I have had a couple of gentlemen message me, as though our communication, made their days. Then, poof! They stop. I don't continue to message, assuming they're, "Just not that into me" but I'd like to understand. What causes lighthearted banter to stop, with no apparent reason?
I have had a couple of gentlemen message me, as though our communication, made their days. Then, poof! They stop. I don't continue to message, assuming they're, "Just not that into me" but I'd like to understand. What causes lighthearted banter to stop, with no apparent reason?
KAREN!! Do NOT tell me you have ALREADY been met with the "SCAM!!" ---
Don't say I didn't warn you girl!!
Now quit making yourself so scarce! No one knows who you are if you keep hitting... "post and then delete!" HEEHEE~~
Now EVERYONE--
This Pretty New Lady before you is KAREN--- New to the site--- and YES has ALREADY met a "meanie!!" --
She is just a wee bit discouraged now... And additionally, is a bit on the "shy" side...
Very professional, accomplished, classy, extremely attractive woman, who desires a GENUINE connection....
LADIES-- You know I love you all!! Please WELCOME our new comer and encourage her to
"stay-- and not stray!!"
KAREN-
I see you are "Spiritual, but not religious," which could cover a multitude of things..
Know that we have agnostics, atheist, and Christians all around here who are ACCEPTING, GRACIOUS and LOVING and just HAVE FUN, SHARE EXPERIENCES AND INSIGHTS WITH ONE ANOTHER and BOND---- ... and should our "Prince charming" ever arrive on the scene???
Well, We have lotsa ladies to tie him down for us til we come for the kill! :)
So don't be discouraged over 1 lousy fella who wouldn't have had the composure to make your world rock anyhow...
I mean- Just WHERE is our DELIGHTFUL DIANE000 who authored this post anyway?
She was talking about men not messaging back-- but obviously SOMEONE musta messaged back--
CUZ WHERE IS SHE!!
BWAHAHAHAHA! ;)
Now pardon me folks--
I've been hopped up in NYQUIL for 5 days and 6 nights now.. and between that-- and all the alcohol-- OOPS!!
Well, Let's just say---
I might not be making a licka sense these days!
OH! What's that? NORMALCY for me?
Hmmmm... I might resemble that remark!! ;)
KAREN!! Do NOT tell me you have ALREADY been met with the "SCAM!!" ---
Don't say I didn't warn you girl!!
Now quit making yourself so scarce! No one knows who you are if you keep hitting... "post and then delete!" HEEHEE~~
Now EVERYONE--
This Pretty New Lady before you is KAREN--- New to the site--- and YES has ALREADY met a "meanie!!" --
She is just a wee bit discouraged now... And additionally, is a bit on the "shy" side...
Very professional, accomplished, classy, extremely attractive woman, who desires a GENUINE connection....
LADIES-- You know I love you all!! Please WELCOME our new comer and encourage her to
"stay-- and not stray!!"
KAREN-
I see you are "Spiritual, but not religious," which could cover a multitude of things..
Know that we have agnostics, atheist, and Christians all around here who are ACCEPTING, GRACIOUS and LOVING and just HAVE FUN, SHARE EXPERIENCES AND INSIGHTS WITH ONE ANOTHER and BOND---- ... and should our "Prince charming" ever arrive on the scene???
Well, We have lotsa ladies to tie him down for us til we come for the kill! :)
So don't be discouraged over 1 lousy fella who wouldn't have had the composure to make your world rock anyhow...
I mean- Just WHERE is our DELIGHTFUL DIANE000 who authored this post anyway?
She was talking about men not messaging back-- but obviously SOMEONE musta messaged back--
CUZ WHERE IS SHE!!
BWAHAHAHAHA! ;)
Now pardon me folks--
I've been hopped up in NYQUIL for 5 days and 6 nights now.. and between that-- and all the alcohol-- OOPS!!
