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Posted on Mon, Jan 14, 2013 17:58

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Dear Di,

I truly believe that it is because they realize they have finally found more woman than they can handle. Those of us that are confident, self-assured, financially secure and appear not to "need" a man are misunderstood by many men who do not understand that we "want" a man.I would much prefer to be wanted than needed. Perhaps one day we will meet such men as ourselves.

Frannie



*laughing* You make me wish sexual preference was a choice...If only you were taller, had broader shoulders and a...



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Posted on Mon, Jan 14, 2013 08:51

Quoting Jenkneee:

The other reason would be they could have been scammers and decided to move on to a more vulnerable female.

I seem to be a magnet for scammers :( Here is my latest message from one, the first (and only) communication. I block them and usually report them. This scammer is so obvious, it's ridiculous! Btw, this was from someone on a different site.

 

Hello jenkneee, I'm sure you wouldn't mind me calling you "Queen"...LOL,Anyway that's the only words i could use to describe your beauty...And i cant hold my tongue than to tell you how i feel....Amid the gloom and travail of existence suddenly to behold a beautiful being; and as instantaneously to feel an overwhelming conviction, that with that fair form, our destinies must be entwined, this is love and i believe it was fate to check your profile soon as i saw you i feel you were the one wish to talk and looking forward to know more about you.would really love to know you much more better. So do you care for a Chat?


As someone else already stated; don't take it personally :)


But JEN!! What's wrong with that note?? He sounds like a real poet!! 

 

Bwahahahahaha!!! I was just asking you on another blog what they do to scam... No telling what this guy was after.. Money? Heart? 

 

I wonder what it is about some women's profiles that make them more suseptible to scammers? I've only had it happen once, long ago on Match.. 

 

Perhaps my status of BROKE, CRAZY and a COMPLETE MESS is working afterall!! Heeheehee~~

 

Hi DIANE and everyone!! :))))



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Posted on Mon, Jan 14, 2013 00:45

Quoting Jenkneee:

The other reason would be they could have been scammers and decided to move on to a more vulnerable female.

I seem to be a magnet for scammers :( Here is my latest message from one, the first (and only) communication. I block them and usually report them. This scammer is so obvious, it's ridiculous! Btw, this was from someone on a different site.

 

Hello jenkneee, I'm sure you wouldn't mind me calling you "Queen"...LOL,Anyway that's the only words i could use to describe your beauty...And i cant hold my tongue than to tell you how i feel....Amid the gloom and travail of existence suddenly to behold a beautiful being; and as instantaneously to feel an overwhelming conviction, that with that fair form, our destinies must be entwined, this is love and i believe it was fate to check your profile soon as i saw you i feel you were the one wish to talk and looking forward to know more about you.would really love to know you much more better. So do you care for a Chat?


As someone else already stated; don't take it personally :)



But he put it so nicely...It is sad we must guard, so carefully, our "Young girl's heart", to "Still believe in magic..."



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Posted on Mon, Jan 14, 2013 00:42

Quoting Dakota35:

They may feel that they are becoming closer and developing a emotional attachment to you, thus a defense mechanism due to fear.

Or it could be that they lied on their profile and they know the closer you get to them the more likely it is that you'll figure it out.

It could be that they found someone else that they like better, or they have decided that there is no compatibility.

Maybe they got sick or died.  It could happen.

Or it could be there is a wife...but not as likely.

I'm sure there are many more reasons.  Just don't take it personal.



"It could happen..." I love it! I was really asking more out of intellectual curiosity. I don't take it too personally. I'm just a bit clueless, in all this...and I prefer to excel in what I do...or at least try and knowledge is necessary to success. 



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Posted on Mon, Jan 14, 2013 00:37

Quoting cruizin1:

They have a wife? They found another of the hundreds to message..Just move on ..know your worth and move on..



*laughing* see the story I told Dekan09...as we say in New Orleans, "yea you right..."



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Posted on Mon, Jan 14, 2013 00:35

Quoting Dekan09:

I have no freaking clue why they do that because the same thing happened last week to me 2 men/boys as it turned out, just stopped.  I don't know what men are looking for???? Im honest and caring and sweet and doting but maybe it's their hormones? Maybe it's because they think they wanted a relationship and when they found someone who fit that bill they got scared. One lady part opposed to many lady parts? Maybe they don't like the fidelity thing as much as they thought? I deleted em out of phone, email...bottom line I was too good for you, scared you and you couldn't handle it.



