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Posted on Mon, Feb 10, 2014 11:40

Quoting Dakota35:

Fishy, I just want to know who is taking these photos of you???  Your dog? :)


  I have an entourage of photographers, a poperatzie of sorts. Honest, my eyes are brown due to gentics :]

 

 

 

 

 

       ​        ​        ​        ​         Remember this guy? He's in town today unloading his catch.


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Posted on Mon, Feb 10, 2014 10:23

 

@ Mtnsunny,

 

   As strange as it might sound with me being somewhat tone deft, Husqvarna has an engine sound that bothers my little ears [waaaa]. Echo 500 is a great saw but Stihl is what I like for myself. It's good to see that all those diapers that you changed has grown into your own work force. After my sink and swim all those years ago I've thought about  cyrstal clear, warm waters but Belize is my choice if I ever make it, lol. None the less, your bonding experience should be a fun time and I look forward to seeing some bikini pictures :]

 

 

  Now as for the dating game, my thoughts are in line with trying on several different pair of underwear. Keep changing them until you find the brand that fits.

 


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Posted on Sat, Feb 08, 2014 10:15

Quoting fishyme:

  I've learned to call that "floor art". Victoria's Secret are a nice medium to work with.


Fishy~

I have found that VS is a terrible waste of money.  You put it on and within a second the man wants you to take it off!!  At least let me prance around for A MINUTE!!!  geeeezzz!  :))  *wink*



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Posted on Fri, Feb 07, 2014 10:11

Quoting fishyme:

  Hmmm is the other blog :]          My years in these small coastal towns have taught me one thing for sure, you women Are strange creatures.  Wine and dinning and it's just a nice evening. Come in from a 2 week trip, no showers, tons of bait, even more tons of fish and all I'm after is a couple of beers with my burger before I shower up. Next thing I know, I'm in Your bathtub getting my back scrubbed and sleeping in your bed. I am my own bling, just be yourself.



 

Sometimes just a week away will do it.  You have to be really away though.  Just avoiding her for a week has a different effect. 

 

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Fri, Feb 07, 2014 08:57

Quoting Diana3316:

Hmmm...interesting RMac.  I wonder if it changes with time too.  What we found very endearing initially, may not fill the cup in later years.  Perhaps this is why some men think women are never satisfied.  And I have to acknowledge that I may be guilty of that.  I don't want the same thing all the time.  I have empathy for men in that regard.

 

But re: the initial date when you're trying to figure it out....my friend used to say....just let her talk and she will tell you everything you want to know.  She will tell you what she likes, what she doesn't like, what irritates her, what hurts her feelings....she will even tell her secrets when she trusts that there will be no judgemental response.  He used to say, "It's not hard, you just have to be interested and listen."



Well, the change with time thing could be that whatever you initially felt was endearing wasn't in your dominant love language.  So later on it would not satisfy.  That pretty much is the whole point of the book.  We all use all of them initially.  We all respond to all of them initially. 

 

I shouldn’t expound on this too much.  The book is a much better source. 

 

Re your last paragraph, your friend is wise. 

 



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Posted on Fri, Feb 07, 2014 02:10

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And a woman that can run a chainsaw.  wink wink



  That's the part I'm missing, if I ever settle down I might try fixing that, unless she can keep up.  HI Mtnsunny, It's been awhile! Hope everything is going ok for you in the mountains. Do you have a Stihl? Why split wood and make all that extra work when you can cut the pieces half as long and burn disk. Put your trust in the lazy guy on this one, he knows how to make somethings easyier, lol.

 

 

 

       ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​         This is what yesterday looked like here.


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Posted on Fri, Feb 07, 2014 01:55

Quoting Diana3316:

Hmmm....so does that work???



  Hmmm is the other blog :]          My years in these small coastal towns have taught me one thing for sure, you women Are strange creatures.  Wine and dinning and it's just a nice evening. Come in from a 2 week trip, no showers, tons of bait, even more tons of fish and all I'm after is a couple of beers with my burger before I shower up. Next thing I know, I'm in Your bathtub getting my back scrubbed and sleeping in your bed. I am my own bling, just be yourself.


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Posted on Fri, Feb 07, 2014 01:35

Quoting 3345roc:

I've heard that "little black dresses" are best enjoyed when removed.  Just saying...



  I've learned to call that "floor art". Victoria's Secret are a nice medium to work with.



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Posted on Thu, Feb 06, 2014 20:41

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Just be yourself.....



Hmmm....so does that work???