Ladies....they are not just from Nigeria either - believe me - we have them in our country as well. I know......and wish I did not! lol! Be careful! Karen
Ladies....they are not just from Nigeria either - believe me - we have them in our country as well. I know......and wish I did not! lol! Be careful!
Karen
Thanks Liv! I don't censor. I did not remove any posts. Hope your weekend is perfection itself! DI
Quoting Livnlov:
Diane000,
I note that someone had gone to the pain of removing my post which was neither offensive nor abusive, but just plain factual. However, I do see your quote of a response to my original post, but I have chosen to ignore this person's response. I am not one to bicker and I am sorry if I had led you or anyone else to believe such. This is where I end my comments on this matter.
BTW, your new photograph is vibrant and vivacious! Lovely.
Liv.
Quoting Livnlov:
Diane000,
I note that someone had gone to the pain of removing my post which was neither offensive nor abusive, but just plain factual. However, I do see your quote of a response to my original post, but I have chosen to ignore this person's response. I am not one to bicker and I am sorry if I had led you or anyone else to believe such. This is where I end my comments on this matter.
BTW, your new photograph is vibrant and vivacious! Lovely.
Liv.
Thanks Liv! I don't censor. I did not remove any posts. Hope your weekend is perfection itself! DI
OH DELIGHTFUL DIANE!! I wish I could head that way!! Wouldn't that be a riot! So you are a cocoa w/ little mellows fan? OMG! I knew we held a larger connection than just "fun party gals!!" I wish I had known you when I was recently in NOLA! LOL... I've met several internet buddies in person, a couple off this site even. I enjoy different types of cocoa every night I am not drinking my wine... which means at least 6 nights a year! Bwahahahahaha! No seriously, I have different types as well.. Ghiardelli makes some awesme cocao. I got some recently as a gift.. Some "White Mocha" and "Double Chocolate"... I buy my "Campfire" mellows 2 bags at a time! :))) I bought the Swiss Miss with the colored mellows.. but those dry mellows just ain't the same!! :) You people don't believe a Princess is having a love affair with chocolate?? Hmmm.... ~~~~HAVE A GREAT WEEK MY LADY~~~~~
Quoting diane000:
Hey Lynn! It's Carnival in New Orleans. The weekend was as much fun as I wanted it to be. The first corndog of the season was yummy. I leave town for the last 2 weeks of "Super Gras" as we're calling it this year. Who bids on a Super Bowl, in a year Mardi Gras comes so early? The cocoa with marshmallows sounds perfect. I am planning on drinking my weight in cocoa, loaded with little marshmallows, in Park City this week. Abercrombie lives near there so I'm hoping for some hang time with her. Sleepover with cocoa!!! If you can get away, c'mon! DI
Quoting diane000:
Hey Lynn! It's Carnival in New Orleans. The weekend was as much fun as I wanted it to be. The first corndog of the season was yummy. I leave town for the last 2 weeks of "Super Gras" as we're calling it this year. Who bids on a Super Bowl, in a year Mardi Gras comes so early? The cocoa with marshmallows sounds perfect. I am planning on drinking my weight in cocoa, loaded with little marshmallows, in Park City this week. Abercrombie lives near there so I'm hoping for some hang time with her. Sleepover with cocoa!!! If you can get away, c'mon! DI
OH DELIGHTFUL DIANE!! I wish I could head that way!! Wouldn't that be a riot! So you are a cocoa w/ little mellows fan? OMG! I knew we held a larger connection than just "fun party gals!!" I wish I had known you when I was recently in NOLA! LOL... I've met several internet buddies in person, a couple off this site even. I enjoy different types of cocoa every night I am not drinking my wine... which means at least 6 nights a year! Bwahahahahaha! No seriously, I have different types as well.. Ghiardelli makes some awesme cocao. I got some recently as a gift.. Some "White Mocha" and "Double Chocolate"... I buy my "Campfire" mellows 2 bags at a time! :))) I bought the Swiss Miss with the colored mellows.. but those dry mellows just ain't the same!! :) You people don't believe a Princess is having a love affair with chocolate?? Hmmm.... ~~~~HAVE A GREAT WEEK MY LADY~~~~~
ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here. Diane
Diane000,
I note that someone had gone to the pain of removing my post which was neither offensive nor abusive, but just plain factual. However, I do see your quote of a response to my original post, but I have chosen to ignore this person's response. I am not one to bicker and I am sorry if I had led you or anyone else to believe such. This is where I end my comments on this matter.