You remind me of what my favorite aunt told ONE of her husbands..."If you think you can do better, get on with your badass self."...and my aunt is not one to swear, normally...



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Posted on Mon, Jan 14, 2013 00:32

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

HI DIANE!! WELCOME to the blogs my new NOLA friend! 

 

I, the Princess of HOPE, would like to reiterate the question...

 

WHY do men do this? 

 

***Personally, I think men are not good with "too many selections!" .....

 

(like a child when they receive too many choices in clothes!) 

 

and it isn't "real" until they meet you!

 

WHAT SAY YOU MEN? 

 

Inquiring minds want to know! 

 

LOOK! I found a picture of a man's brain when a flock of women appear! Heehee~~

 

 



Thank you for the solidarity, Sister Hope! (BTW I love your blogs)



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Posted on Mon, Jan 14, 2013 00:31

Quoting rmac22:

Maybe it was just that.  Lighthearted -- not serious.   Maybe someone else really rang his bell.  Maybe he caught a bad case of the flu and doesn’t fell like corresponding with anyone.   Who knows?   

 

Don’t take it personally though. 

 

RMac

 

 



But RMac, you don't call..you don't write...where's the love, bruh?

*laughing*

Seriously, you make excellent and rational points. They explain a lot...Thanks RMac



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Posted on Mon, Jan 14, 2013 00:26

Quoting silverlion:

~~ diane000 ~~

 

O K ...My Dear.  Here is the Deal.  We could stay on these blogs and mess with all the rhetoric that is sure to follow as in the recent past here from the authorities...yikes ! (goosebumps)

 

Or...We could solve the issue and move on.....Hmm !... How you may ask ?

 

Simple My Darling.....Let's get Married and get the hell out of here. Oh yeah this is serious as I've given it much thought.  I will gladly synergize with the Boys and we could excell in music together.  The only concern is little max....as long as you keep him out of our bed, I will feel safe....Mmm ! ....surely that's not too much to ask for. 

 

Sweetheart...The Diamond is in Your Court Now.....Your Call....Will You Marry Me ?

 

~~ S L ~~



Wow...you bloody rock! I am just blown away by your declaration. Your feelings about Max might prove a problem. I would love to laugh and joke about how cute and idiosyncratic,my little buddy is but Max is a licensed ESA (emotional support animal). My husband (and the father of my children) died, 8 1/2 years ago. it hurt more than I hope anyone ever understands and while I don't fault those who end up sitting home, eating Xanax, it is not the life, I choose for me. 
Forgive me for being so frank but you put yourself out there (however much tongue was in cheek) and I feel I owe you nothing less than complete sincerity. I have sustained damage, in this life. Hopefully, I heal, stronger than before each hit, life sends but it has been hard to be everything, to my family. Hopefully, I've learned, every time I've failed and have evolved into a better, stronger, kinder person. Max is a silly, rude, little ball of luff but he has been there, when I awoke, worried that I wasn't enough for my little family...that I would fail them, miserably.
I believe in magic, as much as the next girl and I truly believe there will again be someone, on whose shoulder, I might rest my head...in whose lap, I might curl up. But in the meantime, I'm just not the kind of girl to stand around, waiting to be rescued. I crave adventure and want to live, not just exist. Max has gone back into the world with me and we have travelled all over The States, Europe and even the UK together. We have celebrated life, as I wandered and pondered what had and was yet to come.
So, as reasonable as you request is, I can't put Max aside because I find someone to love. I don't abandone those I love, like that. Such an act lacks compassion and honor..two traits I hold in great value...



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Posted on Mon, Jan 14, 2013 00:25

Quoting Jenkneee:

Hello Diane000, it does absolutely suck but it is a very common thing that happens. I haven't gotten to that point of even lighthearted banter on this site although I have experienced it too many times on a few other sites.  I call it "The Kid in the Candy Shop"syndrome.  No matter how much the kid (looks like an adult male) likes the certain candy he is trying, he is already eyeing the next piece to try.