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Posted on Thu, Feb 06, 2014 20:33

Quoting rmac22:

According to the book, we all use all of them initially.  Pretty much impossible at that stage to figure hers out.  It is when she (he) is well and truly won that he (she) relaxes into their dominant love language.   That normally does not occur during the dating phase.   Usually well into marriage.  Or for your 15 year LTR sometime after about two to four years.  Once you both are well beyond the limerence stage; that special glow of a new romance. 

 

For clues you might look at their parents.  Per the book, men often follow the pattern of their dad; she her mom.  Not always of course.  Per the book some people may follow the pattern of their respective same sex parent, but have a different dominant love language they respond too.  That complicates things. 

 

Only safe course is to try them all and see which ones really rev her up.  At first they all work.  A gift -- that works, Telling her she is wonderful and that you love her -- that works.  Taking her car off to have its routine maintenance -- that works.  Spending some special time with her -- that works.  Rubbing the back of her neck and / or kissing her ear -- that works. 

 

 

RMac.

 



Hmmm...interesting RMac.  I wonder if it changes with time too.  What we found very endearing initially, may not fill the cup in later years.  Perhaps this is why some men think women are never satisfied.  And I have to acknowledge that I may be guilty of that.  I don't want the same thing all the time.  I have empathy for men in that regard.

 

But re: the initial date when you're trying to figure it out....my friend used to say....just let her talk and she will tell you everything you want to know.  She will tell you what she likes, what she doesn't like, what irritates her, what hurts her feelings....she will even tell her secrets when she trusts that there will be no judgemental response.  He used to say, "It's not hard, you just have to be interested and listen."



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Posted on Thu, Feb 06, 2014 10:56

Quoting Diana3316:

Ok Gentlemen.  So we've talked about wardrobes....but sharp clothes alone won't win a woman.  So if you get a date with a woman that you're really excited about....what are you going to DO to make her fall for you????  Someone was talking about the 5 Languages of Love in another blog.  Obviously you have to figure out what is her language....but how do you do that?


According to the book, we all use all of them initially.  Pretty much impossible at that stage to figure hers out.  It is when she (he) is well and truly won that he (she) relaxes into their dominant love language.   That normally does not occur during the dating phase.   Usually well into marriage.  Or for your 15 year LTR sometime after about two to four years.  Once you both are well beyond the limerence stage; that special glow of a new romance. 

 

For clues you might look at their parents.  Per the book, men often follow the pattern of their dad; she her mom.  Not always of course.  Per the book some people may follow the pattern of their respective same sex parent, but have a different dominant love language they respond too.  That complicates things. 

 

Only safe course is to try them all and see which ones really rev her up.  At first they all work.  A gift -- that works, Telling her she is wonderful and that you love her -- that works.  Taking her car off to have its routine maintenance -- that works.  Spending some special time with her -- that works.  Rubbing the back of her neck and / or kissing her ear -- that works. 

 

 

RMac.

 



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Posted on Wed, Feb 05, 2014 20:01

Ok Gentlemen.  So we've talked about wardrobes....but sharp clothes alone won't win a woman.  So if you get a date with a woman that you're really excited about....what are you going to DO to make her fall for you????  Someone was talking about the 5 Languages of Love in another blog.  Obviously you have to figure out what is her language....but how do you do that?



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Posted on Tue, Feb 04, 2014 22:07

Quoting rmac: " I love ladies in the “little-black-dress.” Sometimes it is almost worth it to get all dressed up. "

 

 

  You couldn't be more right rmac. It's not often, but even I have some fair threads covered in plastic that doesn't smell like a fish or boat.


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Posted on Tue, Feb 04, 2014 11:49

Quoting Dakota35:

Hi RMac,

 

I know you can't read my mind...and I didn't explain myself well.  I was interested in a 3 piece for formal type party events, not for dating.  I just wear casual when dating...unless we're doing something formal.

 

If a lady doesn't like what I'm wearing then we are probably going to be a bad fit.  I'd wear jeans and nice shirt if going to something like a karaoke bar.  I like women in jeans, so if they aren't cool with me wearing jeans...well then it's not going to work.  I'm more of a blue collar guy and fit better with the same kind of woman.  Of course I fit with everyone and no-one at the same time.


Hi Dakota,

 

I thought of that after I wrote and submitted all that stuff.  It will be worth it though if it results in some feedback from the ladies.  Me, I like ladies in jeans too.  Fact is I like ladies period.  If I am in Levi Jeans she can be too, or maybe a casual dress or a denim skirt.  I love ladies in the “little-black-dress.” Sometimes it is almost worth it to get all dressed up. 