BTW, your new photograph is vibrant and vivacious! Lovely.
Liv.
Quoting diane000:
ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here. Diane
Diane000,
I note that someone had gone to the pain of removing my post which was neither offensive nor abusive, but just plain factual. However, I do see your quote of a response to my original post, but I have chosen to ignore this person's response. I am not one to bicker and I am sorry if I had led you or anyone else to believe such. This is where I end my comments on this matter.
BTW, your new photograph is vibrant and vivacious! Lovely.
Hey Lynn! It's Carnival in New Orleans. The weekend was as much fun as I wanted it to be. The first corndog of the season was yummy. I leave town for the last 2 weeks of "Super Gras" as we're calling it this year. Who bids on a Super Bowl, in a year Mardi Gras comes so early? The cocoa with marshmallows sounds perfect. I am planning on drinking my weight in cocoa, loaded with little marshmallows, in Park City this week. Abercrombie lives near there so I'm hoping for some hang time with her. Sleepover with cocoa!!! If you can get away, c'mon! DI
Hey Lynn!
It's Carnival in New Orleans. The weekend was as much fun as I wanted it to be. The first corndog of the season was yummy. I leave town for the last 2 weeks of "Super Gras" as we're calling it this year. Who bids on a Super Bowl, in a year Mardi Gras comes so early?
The cocoa with marshmallows sounds perfect. I am planning on drinking my weight in cocoa, loaded with little marshmallows, in Park City this week. Abercrombie lives near there so I'm hoping for some hang time with her. Sleepover with cocoa!!! If you can get away, c'mon!
DI
HI DIANE!! LOVE the new photo!! You look very happy!! Gotta love a woman who enjoys having F-U-N!!! :) Hope your weekend was more eventful than mine!! Hot cocoa and popcorn alone is not what it used to be... when I was 10!! At least I didn't run out of marshmellows!! LOLOL......
HI DIANE!! LOVE the new photo!! You look very happy!! Gotta love a woman who enjoys having F-U-N!!! :) Hope your weekend was more eventful than mine!! Hot cocoa and popcorn alone is not what it used to be... when I was 10!! At least I didn't run out of marshmellows!! LOLOL......
This was not directed at one particular person. Life is hard enough. Let's be kind to one another.
Quoting diane000:
ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here. Diane
Quoting diane000:
ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here. Diane
This was not directed at one particular person. Life is hard enough. Let's be kind to one another.
I agree Mtnsunny, In the cases I reffered to, they just involved friendly messages. One of the guys started writing again, a few days later. We are working on being friends. That's really how I saw both of them. That was the surprise. I wasn't particularly interested romantically. Thanks to you and the others who have responded, I have a little better understanding on how things work here. Some guys don't want to be buddies. Some fear that more is wanted than they have to give. In fact, fear and boredom seem to be recurrent themes. Hope your Carnival season is rockin'! Diane
Quoting Mtnsunny:
Diane000,
I thought I would help try to get this blog back on track, since I just recently went through this again with another gentleman.
I believe it's really easy for the emailing to go back and forth initially because your excited to share your world with them and they you. You have common ground most likely on some interests and getting to know someone new is generally fun.
Once a connection has been established, you know you like each other...encouraging to see each other, I think, can help keep that initial spark alive. Talking on the phone is great, but you still don't have that eye to eye, facial expressions to stir the desire within both of you, that's what keeps the relationship moving in a positive direction. Face it, were humans that need the physical attraction.
Nothing beats that feeling when your eyes meet for the first time, smiles shared, in the best scenarios..a spark happens between the two of you.
