that they lacked the native intelligence to see just exactly what they had on their hands in talking to you. However, since I have both experienced this phenomenon and been guilty of it, I will now offer my reasons.

 

 

 

 

 

I will preface my reasons/excuses/rationalizations by saying I really doubt most people want to know the real reasons why someone decides not to continue pursuing another. Usually, it isnt fun to hear.

 

 

 

 

 

1. A relationship wasnt ever really practical due to logistical hurdles like distance, kids, etc. Once the conversation turned from banter to actual relationship talk, this became inescapable.

 

 

 

 

 

2. You talked about your ex so much I began to wonder if I should give Nancy Grace your number.

 

 

 

 

 

3. Honestly, another conversation seems more promising right now and I feel slimy pursuing more than one at a time.

 

 

 

 

 

4. There are good reasons why most people are single at our age. You might want to look up "batshit crazy" when you have a moment.



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Posted on Wed, Jan 16, 2013 08:17

Quoting diane000:

You remind me of what my favorite aunt told ONE of her husbands..."If you think you can do better, get on with your badass self."...and my aunt is not one to swear, normally...


Diane~

Lololo......

 

After being married for 44 years, a man took a careful look at his wife one day and said, "44 years ago we had a cheap apartment, a cheap car, slept on a sofa bed and watched a 10-inch black and white TV, but I got to sleep with a hot 25 year old girl every night.

 

Now I have a $1,500,000 home, a $85,000 car, a nice big king bed and multiple plasma screen TVs, but I'm sleeping with a 65 year old woman.  It seems to me that you're not holding up your side of things."

 

The wife being a very reasonable woman said, "Go out and find a hot 25 year old girl....and I'll make sure you are once again living in a cheap apartment, driving a cheap car, sleeping on a sofa bed and watching a 10-inch black and white TV!"

 

:)))))



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