 



  A singles site is like the Candy Shop and a kid cannot appreciate that one good piece of candy, it doesn't matter how good it was.  I'm sorry to say but too many people lack the ability to remember and appreciate that very special experience they had with the one. 

 

Don't let it keep you from trying, it is possible to find the right person! My friend is getting married to her last ditch effort, a guy she met online. Good luck!!



  Thanks Jen! You're very wise and make some interesting observations. It makes so much sense, when you put it like that.



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Posted on Mon, Jan 14, 2013 00:03

Thank-you for the compliment Diane000, glad it helped :)



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Posted on Sun, Jan 13, 2013 22:27

The other reason would be they could have been scammers and decided to move on to a more vulnerable female.

I seem to be a magnet for scammers :( Here is my latest message from one, the first (and only) communication. I block them and usually report them. This scammer is so obvious, it's ridiculous! Btw, this was from someone on a different site.

 

Hello jenkneee, I'm sure you wouldn't mind me calling you "Queen"...LOL,Anyway that's the only words i could use to describe your beauty...And i cant hold my tongue than to tell you how i feel....Amid the gloom and travail of existence suddenly to behold a beautiful being; and as instantaneously to feel an overwhelming conviction, that with that fair form, our destinies must be entwined, this is love and i believe it was fate to check your profile soon as i saw you i feel you were the one wish to talk and looking forward to know more about you.would really love to know you much more better. So do you care for a Chat?


As someone else already stated; don't take it personally :)



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Posted on Sun, Jan 13, 2013 16:52

They may feel that they are becoming closer and developing a emotional attachment to you, thus a defense mechanism due to fear.

Or it could be that they lied on their profile and they know the closer you get to them the more likely it is that you'll figure it out.

It could be that they found someone else that they like better, or they have decided that there is no compatibility.

Maybe they got sick or died.  It could happen.

Or it could be there is a wife...but not as likely.

I'm sure there are many more reasons.  Just don't take it personal.



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Posted on Sun, Jan 13, 2013 13:02

They have a wife? They found another of the hundreds to message..Just move on ..know your worth and move on..



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Posted on Sun, Jan 13, 2013 09:34

I have no freaking clue why they do that because the same thing happened last week to me 2 men/boys as it turned out, just stopped.  I don't know what men are looking for???? Im honest and caring and sweet and doting but maybe it's their hormones? Maybe it's because they think they wanted a relationship and when they found someone who fit that bill they got scared. One lady part opposed to many lady parts? Maybe they don't like the fidelity thing as much as they thought? I deleted em out of phone, email...bottom line I was too good for you, scared you and you couldn't handle it.



Government's first duty is to protect the people, not run their lives. President Ronald Reagan

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Posted on Sun, Jan 13, 2013 07:20

HI DIANE!! WELCOME to the blogs my new NOLA friend! 

 

I, the Princess of HOPE, would like to reiterate the question...

 

WHY do men do this? 

 

***Personally, I think men are not good with "too many selections!" .....

 

(like a child when they receive too many choices in clothes!) 

 

and it isn't "real" until they meet you!

 

WHAT SAY YOU MEN? 

 

Inquiring minds want to know! 

 

LOOK! I found a picture of a man's brain when a flock of women appear! Heehee~~

 

 


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Posted on Sun, Jan 13, 2013 06:44

Maybe it was just that.  Lighthearted -- not serious.   Maybe someone else really rang his bell.  Maybe he caught a bad case of the flu and doesn’t fell like corresponding with anyone.   Who knows?   

 

Don’t take it personally though. 

 

RMac

 

 



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Posted on Sun, Jan 13, 2013 01:28

Hello Diane000, it does absolutely suck but it is a very common thing that happens. I haven't gotten to that point of even lighthearted banter on this site although I have experienced it too many times on a few other sites.  I call it "The Kid in the Candy Shop"syndrome.  No matter how much the kid (looks like an adult male) likes the certain candy he is trying, he is already eyeing the next piece to try.

 



  A singles site is like the Candy Shop and a kid cannot appreciate that one good piece of candy, it doesn't matter how good it was.  I'm sorry to say but too many people lack the ability to remember and appreciate that very special experience they had with the one. 

 

Don't let it keep you from trying, it is possible to find the right person! My friend is getting married to her last ditch effort, a guy she met online. Good luck!!



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