If you just email, don't you think you run out of things to say that keep ones interest? Day to day events are great to share when you have already established a connection mentally and physically.
It's too easy to keep moving on, if a deeper connection isn't created. If he is excited about the physical look along with the initial email attraction, I believe we have a better chance of a long term relationship building.
From now on, I'm going to be asking for those next steps..a call or skype, then setting up a date to greet one another. Hopefully, that next step will be initiated by the guy and not us.
Hoping love finds us or we find love,
Mtnsunny.
Quoting Mtnsunny:
Diane000,
I thought I would help try to get this blog back on track, since I just recently went through this again with another gentleman.
I believe it's really easy for the emailing to go back and forth initially because your excited to share your world with them and they you. You have common ground most likely on some interests and getting to know someone new is generally fun.
Once a connection has been established, you know you like each other...encouraging to see each other, I think, can help keep that initial spark alive. Talking on the phone is great, but you still don't have that eye to eye, facial expressions to stir the desire within both of you, that's what keeps the relationship moving in a positive direction. Face it, were humans that need the physical attraction.
Nothing beats that feeling when your eyes meet for the first time, smiles shared, in the best scenarios..a spark happens between the two of you.
If you just email, don't you think you run out of things to say that keep ones interest? Day to day events are great to share when you have already established a connection mentally and physically.
It's too easy to keep moving on, if a deeper connection isn't created. If he is excited about the physical look along with the initial email attraction, I believe we have a better chance of a long term relationship building.
From now on, I'm going to be asking for those next steps..a call or skype, then setting up a date to greet one another. Hopefully, that next step will be initiated by the guy and not us.
Hoping love finds us or we find love,
Mtnsunny.
I agree Mtnsunny, In the cases I reffered to, they just involved friendly messages. One of the guys started writing again, a few days later. We are working on being friends. That's really how I saw both of them. That was the surprise. I wasn't particularly interested romantically. Thanks to you and the others who have responded, I have a little better understanding on how things work here. Some guys don't want to be buddies. Some fear that more is wanted than they have to give. In fact, fear and boredom seem to be recurrent themes. Hope your Carnival season is rockin'! Diane
Mtnsunny. – I agree.I think too much time spent emailing, talking on the phone, and so on, and the spark, if there was one, dies.So, you wander off.
Mostly I think the emailing and phoning should be to set up a first meeting when and where.Once you see each other things will go on or not.Obviously safe public places should be used.Everyone drives themselves.All the common sense stuff.
One can even have trusted friends innocently happening to be in the same place if concerned.
RMac
Mtnsunny. – I agree.I think too much time spent emailing, talking on the phone, and so on, and the spark, if there was one, dies.So, you wander off.
Mostly I think the emailing and phoning should be to set up a first meeting when and where.Once you see each other things will go on or not.Obviously safe public places should be used.Everyone drives themselves.All the common sense stuff.
One can even have trusted friends innocently happening to be in the same place if concerned.
Since it sounds like you are offended by the rudeness in htis blog, I have removed all my comments. I did not mean to offend, and should not have allowed myself to be engaged by someone else's poor behavior.
I posted my removed comments on Hope's "Nothing" blog.
Best wishes,
-CG-
Diane000,
Since it sounds like you are offended by the rudeness in htis blog, I have removed all my comments. I did not mean to offend, and should not have allowed myself to be engaged by someone else's poor behavior.
I posted my removed comments on Hope's "Nothing" blog.
ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here. Diane
Quoting silverlion:
~~ Livnlov ~~
Your Rush To Judgment is Far Beyond Embarassing !...and Reeks of Blatant Bias & Prejudice.
~~ S L ~~
Quoting silverlion:
~~ Livnlov ~~
Your Rush To Judgment is Far Beyond Embarassing !...and Reeks of Blatant Bias & Prejudice.
~~ S L ~~
ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here. Diane
Right again Liv! I hadn't looked at it that way but it makes sense...