 

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Tue, Feb 04, 2014 10:52

Quoting Diana3316:

RMac,

I think you are right.  The hook doesn't get set for men as quickly as it does for women.  Women can fall before there is intimacy.  In fact, that is probably why the intimacy occurs in most cases.  Although I could be wrong about this because I'm not a man and really don't know these things...but, I don't think the hook gets set for a man until she becomes the object of his fantasy.

 

I have heard it said by many men, that they don't fantasize about movie starlets, models or other celebrity types that are unattainable.  They fantasize about the woman they are involved with...and once that happens...I think the  hook is set.


 

Diana,

 

I think it varies with the man.  At least some men can be “hooked” before intimacy.    Similarly, at least some men can be intimate for a long time before they are hooked.    

 

There might be some confusion between the words fantasizing, dreaming, and wishing I had a girl like that. 

 

If you are going to fantasize, dream, or wish it might as well be about women within ones sphere of access. 

 

The first time I saw the lady I ultimately married, I had a profound reaction almost akin to pain.  I would not say I was hooked, but it was a pretty strong wish that I had a girlfriend like that. 

 

We were a long time “hooked” couple, maybe even married, before I realized it was the same lady. 

 

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Tue, Feb 04, 2014 03:09

Gorgeous smile/eyes, how a woman carries herself, her sensuality, the passion she exudes is very attractive and sets the atmosphere for that hot first encounter.

Connecting emotionally is the next step to see if you indeed have a potential future with one another of course being currently out of the dating scene for such a long time myself,  the feelings naturally have to be open and mutual :-)

 

Good discussion Diana3316  look-forward to seeing other contributions to this interesting thread.



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Posted on Mon, Feb 03, 2014 22:32

Sorry, I still have to nix the 3-piece suit.  It's just too formal.  Perhaps if you are a high powered attorney and are trying to convey an appearance of power or intimidate a witness, it might be appropriate.  But if you want to look sharp, yet relaxed and confident....slacks and a sport coat.  Think Hugh Hefner......before the pajamas.  lol



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Posted on Mon, Feb 03, 2014 09:28

Dakota,

 

I know you didn’t ask me, but think the three piece suit is more for business. 

 

I think for dating, a two piece or even better, my view, the dark blue blazer with moderately light grey slacks. 

 

All this is to please the ladies, so their opinions count more than mine in any case.  Ladies, I would love feedback.

 

If you go the suit, I would opt for a moderately light grey, not too light.  Black dress shirt, regimental stripe tie with a red stripe.  Obviously can’t wear the same thing all the time.  Other dark dress shirts and coordinated ties.  Everything to go together of course.  If you can get away without the ties do so. 

 

Around here Levi jeans or any jeans would sentence you to a first date only purgatory.  One may be able to get away with that here once she is “hooked.”  I may have to move to Texas. 

 

I might skip the boots.  Have read that you need to get them a half size too small else they will be too loose when broken in.  Maybe it was a full size too small.  Whole thing sounds painful.  I think I will stick to nice dress shoes. 

 

 

 

RMac

 



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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 19:35

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I think for me the hook occurs somewhat later.  First dates I am pretty tolerant.  I think she’s pretty.   She seems smart.  She seems to have a good sense of humor.  It is really too early to tell in either case, but there is no evidence to the contrary.  She is polite and seems to be having a good time.  She agrees to a second date.  It is a plus if she does so with a bit of enthusiasm. 

 

 

 

Over a number of dates the relationship warms up or it doesn’t.  There is a fuzzy line when it occurs.  At some point you know, but I am never sure when it happens.   

 

 

 

It might be I am hooked instantly if I am going to be, and it just takes me a while to know it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

RMac 

 


RMac,

I think you are right.  The hook doesn't get set for men as quickly as it does for women.  Women can fall before there is intimacy.  In fact, that is probably why the intimacy occurs in most cases.  Although I could be wrong about this because I'm not a man and really don't know these things...but, I don't think the hook gets set for a man until she becomes the object of his fantasy.

 

I have heard it said by many men, that they don't fantasize about movie starlets, models or other celebrity types that are unattainable.  They fantasize about the woman they are involved with...and once that happens...I think the  hook is set.



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Posted on Sun, Feb 02, 2014 14:19

Quoting Dakota35:

No Fishy, it is not "legal" to say "large breast".  Therefore you are sentenced to 6 months in a women's prison. :-)  Have fun!!!


  Just my luck! Finally get to see temps in the 50's F  in January and now I'm sent to womens prison for 6 months. I hope a few have a third breast, the one on their back for slow dancing.


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