Quoting Livnlov:
Hi Diane,
Aren't you so funny? You are a cool lady, Diane! Yeah, I will like to go shopping with ya later. Speaking of shopping malls, this site is one big shopping mall with loads of window shopping going on, but very few actual transactions being done. LOL. It is an amusing place, believe me, Diane.
Liv.
Quoting Livnlov:
Hi Diane,
Aren't you so funny? You are a cool lady, Diane! Yeah, I will like to go shopping with ya later. Speaking of shopping malls, this site is one big shopping mall with loads of window shopping going on, but very few actual transactions being done. LOL. It is an amusing place, believe me, Diane.
Liv.
Right again Liv! I hadn't looked at it that way but it makes sense...
Liv~ Yesss.....very good. Your approach is cogent and articulate. It would be wonderful if we could all take a note of the quality of your temperment and intellect.
MM~ Are you paying attention??? There's a bit of self-policing going on and there's no need to get involved. We can take care of these issues ourselves. No need to expell anyone!!!
SL~ Not sure what kind of burr got under your saddle pad....but seems you probably owe CG an appology.
Liv~
Yesss.....very good. Your approach is cogent and articulate. It would be wonderful if we could all take a note of the quality of your temperment and intellect.
MM~ Are you paying attention??? There's a bit of self-policing going on and there's no need to get involved. We can take care of these issues ourselves. No need to expell anyone!!!
SL~ Not sure what kind of burr got under your saddle pad....but seems you probably owe CG an appology.
You got me laughing my head off for the second time this evening! This guy sounds like a Nigerian or some African scammer to me, LOL! "So do you care for a Chat?" Yeah, right! But his English is so much better than others I have seen.
Hoping thinks he sounds like a poet.....LOL!
Liv.
Quoting Jenkneee:
The other reason would be they could have been scammers and decided to move on to a more vulnerable female. I seem to be a magnet for scammers :( Here is my latest message from one, the first (and only) communication. I block them and usually report them. This scammer is so obvious, it's ridiculous! Btw, this was from someone on a different site.
Hello jenkneee, I'm sure you wouldn't mind me calling you "Queen"...LOL,Anyway that's the only words i could use to describe your beauty...And i cant hold my tongue than to tell you how i feel....Amid the gloom and travail of existence suddenly to behold a beautiful being; and as instantaneously to feel an overwhelming conviction, that with that fair form, our destinies must be entwined, this is love and i believe it was fate to check your profile soon as i saw you i feel you were the one wish to talk and looking forward to know more about you.would really love to know you much more better. So do you care for a Chat?
As someone else already stated; don't take it personally :)
Quoting Jenkneee:
The other reason would be they could have been scammers and decided to move on to a more vulnerable female. I seem to be a magnet for scammers :( Here is my latest message from one, the first (and only) communication. I block them and usually report them. This scammer is so obvious, it's ridiculous! Btw, this was from someone on a different site.
Hello jenkneee, I'm sure you wouldn't mind me calling you "Queen"...LOL,Anyway that's the only words i could use to describe your beauty...And i cant hold my tongue than to tell you how i feel....Amid the gloom and travail of existence suddenly to behold a beautiful being; and as instantaneously to feel an overwhelming conviction, that with that fair form, our destinies must be entwined, this is love and i believe it was fate to check your profile soon as i saw you i feel you were the one wish to talk and looking forward to know more about you.would really love to know you much more better. So do you care for a Chat?
As someone else already stated; don't take it personally :)
Jen,
You got me laughing my head off for the second time this evening! This guy sounds like a Nigerian or some African scammer to me, LOL! "So do you care for a Chat?" Yeah, right! But his English is so much better than others I have seen.
I simply ADORE you my dear friend! You couldn't have been more succinct and precise!
I am glad to see you back on here.
Liv.
Quoting Conyersguy:
Since most answers were from women (but still accurate, in spite of that) :):) I thought I'd add my two cents' worth.
Jenknee is right, especially about newbies. They don't have the ability to focus. AND a huge percentage are just scammers. Look for the ones who ARE real.
Silver is, just, well, Silver.
And Dekan, Hope, Cruzin, and Frannie ALL have accuracy in their statements, from their own experiences.
Rmac is VERY right. Until you KNOW them personally, and value their opinion, because youhave found it to have value, over time.....don't take it personally. Whether thay say you are their 'Queen' or you're a scum-sucking dog; neither opinion matters until they matter. Don't let THEIR day ruin YOUR day. And you never know what crossed THEIR path today....An old girlfriend or wife they regret letting go came by, so they are lonely, and reach out to you with sincerity. That old mate who cheated on them said something vile to the kids about her, so she chewed my head off, and I don't even know her !!! Maybe he DID think you were all that, but the lady at the checkout counter smiled yesterday evening and started THEIR path together.
And remember this is only the 'real' people. IMHO, no more than 15 % on here are real. 50% haven't logged on since Clinton was President. Most of the active, live accounts really are scammers or players. Tha only leaves a small percentage of real AND normal people. And 90% of THEM are just not compatible, for good reasons (smoking, alcohol differences, education and intellect differences, religious differences, lack of physical chemistry, not letting Max in bed with us):):) to even the silliest of reasons (I met a nice woman, who unfortunately looked STARTLINGLY like my ex-wife.....the new lady was a good woman, but I didn't want to be reminded of the ex every time I looked in her eyes) like accents, what car you drive, etc.
And remember the best part about the 'vanishers.' They showed you this trait early, before you became emotionally invested. And this is true of all flaws, and even the silly rainouts. It's hard sometimes, but don't regret learning of them; be glad you learned it when you did, instead of much later.
There really are some good and decent people out there......we just have to find ONE. If it is important to you, keep a positive attitude, and keep looking. That's what I do.
-CG-
Quoting Conyersguy:
Since most answers were from women (but still accurate, in spite of that) :):) I thought I'd add my two cents' worth.
Jenknee is right, especially about newbies. They don't have the ability to focus. AND a huge percentage are just scammers. Look for the ones who ARE real.
Silver is, just, well, Silver.
And Dekan, Hope, Cruzin, and Frannie ALL have accuracy in their statements, from their own experiences.
Rmac is VERY right. Until you KNOW them personally, and value their opinion, because youhave found it to have value, over time.....don't take it personally. Whether thay say you are their 'Queen' or you're a scum-sucking dog; neither opinion matters until they matter. Don't let THEIR day ruin YOUR day. And you never know what crossed THEIR path today....An old girlfriend or wife they regret letting go came by, so they are lonely, and reach out to you with sincerity. That old mate who cheated on them said something vile to the kids about her, so she chewed my head off, and I don't even know her !!! Maybe he DID think you were all that, but the lady at the checkout counter smiled yesterday evening and started THEIR path together.
And remember this is only the 'real' people. IMHO, no more than 15 % on here are real. 50% haven't logged on since Clinton was President. Most of the active, live accounts really are scammers or players. Tha only leaves a small percentage of real AND normal people. And 90% of THEM are just not compatible, for good reasons (smoking, alcohol differences, education and intellect differences, religious differences, lack of physical chemistry, not letting Max in bed with us):):) to even the silliest of reasons (I met a nice woman, who unfortunately looked STARTLINGLY like my ex-wife.....the new lady was a good woman, but I didn't want to be reminded of the ex every time I looked in her eyes) like accents, what car you drive, etc.
And remember the best part about the 'vanishers.' They showed you this trait early, before you became emotionally invested. And this is true of all flaws, and even the silly rainouts. It's hard sometimes, but don't regret learning of them; be glad you learned it when you did, instead of much later.
There really are some good and decent people out there......we just have to find ONE. If it is important to you, keep a positive attitude, and keep looking. That's what I do.
-CG-
I simply ADORE you my dear friend! You couldn't have been more succinct and precise!
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